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RM OCTOBER 2014 thread - Today we are pregnant

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TinyTear · 30/01/2014 11:09

Hi
This is a thread for people due in October with past miscarriage issues, so we don't scare the 'regular' October people and we don't annoy the RM thread with our pregnancy talk...

TinyTear MC May 2010, MC June 2010, MC November 2010, DD Jan 2012, MC October 2013 ADD 6th October

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fedupofrainydays · 15/03/2014 06:56

tayto how are you still awake at 11.30?! I'm in bed at 9 latest!! But then am up at 6.30 with ds. DH has worked his arse off recently so thought he deserved a lie in. So am up feeling sick on the sofa watching Mr men Grin

Re non alcoholic beer - I like (well did, gone off anything that tastes like booze) Bavaria 0%.

Foxsticks · 15/03/2014 08:13

Morning everyone, I've been looking at the babybond scans, thanks again Swimming. I tried Kingston, Portsmouth, Southampton, Heathrow and Wimbledon but couldn't get a weekend appointment. I could get one on Monday but thought I might as well go to my local clinic in Guildford as its the same price. No more bleeding so far today, but I still have the campy feelings and my boobs don't feel as tender so who knows. Anyway, DH and I need to make a decision about whether to book another private scan or not. I keep on changing my mind, maybe I'll make him choose!

I'm just going to try and rest up and take my mind off it today. I have a two year old so she is pretty good at keeping me occupied. Hope you all have a hood day.

CattyW72 · 15/03/2014 09:25

So I had my early scan yesterday but bad news for me.. Although the size of the gestational sac was bang on at 9w2d, they couldn't really see anything else and think the baby stopped growing a few weeks ago Sad

I called the EPU (St Thomas') and they said to come in for a scan next Thursday. I asked her why so long as clearly I'm not wrong with dates as the sac is the right size but she said that although it is probably bad news 'just in case'.

My DP was with me for the scan but then had to fly to Guernsey for urgent business an hour later. I couldn't talk to my mum about it last night as she was being all teary and 'woe is me' about something unrelated.

I hate my body - why another MMC? Why can't it realise what is going on and not just carry on as though it is still pregnant?

Oh any my due date was the day after my birthday so that's going to be great... Sorry I'm feeling really bitter and upset.

Foxsticks · 15/03/2014 09:29

Catty I am so sorry to hear about your scan Sad When will your husband be back, its horrible for you to have to go through this on your own. Could you maybe talk to your mum today?

SwimmingMom · 15/03/2014 10:30

Catty - so sorry to hear this. Life is cruel at times. Don't blame yourself. I hope you get some support from mum/DH very soon.

Fox - no bleeding is a good sign I hope? Fingers crossed. Hope you are able to scan on Monday.

WanderingGecko · 15/03/2014 12:05

So sorry to hear that Catty, what rotten news. I'm sure your mum would feel terrible if she thought that you couldn't tell her. Hope your DH is back home quickly x

juniorcakeoff · 15/03/2014 12:18

Oh Catty that' s crap I'm so sorry.

Millysdream · 15/03/2014 14:36

So sorry catty. Big hugs. Please keep in touch with us as we all understand and have been where you are. All the best for the future xxx

fedupofrainydays · 15/03/2014 14:52

Oh catty am so sorry to hear that. I hated, absolutely hated my body after my mmc. It got me to 12 weeks with all the symptoms of pregnancy but just a fucking huge sac and nothing in it. I felt so cross my body lied to me. Or was just too thick to realise it wasn't carrying a baby anymore. I hope DH is back soon? And definately tell your mum as she will only want to be there for you.. But just had no idea yesterday. Take care of yourself and hope your next pregnancy is the right one and it happens soon for you too. Xxx

picklebum2011 · 15/03/2014 21:49

Catty I am so sorry.
I think I'm losing my precious bean too. Been having really intense pains in lower tummy that are getting more and more intense. Not having bleeding but then I never did with either three mmc. Feels like the pains I was getting when waiting for erpc after mmc 1! Have to wait till Tuesday for a scan. Do not know how I can get through this a fourth time.

squizita · 15/03/2014 21:55

Catty I'm so sorry. :( The waiting is the worst, so awful you have to wait for the 2nd scan.

Pickle FX for you. I've had some scary pains, turned out to be OK. But it's hard not to think the worst.

TaytoCrisp · 15/03/2014 23:28

catty thinking of you in particular. Sending a big hug.

pickle really hope it's just those odd pregnancy twinges that happen to be more intense and frequent for u at the moment. Fx for a good week for you. Xx

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nearlyreadytopop · 16/03/2014 16:38

catty so sorry, take care of yourself.
buggerlugs rmc really takes the joy out of pregnancy. It makes me really uncomfortable when people around me talk happily about this pregnancy and what I will be doing in sept.

I got the appointment letter from the gynae clinic to come in and talk through my test results and the post mortem from my 17 week mc. I actually don't think I can handle it at the moment. I am 16 weeks tomorrow and its just too much emotional stress to deal with.

squizita · 16/03/2014 19:22

Bugs That pretty much sums up my brain processes at the moment.

One minute I feel pregnant; the next I think "as if".

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fedupofrainydays · 16/03/2014 19:35

Hope all is well for you tomorrow bugs
I had to explain to my mum on Friday why I found. It so hard to be positive. Part of it is also preparing myself for the worst because it has happened so can happen again so what's the point in pretending everything is lovely when doing so could make the fall that that much bigger or the hit that much harder and not sure I could cope with it. So for me it's part self preservation as well as genuinely struggling to believe it might all be ok.

nearly that appointment can definately wait. You don't need to do that now... It will be there for when you are ready for it. Horrible timing though so I really feel for you.

