November 2014 Thread 3- Counting towards the second trimester!

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Hi everyone,

A new thread for us chatty bunch due in November. Could someone repost the stats? I'm on my phone so can't do it. Thank you!

I told my boss last week because of my sickness. She knew it was coming and was happy for me which is a relief.

I was thinking today about something nice I could do for DH as he is being a total star letting me rest every night and doing pretty much all the housework. He's also having to cook for himself as I'm living off a diet of oatcakes and ice poles and the thought of cooking makes me sick. Then tonight I got back from picking up DS to find he was having fish for dinner, not just a nice plain cod or plaice but smoked fucking mackerel! The entire house stinks. I puked within seconds of walking through the door and haven't stopped since. Fuck him and his nice present!!!

Elle If it's any consolation, my worst weeks of sickness first time around were 9 to 11, it really peaked at that time and was horrible but it started to ease off from there until fully gone around 14wks, hope yours gets better soon.

Tea That's actually reassuring, thank you! Happened to have a blood test immediately after bfp last time so meds were adjusted really quickly, so I think it was the element of the unknown in doing it differently this time that got me.

Trying to rest now, feel queasy and a bit hungry and can't tell if it's pg related or because of this bug I'm getting over! Just want to feel well!

My sickness has got a lot better but my heartburn and reflux is definitely not! Up every night even at 2 am throwing up acid, it's so painful and has made me breathless and given me a dreadful cough on top.
Been to GP today and got repeat prescriptions for Maalox and ranitidine, already feeling better (Maalox much better than Gaviscon as it's thinner, the texture of Gaviscon makes me gag).
I didn't get heartburn till about 30 weeks with dc1 and 2 and just muddled through with Gaviscon, getting it so early this time made me think I need to get on top of things as I can't bear another six months of this!

January, don't worry, they caught it early. Your TSH was high because it is stimulating your thyroid into making more hormones. Your ft4 was ok, low but ok, so that means you still have an adequate level of thyroid hormones for you and the baby. Are you upping your dose immediately?

I'm hypothyroid too and the endo told me to increase my dose from 100 mcg to 125 mcg. I haven't seen him yet though, but are getting bloods done next week so I hope it's ok.

How far long are you? The increased need for thyroid is in the first trimester. After that I think it should stabilise.

Chirp, poor you! Bloody smoked fish! Yuck!

Teancakes, I'm nervous about telling too, but that's because I'm starting a new job next week! I'd rather wait to tell, but then again I'll need time off for appointments. I'll just have to make up some excuse.

Chirp that's disgusting!!!!

I thought I'd said good bye to sickness as I went almost a week without it, then on Sunday it reappeared.... and today had another violent retching incident and it was really weird like I was gagging on my saliva cos my mouth started filling up with saliva super fast x)

Yes,I thought mine had gone, but I seem to have developed travel sickness, but only when DP driving anywhere. We went out last week and it ended badly with him having to pull over at the side of the road as I was vomming into a crisp packet and rapidly filling it...

Thanks for the info blamber will be upping meds tomorrow, seeing GP for guidance as to how much. Should get a call from the endo by next week. I've done this once before but still have all the questions! I'm 8+4, tests done 8+1.

oooh 11 weeks in 15 minutes (not that I'm counting or anything :p) and a week til my scan!

I'm starving. There is no food in the house (that i can eat) and dp is out... and I'm supposed to be falling asleep -.-

My DS is 2.5 Saz so we're a bit late on getting him out of his crib but he liked it up until now and I think would still prefer it if we let him but the change had to happen sometime!

chirpchirp - the closest I ever came to puking in my pregnancy with DS was at work when a colleague helpfully decided to reheat some vile smoked fish soup for her lunch in our shared kitchen. The stench wafted all the way to my office and hit me like a train. I had to leg it out the door to get some fresh air or I would have barfed all over my desk. There is something uniquely vile about the smell of smoked fish!

Oh and I am desperately craving salt-and-vinegar crisps. I just want a huge jumbo bag right to devour. It's all I've been thinking about all day.

Am in the US though so S&V crisps are thin on the ground. They do have them here but they don't taste quite the same and they're hard to get...

