October 2014 - thread 6 - BLUE/PINK/YELLOW the finding out begins!!!

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The fun and chat continues! We are heading over halfway ladies. Old thread is here: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2052958-October-2014-thread-5-Bigger-bumps

wow London I don't think I'd be able to keep it to myself! I'd be saying her/she all the time and forget he didn;t know.

I had the biggest flutter earlier. It actually made me push my chair back from desk it took me so much by surprise! I think s/he has landed on my bladder as it's not very comfortable now, I feel like I keep needing a wee, even though there's nothing in there to come out!

Just been to try and find a tankini in Perth and there is actually only New Look that have two racks of Maternity gear. Will have to get on-line tonight and try and find something to start aquanatal next week. Also starting pregnancy yoga classes that do hypnobirthing too next week so looking forward to it!

binky - I've got a washing machine going on inside me today, it's really weird. Massive spins going on by the feel of it.

What do people reckon about doing aquanatal and pregnancy yoga? I should go to a yoga class tonight, but I find yoga so boring - and this class is an hour and a half long. I'll be asleep by then! I'm still swimming 40 lengths every other day or so (sometimes a bit less), and walking uphill on a treadmill before doing some upper body weight stuff - do you reckon I should do the proper pregnancy stuff too?

I'm starting to feel all blasé about the birth bit (yeah, I know this will change). I've just decided to accept that it'll probably be a bit shit, I'll probably tear/be cut etc, but it's just one/two days out of my whole life. I can't bring myself to get massively concerned and spend weeks preparing for it when the after-bit (all 'rest of my life' of it) will be much more important/worrying.

goats you prob don't need to do anything else. Swimming is best. (But be careful doing breastroke esp further on you get) Aquanatal is good as it's low impact and in the water! There isn't aquanatal near me only aquafit which is same thing. Hoping to feel up to going myself after half term.

I have no interest in yoga whatsoever.

Goats, I'm the same about the birth - I think I'm just incredibly naive but here we don't get birth plans so I really don't have much idea of what I'd prefer or not. I'm in the frame of mind of 'just do whatever needs doing'. I'm sure that will change into a crazy panic as we get closer to October...

Congrats LondonJen! I wonder if your DP will cave in before the birth and beg to find out. I think mine has finally changed his mind about finding out but this is the man who spends 40 minutes deciding what to have for dinner so will probably change back.

I'd love to do some yoga again but am still on the 'rest' order so not supposed to do anything apart from walk 10 minutes a day. I don't think I'm supposed to mix that with eating entire blocks of cheese and biscuits in one sitting but never mind.

DP felt baby move from the outside for the first time yesterday. I cried at his excited face. Hormonal mess!

My boyf is getting really cross about not being able to feel it - last night it was doing really big punches, so I could feel them through my hand even with my hand on top of his. He just can't tell the difference between a kick and the pulse in his fingers/hand I think. I'm not going to suggest he feels again until it's really screamingly obvious.

Mine kept doing the 'oh I can feel it!' (blank look on face) for at least 2 weeks, even though it wasn't even moving. He would spend most of the night with his hand there, waiting. Hopefully now he'll stop spending the evening with his hand attached to my stomach...

Congrats london. I'm not sure I could keep that secret too many chances to reference the baby to her or she lol

mum the cramps are still there and I've been having some ewcm, sorry if tmi! I've put it down to the same as you, lots of growing. I do feel very fat this week! BabyB is still very active.
We picked up a new car last weekend, I miss my little fiesta but there really was no way we could fit everything in it!

Goats I did pregnancy yoga last time and plan to start again soon. I found it relaxing, but then I do yoga anyway and used breathing techniques to help me control the pain and not panic in labour. I thought it was useful as it suited me, but there's no need to bother if you're not a yoga type of person.

Doing some sort of pregnancy related class is a good way to meet other local pregnant people, I spent a lot of my mat leave going for coffee and walks with people I'd met at yoga!

Good grief goats, an hour and a half long yoga class?? I wouldn't be up for that either! I've been doing my Pilates DVD for flexibility, strength and balance, finding it more challenging as my tum grows but I figure if the 36 week preggo instructor can manage well I can too. Would love to swim more but my local pool seems only to cater for swim teams and/or lessons at the times I could manage along, which is pretty annoying. If I want to go during the week it would have to be after 8pm, which doesn't really appeal! Wish I lived near the sea in a hot country though as I far prefer sea swimming to the pool as well.
Have felt like a big tired lump today, think i may have had some Braxton Hicks this morning too which was an interesting sensation to say the least! Seemed to disturb wee Dug too, who is usually more of an afternoon/evening wriggler.
Porcito my DH felt a proper kick with his hand on my tum last night, I sort of gasped at the same time so he knew he wasn't just imagining it, he gave my tum a kiss after it and ooft I welled up too!
Congrats Jen on your news!
Hope you are keeping better mrsb and mum2kiss

Hi ladies! Congratz on 20 week scan news ! Loving tales of team blue, pink & the suspense of team yellow!!!
Dont know how i managed not to find out first time... Im so impatient this time around... Keep counting the weeks on the calender... As if it will go quicker or something!!

