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Due in November - Part 5 - 3rd Trimester here we come.

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FoghornLeghorn · 29/08/2006 09:29

Morning Girls,

Thought I would start a new thread as someone suggested further down the last one.

Come and join.

Debbsy, how are things today ? Hope you are feeling better.
Tummy Button is starting to poke out a bit, sort of half in and half out, looks very odd.
We brought our buggy yesterday - we have gone for this one , being delivered a week Friday. Can't wait to get it home and have a push.

Not even thought about hospital bag yet. When I was pregnant with DD, I'm sure I already had it packed by now. We had one for labour and one for afterwards which worked quite well, think we will do the same this time.
Carseat - I had to stay in after having DD so DH brought the carseat up to the hospital the next day with him. I think we will put it in the car ready this time though as hoping to be in and out in a flash

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LeBe · 20/09/2006 11:45

Sounds like everyone is suffering! Do you all think it is something in the air or something to do with being nearly ready to drop? Having not done this before i dont know if this is natural progression, but i feel so lousy. Then to make matters worse i feel awful for feeling that way, like im not grateful for lo or something and then i worry something bad will happen and it will be fault for not being happy about everything! I know that sounds totally irrational but all these bad feelings keep creeping up and making me feel

LeBe · 20/09/2006 11:48

sorry posted before i finished - really down in the dumps and i cant seem to pull myself out of it, everyone has had enough of me and my mood swings and i cant stand people at times, im hoping it will be better when i leave work but in reality i think it will be worse cos i will be at home worrying on my own! Oh dear promised i wouldnt moan! X

saralou100 · 20/09/2006 11:56

morning all... feeling much better today, thanx all you did help yesterday!! so dp is employed until 17th dec and getting paid for it, only in all the paperwork it doesn't mention how much he will be paid monthly (although big emphasis on what final payout will be) this makes me slightly suspicious as he was payed on comission, so shit basic, bloody good comission iyswim.. if he just gets paid basic, we have a problem but if they have a deal about paying comission then we should be ok... were gonna go and see someone next week about what benefits we're entitled to, as i've always known we could claim for more but never did!

went and saw madwife yesterday too (forgot to tell ya with all the other madness) and lo is doing nicely! heartbeats nice and strong, bump measures bang on for dates.. but my bp was slightly raised.. not suprising really!! makes me laugh when she asks if lo is moving ok.. i don't think it's stopped moving this last week, limbs are stretching out in all directions, i wish i knew which position it's lying in so i can work out which body part it is!!

i've felt a few hiccupy type movements, i think someone told me they get hiccup's to help stretch their stomach's ready for some food!!

saralou100 · 20/09/2006 12:04

stacey just read your post, your dh sounded a little insensitive i must say... i know how you feel, this would be so much easier if we didn't already have little ones to look after and entertain!! some weeks the only time ds goes out is when he goes to nursery twice a week, i do very little with him lately and i feel bad for it... i keep telling myself that i wasn't like this before being pg and i wouldn't be like this if i wasn't pg and that it will all improve when this lo comes out for a cuddle!! i'm sure your gonna feel better soon and life will slowly resort to normal again... next time your dh feels he should comment tell him no uterus, no opinion!! they have no idea what it's like to cook another person for 9 long months!!

saralou100 · 20/09/2006 12:09

and lebe, as the clock ticks down i do think you get pissed off with the whole process, i know i did with ds!! your so sick of feeling tired and heavy and uncomfortable all the time that you just want it to be over with!! who knows maybe when you give up work things will improve as you won't have the added stress of being at work, you can sleep when you want, eat when you want etc.... have a girly pampering session!!

saralou100 · 20/09/2006 12:09

i'm going to stop posting now!!!

staceym11 · 20/09/2006 12:19

thanks sarahlou it makes me feel better that someone else feels the same, iyswim. dd doesnt even have nursery as we cant afford it, so its me her and cbeebies, poor lass!

feel slightly better as my mum is coming over this afternoon so might venture to local park if im not gunna be on my own. part of not going out is just in case something happens dont want to be on my own with dd and collapse, poor thing wouldnt know what to do!

as for feeling generally bad Lebe i had that with dd, this stage is so horrible but we just have to remember the lovely little baby at the end, it will all be worth it!

Bethbe · 20/09/2006 12:28

Hiya all,

My we're a grumpy lot this morning. I guess sometimes this pregnancy malarky just takes its toll!!!

Lebe: Hope you'll be able to find a way to stay in touch - internet cafe's/friend's computers etc?

Sara: Good to hear you're feeling more positive and hope your DP finds something soon - the run up to christmas might help!?

Stacey: You're tired, thats all! Dp should be offering to help/give you a break/take dd out for the day at the weekend. Better still, - why not take her round to NatalieJane's place - with all that spare time, perhaps she can even come and pick her up (only kidding NJ - and very jealous)

Debz99 · 20/09/2006 12:29

DP keeps saying ot me he wants the old Debbie back and not the one that keeps bursting into tears at the drop of a hat, normally i'm the srong one !

staceym11 · 20/09/2006 12:33

yeah NJ take my child for a few days you wont be bored then! lol

as we'r skint dh is working most weekends up till the baby is born now, so its still me on my lonesome, hopefully will be able to fob dd off to her nannies for a few days next weekend to give me a break.

its terrible us all being depressed, we really need to cheer up dont we!

well on a good note iv mostly sorted my hospital bag!! hehe im so proud!

