January 2014 Thread 15-More babies to come

[Naturegirl82]

Went to post on the other thread and it was full! Hope people find this one ok.

Eek lots happening! Good luck everyone

I got about 5 hours undisturbed sleep last night and I feel amazing! Also felt quite smug when I woke up to OH complaining how tired and stressed he was from trying to get her to settle. After his rant yesterday about leaving her in the crib and not putting her on my chest to sleep as she will 'get used to it', guess what he did last night? Put her on his chest to sleep just so he could get an hours sleep. IN YOUR FACE OH!!!! I'm so glad he now understands what I have to battle through every night whilst he snores away next to me!

Toby, Meredith is a gorgeous name!!

toby what a lovely name

And welcome cake

Lol felix Nice that he now gets how hard it is.

I had a tough night last night. Aurelia woke every 3hrs to feed (woke herself and everything) which is good but i think i was just feeling very drained and wasn't in the state of mind to be feeding etc. Just was rather frustrated with myself and with dh.
I know he loves her but when she cries in an evening he assumes she wants feeding so doesn't do anything and leaves it all to me. He only changes her nappy when i ask him to..... I know its because its all so new to us both and as he works in the day, he is tired when he gets home and I have had more chance to learn faster as I am with her all day.
I ended up waking him last night when I couldn't settle her as I just needed some support and a break as atm its me doing everything. Am looking forward to the weekend when he should be able to take charge a bit as sometimes she just wants a hug not boob!

Toby congrats on your girl beautiful name too.

I feel like I'm the only pregnant one left with all this baby talk haha cmoooon baby. Midwife coming here soon I'm bouncing on my ball to get the head down in prep for a sweep.

Hi everyone - been away for a bit as been trying to get an essay finished but it's almost done.

Toby I love the name, it's beautiful.

cake welcome!

another jealous of the good weather. It's foul over here.

felix well done on getting a good night's sleep.

Good luck to everyone having inductions. Hope you're all favourable. I'm only a tiny bit jealous.

Went for a check up yesterday and everything looks fine. Baby isn't engaged but I know it's pretty common. Having seen how much pain I'm in the MW has finally referred me to the physio but it's likely I won't get to that appointment if the baby has other ideas.

Am just frustrated and in pain all the time. Dp still isn't quite pulling his weight. Despite knowing I can't do much he's gone to work without tidying up after himself or bringing ds downstairs. Have now pulled my leg muscles carrying Ds downstairs and can't move. I've phoned dp and asked him to come home early as I can't look after Ds in this state.

Ds is as lively as ever and bouncing away on me.

Oh humpty you poor thing. I can only imagine how frustrating it is to go over by so much. I am 39 +1 today and other than the most horrendous night sweats (had to change pjs and pillow cases overnight) nothing going on with me.

Thank you to all who have commented about dodgy moles...well,apparently the thing on my back is a seborrheic keratosis...not a melanoma, phew! It's right under my bra strap though so I have asked for a referral to have it removed. Also being over cautious as melanomas can develop within them and I am not taking that risk.

Good luck and much envy to those who are contracting or waters broken, squidgy babies coming your way soon. If anything I would say my BHs have slowed completely over the last week, I almost seem to be going into reverse...is Benjamin button growing in my womb?

Other news...my dm called this morning...a full six weeks since she stormed out of our house and this is first phone contact...I was running out of he door to get to the gp so she's calling back at lunch,but maybe baby will come after that phone call and potentially resolving all our ridiculous issues. Hmmm.

Hi all, and hello to newbies :)

Baby boy still has no name here! He's scrummy though, despite being almost entirely nocturnal. He fed every hour last night, and the night before, so I'm feeling a bit inside out. Is anyone else suffering with after pains? I don't remember them from first time round, but they are so strong, like real contractions when I'm feeding. Maybe my body is just making up for the lack of stitches by giving me some other reminder of it.

Plan for today is to stay in bed, and possibly head out to the shops for nursing bras. They were on my shopping list for before he arrived, which I didn't quite get around to finishing :) we need to find the address for ambulance control too, so we can send a card to the lovely operator who talked DP through it!

Frizz I highly recommend chucking your DH in at the deep end this weekend and getting him to do the night shift like I did last night! Do you have a pump so you could express some milk to give you a break? They really don't understand how hard it is until they actually have to do it themselves. I could slap my OH every night when he doesn't even stir when Sylvie is screaming the house down!

Enormouse grrr at him I hope he can come home early and take over as it's not fair when you're in so much pain!

enjoying please tell us more about your birth story...I am v interested as I am planning a home birth but wonder whether in the event I will freak out and end up in hospital anyhow.

Mythree good thing you got checked out anyway! Hope it's not too long until baby time for you!

