Pop pop pop We're all about to POP! - July 2014 thread

[ismarah]

Hope you like the title - like inside us, there was no room on the other thread!

[MrsA2]

Liquid we kept quiet about me being pregnant when we bought our house just recently - nothing along the lines of expected reduction in income was asked but we didn't volunteer the info either.

[liquidstatehasrisenagain]

It just seemed so weird, particulalry since it doesn't bloody matter as we are injecting a £30k inheritance and will be receiving more inheritance soon allowing us to overpay each year . But they wanted to know everything and then she had to go away and decide which was the best mortgage for us (ie. the one I had phoned up to confirm as had already spoken to mortgage people earlier in the week and we had made a decision). She spent 10 mins asking me why I wanted a 3 year fix over a two year???

Anyhow those on the facebook group will know this already but my other pregnant cousin has a traumatic 3 day labour yesterday and baby currently in ICU. Bloody Ashford General Hospital again. Cousin 1 had a baby there is March which was a bloodbath. Cousin 2, the babys heart stopped beating. Both should have had planned or emergency C Sections. Family now considering legal action.

So feeling a little more relaxed about possibly having a planned section now.

[AuntieMaggie]

MrsA our advice is to call the hospital once contractions are so often and lasting a certain amount and to make sure we talk to them not the partner so they can try and figure out how we are coping.

[icklekid]

Woo for being in your lovely new house zing we've missed you! Hope you can get boxes unpacked slowly or with lots of help!

As were away missed breastfeeding nct class and also potentially a knitted boob I'm guessing!

Had a lovely day walking this morning then relaxing rest of day. Looking at photos from walk my boobs and stomach are enormous! Rather scary that only 34 weeks!!!

The post on pregnancy forum about 7 day slow labour is scaring me...tell me it's rare (please lie if necessary!)

[AuntieMaggie]

Random question... is it worth trimming lady bits incase they need to shave me for any reason or don't they do that anymore?

[BlueC2]

So DH thought bump shape had changed this morning and in all honesty it does feel bigger-which would make sense if baby has moved-trying not to get my hopes up too much til I see the MW on Monday though.

auntie if you think you may have a CS the advice is to shave the top bit yourself to avoid any dry shaving by MW. From personal experience I tried to keep as trim as I could manage before having DS (natural labour) and it does make keeping the area clean etc when you have post birth bleeding to contend with rather easier. Just don't go too short-you don't want any itchy regrowth!

Oh and for those with awkwardly positioned babies I read earlier that wearing loose clothing (no tight waistbands can help). Interestingly I wore a maxi dress all day yesterday and I have 'felt the need' to wear looser stuff recently - maybe my body was trying to tell me what to do?!

[mixi82]

auntie I've more or less stopped worrying about down there since not being able to see it! I've got a small trimmer that I use though, keeps it neat and can do this without looking!

On another note, went to MW appointment today, mentioned my itchiness and she said she would take bloods for OC. I've been itchy for the last week and it's gradually got worse, random places too and my feet and hands get puffy at night. Last night I hardly slept cos it was so bad. Anyone else experienced this and diagnosed with OC? What exactly does it mean? MW mentioned something to do with liver issues and extreme circumstances means premature delivery???

[FoxtrotOscarBackToEconomy]

Good evening!

Absolutely knackered after a day at work followed by the joy of the supermarket. Highlight of the shopping was Ben & Jerrys having 40% off (rarely on offer) so I bought 5 tubs. I'm stocking up for the first week of maternity leave summer.

Ismarah, hopefully you will have a better chance with the new consultant. Not that it helps you, but I won't see the dr to discuss ELCS until I'm 39 weeks, so you still have a bit of time assuming baby cooperates and stays put until you are ready.

Blue, fingers crossed that baby will stay head down now. I'm finding baby's movements can be really uncomfortable now, and definitely shifting around a lot.

Zing, glad to hear that the move went ok.

I'm definitely not ready to have this baby yet. DH was nagging me to do my hospital bag this morning. As well as a few days sat with my feet up eating Ben & Jerrys I also need to make a trip to Ikea, just to have the smug satisfaction of being able to cut the queue at the checkout and go to the front of the priority queue. (last time we went the non-priority people patiently waiting in the priority queue were starting to look a little pissed off at the third pregnant person in a row going to the front of the queue!)

And I need to reset my nappy-buying - I've been buying size 4 without thinking about it for maybe 2 years, DS is now almost out of nappies and now I need to buy size 1 again!

