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January 2014 Thread 16 - More babies arrive or we make delicious lasagnes whilst we wait

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enormouse · 15/01/2014 11:27

Here you go - New thread! (Procrastinating wildly)

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alteredimages · 28/01/2014 04:51

Hello

Congratulations on all the new babies, and sorry to hear so many of us are having a rough time. Things here are fine but eventful. Been weaning LO off nipple shields, DD has vomiting and fever which won't go down, and emptying flat for bed bug treatment. The problem is back so the council people are coming yo sort it out and I have a two page preparation list to complete today, when I am not bfing (I'm always bfing) or looking after DD. DH is on antibiotics for an abcess and seems to think he is in imminent danger of dying. Feeling strangely ok about it all though.

frizz forgot to thank you last week for your reassuring.post about jaundice. Made me feel loads better. LO had an appt at the hospital last week and it had increased from 150 to 220 so we have a check up on thurs to see if levels are going down again. If not, phototherapy. Also got appt for bcg vaccination tomorrow.

LO's cord still attached at four weeks. Health centre not worried, just say it looks fine and is close to dropping. Any other babies holding out? I know it is supposed to be "not good" but apart from making baths a pain it seems fine.

sultana so sorry you're having a rough time of it. I was really stressed with DD who didn't sleep or eat and I really felt I had lost my mind. I agree with those who say no one will judge you for giving up bfing. Breastmilk is great, but a healthy happy mum is more important. There are certain herbs and foods that dry up milk, will look fpr a link. Only thing I would say though is that if you have a blocked duct, it.will only unblock with feeding or expressing.

Hope everyone still waiting gets lovely squishy baby cuddles soon.

I am majorly jealous of the fb group but sadly don't have fb.Sad

alteredimages · 28/01/2014 05:17

sultana here are some articles on drying up milk supply. HTH. Brew and Cake.

Pidgy · 28/01/2014 05:31

Hello!
Can I rejoin please?! I was on some of the very early threads back when I was 8-13 or so weeks.
I'm not sure if you remember me but I had the burst appendix at 9 weeks and resulting infection etc.

Well..I made it through and held on to the baby!
Have been lurking for a while and was reading this thread at 9.50pm on Tuesday 14th Jan when my waters broke!!

My birth was a bit of a whirlwind to say the least.
9.50 - waters broke.
10 - called hospital & told to come in for check, and then called my mum to come up to look after DS.
11.40 - left for hospital (10 mins drive) - having period pains.
12.20 - remember being on monitor havin contractions every 2-3 mins.
12.30 - examined and told only 1cm so go home. :-(
12.45 - after midwife faffed around booking me in for an induction and arguing with me that I wasn't in labour and shouldn't stay, we left. Contractions every minute.
1.00 - get home. Felt urge to push in car and shout to my mum that I either need a big poo or I need to push. She laughs then face drops as she realises I'm not joking.
DH tells her I'm in a but if a state and can she calm me down as I think I need to push (the dick!).
Get to bathroom and can feel the head! It's inly at this point DH takes me seriously! He calls ambulance and gets towels.
Have to push a few times and then my mum can see the head.
Probably do about 4 pushes and the head comes out. Remember thinking that there wasn't way for us to know if my baby was in distress so I knew I just had to go for it. I could feel ripping but figured that was the lesser of 2 evils and I just wanted a healthy baby.
We then see the cord is around the neck and it couldn't be moved so I did another big push and out slides my baby girl into my mums arms. I'm standing so she had to catch her in a towel. She didn't breath straight away so my mum is rubbing her and hitting her foot and clearing her mouth (999 instructions but luckily my mum is addicted to zone born every minute so claims she had seen it on there!). She then starts crying and the realisation what we've done hits us!!

Completely not what I'd planned but outcome is what mattered!! A healthy baby girl, 8lb,2oz. Lara Elizabeth.

I don't want to lose this message (lost one a few days back!) and she is finally sleeping in her Moses basket so I really should sleep too.

Been having a but of a tough time too sometimes, but lots of positives too. It's so up and down !!! Will be back to write more and say personal hellos/responses later. (Prob in 30 mins when Lara wakes again!!).
So tired tho should make use of this sleep time.

alteredimages · 28/01/2014 07:46

Congratulations pidgy and good to have you back!

