Pregnant after MC due December 14

[Penguin13]

If you're pregnant after a previous MC and due in December 14 this is the thread for you.

If you're an obsessive knicker-checker or just want someone to chat to who knows where you're coming from you'll fit right in.

So sorry to hear your news beer.

I'm going to try and take a break from mn for a week or so and try to just get on with stuff and not think too much about whether or not everything is going ok. I hope any scans in the meantime go well. Look after yourselves ladies.

Thanks all. I should have said, I am lucky enough to have dc already I am in a good place compared to many. Shouldnt complain. Its jst tha 4 mc is too many.
Thanks for the good wishes, much appreciated.

I am so glad to hear that you already have dc Beer but don't ever feel like you don't have as much right to feel upset over your miscarriages as anyone else. It's shitty and awful whatever your situation.

love this thread hoping everyone gets sticky baby's I'm hoping to have good news on Wednesday had my blood taken at 5w3d at 1250 hoping it doubles properly wish me luck anyone else have similar numbers?

aww beer I feel for you I've had 4 mc too thank god I have my dd

Morning everyone,

Hope everyone is doing ok.
Welcome Strawbs congratulations on baby and wedding! Goodness me you've been busy!
Dotty try and stay positive for your next scan. My DD initially measured a week behind the dates I thought and she is now a thriving 8 year old.
Fantastic news President glad all is well with mini president. I can't wait to have a scan and figure dates out and get some much needed reassurance.
Penguin It's nice to know that your scans are being booked quickly. Its always nice having a date to look forward to. I'm hoping once we've moved and I get the ball rolling it will be quick and easy!
Beer I am so sorry to hear your news, I also have a dd and know firsthand that it doesn't make losses any easier. Sending you a big virtual hug.Take care and don't be too hard on yourself.

Well it is moving day for us. I've been up since 4am with horrendous nausea, which i am putting down to excitement / nerves as not felt this ill before. We haven't told anyone we are expecting so i'm thinking of excuses not to join in with the heavy lifting. I really don't want to chance anything and trying to take it super careful as already panicking enough.
My boobs are HUGE and killing me so taking that as a good sign and I had the worst heartburn i've ever experienced last night too. Not sleeping very well but think that is probably down to the move.

Happy moving day Franks how exciting! Hope it all goes smoothly. As far as the lifting goes you may need to invent a back problem. Easiest excuse and one that you can't see. Failing that, make sure you are always occupied carrying the smaller stuff so it doesn't come up.

Good luck with your numbers xkat unfortunately I have never had mine tested so can't offer you any experiences on that score.

Great that you have your scan booked for next week DrFunkes. Will keep everything crossed for you. What day is it on?

sorry about your news, beers

hope your move went well, franks

I had a dream last night that I had a big bleed. I'm trying to convince myself it's not an omen. honestly, normally I am a level-headed reasonable person. how did I turn into this paranoid worrywart?

Sollers welcome to the wonderful world of being pregnant after mc. We've already experienced the worst happening so it's no wonder we're hyper aware of what could go wrong and tuned in to gut feelings/ possible signs. It's also possibly a way of trying to regain a sense of control over something we can't influence.

Now that my 9 week scan is this week my little niggling doubts that something will have gone wrong are starting to clamour louder in my head. Trying to keep them in perspective but only after Thursday will I feel able to breathe again.

I know exactly what you mean Penguin. I have a scan Tuesday week (6th of May), when I'll be 8 weeks. If I get a heartbeat then, I've promised myself that I'll start to relax a bit.

I'm meant to be coming off citalopram, but there's no way that's happening before the 6th. I need all the help I can get to contain the crazy before then.

Sollers I think that it's important you have all the support you need so staying on citalopram till the 6th sounds like the right course for you. Not too long to go now.

Anyone else affected by the tube strikes next week? Not sure what to do this time, last time I ended up walking the 3.5 miles to and from Paddington to work but although I am reasonably fit I'm a bit concerned about walking all that way while pregnant.

penguin yes it sounds a bit much, can you work from home? or go later to avoid rush hour and take a bus? with a bit of luck, they'll cancel it again and i won't be the only one in the office
sollers dreams are here to express our fears, not reality, i hope the time goes quickly for you

Good suggestions Paranoid I can't really work from home but arriving a little later seems reasonable. Last time I made sure I was in bang on time every day and didn't leave early but this time it's not just me I have to think of so I need to get over feeling like I am asking for special treatment. I am keeping everything crossed for a last minute resolution!