Oh, I've just had that moment of "My tummy is going to turn into a proper bump, and that bump will turn into a proper baby in my arms, and then I will have a new child, there will actually be another child here...".

Booking-in appt done this week. Forgot my notes, forgot I would need to attempt to wee in a test tube when I arrived, forgot most things about this pregnancy malarkey, as it turns out.

Mind you, I did laugh quite a lot when the midwife hopefully asked me if my pre-pregnancy weekly alcohol intake was about 1-2 units a week...

As if.

This midwife was VERY pro home birth. My first child was born at a midwife-led unit, which has since been shut down, so the choice now - a shit choice - is planned home birth or a v busy hospital with one midwife to every three+ births and a reputation for unnecessary medical interventions.

The idea is starting to grow on me as the lesser of two evils - has anyone on here done it at home?

I'm curious about the practicalities - what do you do with your older child? ... if they stay in the house and unavoidably hear/see childbirth in all its gory glory, will it scar them for life? ... etc, etc.

My MW said if my son was about during a home birth (which is only an option and dh is saying no way in hell!) then she would keep him at the top end.....I pointed out there was fouler stuff come out of that end last time! Yep I'm a swearer in labour!

My first post here - am 9 + 6 and totally fed up and miserable - have never felt so sick and tired in my life. Lucky I'm a SAHM so have just been chilling over Easter but feel bad not done much with my DS but hopefully it's only for a short time and he's loving uninterrupted tv viewing!!

Those with skin issues - have a look at the oil cleansing method - totally natural and works brilliantly

My DS has autism - just turned three and I'm under huge pressure toget him potty trained and out of his cot before baby gets here but I'm not going to rush him - he will do it when he's ready - you listening MIL??

For those if you moving older DC into different beds, are they going into singles? We just moved DS into a cotbed from a travel cot, to reuse the latter with no. 2 and we wanted him to get used to the change. Although it was like nothing happened, he carried on happily as usual! We had to opt for a cotbed in the end as he's only 16mo, will be 23mo when DC2 arrives, so I didn't want him to go bar-free but we can remove the bars later. Apparently the model we have is suitable up to 6yo, though I doubt he'll be in it that long. Just wondering what kind of beds you're moving your DC into, I'm thinking very far ahead!

Good point about the foul language, chivesmum! I've heard stories about home births where people claim older children miraculously sleep through the whole thing - I'm not convinced I could rely on that with a switched-on nosy 7yo.

I can't help with the potty training question but I do know it's early days for your son and even once you think you've cracked it, everything can change at the drop of a hat. Does he/will he go to nursery? Watching the bigger kids go to the toilet at nursery was what made my girl want to do the same.

Just about to go in for scan.
Eyes, fingers, toes crossed

I am a teacher and told my boss as soon as I found out at 4 weeks (first baby so far too excited and boss is like a father figure to me!) But now regret it. He was sorting out where we would be next year so I wanted to nicely give him the heads up.
He promised he would say nothing. Phoned me on my PPA last Wednesday and said that at the INSET on Friday he would be putting us in next years key stage groups but ppl would be none the wiser as he was not going to say I would not have a class. I got to work an hour after that phonecall on the Wednesday and ppl were coming up to me saying 'Something to tell us Aimes???' Turns out just after that call the head and deputy had gone round telling everyone exactly where they were and everyone quickly worked out I didn't have a class. Everyone knew and I was only 6+3. Was SO angry and burst into uncontrollable tears. I now know next time round I won't tell work til 10-12weeks!!

My skin is also terrible and look like a 16 year old! Chivesmum will look into the oil cleansing method thank you!

Also nice to see TheWildOnes is at the same stage as me! I am 7+4 today, due date is 30th November so I'm way behind lots of you! So jealous of those going for 12 week scans soon, I have 4 and half weeks to wait!!!!!!!!

Ooo good luck Weeonion! Mine is a week on Tuesday so aggges

We have a cotbed so will just take the sides off to start with and then buy a single/toddler bedI guess? We tried him in a new bed last summer.... was the worst three nights of my life!!!!! Hence why I'm in no hurry to try it again!!

I'm not sure I could relax at home with DS here - quite like the idea of just using the hospital for the birth and leaving the mess there!!!

Amylou - that sucks!!!!

