TTC 10+++ Months Grads Thread

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Decided to start the new thread seeing as the old one is filling up.

Thanks Euro I will definitely get some of that iron supplement. I'm glad to hear you have been enjoying the baby movements. I'm keeping fingers and toes crossed for your upcoming scan. You really deserve to enjoy the rest of your pregnancy with no worries whatsoever.
I'm off to lie on my donut cushion. My tailbone feels bruised.

sweet so glad you had a nice holiday. good for you and good work mini sweet
sea oh no! I hope you are recovering all right. that sounds really painful and can't believe you have nausea and vomiting as well. my birth prep course midwife also recommended liquid iron supplement rather than tablets so euro's suggestion sounds good.
euro good luck for the scan hope it all goes well.

thanks for asking about my sugar/GD/eating. I went to the nutritionist this week and he told me what I expected, that I have gained too much - at this stage I should have gained - 7.3Kg - 10.7 Kg. I have actually put on 12-13 kg. He told me to get it under control. We'll do a 3 hour glucose test thing on Thursday next week and if I have GD we'll control it with diet as far as possible. And only if I don't manage that will we move to medicine.

Seemed to the point and reasonable. I am also following his advice to reduce carbs and fruit, and eat less, but more often. Mrfree is being really good about it and eating the same as me and not complaining at the sudden disappearance of all white bread, pasta and rice, drastic reduction in fruit, sweets, snacks and increase in spinach, lentils, salad and small whole wheat carb servings.

free - I'm happy to hear that the Dr's advice is so reasonable and that Mr.Free is being so supportive of the new diet plan in the house. I had a friend who had to stop eating fruit during her pregnancy.

sea - Good luck with the iron supplements, I don't remember ever having been checked for my iron levels.

euro - I'll be thinking of you on Tuesday. I really hope all goes well and that you have a worry-free end to your pregnancy. I remember just how reassuring it was to feel mini-sweets after I had had a symptom-free pregnancy. It's weird, but I miss feeling the little kicks. Mini's favorite sport was kicking my bladder, when he flipped (around week 27) it became my diaphragm.

I hope everyone else is well. I just got my diploma this week I will post a picture on the other place today.

Free - I am sorry to hear about the continuing GD worries. You sound like you are doing really well with the diet and being really healthy so I really hope it pays off. Your DH also sound like a good one [egg]. I have not been eating well at all. It's so strange. I was so healthy before I got pregnant but almost every time I eat something healthy I throw up. My body only really want bread. I am trying to make an effort but it's so difficult.

Sweet - Congrats on your diploma. Sounds v exciting indeed. I know what you mean about kicks. They are the only thing keeping me going right now. I seem to have every negative symptom associated with pregnancy - severe cramping in the night, backache, complete exhaustion, continued nausea and the most awful is I seem to be wetting myself... I am so ashamed. My hayfever is playing up and every time I sneeze I can't seem to control my bladder and I am doing my exercises religiously plus I go for a wee wee at least 20 times a day.. It's so mortifying. The only thing that makes the day bearable is when I go to bed at night and I turn to my side I feel my little baby b kicking happily. Without this I don't think I can handle it...

Euro - Thanks for the tip re iron water. They are great. I feel less like a corpse waking up in the morning after only a few days of taking it and it seems to be fine on my tummy too. I am sending you loads of love and positive vibes for Tuesday.

[egg] to Free should have been a ... oh dear! I have baby brain as well. It's true what they say.

sea thanks for your sympathies. so sorry you are having a horrid time of it. please don't be embarrassed and keep doing your exercises. how lovely that your baby is kicking strongly. I've not made it to the loo a few times as well. My backache was horrible on Saturday and MrFree had to help me out of my jeans and into my pyjamas. Some yoga stretches on Sunday sorted me out. My leg cramps have improved since I started eating more magnesium rich foods, and doing leg stretches before bed. I hope you feel better soon.

Hi, sorry I rush on and off here, it's a bit crazy here still, just moved house and are leaving in a few days to Europe I just came on for a quick read avoiding jobs I should be doing and was struck by your situation sea I'm so sorry things are so tough for you, I hope it all improves soon. euro I'll be thinking of you tomorrow.

Euro how did the scan go? I hope all is fine and well.

Free sorry to hear you have been having similar issues. I hope it improves. I'm obviously delighted I managed to get pregnant but I must say that there is v little that I like about the process. I just keep thinking about the prize at the end.

Doll - thanks for the sympathies. The little kicks are keeping me going and I just can't wait to meet my little boy. Hope the trip is fun and you manage to avoid the bad weather.

sweets congrats on the diploma. You must be very proud.

sea I'm glad the liquid iron is helping. That's rubbish about all the negative symptoms though. I have been relatively lucky.

free it sounds like you are doing well. I was a bit worried about GD, but my IM is not a fan of the GTT. I ended up picking up a glucose monitor from Boots and testing myself at home. All readings so far have been normal.

doll it's always lovely to hear from you. Is this a temporary move to avoid the monsoon or a new posting?

AFM, unfortunately the scan did not bring good news. The placental blood pressure has improved a bit, but is still off the scale high. And unfortunately centime is not growing well. He/she is down at the 3rd centile now. I'm very worried and came home from work to have a good cry. I feel a bit better for having done that. Next step is to sort out a consultant referral and have another scan in 2 weeks. I'm very angry at the universe today.

Oh euro I'm so sorry worries are not over. Keep us posted. I'm thinking of you (yes, for me just moving the boys out for a bit then back here). All my hopes and good wishes with you, having no knowledge of these issues it's all I have to offer. X

Oh Euro I'm so sorry about the worries. Did they say what might be causing these issues and are they fixable? Would Clexane help? I know you are not keen on these but it was mentioned to me by FMC that these are good for blood flow issues.
Big hugs to you. Please keep us posted and share your worries here.