JBrd · 16/03/2014 21:47

Hi all, quick hello from Switzerland, where we are currently are to visit my mum.

Sorry to hear that some of you are having a tough time - mc really does take all the fun out of pregnancy, that is so so true.

catty How very very sad, so sorry you have to go through this again. No one deserves this xx

pickle Hang in there. I had very similar aches and pains at one stage and was convinced I'm heading 'that way' again. And there are moments where I still do! Try to rest and put your feet up, your body is going through a lot of changes.

Everything crossed for you tomorrow, bugs

Told my mum and sister this weekend, both are very pleased Smile And both seemed quite surprised that I actually gave it another go, I think they both had thought that I should not do it again (of coursem they never said that directly to me, just subtle hints - which I ignored). Still need to tell my brother now, then it's DH's family's turn next.
I have eaten an obscene amount of food this weekend, it's embarassing. All my clothes are starting to feel tight, even the stretchy ones Confused

Millysdream · 17/03/2014 07:22

Good luck today buggerlugs
jbird hope you are enjoying your time away and glad you are able to give you family such good news.
nearly good luck with whatever you decide to do. Do what feels right.

Had an awful weekend. Found out that people I thought I could trust have been telling everyone my business. First it was my sister. I had kept my miscarriages a secret from my dads side of the family for reasons I dont want to go into. But my sister has told them all but not admitted it to me. I found out from another family member. My sisters reaction when confronted was- it just slipped out sorry. That's it. Was very angry with her and we have had a massive fall out over it. Then found out my ta has been telling all to her family and it looks like her sons girlfriend has been blabbing about my pregnancy- my own mother doesn't even know yet!!!! I am so cross. Was very stressed and upset yesterday and I am so worried that I have harmed the baby with all the stress. Having a day off today as need to look after my baby and to hell with everyone else for now. Woke up with cramps this morning but no blood thanks god. Just in a tizz now :(

WanderingGecko · 17/03/2014 08:09

Hope today goes well Buggerlugs. I have midwife aptmt this afternoon so hoping she will agree to an early scan. I just don't feel pregnant enough and I worry constantly... much to DH's irritation (luckily he keeps it mostly to himself). If I go through weeks of organising other people to lamb my flock for me and then find out I've lost this one too I will be both heartbroken and furious. I know that might sound ridiculous to some but this is a really important time of year for me and it is hard for me to not be involved!

Hope you manage to whip the family into shape Milly and FX for you Pickle.

Foxsticks · 17/03/2014 08:43

Morning everyone, hope everyone is ok.

How are you feeling today Catty, did you manage to speak to your Mum? Is you DP back from Guernsey yet? I hope you are getting the support you need.

I hope you are feeling better too Pickle and the cramps have stopped.

I really hope your scan goes well Bugs I'll be thinking of you this morning.

Pop I agree with Bugs about seeing if you can delay getting the results, until you are ready, it's horrible timing for you.

I haven't had any more bleeding since Friday night, and my cramping stopped about Saturday lunchtime, so I'm hoping thats a good sign. I'm obsessively boob squeezing though and I don't think they are as tender, somehow they seem less pert too. I think I'm probably over analysing things though! DH and I decided last night to wait for the scan on Wednesday as the bleeding has stopped. He had to go to Birmingham on business today and isnt back until tomorrow and I decided I'd rather wait than go on my own. I guess its easier to try and put it out of my mind when I'm not actually bleeding too.

Sorry if I missed anyone off, I'm on the app and trying to remember everything.

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juniorcakeoff · 17/03/2014 09:55

Morning all
Pop I was in the same position as you a few years ago - pregnant at the same time as receiving PM results. I decided to go along to the appointment in case they said anything that would affect the current pregnancy (they did). The worst thing for me was that they gave me the full report to take home and although I tried not to read it, I couldn't help it...it was very very sad to read. So you could go along, say you don't want any details but is there anything you need to know that will affect your current pregnancy. The other thing that helped me was having the bereavement midwife there to advocate for me - so she asked all the questions I wanted to ask and cut him off if he was going into too much detail about things I didn't need to know.

Fox glad the bleeding has stopped and bugs i will be thinking of you this morning at your scan.

I have 12 week scan tomorrow and terrified. Convinced it's already gone because:
a) My stomach not big at all lying down
b) I had 2 days of needing to wee all the time then nothing
c) I had a sudden horrific worsening of MS last week - thinking maybe the placenta stopped working and my body tried to take over and couldn't
d) I'm not bruising that much at my injection sites, nowhere near as much as last time - I'm assuming that the drugs are not working properly.

I wish I could not think like this but also I don't want false hope. No cramping or bleeding which is obviously positive, and last time my baby was in trouble I knew straight away....

nearlyreadytopop · 17/03/2014 10:03

bugger lots of positive thoughts for you this morning.

I'm in two minds about the appointment. 2/3 of the results were back ages ago and were normal. We are just waiting on the karyotyping results. As for the post mortem, that mc still haunts me and even though we buried the ashes it would be nice for it all to be over.
I feel really glum today, it feels like forever until my midwife appointment on Friday and I'm terrified there will be no hb.
I have avoided dr Google but I think I need to find out just what my chances are of success. My doctor says there is no reason why not but I'm not so sure. This will sound horrible but in a way it would be easier to know if the late mc baby did have a problem that caused the mc.

juniorcakeoff · 17/03/2014 10:09

It doesn't sound horrible at all pop. I hoped it was the baby not me and was devastated when I found out it was my body that had failed a perfectly healthy baby. Are you having counselling through this pregnancy? There are a lot of issues for you to deal with as well as the anxiety about your current pregnancy. There is nothing worse than not knowing, just one of those things..for me late MC is so rare that they ought to know what causes it every time. I know they can't but still...