That is quite a birth story! I am v impressed with your quick thinking and composure. I hope the MW feels really stupid and you get some answers as to why she made the decision she did. My birth story was v similar, although mercifully without being sent home. 5cm and pushing, thinking I was pooing myself, baby born with cord round his neck. Well done! I am in complete awe of you.

TobyLerone · 28/01/2014 08:01

Wow, pidgy, that's quite the story! Glad everything turned out ok :)

altered, Meredith's cord didn't come off for over 2 weeks. The mw wasn't concerned, but she couldn't discharge me from mw care until it was off. She suggested soaking it off in the bath (we hadn't bathed her up to that point), and it came off within a couple of days.

Mythreeknights · 28/01/2014 08:52

pigdy you are a hero...the pushing stage was so overwhelming for me that had the midwives not been at home with me I would have seriously panicked. You are very very brave, talk about having to go with the flow!

MrsVDB · 28/01/2014 09:16

pidgy I remember you. An eventful pregnancy and birth! Well done. Sounds like you handled it extremely well. I agree on getting answers from midwife. Our hospital has said that while they may suggest you go home if you want to stay there you can so I know I'll be one of those camped out from 1cm!!

Sultanajo · 28/01/2014 09:24

Thanks again everyone and for the links altered.

Pidgy omg! Your birth story brought a tear to my eye! Amazing! Congratulations!

Day one of bottles only went we'll and day two has started positively! Just finishing expressing for the morning and about to go to the health visitor and then potentially round to see NCT friends.... The swing chair I ordered for Henry also arrived so looking forward to trying that to see if he will nap in it so I can actually get stuff done....

Pidgy · 28/01/2014 09:50

Morning! Though day and night is merging into one!!

To be honest, the most stressful time was walking to the car as I felt the contractions were v painful and I wasn't sure how I'd cope if this 'wasn't labour'. I suspect that was transition as I couldn't bare my husband to touch me but couldn't quite get the words out in a nice way to tell him.

It was probably a whole lot worse for my mum and DH as I think once I was home I was just resigned to the fact she would be born at home! I had a lot of thoughts afterwards such as 'what if something had gone wrong', 'what if id been more insistent that I needed to stay'. But, it is what it is.

The midwife that sent me home was the midwife that had to attend an hour or so after the birth. She was very sheepish and apologetic.

She really should have asked about my first labour - very slow latent stage but once it kicked off it was quick and DS was born about 3 hours after arriving at hospital. Also, I never realised you could go from 1 to 10cm in 20-30 mins which is what must have happened. So much for 1cm per hour!

We might write a complaint letter but not sure. I actually had to go back in on saturday night due to severe cramping and temp of 39c. I'm more angry about what happened here. Turns out I have an endometrial infection. They wanted to discharge me at 2.30am once ab were sorted. I said my husband couldn't pick me up as he was with our 20 month old DS so they got me a taxi number and told me to phone that. I really wasn't willing to trek home with a 10 day old, on a freezing cold night whilst feeling ill so told them I'd go in the morning.
Am I over reacting, or is that a pretty mean thing to expect me to do in the circumstances?

Anyway, enough about me!

Re: lumps in breast when stopping feeding. When I stopped with my son I had this. I called a helpline and they said be careful it doesn't turn into mastitis. Advise was to get a hot flannel on the area, take ibuprofen before hand, massage and pump until it's gone as it's a sign of a blocked duct. My pump had been put in the loft so my son had one last feed!! He he!

littleray - I remember you from the May 2012 group! Didn't post much on there but recall you were expecting your second. Hope you don't have to wait much longer for number 3!

MrsVDB - just right! Stick by your guns. Wish I had! I'm usually quite forthright but she caught me at my most vulnerable and even DH didn't back me up so I just went with her 'medical expertise'!

Angelesque · 28/01/2014 10:02

Pidgy woah, what an amazing birth story! Excellent work! I think I'd have completely panicked if I'd been in your situation... Amazing you stayed so calm and focused!

Sultana good luck w/ first day of bottles only... Fx it makes things much easier and happier!

fryingpantoface · 28/01/2014 10:36

oh my pidgy well done!

I realised I didn't give my birth story, it's not nearly as exciting as Pidgy's though!

