RM OCTOBER 2014 thread - Today we are pregnant

[TinyTear]

Hi
This is a thread for people due in October with past miscarriage issues, so we don't scare the 'regular' October people and we don't annoy the RM thread with our pregnancy talk...

TinyTear MC May 2010, MC June 2010, MC November 2010, DD Jan 2012, MC October 2013 ADD 6th October

Ur so kind fedup! That gave me a good laugh. And I was in the mood for laughing a few mins ago losing a phone fall-out with DH over this! So thanks for cheering me up!!

Tayto on a light general, they'll usually send you home the same day but you need someone to take you in case you faint etc'. Hope you find someone!

Glad to hear it!

Just rearranged my 12 wk scan date. 8.35 on Friday 4 April. DH going to Ireland that lunch time so kind of counting on it being good news or I won't want him to go.

It was on Wednesday but DH said he had am awards event to go to. Can't believe I have to change everything around him!

Really sorry deus, horrible witch. Tayto hope you get someone to come with you.
Has anyone continued to have acupuncture in first 12 weeks. I had two sessions one in Dec one in Jan. Wondering whether to go back. My danger zone seems to be between 7-10 weeks as that is when baby has gone in the three mmc. was thinking it might help to have a couple of sessions during this time, I know nothing can stop a pregnancy from failing if that's what it is meant to do but thought it might help a bit with anxiety. I also can claim money back through simply health so wouldn't cost me anything.

Sorry deus is on another thread!! Doh!!

My scan was good today. I was so worked up that I basically cried the whole way through The doctor was lovely and very reassuring. The last time I got this far I ended up with ds so I will add that to my list of positive thoughts.
Next stop 16 week check up.
Hope everyone else is doing ok?

Yay to good scan nearly that's great news! I cried through mine too this week so I can identify with that!

bugs my boobs are full and sore one minute then normal and more saggy and not sore at the next (boobs never really recovered after first child so aren't the most full anymore anyway!) spent ages prodding them too.

It's so hard not to read in to everything isn't it. I can't even take my own advice, I'm a nutty symptom analyser.

Haven't left the house all day for feeling so rough. Pleased the day is coming to an end so I can go to bed! Pizza then bed at 8 for me tonight. Rock n roll!

Ps pickle I've never had acupuncture so can't commet!!

I've just found this thread and am delighted!

I'm 9wks+2.

I have one DC (3), 1 mc before then and have had 1 mmc and 1mc since having DC. Having a really bad day today. Generally feeling sick and tired but today no nausea, which of course I've managed to convince myself is bad news.

I have finally managed to book first appointment with MW after MUCH time spent trying to get through on the phone. It's next Thursday. I'm hoping she's going to be sympathetic to my request for a scan the following week - more like 11 weeks than 12. With DC, I didn't get a first scan until 14 weeks which felt like an eternity then I totally disagreed with the due date (and went well overdue).

pickle I had lots of acupuncture before my successful pregnancy and some before this one and 2 sessions since I found out, so I think it's OK. Acupuncturist just said that there are a few points that they avoid, but generally it's fine. I find it very relaxing and restorative, so that can't be a bad thing!

JBird I meant to say - my appetite is ridiculous, but then sometimes I sit down to the meal and only get halfway through it, then I just can't face it. I have also gone off cooking too.

I have huge sweet cravings but am trying to be 'good' and not indulge too much. (She says just having eaten a piece of chocolate- Ha!)

Hi I'm coming over from the October thread... Had a scan tonight which was inconclusive, I was supposed to be 8+3 based on lmp... All we could see with internal scan was a yolk sac :( thinking this probably means a miscarriage, however I haven't had any bleeding apologies if this isn't the place I can post but not sure where to go, they said I could just be a lot earlier than I thought I just don't think this is possible... Anyone else had this before?

Thank you

Wobbly day (supposed to be 14 weeks today). Last scan 10 days ago and that reassurance has worn off. 11 days till next scan and it feels like a lifetime away. Am so glad I haven't announced it as feeling so down about everything and feel like people will expect me to be excited. This is torture. I have realised that I had convinced myself that I was never going to have a baby. We had even talked about adoption. Just can't get my head around things. Am lucky to be getting this extra scan but not sure how I will manage till the one after- 5 weeks later. I feel like I need one every week to keep my spirits up. My hubby thinks I am mad. He is so chilled now we have got past the 12w and so far past other miscarriages. I just can't think like that x

hiya milly i undertand where you are coming from, my reassurance is wearing off a little also, so much so that I have gone against my original plan and bought a doppler which should be here tomorrow. i am going to use it until the baby starts to move at which point I will get rid of the doppler.
If you find yourself feeling especially low have you looked at the actual reasons why you think something has gone wrong? Sometimes looking at the situation with a logical head helps I have found. If there is no reason why you would feel that something bad has happened, then it pretty much hasn't.

