November 2014- Thread 6- Pink, blue or yellow? 20 week scans coming up for the rainbow collective

[Alita7]

Wow this makes me feel so far along! Nearly halfway!

ladydolly definitely ignore. I think you had it right when you said she had made very different lifestyle choices and therefore is likely to have a very different opinion. Although it would have been much politer not to have voiced it, but then maybe it's pushed a button somewhere and she feels the need to vent. You are absolutely right to rise above it and treat her with a degree of compassion. I take my hat off to you

brandsnob I'll be 18 weeks tomorrow and I haven't felt anything since Saturday when for the first time the baby had 20 very active minutes booting me. At least I'm assuming it was the baby and not just chronic wind. But I haven't felt anything since. I even got the doppler out yesterday because I was so worried about it.. I am really impatient to feel more, it would be a welcome distraction from, and slight compensation for, the constant rib pain

Good luck tomorrow greenstone - ours is still 18 days off - gaaaaah, another seemingly eternal wait!

alita good luck with the essay - does that mean you have the rest of the summer off?

I went shopping with my DM today and she treated me and bought me a lovely comfy skirt with a nice soft, wide waistband but my GOD changing room lighting is HORIFFIC. I know I don't exactly look my sexiest at the moment but honestly - my thighs and backside were not something I needed to see from all angles. They have developed cellulite everywhere which is totally unfair given that I'm not drinking toxins like alcohol or much tea/coffee and I'm drinking loads of water and eating well to boot. Anyone got any ideas how to combat it?

And lady I'm quite certain you don't look like a beached whale at this point, even if you were over weight to start with (In which case the comment would be even ruder!), I'm sure she is just incredibly jealous!

I've had the you're massive, are you sure it's not twins comments, but from close friends so I wasn't too bothered as it was light hearted and it reassures me I look pregnant not fat :p

this is, no it doesn't :( we have a 6 week placement conveniently placed to take up 3-4 weeks of the summer holidays because they like to make things difficult if you have kids or step kids!! But THEN I finish for annual then mat leave mid August :D

Hey folks - for all the newer ones and also for any of the "older" ones whose dates may have changed - here is our dates thread!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2066315-November-2014-list-of-due-dates?reverse=1

Make sure the correct EDD is there for you and remember to scroll to very last post, copy and paste it into your message, edit your date / move yourself etc and then post!

It is a bit strange to look down all the names and wonder where is everyone? I hope those who dont post are doing ok...

Lady - does she not realise you have a pile of pregnant hormonal internet mates????

alita - on the "was it planned?" - i am alot older than you and i am gobsmacked at he number of people who have assumed it was a "mistake" or who have told me i am crazy to have another at my age.

judgers will judge .........

Only just added myself to the timeline thread. Whoops!

lady, how bloody rude! I would definitely have snarled, so hats off to you for being polite and compassionate even in the face of such complete disregard for your feelings and social niceties! I'm 100% positive you also don't look like a whale. However, when I do, I can offer to come and sit on her for you?

weeonion, you're right. A lot of names on that list we don't see much of. Hope everyone is getting on ok. Any lurkers out there, come and say hello!

alita, I haven't had many of the 'was it planned?' variety, but I've had plenty of 'Oh... Um...' and dubious looks. Argh!

People wearing their judgey pants always makes me want to ping the elastic on them in as snappy and painful a manner as possible...

Well I'm in my early thirties, the age loads of women are having babies these days and I also got the was it planned question twice! My oh and I have been together for a decade too so I have no idea why these people are thinking it wouldn't be planned!

I live near the beach too! I absolutely love it. Have to work today though so I'll have to wait till this evening to go down and I'll just have to pull a cornetto out of the freezer.

I heard the baby's heart beat today at the mw appointment! I wasn't sure if we could find it due to anterior placenta but we did! So happy!

I am also going to take aqua natal classes and the mw is giving me a letter for work as its during office hours. Is anyone else doing this? It feels a bit weird getting time off work for exercise, but else I would have no time to do it and I'm hoping it will keep stress levels down.

Right, mission for this weekend: find harem pants!

blamber, these are the black ones I have. They're lush!

Harem pants

In fact, just seen that they do a whole load more colours... Ooooh...

Blamber - did you find out you had anterior placenta at 12 week scan?

Lady well reacted....cant say I would have been able not to bite her head off!!!
Jealous of the beach goers....our office gets boiling on an aft although we do have air con....which is a huge bonus!
Loads of stuff arrived in post this morn from my asos spree....most looks like it will be ok but we'll see after trying on tonight!

Thanks twiglet I'll have a look for those in the shops on Saturday!

Miskate I had a 16 week scan because they're monitoring the baby's growth closely and the doctor saw it then. They didnt say anything about the placenta on the 12 week scan.

You know, I think I felt a kick earlier today! That would be so great!

For the people who know they have an anterior placenta? Were you told or did you have to ask?

I was told my placenta was anterior at my 12 week scan, although I think I might have asked. I'm really glad I know or I think I would be really panicking knowing how much others are feeling. I know that realistically it could still be another 5 weeks before I feel anything. God, I hope it's not though.