As you know, I was admitted on Sunday 6th to be induced. The pessary went in at 1am, nothing happened. The second one went in Tuesday morning at 3.30 and that started pessary contractions. They were so painful I cried and worried about how I'd cope in labour.

Wednesday morning they checked and the mw said I was 3cm dilated and at some point i'd be going to the labour ward to have my waters broken. She told me to call DH and tell him i'd definitely be moved down there before 8am but they weren't sure what time. At 3.30am I was taken down to the delivery suite and I called DH to come in. I had a lovely chat with the midwife Anna about what I wanted to happen. She explained that even though I had to be hooked up to the monitor once they break my waters, I can still be active. The room was lovely btw, really big, en-suite with a bath in the actual room. I explained I didn't want Gas and Air because it had no use last time and I didn't want an epidural, but I would take pethidene if needed. She really listened to me when I said I'd try breastfeeding, but I wasn't going to stress if the baby didn't take to it, we'd formula feed. She agreed it was a good way to think about things.

At 4:20, before DH got there, my waters were broken. It was a really odd feeling! There was so much water. DH got there at 4.25 and we were told I'd have to be hooked up to the monitor for an hour to see if labour starts naturally, Anna arranged for me to be taken off the monitor for a bit after that so I could move (turns out that didn't happen) We joked about needing to have the baby before her shift finished at 8, ideally she said the baby would be here at 6:30 so then she could do her paperwork. Cue much laughter!

I was contracting a bit but nothing regularly so the mw said I wasn't actually in labour, that It would be a while. At 5 she had to attach a monitor to the baby's head because he wasn't in a good angle to keep the monitor on him. At 5:20 I said it was beginning to feel like I should be pushing. I'd been standing up all of those so far, or on the ball. She checked at 5.25 and I was 6cm. She told me I'd actually been at 2cm when she broke my waters. She left the room to go get a cup of tea and I had an overwhelming urge to push. I told DH and we pressed the buzzer. As she was coming back in she brought another midwife with her. She stood next to me trying to help me breath through the pushing urge, then realised I was still pushing without contracting.

I got on the bed (v painful, the baby was v v low) and then she said I could push. So I did. When the head came out I was shocked and kept saying "shitting hell.... Shitting hell". One tiny push later and he popped out, the force of all the water behind him pushed him out!

As I never had regular contractions they couldn't say when I was in labour. So they had to record I was in labour at 5:25 when I was 6cm, and Henry was born at 5:40. One v tiny 2nd degree tear. She didn't have time to get the delivery kit together because I was only in the room just over an hour.

So that's my story! I laboured with codine and paracetamol (which did nothing for me, it never does! But I knew If I wanted the harder stuff later I'd need to play the game)

Although I was induced, which wasn't fun, and I couldn't have the labour I wanted in the birthing suite, I can honestly say it was the labour I wanted. I was able to be active, and I felt listened to and supported. Brilliant stuff

fryingpantoface · 28/01/2014 10:36

Oh, he was born 8 Jan.

Sorry that was long!

MrsVDB · 28/01/2014 10:54

That's reassuring frying I'm feeling a bit sad about the thought of not being able to go to mlu and birthing pool due to induction

fryingpantoface · 28/01/2014 11:03

mrs if you talk to the mw they will be really understanding. Mine checked with the dr i could go off monitor for a bit, ask yours if she will check, so i could walk around the room etc.

Naturegirl82 · 28/01/2014 11:35

hello not been able to catch up properly, still getting used to having the little one home. Hope everyone is ok and any new arrivals are doing well.

Just a quick question. Has anyone used the nct bednest? We are going to order one today as Olivia isn't settling in her moses basket and wondered if anyone had any experience?

Frizz1986 · 28/01/2014 11:36

Wow pidgy amazing story and am in awe of your coping like that. I dont think i could have.
I think they lie about 1cm an hour too sometimes as i went from 6cm to baby out in 40mins (and it was my first)

frying thats a really good story and a great positive for anyone being induced. Shows it can be a good positive labour.

altered i am glad i helped. Aurelias went up to 285 which is when she got admitted. It really wasnt a bad experience going in for the phototherapy now i look back. We had a lot of waiting before she was under the lights (which was annoying as they had told us to go in as they had done the blood tests already so dont get why they werent ready for us) She wasnt bothered about being under them at all, but there was more waiting for blood tests as after the level had gone down she needed 6hrs away from the lights before more tests. I obv had to stay in as i am bfeeding so we were away from dh too.
I think i just suffered emotionally because it was so soon after leaving hospital for the tear (and my plan never involved a night in hospital to start with) and my family were up to visit (they live 180 miles away so i knew they wouldnt see my baby much) and we were away from dh.
It was all worth it though and think my issues were all hormone related!

