November 2014- Thread 6- Pink, blue or yellow? 20 week scans coming up for the rainbow collective

[Alita7]

Wow this makes me feel so far along! Nearly halfway!

Anyone else feeling I'll? I've been waiting to feel any flutters but instead I have stomach ache and feel a bit feverish. Mostly hurt! Awful stomach pains...

Kiddicare have a sale online and in store.

Thanks all feeling better this morning well still feel sick but that's not new n will have some breakfast in a m ok n take anti sickness meds husband is making me some beans on toast as cooking makes me puke.

Those who asked about monitors I always recommend the ones with motion sensors to all my clients n friends n used one myself will buy again this time n use it until child goes into a bed we used til 2yrs 4mths. As a paediatric nurse I have seen some tragedys n have a sister who died of cot death 20+yrs ago n was actually in her pram! Also a police officer once said to a group of us nurses if he had his way all parents would be issued one at birth n told to use it til 2yrs old (this was after an 18mth old died) Sorry I don't want to scare anyone but £100 less on pram n but one of these.

Actually argos have the angel care for £50 at mo n Amazon the tommee tippee one for £50

Venus I ordered few bits from kiddicare last night bedding n changing mat n some toys got few rattles for baby stocking if 1st baby obv wouldn't have done but little one will be 4 this Xmas n will ask why baby doesn't have one so must do one - intend to pop in some bath stuff n weaning spoons etc stuff will use anyway.

My mate had a motion sensor one. Or something that seemed to sense when she was breathing or something. Must ask her what it was. I think she said it went under the mattress? Not sure now actually. I'm seeing her this week so will find out.

I have a filthy cold and had to take 1 gm of Paracetamol at around 11am yesterday and another 1gm at 5 otherwise I'd never have gotten through my shift. I know Paracetamol is ok, but still feeling guilty which I suspect is idiotic. It didn't do anything anyway!

Scan tomorrow - massively excited and nervous. You start to worry about everything! For example I've gotten a little lazy about the Folic Acid in the last week - logically I know its fine at 19 weeks to taper it off but now am scared! I was religious with it since last Sept though - I'm sure its fine. Right??

Have also begun to get lazy about the caffeine-free tea. Yesterday I had abot three cups of proper tea as I felt so shit. God I'm paranoid about everything cos of this scan! PULL YOURSELF TOGETHER WOMAN!

Anna - my midwife said folic acid wasn't necessary after 12 weeks, so I didn't buy any more after my supply ran out. I've been taking vitamin d as I'm super pale and live in wales, I should probably just take it in general anyway! And you can have 2-3 cups of tea a day without any issues AT ALL. Hope you're feeling better today!

I really like the idea of a baby stocking. I bloody love stockings though, best bit of Christmas (mental age of 8)

Morning folks.

We have a motion alarm thing - with a pad that fits under sheet of cot etc. It went off once and Dp and I were out of slumber and cotside within a minute!!

wee onion what's the name of this motion sensor one?
I was thinking I wouldn't need a monitor early on as I don't think I will leave the baby in a room without me. Should I think again?

I've also been incredibly lazy with vitamins! We only just started taking them in the past 15, 20, 30 years? and plenty of healthy babies were born before then :p

I'm tempted to get one of these as it gives peace of mind that baby is breathing -
www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/B001IC5XDI?vs=1
I've found it frustrating that with the AngelCare sensor one (sensitive pad under the cot sheet) that if you forget to turn it off when you pick up baby it goes off which is very loud and (literally) alarming when you're half asleep and baby is in your arms!
From maternity nannying I've seen a lot of different monitors and in my opinion the video monitors, despite being expensive, are brilliant because there are many times when baby is nearly asleep, lying down but grumbling or wide awake and singing happily where you otherwise might go in to them sooner than you need to. It's like having night vision goggles and if you can see on the screen exactly what they are doing then it gives you peace of mind to leave them a bit longer/go back to sleep/avert a crisis!
You can also spot when a precious blankie or toy has been flung overboard or when they are standing up and you need to go in and resettle them, plus it's super cute to watch them chatting away to teddy.
They are a good investment as you'll want to see what they are up to in their room for years, even when they are 3 or 4 and have a friend round!
The Samsung one is very good, and the Sumner. If you go for a video monitor try to avoid one with a bright blue light that glows on them (so you can see them in the dark), the Samsung and Summer ones don't have this.

I think I'll add that to my wishlist too Elli

Venus2 thanks for that. Car seat bought!!!! Woop.

Anyone know if you can buy from kiddicare and have it delivered in a few months time? I don't want a crib now but there's a good deal one in that sale!

I doubt it alita and tbh you'll need to have the space for it pretty soon anyway. Is it a space issue or not wanting stuff around so as to not "tempt fate" (cynic alert)???

Wow this little money is full of beans today! She's hardly stopped! Wriggling all over the place! It's nice though. I've had an incredibly awful couple of weeks with extreme stress and anxiety through the roof and one day last week went down to the hospital because I was feeling so bad and she'd not moved for over 24 hours (though decided to wake up when I was half way there in the car!) and I've been quite down wishing she would wake up and kick me and remind me I have a purpose and reason to get up and keep going and she's been rather quiet but today she's all go!! Think she had the hiccups earlier from the rythmic, regular jumps I was getting for a while and since then it's been party time in my tummy! Scan tomorrow so looking forward to that.