I'm quite happy to take Clexane if it might help. It's taking drugs/undergoing procedures when no one can tell me WHY they are necessary that I have an issue with. At my last scan they just mentioned aspirin, which I am already on. I will see what a consultant says.

Euro - so sorry to hear about the scan. I don't know anything about placental blood pressure, so I can only offer some support and positive thoughts. I hope the consultant can explain things well. I understand not wanting procedures/drugs without proper explanations. big hugs.

doll - nice to hear you are escaping monsoon season.

sea - I am so sorry about the negative symptoms. Be sure to mention wetting yourself to your gynae, sometimes they can send you to a physio to help you learn some more advanced or specialized exercises. Try not to be embarrassed about it, it's not in your control and is quite common.

free - the backpain sounds terrible. I did relaxation yoga nightly to help with mine during my pregnancy, it really seemed to help me.

ah f* it Euro I am so sorry to read about your scan results and concerns. sending you love and good wishes and positive vibes to centime.

ladies, I do have a concern and wanted to ask you about it. At my clinic I get to choose my midwife, she guides me through the weeks leading up to birth, is there when I give birth and visits me afterwards - so far, so wonderful. (I am not in the UK) I had my first meeting with her a couple of weeks ago, she seemed fine. Tonight we went for another meeting. Honestly, she seemed drunk. Afterwards I said to MrFree- maybe this was her laid back style but even he says, he wished he'd asked her - have you had a drink? because she didn't seem normal. I don't want to get her into trouble or be known at the hospital as a trouble maker - but I just don't want this woman as my midwife any more. I can ask to change if I want. I could ring up tomorrow and say I would like another - but what do I say - because my one seemed a bit drunk on shift? I could lie and say I just feel we don't click and the idea of having her as my midwife is stressing me. I think I just answered my own question didn't I? Time to stop being British and polite.

free stop being British for sure. Deal with it right away, I think you will know the right thing to say when you see if they quiz you or not. The important thing is you get what you are comfortable with. As someone who had a right bloody mess with my care leading up to the birth (not of my own making) I can't stress enough how important it is that you do all that you can to put this right. Good luck.

Loves again euro

Euro of course. I really hope the consultant is able to shed some light. Big handhold.

Free I agree with doll - you must make clear to the hospital that you are not happy and want to change midwife. As for whether or not you should report she might have been drunk - that's a tough one. I might raise it but say you are not sure. Could you smell alcohol on her breath or she was just acting like she was drunk?

Sweet - thanks for the advice. I'm seeing the midwife this week. Will definitely mention it. Will also speak to my physio as well.

doll sea thanks a lot for the push to act now. I rang the hospital and said I want to change and they said it is totally fine and just to find another midwife then let mine know I have decided to work primarily with someone else. Luckily, I found one who is part of a really highly rated 2-woman team (love the local internet forums), who also happened to be at the hospital today when I went in for my birth prep course so was able to meet her immediately. I was so relieved I could have hugged her. So all I have to do now is let the other one know I will be working with someone else. 3 hour glucose test tomorrow to find out if I definitely do or don't have GD.

euro thinking of you and hope you get that consultant referral as soon as possible.

Free - amazing that you already found a new consultant. Good luck with the test tomorrow.

I had a question about the other, could you actually smell alcohol on her breath? I am only asking because my mom is an alcoholic. Having her lose a job and have it affect her life outside of the house would have maybe made it easier for her to understand and come to terms with just how bad her drinking problem is and was.

sweetgrouch no, she just acted strangely. Not able to speak clearly, slurring a bit, blowing out heavily and shutting eyes in the middle of a sentence like she's having trouble breathing, overly jokey, familiar and friendly for a second meeting, but not listening to or answering my questions properly/seriously, addressing herself exclusively to MrFree. I asked about epistomies, she answered weirdly saying she'd only had to use the scissors 5 times whilst making a snip-snip motion with her fingers and laughing. Answering yes when MrFree asked if she was on a 24 hour shift (untrue, she was on a 12 hour). Then saying she hoped no one actually gave birth so she had a quiet time of it. Answering my question about if she could show MrFree how to massage my hips and back during labour with - we'll just give him a kick and make him do it. The whole time we were in a darkened birthing room, which admittedly we'd asked to see, but it was strange to stay there, us standing, her sitting on the bed during the meeting.

So perhaps she is just like this as a person but it freaked me out and we could only think that we'd seen similar behaviour in some one who'd had a drink.

sweet I am sorry about your mum. That must be really hard to see in someone close to you.

free - that sounds so strange! I would have also changed midwives. She does sound drugged, drunk, or just very strange. Definitely not someone you would want during a birth.

Thanks for the comment about my mom, it is a shitty disease and very sad to watch it control someone.

Blimey free she doesn't sound like someone I would want down the business end on D-Day. You've definitely done the right thing.

sweet it does sound really tough.

I saw my mw today. She gave me advice on trying to get my boobs stimulated in advance of an early exit for centime and generally tried to prepare me for what to expect. She's also got me an NHS consultant appointment for Friday, so we can get some advice and hopefully some monitoring set up. The only issue is that the hospital doesn't have a high level NICU and I really want to avoid the situation where I am stuck in one hospital after a section and the baby ends up in NICU across London. So we will need to figure that out. I've been quite up and down all day. It's a scary time.

euro I'm so sorry. How definite is it that they'll go in an get centime, what's it based on? I guess you need the consultant view for this. What an unbelievably difficult situation. Smart thinking about how to make sure you are near Centime if special care is required. Thinking of you MrEuro and Centime.