September 2014 - where we enjoy happy scans and a healthy 2nd trimester

[TheOnlySeven]

Welcome all regulars, lurkers and anyone else who wants to enjoy a positive pregnancy :)

Whiteblossom she found it eventually just above my belly button to the right!

Both the midwives started off very low, and were getting nothing. The midwife at the EPU said she heard what she thought was baby kicking or punching which is what made her go quite a bit higher, and she found it fairly quickly then.

It was an awful few hours. I had thought I had felt movement before I went in to see the midwife this am, but as its my first wasn't 100% sure. But all is good now, and I can relax again!

wow cumbrian that is high! do you think they check where the placentre (sp?) is at the 20 week scan?

pickles step away from google, Ive no idea about levels but if your concerned give your mw a ring. Did they give the levels in a letter or did you read them in notes? I have no idea what mine are and I don't intend on checking, Id only worry like you are.

whiteblossom stepping away from google :-)

Was in letter which said baby was low risk - so I shall focus on that and stop worrying

Hello ladies, just came back from our genetic counselling session, the good news is that the baby and any future babies have a less than a 1% chance of having the same chromosomal problem the last baby died off.

The not so good news, is that the triple x i have can be passed onto our children, because of the way my condition is i have an increased chance of up to 10% of passing onto the baby. However the data she was taking her info from was 30 years old, and the study was done on 29 women, so not a huge range. The geneticist we spoke to is going to speak to the experts and hopefully come back to us with more up to date results. So we are hopeful we won't have to many issues, we have decided we will continue with the pregnancy regardless.

So scary but feels ok.

Isitme i had this one at 13 weeks and will have the next at 28 weeks.

As worrying as I'm sure it is cookie it still gives 90% chance of the baby not having xxx which puts the odds in your favour if you know what I mean!
My nuchal translucancy (?sp!) Was 1.5, awaiting letter but in honesty we will have and want the baby whether it has downs or not.
Has anyone else been stupidly emotional recently? I'm 12+3, first baby and ecstatically happy to be pregnant. But today I'm a mess for no reason. I've had morning sickness every day since 6weeks but today i was in floods of tears with it. Then cried because we had no bread and i wanted toast. Then bawled at one born every minute. I'm usually very rational but today I've been a wreck - is it 'just' the hormones?! Dh told me I looked beautiful this afternoon and I sobbed. I'm also full of a cold so feeling generally shit.

Wish i can't help but worry about everything!

I cry at anything these days, but i don't care!!

whiteblossom I have just welled up with gratitude for your lovely post. Thank you so much. I managed a few hours of work this afternoon and am instantly pleased with myself despite feeling incredibly sick again now I've eaten.

rockin this is my first.

cumbrian that must have been so frightening. Glad all turned out ok.

wish I am an absolute emotional mess! X

Hi all, I am trying to catch up and learn more about you all, but it is difficult given i joined quite late; I saw earlier on you had some stat entry list which was fun... I wish I thought of joining back then... Does anybody leave around Purley ladies? I am 36, dh 37, this is our first, ttc: just a couple of months

I hope all of you with MS and fatigue, etc get better soon, I had a terrible MS up until a couple of weeks ago but i am a lot better now... I had some terrible bleeding also earlier ad had to go to EPU once and A&E once both time with positive news; I was given a 16W scan because of all that which I had today to check if baby is OK ... which it was, a healthy little baby in there... X

I asked if they could see if it is a boy or girl; I always thought it is boy from ovulation timing and nub theory; and guess what, it appears it is :) he told me it was early and I should check again at 20th scan, but I very much doubt if it changes

Oooh, I am having a boy, how would you bring up a little boy.... (!)

I burst into tears reading a news article online. A mans dying wish was to say goodbye to the giraffes he mucked out daily at a zoo he worked at. The giraffes sensed all was not well and one came and kissed him fare well....he was in a hospital bed. Have I lost the plot?

bug Ive just accepted that I just cant do what I used to, my dh understands. Im super pleased about this as I had terrible PND after my first which was linked to having unrealistic expectations on myself. Now Im a bit more 'sod it', I'd rather be happy!

Btw Bugoven thanks for tip on clothing, I don't know why i haven't thought of big scarfs myself, it works very well distracting/covering a little bump

nazly welcome! ovulation timing?? how does that work, how did you work out boy from that? off to google

Has anyone heard of or done the bicarbonate of soda and red cabbage gender prediction tests? I've just read about them and devastated I have neither in the house!! Will be buying both tomorrow for a bit of fun

whiteblossom theres some info here I don't know how to do proper links
www.babycentre.co.uk/a549359/can-you-choose-to-have-a-boy-or-girl
Now I know my due date and we only had sex once I can work out that the sperm was in day four when I conceived so it should be a girl. It will be interesting to find out if its true :)

Bex ive not heard that one how does it work?

White blossom, I can't remember the name of that theory but I'll find it for you; the idea generally was that the XY (boy) sperms swim differently to XX (girls) sperms, depending on the chemical environment around them apparently they swim faster... So if you ttc very close to your ovulation that theory says your chance of having boys is more... Now I have to admit some scientists disagree and if you google you will find very strong opinions for and against ... Similar to others, it is only a theory... My friend who had a boy and was eager to have a girl told me about this...

