November 2014 Thread 3- Counting towards the second trimester!

[barmybunting]

Hi everyone,

A new thread for us chatty bunch due in November. Could someone repost the stats? I'm on my phone so can't do it. Thank you!

polka I would tell people too, the chances of miscarriage are very very low now and doesn't change between 11 and 12 weeks. I'm glad the bleeding was harmless !

Was away over Easter so haven't been around much, so just catching up.
Sickness has definitely tailed off here, not been sick for 5 days now, and nausea is much easier. Hope that's a good sign.

Just made the mistake of stepping on the scales- put on 8 pounds so far . Now the sickness is easing, I'm going to have to make a conscious effort to eat better. Any idea about how to buy maternity clothes? It says buy your pre-pregnancy size but given I've already put on a load of weight should I buy the size I fit into now!? Want to keep things from work for a bit longer, and my work clothes are quite tight-fitting so think it's time I got some looser clothes with more give in them.

Polka I agree with the others. 12 weeks is an arbitrary cut-off because that is when the scan tends to be, risk doesn't change much from 9 weeks on.

Scan next Wednesday, but lots of work stress to get through first this week. 10 + 6

Oh I thought I'd lost you all!

I'm having a pretty rubbish experience with midwives. Had my booking in appointment two weeks ago which turned out to be five minutes maximum. Midwife told me they're understaffed and she didn't really have time to see me, did my blood pressure and tested my pee and that was it. Now have to have another booking in appointment when they have time - I'll be 13 weeks by then and it means taking more time off work. I'm self-employed so if I'm not working I'm not earning! Thoroughly peed off about it all really.

In my last pregnancy I never saw the same midwife twice!

polka I would tell as well!

had another burp, oh no ,gag, oh no, toilet quick, blurgh incident today. seems to be whenever i get up and haven't got much food in my belly, it had been 11 hours since food and I hadn't eaten much yesterday anyway.

btw I read you shouldn't drink green tea not sure why.

Thanks random I'll have a look into the seats and stuff. My SPD is nowhere near as bad as yours sounds, and it's still quite intermittent, but painful nonetheless!

Polka that sounds a bit scary, and about the OOH doctor! Glad all is ok though. In your shoes I'd tell too - I had an early scan at 8+4, so I've been slowly telling people since.

As for drinks, I've been having my usual few cups of tea a day, but I have switched to decaff coffee (not that I can stomach it much now!) I think if we listened to every piece of advice from everywhere we'd starve! I have a friend who told me I can't eat cream cheese now - er, what? No, soft cheese is risky because I'm more susceptible to listeria poisoning, Philadelphia is fine, as is bottled mayo (and mayo on a McChicken sandwich, which she moaned at not being able to have while pregnant. I corrected her, but she didn't listen, think she just likes to moan, haha!)

Can I also just apologise for the typos in my last post - was posting from my phone in bed, can't see what I'm typing on the app!

Hello all, hope you had a nice Easter weekend.

Polka, great news about the reassuring scan, and how exciting. I'd feel OK with telling after that I think. My family knows now and one friend, but no-one else so far. Scan is on Saturday and we're a bit worried because we have no babysitter option on that particular day, so will prob have to take DD with us.

Edward I'm glad I'm not the only one on the thread still have a couple of cups of normal tea a day! It's well within the recommended guidelines and tbh a cup of tea is such a pleasure of mine and I'm just not willing to give it up. I actually had a coffee yesterday for the first time in weeks yesterday and that was nice too. But I'll try to stick with tea for now I think rather than getting back onto the slippery slope of daily coffees.
I occasionally have a glass of good sharp cranberry juice with dinner, it's just lovely. I tend to water it down a bit though and if there is ice and a slice of lime available even better. I can see myself drinking that lots this summer.

I've eaten so much this weekend! All good but wow, I feel like a pig. I've also ERUPTED in spots over the last week. I'm really pissed off. I've always suffered with acne but over the last 1.5 years had brought it under decent control with OCM and gentle products. Now I'm like a particularly gross teenager. I bought some of the Effaclar stuff, the targeted breakout corrector and have been using that the last couple of days. It's sort of brought out more spot from underneath the surface which has me panicked a bit, but I think it's drawing them all out and hopefully will clear them up once that's happened. I'll report back.

I've booked my retreat. Was hoping for the 1st week in October but the dates available were 9-14th, so I've gone with that. I'll be 37 weeks on the 14th October! Clearly I am mad. I'm not sure how I'll get any writing done at all; I'll probably be awake all night heaving myself around the bed. Eek!

Oh and Tigsy re clothes. Probably no need to specifically buy maternity trousers yet because they'll likely not fit you until you have a bump. Try a couple of pieces in a size up maybe? I bought a pair of harem trousers in Next the other day, they are so lovely and soft and what a relief to get out of my jeans. I got my normal size but have been folding down the waistband (which I would do whether or not I was pregnant as I prefer the look of them that way). DH was like 'you're not wearing those out of the house, are you?'

Yes DH, I so am.

irrational fear of mmc has reaffirmed itself today!!! scan on Friday - really need to know everything is ok.
gagging loads today - come on magic 12 weeks (2 days to go!) desperately need to sort out clothes for holiday in 4 weeks but can't bring myself to buy anything until I've had the scan.
anyone know the odds of having a mmc??

elle, it is so low, please don't worry. I know it's hard not to. But you have to think, the overwhelming odds are that everything is ok.

