Due in November - Part 5 - 3rd Trimester here we come.

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Morning Girls,

Thought I would start a new thread as someone suggested further down the last one.

Come and join.

Debbsy, how are things today ? Hope you are feeling better.
Tummy Button is starting to poke out a bit, sort of half in and half out, looks very odd.
We brought our buggy yesterday - we have gone for this one , being delivered a week Friday. Can't wait to get it home and have a push.

Not even thought about hospital bag yet. When I was pregnant with DD, I'm sure I already had it packed by now. We had one for labour and one for afterwards which worked quite well, think we will do the same this time.
Carseat - I had to stay in after having DD so DH brought the carseat up to the hospital the next day with him. I think we will put it in the car ready this time though as hoping to be in and out in a flash

HC glad all went well for your friend ! It will be our turn soon !

SL: Could a positive side be that he'll be around to help/bond in the early days? Not a huge consolation, but surely he'll get some pay to cover this and although you'll still be anxious about the future - in the short term it might be nice!!! ?? or am I being insensitive?

oh HC congrats to your friend, only 7lb 4 oz, he needed those extra two weeks!

SL: Could a positive side be that he'll be around to help/bond in the early days? Not a huge consolation, but surely he'll get some pay to cover this and although you'll still be anxious about the future - in the short term it might be nice!!! ?? or am I being insensitive?

I suppose I am being a little as you've only just found out and are probably grappling with a thousand unknowns, - but maybe consider this when you've had time to let it all sink in!!

What bast*rds for promising a promotion etc though.....

HC: Lovely news! We'll be hearing news from this group soon.....although I'm kinda glad it takes 9 months, coz I've really needed this long to get used to the idea.

HC - Well done to your friend and congratulations to her a her lo. Glad everything was ok.

Debz - Your right it will be our turn soon, does anyone else feel really excited one minute and then fed up they have to wait and then petrified - or is that just me?

Everyone on here seems to have had a bit of a hard time at some point or another, hopefully it is a sign that everything will be ok afterwards we are just all getting it out the way now!

Want to send hugs to everyone, whether they need them or not xx

SaraLou and Debz, I don't really know what to say that will help at all. DH was made redundant when DS was 6 weeks old, his boss had known that it was on the cards for a while but in his words didn't say anything to my DH because of the baby and we had recently lost DH's step-dad, but that reasoning was bollocks, the very reason he should have let on things weren't looking good was because we had a newborn baby! Anyway, as it happened, by the end of the same week DH had a new job lined up ready and waiting for him to start, and although the new job was more hours, and generally harder work, DH has been promoted twice, had goodness knows how many payrises, and is now on more than double what he was being paid in his old job, and he really enjoys the work, so we are quite glad he got made redundant! Hopefully, it work out just as well for both of your DH's.

HC Congrats to your friend and her little man

Lebe I am with you with the excited/scared/happy/worried whirlwind, I think most expectant mothers go through it!

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Yes, I feel impatient, excited, scared, happy and loads of other things about having this baby. Don't think dh can keep up with it sometimes!

Oh good im glad its not just me. Im sure like you say all mothers go through it. i do feel guilty now tho for moaning about small things when others have much more to worry about x

Hi girls

I'm really for you both, i don't know what we would do in the same situation. Am sending you all the luck in the world that everything works out okay in the end. In the meantime have you contacted your finance people about getting any insurance paying for your cards/morgage for a bit? they generally cover redundancy.

i've chilled out now!!! he's got something called garden leave for 3 months which means he gets paid by ntl still, but can't get another job in this time to get this, just waiting for him to get home now (they made him drive all the way to gatwick, nearly 3 hrs away) just need to sit down this evening and work out what he's entitled to etc

am starting to see the positive side now though, i start mat leave on friday so were gonna get a lot of time together and i'm gonna make a list of all the diy that needs doing, that we never seem to have the time for!! plenty of time now!! and as you all say, it' s probably gonna work out for the better!!

Ah Saralou im so glad you are feeling happier now. That is a good way to look at it atleast you will get all niggily jobs done and spend some nice time together before lo comes, i would quite like to spend some time with my dp but obviously i wouldnt want anything like this to happen. Also i know you said he cant work when he is still getting paid but surely he can go to interviews and line a job up ready?? Hope its good news tonight. x

Debz and SL - I'm so sorry, i hope it doesn't have a to negative effect on this amazing time for you both.

I saw my hemotologist for the last time today, i discussed my fears about labouring without an epidural she said not to worry to much becuase my labour will be eith.

a. Very quick, apparently they expect labour for a second child to be half the time of a first and ds's labour was 8 hr so there expecting about a 4hr labour in which case weather i have had my medication or not i will not have time for an epidural so will have to make do with other forms of pain killers.

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b. Long in which case my medication will have worn off well enough for me to have the epidural.

If i have an emergency c-section for any reason i will have to be put to sleep and under no circumstances am i allowed an epidural if i have had my blood thinning injection, there is to much risk of bruising to my spine that can cause long term problems and even cause me to be paralysed! But apparently there is sever al other forms of pain killers available to me becuase of my health that may not be given to others so i will have a chat to my ob gyne.

