November 2014 Thread 2: Springing through the first trimester!

[Nessalina]

Welcome to all you nervous November ladies! Settle in for sore boobs, inappropriate puking, and hopefully happy early scans!

The crew so far:

Just1moretime DC3 due Oct/Nov
devoncreamtea due late Oct
MammySam DC2 due 31st Oct
RandomInternetStranger DC2 due 1st Nov
Canweseethebunnies DC2 due early Nov
booksshoescats DC2 due 3rd Nov
BatCave DC3 due 2nd Nov
Hopeful83 DC1 due 2nd Nov
Annarose2014 due 2nd Nov
CraziesTogether DC1 due 3rd Nov
WinterLover DC2 due 4th Nov
weeonion DC2 due 6th Nov
alita7 DC1 due 6th Nov
caravela due 5th Nov
Littleyewtree DC2 due 7th Nov
Greenstone DC2 due 7th Nov
flipflopsonfifthavenue DC2 due 7th Nov
AussieGoingHomeSoon DC3 due 7th Nov
SazHoopz DC2 due 7th Nov
Fergie11 due 7th Nov
Snook99 due 7th Nov
AveryJessup DC2 due 8th Nov
MabelMay DC3 due 8th Nov
edwardcullensotherwoman DC3 due 8th Nov
Catnap1 DC1 due 8th Nov
Polkadotscarf due 9th Nov
RecklessLadybird DC1 due 9th Nov
Nessalina DC1 due 10th Nov
ladydolly due 10th Nov
PosyFossilsShoes due 10th Nov
LittleRedDinosaur DC2 due 10th Nov
MrsY87 DC1 due 10th Nov
Giraffeski lo DC3 due 11th Nov
BJZebra DC2 due 11th Nov
MrsCuppa DC1 due 11th Nov
nickiswiss due 11th Nov
Mathssssteacher123 DC2 due 11th Nov
HRMumness DC2 due 12th Nov
Misslaughalot due 12th Nov
LadyMillion DC1 due 12th Nov
Amyrose82 DC1 due 12th Nov
FurryScoob DC1 due 13th Nov
Tigsy DC1 due 13th Nov
Lauraparsons233 due 13th Nov
WutheringTights DC2 due 13th Nov
Grayby due 13th Nov
movingmovingmoving DC2 due 14th Nov
MrsWombat DC2 due 14th Nov
Petal26 DC2 due 14th Nov
Misslaughalot DC2 due 14th Nov
Laura1410 DC2 due mid Nov
happyjessie due mid Nov
BeetleBeetle due mid Nov
Baxter2014 due 15th Nov
33goingon64 DC2 due 15th Nov
SeaSaltMill DC1 due 15th Nov
theduchesse DC2 due 15th Nov
Barmybunting DC1 due 16th Nov
selsigfach DC1 due 16th Nov
Getyourflipflopson DC3 due 16th Nov
pinkgirlythoughts DC2 due 17th Nov
StudyFullTime DC2 due 17th Nov
Snooky17 DC4 due 17th Nov
daisydalrymple DC3 due 18th Nov
DilysMoon DC3 due 18th Nov
stowsettler DC2 due 19th Nov
Whenwillwe3meet again DC1 due 19th Nov
utopian99 DC2 due 20th Nov
robynarmstrong92 DC1 due 21st Nov
NorthernExile DC2 due 23rd Nov
keeponkeepinon DC3 due 24th Nov
maeanne DC2 due 26th Nov
ImBrian DC5 due 26th Nov
Sleepingstarsmommy DC1 due 27th Nov
WhatWouldCaitlinDo due Nov

Congratulations on the great response from your daughter, she'll must be so excited.
I was an only child and I would have done anything to be a big sister!
You ex-husband sound horrendous beyond belief, I'm not surprised that you're furious about your cousin, I'd be livid.
It puts into context my upset at dp insinuating that there's more pie than baby in my tummy, I really shouldn't complain about him so much.

Alpaca, so very sorry to hear your news too.
There's been so much sadness on here in the last few days.

Monkey, no piles yet and terrified of them, started drinking vile Fybogel stuff yesterday and its improved 'the situation', it's quite a yucky consistency but tastes ok!
Give it a whirl.

I'm glad your dd was happy at the news and poor you for missing her for 3 weeks!

your ex sounds awful puts my stuff into perspective.... though he's still being shitty and effectively blaming me for all our problems...looks like all his supportiveness was a massive farse. but at least hes not like that! I want an anti men day!

oh God random, you poor thing what an awful time you went through.

DH wasn't being that supportive of me feeling ill until I didn't eat a home cooked lasagne yesterday because it made me feel ill just looking at it. haha

Thanks EllieKins. No actual change, as in not constipated, so freaking out quite a bit here, so hope it's nothing, but google really has not helped at all

Gosh Random that sounds appalling and entirely rant-worthy.

so it's 9pm and I'm heading to bed, this tiredness is crushing me.

Alpaca - very sad to hear your news. Look after yourself

Hi Nessalina! I found out I was pregnant yesterday after doing a test a few weeks before which came back weak. What a wow! My EDD is 26 November :)

My first pregnancy
I am a keen cyclist and live in east london
Oh and I'm rubbish at keeping secrets! Would love to buddy up with people locally

Oh Alpaca, so sorry to hear your sad news - please take care of yourself and keep fingers crossed for better days x

grr went for a wee and pinky tinted tissue... :( please can we all have no more Spotting on this thread!

(as in toilet roll not flesh type tissue)

oh alita are you going to go back to the doctors

Ugh these early mornings......

Anyone else suddenly have a really hard belly? Its not constipation. The whole thing is hard too from the top to the bottom, it's wierd.