Enjoying I feel you with the nocturnal thing! I think the pains you're getting is your womb/uterus contracting back in to shape when you bf. I get them sometimes but not very strong.

felix he came about half an hour ago and took ds out, tidied up and made me a cup of tea.

frizz I know I grump quite a bit about my dp atm but he was amazing in those very early days. When I got up to feed ds in the night he would get up too and stick a DVD on and watch it with me - the fact that he was willing to keep me company meant so much. And then do he changing and let ds sleep on him. Would your DP be willing to do that?

enjoying sounds like a lovely plan for the day. Hope it involves tea/coffee/cake in there somewhere. I want to hear more about your birth story too.

humpty hang in there xx!

mythree glad its nothing to be concerned about but def best to get it removed if it could turn into something. Best not to be worrying about something you can get rid of.

felix i do have an electric pump and have some expressed in the fridge as a back up. Were planning to move to bottle and breast later on anyway so that dp can get more involved (he said he wants to but sometimes i think he'd rather me do it so he can chill)

enormouse thats a good idea, but I feel bad about him sitting up with me as he has work in the day and lessons to plan in the eve when he gets home. He has had such a rubbish few months being unemployed so i wanted to give him time to get back into it all. Hopefully he will be more helpful over the weekend as i wont feel bad waking him on a weekend night.

enjoying i have suffered after pains too, but the cramps have gone now. Currently just have a weird ache in my foof which i am not sure about. Mw said its normal though. Not sure when the bleeding should stop either (its been 17 days) Its minimal atm on my pad, but sometimes when i wipe there seems a lot of pinky red mucous ness.
Its like still being pregnant, all this not knowing if anything is normal as everything is completely personal ie what i think of as minimal might not be!

frizz everyone is different but I bled til 8 weeks pp with dd. Mostly very light (and it pretty much stopped for a week at 6 weeks) but it did vary so I had to be careful.

DH has taken dd to her tumble tots class this morning so I am cuddling Alex in bed.

Btw, re induction, I was so disappointed when I didn't progress enough after my waters broke and they had to put me on the drip. They call it augmentation rather than induction if you've already gone into labour, but same diff.

I was knackered, having been up for 30 hrs by then, and not coping very well with the contractions. I agonised over having an epidural and the standard risk of interventions, but at 3cm 30 hours in I wouldn't have coped without one.

When I had an epidural with DS 14 years ago, I was completely numb from boobs to toes, they had to tell me when and how to push, I couldn't get up or change position and the pushing took 2 hours. Plus I had to have a catheter and couldn't have a bath or walk for ages afterwards.

This time was amazing. So different. They top the epidural up in small doses every half hour so you can just have as much as you need, from taking the edge off to completely numb. I could still walk around, go to the loo and feel all the contractions. I went from 3cm to fully dilated in 4 hours, comfortably, and felt rested enough to push well. I pushed kneeling over the back of the bed and that part was amazing -- took about 5 contractions.

So basically an excellent experience even though it was everything I dreaded/didn't want.

Toby my experience with the epidural was exactly the same (although I had one completely numb leg so couldn't walk around). I went from 2cm to fully dilated in 3 and a half hours, was left a further 2 hours to contract so baby could move further down and then she arrived in 4 pushes. It was amazing!

Thats always good to hear toby as i dont think i could use just gas and air next time but the idea of an epidural always scared me as i would want to still feel something.

Thanks tarka its such a strange new world for me. You spend so much time thinking about being pregnant and the labour you dont really look into the after stuff (except how to look after a baby)
Aww hugs in bed

Oh and is anyone looking at getting bubs a bank account? A few people have given cheques for aurelia and wanted to put the money away for her but not sure at what age we would want access to the money yet.

Are you thinking of using it for things for her, or keeping the money for her to spend, Frizz?

I want it to be for things she wants, not for us to buy things we need for her.

Hmmm. Not sure, then. You could always open an account in your name just to put her money in for now. Then when she's older, you can transfer it into one im her name?

Just to cheer you up Frizz I was still bleeding at 12 weeks - not really what I wanted , although when it finally stopped it went almost overnight from 'medium period' to a bit dischargey then a couple of days later totally normal as if nothing had ever happened

Congratulations to everyone I haven't said congratulations to (I've totally lost count of you all & I hope things move along quickly & safely for the rest of you

Halifax have a kids savings account with 6% interest for the first year frizz, I plan to use that then change to another when the interest rate changes.

Good luck to all those in early stages of labour or being induced this weekend! Still nothing here :( 9 months today from my lmp, 5 days until my due date.

Thanks for the ideas mrsg and toby Ill have a look into both options and chat with dh.

Thanks space Its so hard to tell if anything is normal anymore. It seems to be getting less on my pad so I assume all is ok and i know the chances of something being wrong is minimal so.....
Hope you are ok

Frizz we have a regular kids savings account for DD with our bank (lloyds) that we put all the money into at she has been gifted since birth (birth, christening, Christmases etc) it's almost reached a nice round number so I'm thinking if withdrawing it and popping it in an investment thingy for her with better rates, also in her name (very clued up as you can tell!) and I'll keep using the high street account to accumulate the £20 here, £10 there bits and bobs she gets given by grannies etc. believe me it all adds up pretty quickly. She's only 3 and has nearly 2k in savings!! We will do the same for DD2 when she arrives too. It will be nice for them to have a little nest egg.

New strategy: multiple posts as I read through everyone's news...

Felix hurrah and huzzah for sleep and showing your OH he was being a dick!

frizz you need to tell him. He may be tired from work, but so are you. Someone once pointed out to me that during the day, if one partner works outside the home and the other at home, you both do a full time job. When the outside home partner returns the 'work' day is over, and it is a joint exercise in housework and child are during the evening. You are entitled to leisure time as much or little as he is.

enormouse once again at your DP. I know how thoughtless men can be (trust me, mine is terrible at understanding how bending over jobs REALLY hurt, and leaving me to do them), but he has been told. I think we need to form the posse...