[AuntieMaggie]

mixicoco had OC I think... if you read back over the last thread you can see what she's written about it.

ismarah good luck with new consultant.

zing congrats on the move - good to have you back

foxtrot what do you mean priority queue at ikea???

[ismarah]

Zing welcome back and congrats on the move! I am quite jealous of what sounds like lots of space :-)

[icklekid]

foxtrot I too have never heard of this priority queue??!!

blue I bought my first ever maxi dress this week (primark special) now need some really hot weather as an excuse to wear it! Otherwise it will become a throw it on around the house for comfort dress!

mixi hope things do get better- if they know what it is that's a start surely. ..

My hands and feet are getting very swollen during the day - pretty active. Don't know if should mention it to midwife as last time she asked I said yes and she wrote down no swelling as was just getting fatter apparently!

[justhayley]

Morning,
DS woke up at 5am today I gave him milk and he went straight back to sleep. I however havnt so have been wide awake since .
Slightly (to say the least) stressed out. DP is an officer in the Army, I don't live on the patch so he's apparently only home at weekends.
I say apparently as in the last few months iv hardly seen him. He was away for 5 weeks while we/I moved house, then home for 5 days, then gone for 6 weeks. He came home yesterday after promising me that his 6 weeks abroad he's just done would be the last until the baby arrives, to tell me that he's being sent to Canada from mid June - mid July. He hasn't got the exact dates but has put in a request that he's in the country again no later than July 10th (my EDD is 24th).
DS arrived at 35 weeks and all pregnancy iv been told to be ready by the end of June for this bean to arrive, so July 10th really is no help what so ever! He's also been told there's a high change he'l also be deployed in August for who knows how long as there's a conflict in Europe kicking off that needs British army support. (Am not allowed to say where or what as it's not public knowledge yet).
I'm so stressed. The chances are he will be on the other side of the world when I go into labour & have the baby.
He is fairly calm and it hasn't seem to have sunk in that an EDD is just an estimate & he seems to be ignoring the fact iv been repeatedly told the risk if a 2nd premie is higher than the average. Think he thinks he can book off the 24th & 25th of July and all will go to plan .
We moved 6 weeks ago and iv been left to do all the house unpacking without him - whilst looking after our 2 year old. So still as you can imagine living heavily in boxes.

I'm aiming for a homebirth (if baby can get out of breech position & gets to 37 weeks) but if I don't get that the only person that I'd have looking after DS is my mum - apart from DP she's also the only person I'd want with me in labour!!! Iv got local friends who have offered to look after DS or come to the hospital with me, but DS really won't go to anyone but my mum, & I know if I had someone else looking after him whilst in labour id be stressed knowing he was upset. I also can't really imagine having a friend with me whilst giving birth - especially as they are all friends iv only known for a year or 2.
Stressing I'm going to end up having a premature labour and have no birthing partner!
Am considering a doola, but for the price think it might be pointless as it's just another stranger in the room so may as well just have MW!

Sorry for long miserable post but need to share and hoping someone will come up with a fabulous idea to get round this all that I havn't thought of. wondering if asking baby politely to come at 38 +2 weeks no later no earlier would work?!



Anyone else got military spouse experience? It's still fairly new to me, & as I'm not living on the camp & we are not yet married I have no support with the regiments family welfare so can't ask them anything.
Not to much point posting on the "forces sweethearts" thread either as they seem to be super harsh over there and the answer to everything is "that's the job it has to come first deal with it"!

I need lots of & please - and vibes to get this baby to stay in until DPs on the same side of the world as me

[justhayley]

Ps wondering if while DP sleeps peacefully next to me and I stress about all this, if I "accidentally" use all my strength to kick him in his jollies and out of bed or punch him In the nose would it make me feel better - I'm thinking it might!

[icklekid]

Oh dear hayley that doesn't sound great and can imagine your frustration. I don't really have any advice as I'm not sure how much say your DP gets in being deployed. Normally 10th July for 24th dd would sound reasonable but as you say likely to come early that doesn't help... in an emergency - going into labour early is there any way he could be sent back if was away? I realise that this doesn't help for labour but at least he could support you for first few weeks? As for alternative birthing partners/ looking after ds could dh parents help? Is there a friend you could spend more time with over next few weeks for ds to get more used to? Sorry is all I can think of hugs and for a rubbish situation

Hi moresnow I'm also rubbish at sleeping pregnant or not- have been since I was a child! Half of me thinks this is good preparation for having a baby the other half just hopes baby takes after their father and likes a good long sleep!