Google tells me that at 9+ weeks its gas and bloating but I don't really feel very gassy or bloatey! Anyone else know what causes it?

First time in my life I've ever had a hard stomach, lol!

Well this is just marvellous. Since yesterday with my cousin I've been obsessively thinking about it & crying all night & my blood pressure is through the roof, I can feel my pulse in my head & neck & back constantly, I've barely slept, I feel really unwell. A few weeks ago I had what I presumed was some hormone driven wobble and was under the duvet sobbing with really really black thoughts where I was even considering whether I can carry this pg on for a good week or so - it was really scary & bad. Anyway yesterday's stupid little discovery has sent me reeling again because it'd now got me thinking of every bad thing that has ever happened, everything my ex has ever done, every betrayal I've ever had, everything that could go wrong, and oh god it's the end of the world & it's all going to be disastrous forever and just kill me now. [hmmm] I don't want to spend this entire pg diving under the duvet for a week every time I get a bit of stress but I seriously cannot cope with any stress at the moment at all. This is horrible.

Btw, am thinking of you both alpaca and fergie. We've lost so many in the November thread and it really puts tthings into perspective.

Am so so so grateful to have come this far, emotional rollercoaster though it is.

Gutted to hear your bad news Alpaca & Fergie Fx for speedy BFPs for both of you
alita - you must be do worried, but try not to be, it sounds like you're going to spot throughout! Must be hard when you know you lost one at this time, but keep your chin up Bug your GP for another scan if it keeps going!
random - I would so be ragey in your situation Your cousin being friends with him makes him seem like a person, when you know he's really a monster. But just don't let it get to you, he's a fucker, and he is not important to your life, he is certainly not important to you and this baby, so don't let his poison get you. You're awesome and you can so do this! XX

Welcome loaf99!

Is anyone buying bigger bras yet? My normal ones are already too small but I don't want to buy new ones and grow out of them in a few weeks. Does the growth spurt end soon?

Oh god yes, I expected it though as my boobs went up to a HH ast pregnancy. Theyre usually FF, im now filling my G's to the point they're getting uncomfortable

Hi Random, it's sounds awful what you're going through, I don't know what to suggest to make you feel any better.
Glad you can vent your frustrations and feelings on here, is there anyone you're close enough to nearby that you can sit and talk to and let it all out with?
I know from some personal experience of anxiety that when all the negative stuff builds up it can be really hard to relax and think more clearly and positively. I have had hypnosis for things in the past that has improved my outlook on things but it won't work for everyone.
I always found talking helps and trying to acknowledge all the shit thats happened but then to try to put it to one side and find all the things that are good and positive and exciting in your life and that you've got to look forward to, and to try to see that the future is bright and the past is now behind you, but frankly that's all well and good as an idea but I realise it isn't easy or straightforward in reality.
You sound like a very strong person and you will get through this.

Alita, try not to panic, I hope everything is all ok, ask for a scan - always worth a try.
I can empathise, I had my previous miscarriage around this time too so I'm jittery, especially with all the sadness recently.

Yes, been trying to find a comfy bra this week, nothing is right. Tried ditching the underwiring for more comfort but still nothing fits right!
Used to be a 34/36 b/c but got a 38d in BHS the other day and its too tight around the bloody ribs - I am expanding at a rate of knots - bought (reasonable) jeggings in Matalan as my usual size 28-30" jeans won't do up at all and I'm now a 14!

Sorry for loooong post!

Haha Ellie, I bought jeggings from M&S this week as none of my pants do up now. The muffin top was depressing but jeggings are super comfy and leave room for expansion (and more chocolate).

Hi random, I hope you feel better, I totally get why you're upset, Facebook friends aren't the same as real life but it still gets to you when it's someone who should be loyal to you and someone whose hurt you so much, I've had close friends become 'friend's' with exs who havehurt me (not half as bad as your ex was) and It's got me down too. and everything feels worse when your pregnant!
feel free to vent as needed!

Emilia I haven't needed new bras but I think that's because my boobs shrunk when I came off the pill so now my bras fit again :p but they are getting snug!

in terms of hard bellys mine does feel harder when I'm standing, probably because everything is squished together a bit more.

I called the doctor on Tuesday when I had some, I had none of Wednesday and some Thursday night and this morning. He said to call again thursday if it persists but he was not concerned. I don't see the point in calling him really. It's unsettling but I'm not overly worried, it's just tinted cm really.

I'm a bit worried about the weekend, got the other dsds over later and then going to ILs Saturday night - Sunday. I feel worse than 2 weeks ago, how will I hide it? I felt ill then, why else would I still feel ill 2 weeks on? The girls might not notice but his parents will surely. His mum is quite conservative and wouldn't say anything but his dad is nosy :p I really don't want to tell them until 12 weeks :/ but how will I stomach what they cook and I can't stay up as late as normal...

Is anyone else mega hot?

Random - my god, that must feel like such a horrible betrayal - how awful. I don't know what to say. Does your cousin know the history? I can't understand how she could be 'friends' with him if she does, but the fact that she has a profile you don't know about does suggest that she knows it's very wrong that she is.

You are clearly a strong, intelligent articulate woman who was able to fine the reserves to get you and your DD out of what must have been a diabolical situation. The only thing I can suggest is to focus on your lovely DD and what you have given her and have still to give and get yourself some help if at all possible. I can imagine the rage and pain would easily tip over into being all-consuming. Was your mum helpful - what did she say when you sent the message to your cousin through her?

Please keep talking here - I can't bear to think what it must be like for you when you feel so low. Are there friends irl that you can have a really good vent to about this?

On a lighter note, I wish my boobs would miraculously expand. Although I can proudly say I am actually managing to fill my 32B cups now, so there is some hope . Last time I think I went up to a 36C, which I quite enjoyed!