Have had a bit of a depressing trawl for maternity clothes this afternoon - was surprised at how few shops stock them for a start. Also, I knew they weren't going to be really exciting but they really are SO bland. Managed to get few bits, and have just ordered some very cheap tops in the New Look sale. Plus a dress I think there is very little chance will look good on, but it's worth a shot!

I'm jealous of those of you with beaches on your doorstep, it must be lovely and great for wee ones too.

I've had a couple of 'was it planned?' comments, which took me by surprise (who would think it's a polite thing to ask?), and was also very taken aback when someone rubbed my non-existant bump last week. I still haven't worked out a response for when that happens again. Anyone got any ideas?

I just added myself to the stats list, think I was worried about putting myself on there sooner, and things going wrong.

Alita - I'm also writing my last essay at the moment and finding it incredibly difficult to focus (ahem...so I thought it was a good idea to take myself clothes shopping). Good luck with yours!

On hols in Devon at the moment. Been swimming in a pool this morning for first time since BFP then sat on beach over lunchtime. Really sunburnt now. Silly silly me. Top of my head where my parting is is really sore!!! Apparently you burn more easily when pregnant so be careful ladies!!!

We're back after being there all sodding day! I have a sunburnt right foot and it's very sore.

I've put my new details on the stats thread, I madr sure I copied the last post so I think it's right.

popcorn I'd swap your foot for my thighs, head and back!!!

Hi all

Am feeling better thanks those who gave me a slap and told me not be daft the other day. Think I'll continue to be paranoid until I get movement and I've had the 20 week scan in 3 weeks though. Still just about in normal clothes - have to go to a wedding next weekend and just look a bit fat so I need to go shopping and find a flattering outfit. Anyone know where's good in Leeds for mat clothes as well? May as well do both at the same time.

I don't know what sort of placenta I've got either - no-one mentioned it at the scan and it's not on the report. Would they tell you if it was anterior?

Jealous of the beach crew - cooped up in the classroom today and it was warm! Re: rude questions, I've had:

Was it planned - yes at 35 I think I can manage my reproduction thanks.
That took a long time - actually no, much to my DP's annoyance!
We thought you weren't having kids, I'm sure you said that - err no - that's your assumption.
And a few who implied I had had treatment because of my age. No. Luckily not.

Some people mustn't think before they speak. At least the bump comments and rubbing haven't started yet!

Still slightly weird about telling people too Greenstone. I've tended to say I'm pregnant - not keen on saying "we" are for some reason.

I've been saying "I'm expecting" rather than "I'm pregnant" too. I don't really know why. I'm not a naturally coy type!

There's a really good bit in We Need To Talk About Kevin where the author remarks on exactly this, her reasoning is that "pregnant" sounds like a teenager in trouble whereas "expecting" has that happy anticipation about it.

Is it normal to get abdominal cramps again at this stage? Have had them all day across the top and bottom of bump for some reason, sore enough to take my breath away and make mr feel like I was going to be sick on various occasions but I can't decide if it is just stuff stretching again.

Joining you with the "what it planned?" questions. Yes it was, but whose business is it if it wasn't! Was told today by one colleague that I don't look pregnant, was I sure I am 18 weeks? Another then announced she could clearly see a bump. Go away and just don't comment on it I think!

Everyone knows mine was very much an unplanned accident that has really scuppered my life plans so I don't get any stupid questions.

I've also never had anyone try to touch my bump even with DS, and I have never tried to touch anyone else's body either....very odd.

amy get some savlon on that sunburn, it should take the sting out of it.

Alita and stripey - good luck with your essays! I just resubmitted my PhD thesis - only had to make minor corrections, but still it was difficult sitting down, concentrating and actually doing it! I hope they'll approve it, because I am definitely fed up with it!

Twiglet, did you get those harem pants in your normal size or a larger size? I'm just wondering what would be most comfortable.

Joining this for the first time! Am due November 7th, live in Sheffield. Am 19 weeks tomorrow!

So far have avoided buying maternity wear, but am usually a size 8/10 or 28inch waist and wear skinny jeans. They're hurting now! So have caved to some maternity jeans from H&M.

Anyone else bought/wearing maternity clothes yet?

Tried asos skinny maternity jeans on that came in post this morn...they are great, def recommend! Also some nice tops that for without swamping me and I treated myself to a nice yellow blazer in normal size so can wear after too etc.
FTMK I'm Leeds and there is nowhere. Maternity depts in stores are minimal and white rose is even worse. There's quite a big mat section in mothercare at crown point retail park but I've never really looked properly. Think online is best for choice.

People are bloody rude and think they can say whatever they want when you're pregnant.

Someone grabbed/rubbed my bump the other day when I said I could feel movement but then looked pretty embarrassed when they saw the horrified look on my face. You don't just randomly touch people!!

We got married quite recently so I tend to just get the 'that was quick' comment from people. I'm 31 though so it's not like I'm mega young to be doing it.

And relax...