So I decided I needed to get on some pregnancy fitness building as I have been a bit lax on the activity front and thought it might help my mental state to focus on something positive. I did really enjoy doing the dvd but am slightly perturbed that I appear to be massively less fit, flexible and agile at 2 months than the instructor who is 8 months or so pregnant

Sorry for your news Beers.

I went to GP on Friday and she referred me to Maternity recommending an early scan so I hope they give me one. I'm 8w + 1d and this is the exact time I miscarried last time but feel very different .. ah well I'll be thankful that Im feeling ok just now and try to concentrate on my work!

Hope everyone's well and had a good weekend. How are you all doing with keeping quiet about your news? I blabbed to my neighbour who is a good friend when i refused a glass of wine on Saturday night. I said I was being careful because I was a bit late. She just blurted out 'you've done a test haven't you?! I can see it in your face!!' and started hugging me. I shouldn't have blabbed but she was so supportive when I had mc so I'm glad I gave her a bit of good news for now.

President - enjoy your break from MN but come back soon EDD & age twin!

Thanks Penguin for starting this thread, i'm so glad I found it.

penguin I have the feeling you're one of those people who always put others first, well, time to look after yourself, if there's no tube you'll be late

Well done for getting back to exercise. I have no energy ATM, the 15 min walk to work felt like a massive ordeal! I haven't visited the gym for a month now, and I am starving all the time.

Annie it's good to talk to someone about it. Apart from a couple of strangers in a train through Europe, I haven't told anyone. And I'm scared of calling friends in case they ask. I've actually lied to one about treatment starting next month. I know it's stupid but I am very superstitious as if it would have any influence on the outcome. I'll wait and see if my scan goes well this time, as I mmc'ed at 7 week last time. Then I'm off to see my family (haven't seen them in the flesh for 5 months), they'll ask questions for sure, and I don't know how I'll manage.

I agree that's it's good to have someone to talk things through with. I've told 2 friends, one of whom supported me through my mc and is doing a great job at keeping me calm now too. The other friend I had to tell because I'm supposed to be her bridesmaid on 6th December...the day after my due date!! She was getting carried away with dress talk and hair and make up etc and it seemed cruel not to tell. Talk about Sod's law tho!

Its nice to see other people being happy for me, makes me realise I am allowed to be happy about being pregnant, not just terrified!

Hello all, I posted this in pregnancy but actually I figure you ladies would get it better, hope no one minds. Feeling like I really need some company at the moment.

I've got a 3yr old, no problems there. But I've had a 12 wk MMC and a 6 Wk MC in the last year and now I'm 5-6weeks pregnant again.

I'm not coping. I believe I've miscarried again even though I've got no proof really. My tests were average and I've not really got any symptoms. I just feel like there's no way there could be a positive outcome. I don't know if it's negativity from experience or a genuine sense of whats going on.

My drs surgery is rubbish. I've been a few times over the last year and I've always been treated like an neurotic idiot. 'Fragile' was the word last time and advised not to try again.....

I'm going to wait 2 weeks then call the EPU but I don't want to. I want this to be over now if it's going to be. I've got awful memories of going in that room to be told bad news and I can't do it again.

I've been crying non stop today. I stupidly did and internet cheapy test with a random middle of the day wee and it was very very faint (I've never really had a line on one). I promised myself I wouldn't do any more tests because I just worry about whats on them. I got a good line on a FRER 4 days ago and promised I'd stop then.

I'm tired of all of it. This is the end of the road for us. If I lose this one we are stopping and moving on and I think I'm so upset today because I'm trying to come to terms with that and accept life probably as a family of 3.

Hi George. This is definitely the place for you,we all completely understand and know how terrifying it is being pregnant with our histories. So firstly, you're not alone.

I'd suggest going to the EPU if you can self refer. I know it's scary but it'll mean you have an answer and know where to direct your emotions. Living in limbo is the hardest bit. And step away from the tests, I freaked myself out early on in this pregnancy by doing lots of tests and reading too much into the results. It's futile and won't make any difference to the outcome.