I wasn't really trying for a boy btw, this is our first and I would be trilled with either; however, both me and dh had difficult work schedule and had to be organised and to give us a better chance, I bought ovulation prediction packs (digital ones) so we have higher chance generally... (Which I thought we needed given I am 36, but it happened so soon...) so we timed it basically...

Gun, the cabbage test is...
Buy a red heart cabbage. Chop it up and put it in a bowl of boiling water for 10 minutes. Drain the water into a container and it will be a blue colour. Mix equal parts of the water to urine and if it turns pink it says girl, violet it's a boy!

Bicarbonate soda is...

Pee in a cup, add 2 tablespoons of bicarbonate soda and if it fizzes it's a boy, if it's flat, it's a girl

the things you learn on MN....

Lottie!! My shopping list is getting weirder by the minute!!

Thank you ladies, glad I'm not the only one with crazy emotions! Some of the old wives tales are mad aren't they! Not heard about the bicarb/ cabbage ones though so they're new to me!

Might have to try the bicarb one... Very curious!

Anyone else feeling tired a lot? I keep on needing a nap after work every night. Thought I was meant to be full of energy for 2nd trimester?

coolcat I am absolutely exhausted still at 15+6 so you're not alone! And absolutely rubbishly I seem to be feeling sicker Keep getting waves of nausea, which I've been dealing with over last couple of weeks by just eating something plain and/or having a lie down, and has normally worked. Today however had massive wave of nausea, tried eating something but didn't work for first time and I barely made it to the toilet! First time I've actually been sick in this pregnancy.

With dd, my first pregnancy, I had hg which just got worse as my pregnancy went on, so really worried it's going to start again. Have 3 dc 5 and under so no idea what I'll do if it does! Dh has taken them all out this afternoon though so at least I can get some rest

Sorry for moaning... On a lighter note the gender tests all sound fun, its amazing how many there are! Think there is a chinese calendar for predicting the sex as well... I've only had sickness with dd, had absolutely nothing with my 2 boys so maybe its my bodys version of a gender test

I slept for 7 hours straight last night, I haven't done that in about 10 weeks. I'm delighted. Roll on the second trimester

right, Chinese predictor said boy
x/y sperm pre ovulation....er not sure on that one so..
if we had sex, thurs am, fri pm, sat pm and sun pm and I ovulated on the sun- though scan says sat...what do you reckon? Its a boy right as they swim straight to egg.

I just KNOW its a boy.

Ive been up since six, I taken the dog out for a walk (got something on my mind). My dh is being weird. He's says he excited (about as excited as a plank of wood!) but as we have already done this before he's just...well whatever about it all. Talking anything baby is like pulling teeth.

At the 12 week scan I asked how he felt ie excited? He said well er yeah excited.. I then said he came across very 'take or leave it' he said " well Im here aren't I" OUCH!

Last night I asked if he wanted to find out the sex at the 20 week scan- I wanted to know the answer to this the whole way but he refused to answer or said ' I don't know'. Last night he said he would like to find out to "make it more real". He wont discuss real names only joke ones. At the moment a girl is Mercedes and a boy Aston (ds into cars!)

Its like he just cant be arsed to care. With ds he was over the moon. Ive been patient and trust me that's difficult for me but Im worried and losing my cool about it. To make things worse he's not been near me since about 9 weeks pg. I have spoken to him about this and he blames my sickness/early night and his early mornings...yeah to a point I agree but its not been like that for some time. He's still affectionate and tells me he loves all the time and very caring but..its just something. He's put his hand on my belly all of three times in 16 weeks.

sorry for mega post!

white I have been told that men are generally bad ay expressing how they feel during a pregnancy because it's us, the ladies, who feel everything. I was excitedly feeling my tummy yesterday morning because there was a distinct roundness on one side and I felt sure baby was sat there. When I said "look can you feel yhat?" and took his hand he said "no" while still playing his stupid game on his phone with the other hand. I felt really deflated but I suppose he was just being unnecessarily honest and maybe envious that he couldn't feel what I can.

Can you two have a chat together about your worries. I have been aware that my emotions are definitely different to pre-pg and I started by saying that and asking how he felt. I think I was actually convinced there was someone else. He just answered that it was hard to feel incolved at this stage (about 11 weeks then) and that it was lonely when I had early nights and sickness all the time.

I was pleased he could express himself. Unfortunately he is now in trouble again. After planning a night in, where his dad was going out specifically to give us quality time together (he is staying with us "temporarily"), he then said he was going out with work to welcome new staff at the boss' expense. Having said I would not want to be out to collect him past midnight, he left me waiting for him for half hour, stumbled and slurred his way around the house, collapsed on the landing, was a little sick on himself, in the loo (very loudly) and then got into bed smelling of booze, sick and in desperate need of a shower. I spent the night on the sofa with my V pillow.

Let us know how you get on with your OH. Hope he can offer you some reassurance and you feel better about it all soon.