Martians 2014 Thread 15: D-Day is on the horizon

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Shiny new fred.

I come to check in and thread 14 was full so did the honours. Roll up.

Thanks for welcome Yogi and everyone. Yogi how stressful for you hope meds are doing their job x

(Are kisses unmumsnetty?!)

My pregnancy app proudly told me yesterday that at 35 weeks my weight gain (considerable and then some) has "reached its peak" - oh good that makes me feel so much better!

TFI Friday here - I officially have 15 working days left! What's everyone up to this weekend?

How are you holding up yogi ? Did they give you anything fir UTI?

Welcome newbie. Come join us in the final leg eek!

I have a AIBU query...
OH sister in law last month sent a Facebook request.

Now I had no intention of accepting as we have a civil relationship at best and she's one of those that constantly moans and posts every minute of her day.
Oh got the hump and said it was etiquette/good manners to accept because she's family. So I said I would and have 'just never got round to it'

He was posting some photos the other day on my account (I told him to) and in the process accepted her friend request.

I had a huge go at him for doing this because I think he crossed the line. His response "well you did say you were going to accept her".
my response "yes but when i was ready and put her in a group as I didn't want her to see certain things. "

Now I don't know what to do because im not a typical poster and know she'll get upset if I don't reply/acknowledge all her posts. Which in turn could make things awkward.

So ive 'unfriended' her AIBU?

lib I'm sure you'll cope with the fall out, she may be pissed off just blame baby brain!
if you end having to friend her turn of her notifications then you don't need to suffer her misery!

lib it's your Facebook, it's entirely up to you what you do with it, she's OH's family not yours!

Welcome flump I'm on the final countdown too (finishing in 3 weeks - around the same as you). Hope the antibiotics are kicking in yogi. Not sure if I can help you with your dilemma lib as I am clueless when it comes to social media etiquette (and have probably pissed off a fair few people myself by not 'liking' their photos/posts or replying....not deliberately, just can't be online 24/7 and don't have one of those fancy phones). Maybe now that you've 'un'friended her just leave things as they are then if there is a huge fallout blame the preggo brain as already suggested. With any luck she might be one of those people who sends out friend requests to absolutely everyone she's ever known so she might not even notice that you're no longer appearing on her friend-list.
In other news I'm getting a right good kicking from the bump tonight and proper little fists (or feet?) pushing up and sticking out. At one point thought he was going to burst out alien-style .
Going to get baby clothes/muslins/sling etc out of attic tomorrow to start washing (nesting). What's everyone else up to??

Thanks Flump, Lib, Pain

I'm so glad the you unfriended her, Lib. Sounds like trouble and probably just wanting a good nose round your business. Just remember to smile sweetly, look blank and mutter something about how you don't really bother with FB anymore.

Ooohh hadn't thought of playing the pregnancy card! Excellent thanks dizhin yogi puggy pain that s genius.

flump I have 2 weeks to go too, can't wait to start mat leave

Sleeping is like that kids game where you have to load the donkey with stuff without setting it off.. 1 pillow here 1 pillow there. Twinge in the hip or bladder goes. Then you throw everything out the way and tart all over again

3 weeks till mat leave woohoo, 1 more week of being signed off - got my physio referral for this Friday, then 2 more weeks if work left!

Sleep is definitely elusive now,it's a never ending quest to get comfortable.

I don't officially start mat leave til the end of the month but I'm working from home most of the time now.

I tried 3 days a week last week and it was still too tiring.

I will be on the sofa watching the Olympics in my pjs giving my laptop the occasional glance from tomorrow

Just got back from pub lunch with DH. Am now exhausted, only walked up the road and back!

5 more days of work, one week of hols then mat leave starts!! Parent's evenings Mon and Tues night, but after that should be fairly plain sailing.

Trying to gather strength to do a few household jobs. Good news is we are having a cleaner when I go back to work!!!

My friends organised me a surprise baby shower yesterday which was so lovely. I was so shocked!

Two weeks two days to go at work for me.

Pain, piggy, mrsm, owlina, commsgirl - so glad I'm not the only one on countdown for mat leave! Am doing 4 days with 5th day "from home" from this week ;) - just trying to get over my cold as well as playing the sleeping game so am determined to start to wind down now.