Is there any particular reason why you think you've miscarried other than the faint test? I've had a couple of bleeds and daily spotting for over three weeks but had a good scan with a healthy baby and a heartbeat last week. I'm still scared but also reassured. Bad feelings and bad signs don't always lead to a bad outcome.

But cry all you need to and feel free to rant on here at any time. We are all with you

George so sorry that you are having problems coping with being pregnant again. I felt exactly the same as you, really convinced that nothing was happening and that I was going to have a scan and hear the dreaded 'I'm sorry there's no heartbeat' again. I just wanted it over as soon as possible so that I could get back to normal life and put it all behind me.

I feel guilty because, although I did see an hb on Friday at 7+4, I only felt relieved for about a nanosecond, and now I feel the same again. I'm convinced that there is zero chance of this pregnancy resulting in a baby.

I'm sorry I can't be more helpful, but I just wanted you to know that you're not alone in feeling this way. I think your GP sounds staggeringly insensitive, and I would be changing surgery in your position.

I do hope that everything progresses positively.

Oh and Penguin I'm also dreading the tube strikes. Not normally an issue as I usually cycle, but am just too damn tired at the moment to even contemplate a 9 mile ride first thing in the morning with loads more traffic. I'm reckoning on leaving an hour earlier than usual and hoping for the best.

I will also invoke the stupid 'baby on board' badge if I absolutely have to.

George welcome you're in just the right place for some hand-holding by people who have been there. I'm so sorry you are having such a tough time. There is no doubt that pregnancy after mc can be stressful and emotionally draining. It has been for me at points and I have only had one mc.

Your Dr surgery doesn't sound great. Sadly I think all too many doctors just don't have adequate training in this area but you should as a bare minimum be able to expect compassion and understanding.

I think you are right that you need to step away from the tests for now. You know that non-fmu results are not as reliable and hpts can only tell you so much anyway.

You have a plan in place, to call the EPU in two weeks time. I know the waiting and uncertainty is awful but you're welcome to sit it out with all of us ladies here sitting on our hands and willing the days to pass. Big hugs to you.

george sorry to hear about your fears and the horrible past experiences. It really doesn't help when you feel that hcps are unsympathetic. Definitely room for anyone with worries here. x

have told parents, ils, my dsis, dbro and bil now and that's it (except for bil and sil) until we have our scan. These are my danger weeks though, both mcs at 5/6 weeks pg so fx I can get through the next 2 weeks.

Hi George
Sorry you're finding it hard to cope, we've all been through it. It's crap.

It sounds like you've had some bad experiences from ignorant GP and other HCP's.

2 weeks is a long time to put yourself through this and not know what's happening... How do you feel about phoning your EPU, explaining your situation and just seeing what they say? They might ask you in for an early scan or do a blood test to check your HGC levels. Things can either move v fast or quite slow so it could take 2 weeks for them to organise a scan by that time you'll be 7-8 weeks... but understand if you can't face it at all and want to wait and see what happens.

Do you have any slight symptoms at all like sore boobs?
Like cakes said - step away from the tests!

Sending big hugs xxx

Annie I actually told a few people straight away which has helped keep me sane. I have told (aside from DH) my SIL/BIL, 3 people at work who knew about mc and two close friends, one of whom is ttc. Wouldn't have felt right pretending that I'm still ttc and in the same boat. It seems like a lot written down but these are the people who helped me through last time. I actually found it harder that barely anyone knew last time and when I needed to talk about it I found myself having the bad news conversation when they hadn't known about the good. I think it does you good to share things sometimes.

President I know how you feel but a heartbeat at 7 and a half weeks means your baby has great odds. I know that up till at least 12 weeks, and even beyond, none of us will truly be able to believe that this will be the baby we get to meet but baby president has a fighting chance. I am impressed that you usually manage so much cycling when not upduffed. Good luck with the buses tomorrow. I am totally invoking the BOB badge if it comes to it. I'm ashamed to say I have already made use of it once when I had a stonking headache and felt quite faint even though I felt like a total fraud

Cakes how lovely for people to be getting excited for you. It is exciting! Admittedly terrifying, but definitely exciting too

Paranoid I'm glad it's not just me who is constantly hungry, I've lost count of the times I've idly wondered if I'm carrying a baby or a tapeworm --along with the times I've wondered if it's just psychosomatic and I'm eating my feelings-'