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The Definitlies - May 2014ers!

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MrsFooCough · 27/12/2013 22:31

Almost there now, May mums!

Stats page: docs.google.com/spreadsheet/ccc?key=0AvygwA-EKhURdDMwQWNNWGt0cHhmVkloazVVQ0hYNUE#gid=0

Size of baby chart: m.thebump.com/pregnancy/pregnancy-tools/articles/how-big-is-baby.aspx?MsdVisit=1

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ThistletoeAndWine · 17/01/2014 23:04

Tucked up in bed now, elevated to see if that helps!!

Bloody scary when u can't breathe properly

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MrsFooCough · 17/01/2014 23:09

Ohh Thistle there's me raving on about bloody antenatal classes and no job, and you're struggling to breathe! Few years back my mum got a really nasty chest infection after a cold, I know how scary it is. Just trust that there are people to help if you can't manage it easily, being pregnant or "using the I'm pregnant card" is useful sometimes!

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ThistletoeAndWine · 18/01/2014 02:16

Sorry didn't mean to hijack the thread :-((

bushprincess · 18/01/2014 06:57

Hope you're feeling better this morning thistle how scary for you. Xx

Xavielli · 18/01/2014 07:39

Hope you're ok thistle.

I won't be doing any classes (never have, never will) and with the experience of having spoken to a considerable amount of parents I am certainly glad I've never affiliated myself with the NCT. Yes, I am absolutely all for natural birth but the sheer amount of women left disappointed by unrealistic expectations of labour and feelings of failure and birth guilt when their bodies didn't 'know what to do' is a complete disgrace.

ClearlyMoo · 18/01/2014 07:58

checks in after ages hello everyone. Such good news Alyss, Thistle so glad you're propped up and breathing.

As for NCT - I moved to new area when we married last May. Husbands family all around but I don't know anyone for myself. Husband has few friends he's in regular touch with due to years of anti social working hours (ex dairy farmer). So I'm keen to do as much antenatal socialising as we can.

We've signed up for an 8 week NCT signature course locally starting early Feb. I chose the regular weekly one as I hope there's more chance of getting to know people. I'm also going to try to go to as many local antenatal things as poss (there's the odd NHS session)!

I know NCT is effectively "buying friends" and you can get info elsewhere but I'd like to get to know some other Mums as I don't know anyone here at the mo and work 50miles away!

We had a fun pre-baby night out last night. I got DH to take a photo of me - I look quite pregnant. Eeek. Giant bazookas too. Not sure what I as expecting. I look in mirror daily!

24 weeks today (a cantaloupe)! Is that the "viability" date, or will that be 25 weeks next week?

dobedobedo · 18/01/2014 08:12

clearly 24 weeks is viability date. If your baby is born now it will be a "live birth" and has a good chance of survival (although will need help to breathe with a ventilator and probably other medical help). But it's a nice milestone to hit :-D

PotatoPolly · 18/01/2014 09:02

Clearly I know what you mean, the mirror doesn't seem to show things like the camera!

Thistle sorry you've had a tough time :(

we've booked nhs antenatal classes but can't really afford the nct ones, I'm quite lucky in that lots of my friends have got small people.

mumof2aimingfor4 · 18/01/2014 09:17

Hope your feeling better today thistle did they advise you to steam before you go to bed? It always helps the kids when they've got a rattly chest.

loopylou52 · 18/01/2014 10:19

Sounds scary thistle, hope you're feeling better today

mrsmummytobe · 18/01/2014 10:39

Hope you're ok thistle Thanks

Irisheyessmiling · 18/01/2014 11:17

clearlymoo are you me?! Exact same story, moved to different area, no chance to meet lots of people due to job and only dh's family around so we went for nct to try and meet people. With the quarterly installments for the course it's manageable and I could do with some friend with babies as I'm the first one of my friends to do this (and they all live bloody London which isn't impossible from where we are in kent but train fare is EXPENSIVE!)

Thistle hope you're feeling better. Steaming is good to open up airways when you can't take over the counter stuff!

wm3010 · 18/01/2014 12:07

thistle hope you are feeling better x

Thanks for reassurance ladies, ironically my dh is usually better in social situations than I am so think he genuinely just doesn't see the point of nct rather than being nervous of it, although could be wrong! The weekend course was the only one available here and to be honest is probably better for us as we both commute and work fairly late. Anyway, my feeling is that if it is rubbish then that will be a shame but I will have taken the opportunities available to me both for info and to make friends. If we don't go and then I struggle with some aspect think I will always wonder whether it could have been avoided. No family here and no friends in our town as we commute, although quite a few in nearby towns, so it would be handy to have a neighbour or two I know with a baby as easier to organise meet ups if no travelling since we only have one car that dh uses for work.