Have you considered investing in a reassurance scan during that 5 week period you will need to wait. Would be worth the money I think.
So you tell me what you are worried about and I will tell you. You an PM me if you like or can put it on here.
I have a worry that I am starting to feel more normal again, my boobs hurt still off and on but I am not having any cramping. Other than that I have no reason to think anything has gone wrong. So, it probably hasn't. xx

HI Blue I am sorry to read you had an inconclusive scan, its awful being in limbo. When is your next scan?

Blue sorry to hear you had a scan like that. As others have said it can mean a problem, but sometimes everything ends up OK. It's the waiting for the next scan that is sooo scary. :( FX for you.

Milly tell be about it! Just the same. The world (well, immediate fam and the docs) are all like "you've passed a big milestone whoo!" and I'm still worrying. Can you afford a private scan? "For pictures" if you don't want to seem too worried to DH.

Milly I hear ya! It is such a roller coaster, one day up, the next day rock-bottom. Wouldn't it be great if we were offered weekly scans... Just to keep you going.
Could you sit down your DH and explain how you are feeling and why a bit more 'forcefully'? Men just don't get it, I'm afraid. Or perhaps tell a RL friend? I find that just talking about it all sometimes really helps. Of course you can let it all out on here! Hope you feel better soon.
If you're 14 weeks, then it's only 2 weeks until you see the mw and get to listen to the heartbeat, though, does that help a bit?

blueberry Sorry you didn't get more reassurance, the limbo is horrible, isn't it? I wish I could say something more comforting, but I've been there and know what it's like. Did they measure your HcG levels? That might be a bit more informative. Hope you'll get some answers soon.

I feel so yuck today, why is it always worse at weekends?! I want to do stuff! Our garden really needs some tlc, but I'm not sure I can face it... Ugh.
We're flying out to visit my mum next week, really hope I'll be able to share the news with her then.

No they never took any bloods to measure HCG, my sister is student midwife no where near me sadly but she said they should have and then retested suday to see if levels are increasing still, sonographer said go to drs and hopefully get rescanned Wednesday however she did say they may make me wait until my 12 week scan :(

Hugs blue - is there an EPU near you that you can self-refer to? The limbo seems very unfair.

I had my biggest meltdown last (healthy) pregnancy at the 16wk midwife check, when she refused to listen for a heartbeat (in case she couldn't hear one) and told me off for asking her to I was distraught.

Trying to just get on with life is getting really tough, here. I haven't dared ring (sit and listen to the engaged tone) the midwives to book in, yet; I can't face being given a 12wk scan date that is ages away. Which I know is daft as the sooner I'm in the system the sooner the scan date is likely to be.

Unless I have a bleed they won't do anything... Suppose it's something to think positive about that I haven't had that though

Thanks ladies. Thinking logically nothing has changed but I still just don't feel pregnant and just look fat! My best friend is pregnant (first time baby too) and she is happily announcing it to the world. I feel so differently to her. I admit I am jealous. Confused about the 16w midwife check. My hospital said I didn't need a community midwife as they were looking after everything but only seen the midwife once then again at 20 week scan. Do I need to get a community midwife as well?

tum let me know how you get on with the Doppler. I have considered it but think I would become obsessed with it.
Have looked into private scanning and there is a place 5 mins from me that does 3d scanning for £40 midweek. If all is ok at the next scan 16w think I might have one about 18w.
My hubby doesn't want one though. Some stupid consultant said that I couldn't have any more scans as they don't know the damage it could do to the baby! My hubby is now set against having anymore than necessary!!!!

Nice to talk on here as feel like no one else quite gets where I am coming from- although they try x

shire pick up the phone and mad the appointment. You will then have something to countdown to. Try to get a morning one. I struggle with afternoon ones x

That should say make not mad. Maybe I should try pushing the preview message button ;)