Hello all! Mumsnet newbie here, thought I'd pop my head through the door in hopes of some support - as much as I love my DP, he is the most unexcited dad-to-be ever. He keeps saying 'I'll get excited once we know it's all ok', but frankly you can never know that really anyway until baby is here and I'll go nuts if I think about it that way.

I'm due in November, but am embarrassed to say I was in such a blubbery fog at my dating scan I have no idea when exactly the big day is predicted to be! Late November, but the rest is a blur. Whoops! Have another scan next week anyway as was too small to see much last time (that was at 8+4) so hoping they will confirm for me.

Speaking of blubbering, I seem to spend my time bouncing between puking, tears & hormonal rage at the moment. The wonder of creating new life!

Feeling so frustrated with my Dr. I normally see a great guy whose mother I think is also at the same practice so I stupily asked to speak to Dr XX re my sciatica pain and the mother called me. She said 'oh it's too early for this just take paracetamol and have a pillow at the base of your spine'. I can barely walk 5 mins and am having physio already. I'll book in to see the male dr this week as I'm feeling very helpless and just had a little cry in an office as I can't face not being able to walk more than 100 metres for the next 30 weeks!
*apologies to anyone who has severe mobility issues but I'm usually pretty active.
Anyway apart from that all is good and my dad made me laugh at the weekend by being shocked that I'm pregnant (aged 33 and got married last year) and told me he is far too young to be a grandpa - he is 68!

Elle I feel the same my scan is in two days but it feels too long and will feel too soon to face when it comes, despite the reassuring vomiting this morning.

The pregnancy/ birth thing has been... Interesting. I've seen birthing videos before but not when pregnant. There is something shocking about seeing a head squeeze through a vagina when it dawns on you that you are going to HAVE to do that :O.

(birth session at uni)

When no need to apologise, anyone with any degree of mobility issue understands that! I am usually very active and fit but when pregnant I'm like a 90 year old woman and am already strapped up, got my shower stool, toilet frame, high stool, downstairs commode for when stairs get too much, wheelchair for when I do need to walk further... I am terrified of this getting as bad as last time and so much earlier too, I can't handle the last few weeks I had with DD for 20+, I was begging to get her out after just a few weeks of it being really bad. I've finally got my referral to physio this morning after asking at my last 2 mw appointments, sending her 2 messages electronically and going to the GP today. I think osteopathy or chiropract... ion? is supposed to be more help and I've heard a lot of people recommend acupuncture (there was a recommendation on this thread for someone!) so I'll be looking into all of that too.

Hi twiglet welcome! I'm due end November as well. The midwife said that early scans aren't very accurate in terms of dating anyway, and they can do that better at the 12 week scan. I have been more emotional as well, but get easily irritated too. Sometimes I don't know where it comes from, but hormones are not to be underestimated!

Welcome Twiglet! You can work out your due date if you know the date your last period started - the NHS site has a calculator on it.

GoooRooo that's a very inaccurate way of calculating it and would my bean due 2 weeks ahead of when it actually is due.

If they gave you a measurement in dates at the scan you can work it out from that. eg if they said you were 8+3, count back 8 weeks and 3 days, use that as the date of your LMP whether it is or not and that would give you your date.

Thanks Random So if I was 8+4 on April 10th that would make it roughly 17th November (I think!). Ack, I am feeling excited now & trying to hide my grin from the rest of the office...

Argh anyone else got things they can't do til after the scan which they're desperate to do? hehe
like I want to buy babies first thing and tell some more people and have a proper think about names :)

Ooooh, I may go crazy and tell a few folk then! :-)

Just found out that there could potentially a tube strike on the day of my scan. The appointment is at 10am which means trying to get on the bus in the middle of rush hour to make sure we get there on time or getting up stupidly early to avoid the chaos. Fingers crossed they come to a resolution as I don't need more stress that day!

Cracked today and dh booked me a private scan Monday so I can hopefully tell work at 9 weeks thanks on the drinks suggestions! Green tea is because it limits amount of folic acid you take on...told parents at weekend. My dad was the same he was literally gobsmacked! Then both really excited him and dh dad got very very drunk together...again!!

Polka, I would be tempted to tell people after your scan today too. I have a plan for you- how about I work your mornings and you work my afternoons please? I can't handle afternoons at the moment so would love to finish at lunch time!

Winter, I hope your scan goes well tomorrow and everything is ok when you tell them on Thurs. Fingers crossed for you!

I am so relieved today, I told work this afternoon and the headteacher couldn't have been nicer about it. He confirmed he would transfer me into a school contract next week until after the summer, so I will finish in July and be paid until the new term in Sept. I couldn't have asked for a better outcome, worryingly needlessly!

It's been crap to be back at work though today, sickness and yuck really. I've also had really sore cramps all day which have had me all worried and checking for bleeding all day. I don't know if it's because I've had tights in all day. Is anyone struggling with wearing tights because they press in?

Barmy - glad it went well telling your head. I also have the same issue with tights but not sure what the solution is. If I go up a size they'll be too big on the legs