Bethbe · 20/09/2006 12:35

On a slightly different note, I just read the last midwife notes. Under 'Engagement' it says 3/5 palpable. What on earth does that mean?

Do any of you more experienced ladies know?

Has anyone else got that in their notes or been told that?

staceym11 · 20/09/2006 12:39

they can feel 3/5 of the babies head, mines at 4/5, your lo is getting ready by moving down into your pelvis!

NatalieJane · 20/09/2006 12:42

LOL BethBe, believe me if there was any way I could get anywhere to help any of you out I would!

I think we do just hit a stage where everything just seems like too much effort, everything seems to go wrong, everyone seems to think they know what is best for you, but 9 times out of 10 you just want them to sod off! And the poor DH's, firstly they don't/can't understand what we go through every day, they try their best to help us in any way they can, except that way is normally 100 miles away from what we would really like them to do, my poor DH has taken over so many of the little jobs now that he doesn't sit down till gone 9 every night after being out at work from 6 in the morning, and then he sits down to listen to me moaning on about how tired I am, and how hard a day I've had - doing nothing! Add to that no sex, me bursting into tears over everything and nothing, his own worries/thoughts/feelings on being a dad again, it's a wonder they manage to stick it out with us for the whole nine months!!

mygirllolipop · 20/09/2006 13:04

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staceym11 · 20/09/2006 13:10

mygirl, thanks feeling a bit better.

i think he thought he was being generally nice and asking use=ful questions, men have no idea.

i do know this will go away i just feel so bad atm, and you're right i feel like im neglecting her, poor lamb! at least it wont be forever, she can have a few months of non stop beebies and then get back to normal! lol acctually we usually do play dough or cooking or painting in the afternoons when i feel a bit better, while i watch the rubbish chat shows, its only mornings she is glued to the tv! lol

staceym11 · 20/09/2006 13:12

and as for not being arsed for sex, is there a possible way at this size???

even if i wanted to, which i dont, i dont think it could be physically possible!

(right TMI so look away now!) the other thing is if i orgasm my whole uterus goes rock solid and acctually hurts for about 10 mins afterwards, dont want to be doing that too often!

Bethbe · 20/09/2006 13:16

Woweeee, all systems go at 0/5? Is 3/5 okay for 31 weeks though or is it early?

NJ/MyGirl: Sex - No it's not just you! Funny, I get the urge, but can't be bothered with the effort!

Debz: Tell him you want the old DP back, - the one that was understanding and kind!

staceym11 · 20/09/2006 13:18

bethbe, thats fine at 31 weeks, its your first isnt it? generally first babies move down ready earlier, it means you get some of the pressure taken off of your lungs and stomach earlier than us second timers! enjoy it! lol (it does add pressure to your bladder tho!)

Bethbe · 20/09/2006 13:24

Stacey: Does that mean I have to get a move on with the excercises I've just read about to shift LO from it's back2back position - or do I still have time (lazy cow that I am)!

Just been nosing on the October Antenatals, and they're dropping already. That'll be us in 4-5 weeks! How exiting - and scary!

staceym11 · 20/09/2006 13:29

itl prob be easier to move lo earlier as there is more room for them to manouver, but i dont really know, never known a backtoback baby. sorry not much help!

mygirllolipop · 20/09/2006 13:52

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staceym11 · 20/09/2006 14:07

lol so we all need to get our dh/dps to give us orgasms to tone our muscles and then sod off! lol, they'd love that!

LeBe · 20/09/2006 14:42

Sex???? What the hell is that!! I definately dont feel like it, a kiss and cuddle is nearly too much of an effort. As for poor dhs/dps i feel especially bad on mine, we were only together 1 month before i fell pg after telling him i couldnt have children (which is what i had been told by docs) so it was even more of a shock than usual i think, he then had to move out of his mums where he had everything on a plate, spent his money on what he wanted and went out all the time, to moving in with me, spending money on bills and not going out cos of being skint, also most people get to know their partners before pg but he has only really known me as getting bigger and bigger with raging hormones and being constantly tired - he says he wouldnt change things for the world tho bless.

As for the feeling down, it is true the tiredness and being in pain nearly all the time doesnt help with my mood, but its also my niece was sb and i think it wouldnt normally even enter my head but when it happens so closely to you, you cant help worrying the same will happen to you, the same with my high risk for ds it is playing on my mind and i dont think Eastenders is helping but i felt silly for thinking like it so didnt tell anyone how much i was fretting and i think that is why it has been made worse, add on that all the other worries everyone gets and its a bit of a nightmare! (sorry for the long post)

mygirllolipop · 20/09/2006 15:32

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Debz99 · 20/09/2006 15:43

Bethbe - DP wasn't being nasty or insensitive he has just noticed how hormonal I am and normally hardly ever cry and now I just a complete wreck !! As for the sex .... my sex drive has gone out the window and has been since I was pg, DP is just smiling through it but I know he feels left out LOL !