Still three weeks to my scan - why is time going to slowly!?!?!

Hello November group... Can I 'join' lol.
Due 13th Nov... 1st ever one!

It's useful reading people's opinions on when to tell the boss. I haven't yet, but think I will at 12 weeks (which is 1st May and counting!!!)

But really I should wait until after the 12wk scan 1st??? I don't have that appointment booked in yet.

Do most of you have 12 week scans arranged already?

Welcome ThePriority and congratulations.

I'm not going to tell my boss until after the 12 week scan. It won't be a surprise to him as most people in my team are women in their thirties, and there have been two others on maternity leave last year. The timing is a bit odd though, because my boss is changing posts at the start of June, so won't be my line manager any more; the person who is taking over from him is a colleague I know well, but she's on secondment until then and so not really around. So I don't know whether I should tell him some time in May, despite the fact it won't be him who has to do the HR stuff, or whether I should wait until June (but I don't want to leave it so long that it's blatantly obvious that I'm pg and everyone is just waiting for me to come clean). They are both really nice people, so maybe the best thing is just to tell him in May to get it official, and then talk to her about it when she comes back to take over. The other awkward thing is that I'm going to be at a work conference next week with several colleagues, including both current and future boss, where there is likely to be quite a lot of evening socialising, so I am going to have to somehow disguise the non-drinking etc (fortunately I don't socialise much with work people, so hoping I can just pretend that I've never really liked alcohol or something!)

Since yesterday evening I've suddenly been feeling as though I've swallowed a balloon which is slowly inflating inside me - a weird stretchy feeling. And my belly feels quite taut and distended, rather than just bloated like it has been for the last couple of weeks.

chives and amylou Scan is in 3.5wks, also feels like ages! Good luck with bed changing, chives.

Also know what you mean about leaving mess at hospital! But we're lucky enough to have a really good birthing centre at the hospital, so that's where we'll be. I would have to seriously consider home birth if the alternative was highly medicalised labour ward with a poor rep, like nogey has to choose from. But indeed, it got plenty messy last time DH took pics to show me! And SILs! They were late teens at the time, he wanted to scare them into avoiding teen pg I think (he's very protective of them!). They certainly weren't too keen on childbirth after seeing what was left behind...! PS no personal pics, thankfully, he was sat behind me for the pushing stage.

To anyone with the option of a birthing centre but not sure, give it some real consideration. I say this as with DS I was convinced I wanted to be on the labour ward, "with the doctors and experts" etc, even at 32wks when I went to the hospital antenatal class. Then they told us more about the birthing centre, subsequent MW appointments to discuss my birth plan, and I completely changed (I went all hippy natural, as far as some were concerned but mum was totally for it). It was honestly the best choice I made, I had a fantastic birth experience, the MWs were great and the facilities brilliant. I happened to have been present at a birth on the labour ward so I saw the difference in the two births, and I would definitely keep choosing the birth centre option. I know it's not possible for all if you're high risk, but at my hospital on the labour ward you can still request things to have a similar experience, eg birthing ball, active labour, MW is still present of course, plus other things you might want to bring.

This is just my experience, obviously I don't mean to make anyone feel bad and I'm not one of those odd people that goes on about 'natural' births - the most important thing is you get that baby out and are happy and safe! That's all!

Oops, sorry, just realised we're all first tri and maybe not thinking about this right now! I'm over organised this time, mat leave is already booked and everything

We also have yet to get DD (2.3) out of her cot! Just last night I noticed that I really can't be leaning over it for much longer, I'm short and with any bump at all it's not going to work. It converts to a cotbed and so we'll just take the sides off I guess. I have no idea what the longterm sleeping arrangements will be; ours is a rented house and is not particularly child-friendly (marble tile floors downstairs, high stairs and nowhere to fit stairgate kind of things) so unless we end up buying a new place in the next year we'll have some organising to do. If I wasn't pregnant I'm not sure I'd be rushing to get DD out of her cot though.

Not sure when I'll tell work. Maybe around the 14 week mark.

No birthing centre where I live, and home births aren't common so I would feel a bit nervous about the lack of infrastructure, not to mention the rental house situation! I guess I will be going back to the labour ward. They are good about things like baths and gym balls there too.