[AuntieMaggie]

hayley I think you'd be perfectly justified to kick/punch him in the circumstances (DP is lucky I didn't do the same as I lay awake last night listening to him snore!)

I think ickles suggestion about getting DS used to someone else is a good idea.

Can you take DP to a MW appt to get him to.realise the reality of the situation? Also ask him what his suggestions are for different scenarios.

ickle its probably just water but definitely mention the swelling to MW and if your face gets puffy call straight away (can you tell I've had this lecture several times?) If you're active the water makes its way to hands and feet but should go down a bit if you put your feet up. My feet haven't gone back to their normal size for weeks now anf my hands are worse in the morning to the point I can barely hold a toothbrush but they go down after about half hour of getting up.

[Plateofcrumbs]

hayley that sounds horribly stressful! Our friends who recently had DC2 spent some time with DC1 getting him used to people who were on their 'on call' list for when they were in hospital - spending more time with them and making a photo book they could go through with him reminding him of who was who.

zing glad you're getting settled!

And hold the phone, priority queue in Ikea!?

[mixi82]

justhaley my DP is in the RAF and just coming back from detachment today. Bit of a complicated one as we've had issues recently with his end of det party fun..... Anyway, he would have been back and forth from work and things so wouldn't see him much and when baby arrives he's due to go on officer training which means only home at weekends. So made the decision to stay at my mums for now so at least she'll be around as she doesn't work and have other family here too. Plus, if blood results come back saying I have OC, the MW here said I'd have to have regular checks and bloods taken so if I was at home then I'd be ferrying myself about all the time whereas here the clinic is just a. 5 minute walk and hospital is 20 mins away.

The way I see it is, with military guys, as soon as it's time for bubba to arrive then the hierachy make damn sure they get them to you for the delivery, no matter what. Good like that I suppose. Just can be difficult when partners go away suddenly and you're left alone, we'll make it through though, military mums good at that!! Here if you need to chat :)

[mixi82]

Just re-read all of coco's posts about obstetric cholestasis. My symptoms sound so similar and happy new MW was understanding and offered to take bloods for test. As I said, will find out next week but if I do have it I'm not going to lie about worrying about eat delivery. First baby and it seems everything is going wrong this trimester. This itching is driving me potty the most though, it's in random places but then I get it bad on my hands and feet. I've started using sudocrem now which seems to work best everywhere other than feet and hands, still using E45 for that.

On top of the itching, woke up last night and ran to the loo to be sick, all of last nights dinner said hello!(sorry tmi)

Yesterday in town, one of my legs cramped up in Boots, once in one of the aisles and then by the till, I look like a right idiot limping away!

Now I've suddenly got a watery eye, been going for the last hour with that.

Plus there's DP issues......there's no end to this 3rd trimester issues it seems! Sorry for MASSIVE whinge!!

[BlueC2]

So sorry to hear of difficult situations mixi and justhayley hope some resolution comes soon.

I had a birthday party to take DS to this morning and then popped into town-pushing DS around in the pushchair was getting quite uncomfortable as baby kept kicking high up in bump (which is a good positioning thing) and bump going v tight so kept needing to stop! Managed to rest this afternoon thankfully but still v tired.

34 weeks today-roll on the next 6 (NOT 8!) going quickly!!

[FoxtrotOscarBackToEconomy]

PRIORITY QUEUE IN IKEA
Don't you have it in the UK?
In France pregnancy is a serious medical condition that requires you not to wait too long at the supermarket or Ikea. Last week I was summoned to the front of the queue in Lidl by the person serving on the check out.

Got to return to making dinner now - but thought I should clarify before you all start embarrassing yourselves if it doesn't exist in the UK!

[AuntieMaggie]

Dammit just realised I should probably buy a new mattress for the pram cot - thought I'd got everything!

[liquidstatehasrisenagain]

I'm still waiting for my cot and mattress to be brought over from the PILs - getting a little impatient now.

Sorry to hear of all those in pain suffering itches etc. I havent been sick since the acupuncture on tuesday (although get queasy sometimes). SPD also eased. Dizzyness due to baby being in breech position still ongoing.

other than that having a very boring weekend...

[ismarah]

I think I may be nesting: I've just scrubbed the tiles in the kitchen. On top of the other reorganising and decluttering elsewhere in the house. Also have found a carpet cleaning company. Someone stop me, please.

[AuntieMaggie]

foxtrot no I don't believe that does exist in the UK!

ismarah if I could I would be joining you... instead I'm relegated to asking DP to do it/getting frustrated because DP isn't doing it!