Have had aurelias blood tests back today as well and her jaundice has gone down to 140 now she is 5 weeks old. They are happy enough that its still dropping that we dont have to have any more tests. Yay.

Thought i had hv today but alas she has not arrived and she has only written the time on my app sheet, not the date so i clearly got the date wrong. Must make sure i am ready everybsay for 10am in case she arrives!

Angelesque · 28/01/2014 11:59

Nature know you have stacks on your plate so please ignore until you have a few mins (ha ha) but remembered you were trying hypnobirthing for this one - just wanted to find out if it helped at all and if so if you had any wisdom to share? I've done a course so hoping to hypnobirth DC1 when he/she deigns to arrive...

On NCT bednest I haven't used but a friend has massively recommended - there's also a decent discount on right now if you order before end Jan I think?

Felix90 · 28/01/2014 12:19

Nature we have a bednest. Sylvie has never slept well in it which is why we got the cocoonababy and she now sleeps very well! She'll only fit in it up to 3 months so I'm hoping she will sleep in the bednest once she's grown out of it. I haven't tried her in it for about a week and a half so not sure if she would sleep in it now. It's great though as you can literally just scoop baby up and move them across to feed in the night and you're right next to them if they need comforting/settling.

If you do get it, the crib sheets from John Lewis fit the mattress perfectly and are a lot cheaper than the ones NCT sell.

Angelesque · 28/01/2014 12:24

Felix we've borrowed a Sleepyhead from friends who swore by it for the first few months - think it's prob v similar to your Cocoonababy. Will let you know how we get on once little one arrives...

TobyLerone · 28/01/2014 12:32

MrsV, I've been induced with all of mine and it's really not that bad, honestly!

This time my waters broke at 40+3 and I was thrilled because I thought I'd avoided induction finally. Then, when I hadn't got further than 3cm after more than 24 hours, they put me on the drip. I had an epidural, which I really didn't want because when I had one with DS (14 years ago) I was completely immobile, catheterised etc.
But this one was amazing. I could still walk, change position, feel contractions and even go for a wee!

Went from 3cm to fully dilated in 4 hours, and pushed her out kneeling over the back of the bed in about 5 contractions. It was great!

So although induction isn't what most of us would choose, and as much as I was really disappointed I couldn't use the MLU, it was nowhere near as bad as I'd feared :)

umbrella · 28/01/2014 12:42

hi I am a lurker to I'm umbrella my little girl was born on Jan 15th via emergency section. I've been reading the posts for sometime just been to nervous to post. I would love to join the facebook page as all your stories of coping with pregnancy and life with newborn is keeping me sane:-) is there a link to join the fb group

fryingpantoface · 28/01/2014 13:09

Hi umbrella! Never be too scared to post, i think it helps we all have similar amounts of crazy. If you pm me your details I'll try and add you to the group

Felix90 · 28/01/2014 13:18

Hi umbrella and congrats!

Frizz1986 · 28/01/2014 13:41

Hi umbrella and congratulations. Never be afraid to post. We are all here to listen and help.

Pidgy · 28/01/2014 15:13

bunt that's a nice name. Would you shorten to Zac? (Which is also nice IMO). What other names are you toying with?

Hi umbrella.

frying yours sounds v quick too. Your midwife sounds lovely.

We also have a cocoonababy but all Lara wants to do is feed at night or she waits until I've finally got her to sleep and does a big poo. So then I have to change her which wakes her. Last night got the grand total of 3 hours sleep in 3 shifts. So tiring! Not sure how long you can survive on that amount of sleep!
I have been trying to nap in the day though which is boosting it a bit.

I think I'm becoming a bit obsessed with sleep! What I'd
do for 8 hours solid. Or even 4 hours solid!! :-)