wm3010 · 18/01/2014 12:08

ps will try to avoid indoctrination by nct if it turns out the teacher is that type, usually a committed sceptic so hopefully should be ok!

bluestone85 · 18/01/2014 12:10

Sorry everyone. I still haven't had chance to catch up but will probably do that today. Been a bit crazy this side. My mum is in hospital with fluid on her lungs, I've had a cough since Monday so went to the doctor and I have a chest/throat infection so got to have antibiotics and can't visit my mum and my sister feel over and cut a 5cm chunk out of her bad knee, so she's hobbling around everywhere. All in all we aren't doing to well as a family! Haha.

22 weeks today xx

bluestone85 · 18/01/2014 12:19

Oh no thistle not you too! hope the breathing improves soon! xxx

wm - I started my NCT last week though I missed the first one as I was on holiday. I was a bit scared as missing one I thought we might not feel welcome. but everyone was lovely and the instructor was informative. I'm the only one due in May everyone else due in March. But that didn't bother me too much. Plus it turns out one of the women that goes only lives two houses away, Hehe. Although it is her 3rd. xx

bluestone85 · 18/01/2014 12:28

p.s. I only went to nct classes as the hospital I'm going to isn't anywhere near me.

dobedobedo · 18/01/2014 12:54

Not having a great day here. (whinge alert)

Went to tesco to get some food shopping, but I got to the end of the first aisle before I gave up - my hips are just too sore. So I hobbled to a chair and got dh to pick me up after he'd been to the gym.
He said something to me in the car and I snapped at him. (he was asking me to repeat myself for the fourth time) and he shouted that just because I was in pain, it didn't mean I could act like a dick. "just!" I told him it fucking did. Then we got home and got into bed and burst into tears. I cried for about half an hour. Dh is too busy cheering at the bastard football to notice or give a shit.
I know I was probably being a cowbag, but I really am in a lot of pain. I couldn't go to physio the other day because we couldn't get a sitter, and I can't help thinking that if we still lived in my country where my family are, they'd never let me miss something like physio and they would have cancelled everything to babysit. Which again, is unreasonable because I can't just expect dh's family to drop everything because I need a favour.

Sorry for the whinge. There's no one else to whinge to Sad

rebeccax2 · 18/01/2014 14:04

:-( dobedobedo

Aww that totally sucks. Where are you from? I'm dreading having a baby with Mum on the other side of the planet for those reasons. Run yourself a bath if you can! Bath and tea!

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MrsFooCough · 18/01/2014 14:47

Ohh dobe you wouldn't be unreasonable to ask them to look after a member of their family in order that the woman carrying another member of their family might be able to attend a medical appointment!!! Sorry, maybe I'm ranting because I'm lucky and my MIL said already said that as soon as Bean makes an appearance she'll be here and stay in the spare room and help out however she can. If they didn't live in Birmingham and us here in Canterbury then I doubt I'd have any peace, she'd be here 24/7!!!

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loopylou52 · 18/01/2014 16:38

aw, dobe sorry you're having a rough day. Have you asked your dh's family? They may surprise you, and I'm sure they wouldn't want you to be suffering so much. Or tell dh he's responsible for shopping, housework etc until you're more mobile - that might prompt him into action! In the meantime Brew for you

bushprincess · 18/01/2014 17:25

sorry you've had such a horrid day dobe hope you're feeling in less pain now and can have a good chat with DH and that he's supportive... and good luck getting some support from his family if you can

blue sorry to hear you've been ill too - seems like there are chest infections all over... thistle hope the breathing has eased up today

I've 2 hours until I collect DH from the airport.... HAPPY DAYS!

Hope everyone else has a lovely relaxing eve and 'day of rest' tomorrow xx

ThistletoeAndWine · 18/01/2014 18:09

The breathing aspect seems better but still struggling with coughing!!!

I've just had my first pelvic floor let down thanks to a thread on here hahahah

mrsmummytobe · 18/01/2014 18:12

Aww dobe hugs. Have you tried asking dh's family? I know it's not the same as having your own family nearby but they may be able to offer more support if they know it's needed. My family are in a totally different part of the country & I miss them loads, especially now we are starting a family. Would love to move back so we were close to them but it's just not practical at the moment unfortunately. I'm hoping they will come & stay loads when the baby is here.

Bushprincess, have a lovely reunion with your hubby :)

wm3010 · 18/01/2014 18:20

dobe poor you, sounds rubbish. The repeating myself thing does my head in too and being in pain is awful.

bushprincess I don't know how you've managed without him all this time, well done and happy reunion!