Does anyone know if you can take wind settlers? I have horrendous trapped wind & these work for me, but im sure it says dont take in pregnancy ?? But i know docs do prescribe things that say that!

buggerlugs I'm 19+3 ( had to count that on my fingers then! Lol!)

Do is also desperate to feel something on the outside!

I've agreed to count ballot papers over night tonight...what was I thinking?!

5 days until scan!!! Dd is slowing starting to accept that this baby is coming...very slowly! Lol! I'm hoping she'll want to come along and have a peek ;)

Anyone else having bouts of the rage?

By the time I left a meeting after work today, I genuinely could have punched someone. Or rammed my car into something. Or run screaming across a field.

Or something. It's SO weird. I'm a temper-y person anyway, always have been, but it's quick. I get the red mist, then it goes - sometimes within seconds. I have never hit anyone or anything, I've never really even shouted at someone, I just have to walk away clenching my fists until the red mist lifts - which like I say, is usually quite quickly.

I'm concerned that the rage episodes at the moment are getting longer, and I might smack someone. Mostly my boss if we're being honest, but this morning the boyfriend was treading on dodgy ground. It just feels to me that everyone is being patronising - 'you alright with that... ' 'how you feeling' in a simpering tone. FINE YOU IDIOTS GRRRRRR...

Maybe I should go to yoga after all.

Pharmacist told me windeze is okay. But I have found a cup of peppermint tea has actually worked better along with head down and bum in the air that someone on here recommended. have disappeared off away from DH to do that!

I have no patience at the minute goats

Goats I'm with you! I'm normally not a very patient person anyway but my impatience is driving me barmy at the minute. I am getting so mad at little things. Currently I'm having a rage as my DH phoned me & I just missed the call, been trying to phone him back for 10 mins & he is not answering! How mad is that, I know it's irrational but it's driving me crazy! Where could he have gone in the 30 sec it took me to call back???!!

I don't know quite what to do about it.

Normally when I'm having rage type situations (usually work frustrations), I run. Hard and fast.. sometimes for miles and miles. Kids at my old school used to ask how far I'd run the night before, and if it was more than 7 miles they knew they'd been annoying and needed to try harder to behave!

I can't do that at the moment though, and swimming just doesn't cut it.

Mmmmm..... My method for coping can't be used at the moment either - a large gin & tonic

A hard shag? Also tends to work... but not really at lunchtime in a primary school.

Yes rage here, someone at work called me misery guts today because I had a face on through my entire team meeting, wanted to kill all of them. Doesn't help that I am very busy at work and tired from not sleeping well.

Stigz you can take wind settlers yes, I took them when I was suffering although my latest symptom is bad heartburn which I believe means a hairy baby which doesn't surprise me lol

mum2kiss are you in Manchester/Lancashire by any chance? A friend is selling her Toyota corolla, £500ono, quite old but a good runner apparently

goats I've not been hugely angry at the rest of the human race (even the commuters who study their smartphones intently when me and my belly are looming over them, hoping for an offer of a seat that never comes)

But DH and I have been sniping at each other a lot more recently, leading to... Yep, that. It's good for what ails you!

Ha, excited, same - my giant glass of wine is a no go. And my cigarettes. I'm not even allowed the sex. I will just be a giant ball of rage for the next 4 months, Mainly with DP and his inability to do anything when he says he's supposed to. I've gone from crying over the wrong type of chips to genuine rage. He was supposed to go to our local daycare to register the baby (there's a huge waiting list and it's on his way to work) - 3 weeks later, still hasn't been. So frustrating. Probably not worth wanting to punch him in the face over, but feels like it right now...

I'm definitely off to yoga. I found pregnancy yoga more useful than hypnobirthing classes last time. But its a very personal thing. I find it useful if I'm ragey and ranty. The breathing techniques and yoga positions for different stages of labour were better pain relief for me than visualisations - which were useless for me beyond 4cm. I'm quite artistic so thought I'd take to visualisations but I didn't. My brain just couldn't visualise when I was in serious pain. Other techniques I could muster right up to 10cm and transition. We did a good test at a birthing class to see what sort of natural pain relief would work best (its a very individual thing). Hold onto an ice cube for 60 seconds see if visualising something warm, breathing thru the discomfort, pacing or generally moving around, focusing on the pain, being noisy, focusing out the window etc works best for you in tolerating the discomfort. Juju Fundin (Sundin?)'s book 'birth skills' was awesome for this and understanding the role of oxytocin in labour (and how to encourage this hormone). But yes labour is just one day - better to read up on breastfeeding and childcare if time is limited.

Rage here too. Mostly with incompetent people at work! But also got annoyed with DH for sorting things I ask either but mostly that all my NCT seem to have potty trained their kids in like 2 days and we are still dealing with poos in pants. Well not all of them, but most. Just trying to cling on to the fact they are all girls and I've the only boy so that's why it's harder!! Would love a huge glass of red wine.