But apart from that i have to stay on my med's and stop them as soon as i thik im in labour and i have been given a letter to carry at all times stating what is and isnt safe for delivery and saying i need extra care when it comes to tearing and bleeding.

Nothing changed otherwise lots of painfull kicks! suffering from heartburn tonight i will have to drink a load of milk and take my disgusting gaviscon tablets! gross

I hope everyone is doing ok, i can;t wait for this pregnancy to be over now i just want the baby here!

Charlee, meant to say earlier, I am glad your DS got through the brain scan OK The end of October is a long way off though. Re. the heartburn, they now think milk isn't very good for it, it does take away the burning to start off with, but then when you start to digest the milk, it turns into different sugars which can bring the heartburn back with a passion.

Hello all,
sarahlou & Debs - I really feel for you both, my dh's firm went into liquidation 6 weeks after ds was born and he was left with no redundancy pay and with them actually owing him about £1,000. I thought that would be the end of us financially - until our car got stolen a week later (with ds's car seat in it and the wheels to his travel system)- then the insurance only paid enough out to pay off the finance, so we couldn't afford another car, so dh couldn't even get to any job interviews without paying for public transport (which was money we didn't have) and to top it all off, dh's sister got run over and was in a coma all within 3 months of giving birth to our first baby. It did get me down for a while and really got me down when dh didn't find a job that paid enough for 9 months BUT everything did sort itself out and we are just getting straight now. On the plus side, it did prepare us for living on a tighter budget which will enable me to stay at home with this bubby and ds and dh really bonded well with ds, they are like 2 pes in a pod What I would say though is do look into income support or job seekers allowance asap, as if you want to claim for council tax reduction or anything like that, you will need to have been claiming or prove the unemployment - also, try for the SSMG now and most importantly, enjoy your time together
Sorry - that turned into a really long post - am off now before I bore everyone sensless - might even attempt to pack my bag

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I'm having problems too!

Mygirl - I couldnt either it came out with a load of jargon but i thought it was my computer cos there is a problem with it today.

Charlee - it all sounds really complicated to me but i hope it all works out for you, im sure it will

M2T - I cant believe you had so much to deal with last time, it makes me feel so stupid for moaning about my little woes, i really hope you get an easy time this time round.

I dont think i should be on here today because i am feeling really down in the dumps and dont want to depress everyone plus they arent important things compared to what some of you are going through so i will try and put my smiley face on

Oh but one thing that i have thought today that is really sad, im leaving work next friday (thats a good thing!) but the bad thing i have no access to the internet when not at work and we cant afford to get it at home at the mo so no more talking to everyone everyday - what am i going to do! I can go on my mums when i go to hers (about every 2 weeks) to see how your all doing and when everyone drops but i am very very

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What a morning! DH's tracker on his work van broke this morning so we have had the bloke out to fix it, which means I have spent all morning making cups of tea and toast, have also gotten DS ready for school and dropped off after doing his breakfast and lunches, also managed to squeeze some time in the shower for myself and have a slice of toast while making everyone elses, and on top of that I have just done another coat of gloss on the woodwork in the nursery, now I find myself in an empty house with everyone fixed and gone, and nothing to do - again! It is chucking it down and blowing a gale, it looks like it is another day of led on the sofa with the cat (who poked her head through the cat flap this morning, saw the weather, and decided she could wait and crossed her legs) doing my puzzler and try to fight off falling asleep in case I don't wake up in time to pick DS up! I can't believe I spent the best part of five years wishing I could have some time to myself to do nothing with...

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hi everyone, well i spent most of yesterday afternoon and evening crying feeling absolutely useless. as i havnt managed to do anything with dd at all in about 2 weeks and im feeling unfair, i said yesterday we could go swimming but couldnt get there coz felt too dizzy and faint walking so had to come home. wish so much i could drive but we just cant afford for me to learn or to have 2 cars.

then dh decided to ask if i cant cope now how am i gunna cope with a new baby and a toddler and i gave up all hope and cried till i fell asleep, not feeling much better today, poor dd gets shoved in front of cbeebies while i lounge/fall asleep on the sofa. feel so damn useless wish i could get her to a toddler group or summit but they'r all so far away and i cant really get there without a long walk or a car. also have no friends round here as only moved a few months ago so am constantly stuck in on our own.

sorry to moan just feel so shitty these last few days.

Feeling ok today, DP got a call from the agency he registered with this morning to go and start a job, now bearing in mind, DP has only lived in Kent for 3 weeks and before that lived all his life in the North West they wanted to send him about 30 miles away to Staplehurst ! with no address just some directions on how to get there, which incidently were wrong, he made the attempt to get there and ended up in the middle of nowehere, so I told him to come home ! Bloody agencies !!! I said to DP if the guy calls you tell him you can't travel any further than about 10 miles radius in future. Ho hum nearly had a positive day LOL !