Sadly all baby equipment and new born clothes are in our loft (our Dd is 3) as we still haven't finished the decorating, so I have no-where to fold / stack / refold / hang lovely clean mini things. Commsgirl lovely if your colleagues :) hope you got some nice bits

Hello everyone, hope you all had a good weekend. Spent mine listening to DH assemble more furniture, and got properly started on getting my hospital bag together.

First day of maternity leave for me, yes, I started a bit early but since (technically) DC could be full term by next week I didn't fancy leaving it any longer.

Morning all, apologies for going quiet on you, eventually a hot bath f=got him moving again, and then had to go in to hospital on Saturday as I started having contractions.

Thankfully after a few tests and monitoring me overnight i was released yesterday as they don't think I'll go into labour anytime soon, just need to keep taking pain killers for the contractions and see if they ramp back up again.

Morning all. Glad you are ok MTB.

Is everyone else organised now? I'm still living in a horders paradise and it's driving me mad, can't wait for my referral on Friday, hopefully after sine physio I might be able to attack the clutter!

Congratulations on the mat leave Dita!

Waves at Flump

Oh MTB how stressful! Glad you're back home now. Look after yourself.

Hope you are OK MTB

I have good intentions about sorting out our accumulated clutter now that I'm on maternity leave but then tend to run out of energy halfway through, leaving piles of half-sorted stuff lying around which look worse than before!

Hope you are not too uncomfortable MTB.

My parents are coming this weekend and have kindly offered us some loft space (we don't have one - ground floor flat) so we now have boxes of crap everywhere that will probably never see the light of day again waiting to go back to their house to store as we clear space in our spare room for the little one.

I'm not even on official mat leave yet, still technically working from home but i hear you Imeg on running out of steam half way through the day! Yesterday I crashed and burned for a nap at 4pm and didn't get half the stuff I wanted to do done. Everything is such an effort. Hats off to everyone with DC already I literally do not know how you do it.

Hope all the rest of you ladies are holding up ok?

What's everyone up to today?

Day 3 of mat leave for me. Done the batch cooking, swimming and online admin faff, now what? Perhaps I'd better get that blooming bag packed seeing as I'm 38 weeks today!

Have a good day Martians x

Morning all. Given in and taken time out to see dentist and doctor. - anything to stop flu /sinus/tooth pain and help with sleeping. Also asked for more help at work and cut down to 4 days. Going to try and plan something nice - maybe pedicure and a haircut - otherwise I am going to get even more miserly!! Have a good day xx

I'm actually in the office today as had to come in to use printer in here - I feel exhausted but I think I'll be taking myself off home for the afternoon.

Still unsure of baby's position - although something has changed as my rib pain has abated and there are lots of movements at the top. Good signs I think. I would love to go in and have a midwife have a feel to see what they think as my next appointment isn't for another 9 days and I don't want to be doing breech tilts if baby is head down - anyone ever done this? Will they tell me to do one and wait for appt?

When are you due mrs?

If you're experiencing lots of discomfort (rather than aches and pains that feel more 'par for the course' at this stage), then I'd have thought your MW would fit you in, certainly at this late stage.

If you aren't actually in that much discomfort but it is more than you are worried about the position then I'd say leave it - baby can still be turning round a lot.

No discomfort (other than the normal) more just that it's not recommended to do the breech tilt type exercises if baby is not actually breech - I have another 9 days to wait for a routine appointment that could be 9 more days of trying to turn baby if still breech or 9 days of fucking it up if it has flipped head down. I'm 35+2 today.

It definitely has moved, I just can't tell for sure what position it is in now compared to how it was last week - elbows could be knees or shoulders, head could be bum. Who knows?

I know everyone says babies can turn late etc... but it is quite nerve wracking at this late stage to not know for sure what position your baby is in and if you'll be able to have a natural birth.

I'd wait Mrs - otherwise chances are that you would have an appointment now instead of the one in 9 days, not as well as, so even if baby is head down now you will be worrying about it again in a week or 2. When was your last appointment and what position was baby in then? Of it's any help, my DS flipped from breech when I was about 34 weeks last pregnancy (if I remember the dates right) and it made me throw up where he booted me in all my organs, so I'm fairly sure you would notice if baby had changed so dramatically!