I didn't bother with a video or movement monitor, just a 2 way sound and temperature one which I still used up till DD was 6, just handy to keep a check on playdates and talk without having to run up & down the stairs or get to nightmares and midnoght illnesses quicker. It was handy from day one because when she was asleep in my room often I would want to sneak out for food or TV or internet or whatever and I could still hear that she was OK. Often she would sleep wherever we were (the lounge, in her pushchair, in the car, wherever) but for the odd day when we did it right and she'd actually be put down for a nap or for bed in her own cot in the bedroom it was handy.

I'm feeling more excited today. I've been feeling guilty because I've not had the same excitement and obsession with it as I had with DD but then it did take me 5 long years to get her and she was the first and I felt fantastic the whole time so I guess it's normal to be less excitable and obsessive over it on subsequent ones and when frankly I feel like utter shit this time round but 20 weeks yesterday is quite a milestone and I'm much more excited today, and with her backflips reminding me all day. I actually really want to meet her now and have her here! :-D

Money?? Monkey!!!

monitors- i used tompee tippee monitor and sensory mat up until dd was 3 (and got a single sized bed). i agree that it is very frustrating when u forget to turn if off after picking up baby but its totally worth is for pieceoof mind! i think i will invest in a video this time to avoid 'floating' when baby it asleep. even with a mat i would check dd every 5 minutes or so in the first few months even at night. i was (am) so in love with her i couldnt keep my eyes off her.

monitors- i used tompee tippee monitor and sensory mat up until dd was 3 (and got a single sized bed). i agree that it is very frustrating when u forget to turn if off after picking up baby but its totally worth is for pieceoof mind! i think i will invest in a video this time to avoid 'floating' when baby it asleep. even with a mat i would check dd every 5 minutes or so in the first few months even at night. i was (am) so in love with her i couldnt keep my eyes off her.

Amy were almost certainly moving before baby as I can't bring a baby to a mould infested house. So I don't want to get too many big things as it will make moving harder!

Monitors-we had samsung vid at first as I always fancied a vid one but our house is old with mega thick walls and I found the range useless....now we have motorola vid one and my mum has the samsung at hers. It's been especially good since dd went into own room at 6 months as there are 4 creaky steps down to her room and it was good to just see on monitor whether we were actually needed rather than risk waking her with the noise of steps unnecessarily! I'll be buying a second cam unit to pair up for new baby so it can scan 2 when needed.
In more exciting news...just found out my brother n wife are also expecting (their first) just a couple of weeks after ours so I'm super excited!

Getting a bit annoyed with people asking why I want to find out and then challenging my reasons!

If I said I didn't want to find out they'd all be nagging that they want to know!

I know I can just say because I want to but it's still annoying, especially it's relatives that I don't want to be rude to like dps dad.

It seems the second you're pregnant everyone jumps to judge all your choices and continues to do so for the whole of your child's life!!

Yep, the second you fall pg you become public property where everyone has an opinion and apparently a right to push it on you. I seem to be saying "fuck off" a lot more often the last couple of months.

alita - yep - as soon as you are pg - there is someone waiting in the wings or ready to speak up about every single thing you choose to do or not do and it continues from then on....... A wonderful part of this club called "parenting"

But lets be honest - we can all be judgemental about certain things. I try my best not to but it happens.... At DD's recent school choir performance one particularily confident precocious girl grabbed the mike which was meant for them all to be heard through and turned it into a solo. Her mum was so proud and yelling at the top of her voice "you show them sweetheart!!!" and beaming to the audience. the rest sat agog. I had my judgy pants hitched right up that night!

Unless it is really bad - i fake the most ludicrous smile to unwanted advice givers and respond in an exageratted tone "why, THANK you for that. I know EXACTLY what i will do with that"

mrsdowney, I hope things will get a bit easier for you soon. It's nice you can feel the baby moving around so much though.

wee onion I see what you mean, I can be judgemental too but at the same time that's about something that affected the girl and the kids she was pushing out. Finding out your babies gender has no ill affect on anyone and they can ask you not to tell them if they don't want to know. People canjudge me for things that actually affect my child, there's or them, but this is really no one else's business!

My ex MIL didn't want to know which was really silly as EVERYONE knew and I wasn't about to start saying "it" again or not using her name once we decided and everyone was used to saying her and she and using her name. It didn't stay secret from her for long and she was disappointed to know early but tough, it wasn't her baby so not her choice. My ex FIL had a lot of opinions too and I just used to smile and say "no uterus, no opinion" which he hated but who is he to lecture me?? He was never there for his boys and is a crap grandfather/uncle now. This time round it's my mother who I told to get lost a couple of weeks ago. Her mouth is getting worse as she gets older and my tolerance for it is getting lower as I get older so bad combination. A lot of people are making comments about how obviously terribly dreadfully hard this is going to be on my own and I've taken to saying with an overly sympathetic tone and face "Oh dear, is that how hard you found it/how much you struggled/how unhappy you were when you had one on your own at 37?" and they soon shut up.