October 2014 - thread 6 - BLUE/PINK/YELLOW the finding out begins!!!

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The fun and chat continues! We are heading over halfway ladies. Old thread is here: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2052958-October-2014-thread-5-Bigger-bumps

Dissertation? Discount!

fedup I will probably get both and see which ones are most comfy and send the others back.

Seraphine is also pretty good but pricey. And I do have some nice dresses from last time from new look. Also a French connection one from Asos which I love.
I Just lack shorts!
H and m is good for tops but I didn't think trousers until a friend gave me the comfiest skinny jeans from there. So comfy.
Oh and red herring at debenhams have some ok stuff too - last preg I got two pairs of linen trousers that I will be wearing again this time if this sodding rain stops.

Crikey me23 costs me a bit more than that for 2 at the mo in childcare...is one of yours at school yet? I'll have one in school by the time I go back...still trying to figure out if nursery/childminder/nanny will be best for us (if it's financially feasible, ie doesn't cost more than my take home pay?).

Met a lovely mum from nursery today for lunch...her wee one has just started there & we found each other on here whilst talking about the nursery..

Ha ha - a fat face dissertation could be interesting!!!

I am just going to buy cheap t shirts in a bigger size for summer now instead of maternity. Those harem pants are ideal as well and peacocks are doing them for £12 each!

puppy get thee to a boot fair! I bought 16 items of baby clothing - tops, dresses, baby grows and a couple of jackets for £11.50 this weekend. A few of them still with tags, the rest barely worn. Better for the environment and easy on the wallet!
fatpony I sew. I made the first dress for my little one this weekend and plan to make a few more things over the next few months. It's in age 2 as I drew the pattern so wanted to be able to try it out on my boy, I'll scale it down now and make some in smaller sizes too.

Reversible pinafore:

Now I've worked out how to post pics from my mobile (I know, I blame the baby) here's one of my 20 week scan:

granny that cost was with 2 in school (after school and holiday clubs) and baby in nursery!
Worked out that me going back 16 hours and only paying for 2 days of childcare will be a lot more financially viable.

I got some lovely frugi dresses on eBay - great for maternity and BF.

Had my 22wk appointment today and all looking well, fundal height of uterus is 22cm- seeing the measurement being taken tickled my mum greatly, all this modern technology and we still use a tape measure hehe. Doppler was 150bpm and sounded very much like a galloping horse this time, in comparison to the barking dog at 16 week check! Love to hear it, made me want to buy my own doppler now :)

Mother care is expensive for pretty much every baby item you may ever want or need! I'm pretty sure I never bought anything for Dd from there lol! Not sales are really good for picking up stuff in good condition and supermarkets are always good for little outfits and under garments :)

Crikey me23...I'm getting more worried now for when DS is at school, with after school clubs etc, if it'll be worth it to go back to work....

Lots to consider/think about...

I hope it's never worth me going back to work!

Dp and I both work flexible hours so we are hoping we can juggle child care/school runs with minimal expense. We will still use a nursery but hopefully only for a couple of days each week. We intend to make use of childcare vouchers as well.

Scan this afternoon at 4pm!! Why so late?!

We had last scan of the day - was good, he wasn't hurried.

in laws are here at the moment telling me just how much time they plan to spend at our house when the baby arrives.... scream...

goats could think of nothing worse!

Has anyone else's lo suffered with colic? Both mine did and were breastfed/bottle fed. (It gave ds a hernia) Not looking forward to that again if this one has it. That was 5 years ago. Is there any new amazing remedies out there?

mum2kiss my scans were always 3 or later! Have a good one :)

Oh goats nip that in the bud if you can! My general rule is no big visits for first fortnight...you're shattered, still sore, have visits from mw & HV's all to contend with, plus you need time for you & partner to get to know little one.

And anyone that does visit can only do so if they bring food for you guys, make their own tea/coffee eye & do a bit of housework for you . Our visitors are mainly 500 mikes away in Scotland so would mean them staying here which is why I always have this rule. Plus I don't want DH running about after visitors during his leave. The only person that we really allow is my sis as she used to live with us & generally cooks, cleans, does washing & tidies up for us when she visits.

Right rant over!

My inlaws are fine really - nothing compared to some of the stories on here. But I just don't find them 'easy'.. so if I'm struggling with a baby who won't feed, or sleep, or we're not sleeping etc, then the last thing I want around is people I feel I need to talk to.

I told them last night (after boyfriend had gone to bed), the same things as I've told my parents - that for the first two weeks it's day visits only, and only up to half an hour at a time. That I want to try and breastfeed properly, and I don't want to feel awkward about doing that around my FIL, or my dad, and I don't want to be crying about it not working in front of anyone - no point in that, they can't help so it'll just upset people even more. Think it should be the three of us for the first couple of weeks, just to find our feet.

A friend of ours who had a baby a month ago came round yesterday. They are LOVING it.. they can't believe they didn't do it 10 years ago apparently. It's such a refreshing change in response!

Ah, good cross-post grannyapple!

My parents are 40 minutes away, his are 3 hours - so his pretty much 'have' to stay when they come down, but it's not a massive house, so they are under our feet. This morning for example - I wanted to get up late, it's half term, but because they were here I couldn't. Then I have to sit and make conversation when really I just want to eat breakfast and read the news on the internet. It's not AWFUL, it's just not very comfy either.

Oh, and another one before I go off to actually write some of my class reports - boyfriend said yesterday that he doesn't want to be called 'dad', and instead wants to be called his name. He calls his parents their names most of the time, sometimes ma or dad. They don't want to be called grandparent type names either, they'll be their names.

I assumed I'd be mummy/mum.

What are you going for?

Mummy or mum for definite!

My ILs are half an hour away and already drop in for coffee too much. My MIL is dangerously excited about the baby so I think we will have to have very strict visitation rules! That said she is a good cook and very willing to clean, iron etc so I may well change my mind!

We're Mummy and Daddy however for some unknown reason DC1 (4.5) calls me Mama which is part cute/ part sounds a bit pretentious to me - I have no idea where she got it from.

All good here - we've been away for a week which was lovely and now back at home with a sick DC2 so having a tv day. I'm 18 weeks and finally started feeling 100% again the week we were away - I did loads of walking and was really active and it was so nice not to have to pace myself.