due in august - part 7

[janeggybee]

hello bellies!!!

weel done micku and baby talia glad your both well

aussie keep squatting and deep breathing

well my appt was ok all she was bothered about was my post natal condition not my pre one and ignored my birthing fears so will have to sort it out on thursday with the mid wife im still not certain what to do for the best am starting to wonder whats the right thing as i feel if i went into labour right now id be fine but i cant face 4-6 weeks uncertainity
sorry to whinge on such a haapy day

also i got a bit burned this afternoon have got proper bikini marks on my humongus boobs

so have i booby, i'm sure the mw's will be amused at my brown boobs with little white triangles when i'm bf-ing

why don't you try playing it by ear, wait a while and see if you go naturally... some women are early even with their first (i was), then if your anxiety is getting too much ask about induction or insist on the cs. if you think you could face a natural birth it would be easier in terms of recovery and dealing with bf-ing a newborn afterwards

First of all - Micku - CONGRATULATIONS!!!

I am sorry your little Talia is having problems, like the others have said I just want to reassure you that as upsetting as it is for a new Mum the odds are VERY much in her favor with a hole in the heart. Doctors now say lots of us have them but we dont know it. And they can be closed. Still I know you must be in shock and upset because we all only want the very best for our babies. What caused the emergency c-section? Best of luck and love to you from me and Salamander. xxx

Yellow - pack a washcloth to bite down on while you are pushing! That was my tip from my friend who just had a baby.

Aussiemama - All I know is walk around a lot! If you have a birthing ball then bouncing up and down on that is supposed to be good. Good luck!! You must be in such a state right now!

good grief Its only been 24 hours since I was online and so much has happened congratulations to all our new mummys and good luck to all of you nearly mummys. Feel like Ive got forever to go still and the heat is becoming unbearable again. Thanks for the suggestions re feeding bras for us bigger boobed ladies Im definitely going to look at those websites. I hope everyone is aqble to keep in touch once their babies are born By the way Im from cheshire not far from the zoo and the cheshire oaks outlet village if ever anyone over this way.

Aussiemamma Ive heard that nipple stimmulation causes hormones to be released that causes contractions thats why they encourage you to put baby to the breast to help with the afterbirth being delivered I watched a birth programme just last week and the woman was actually using a breast pump lots of sex curry pineapple raspberry leaf tea oh and clary sage oil either in your bath or rubbed on mixed with baby oil climbing the stairs squatting and bouncing on your birth ball are all other ways but whatever good luck

how about til all the babies are born we keep posting on here together and then once the list is completed we start a due in august post natal thread?

sounds perfect eeny... i like this group!

dp taking me out for a meal tonight so I will catch up later this evening have a good evening mums and bumbps xx

me too! i wont be like a school girl who says 'you arent allowed any other friends' but I think we should all stick together. I really like you girls a lot and want to know what goes on with you and your babies. And MN is so big its easy to lose people I think.

sounds great I would hate to lose touch with you all and think we should try to have an annual get together for families in the summer and one for just mummies around xmas time

Yellow - make sure you get dark towels. Also, unless you can trust your dh/dp choice of clothes, put some in for coming home in. Some change for the phone and for the odd chocolate bar from the machine might be useful. Also, hate to say it, but some Flash wipes or equivalent if you are having to use a shared bathroom/shower. I was lucky last time and had my own room but I still cleaned before I used it!

flash wipes are a great idea!! My hopsital was pretty clean but my cousins was manky and my mate got one of those bugs after having an emergency c-section adn prolonged stay in hospital.

The cleaner came round but with a dirty cloth, it was a bit like watching Acorn antiques (if you remember that sketch) so I am gonna pack some wipes for sure

Good luck to the new mums another one now all my thoughts go out to wee Talia, its a gorgeous name, fingers crossed for her x

flash wipes are a great idea!! My hopsital was pretty clean but my cousins was manky and my mate got one of those bugs after having an emergency c-section adn prolonged stay in hospital.

The cleaner came round but with a dirty cloth, it was a bit like watching Acorn antiques (if you remember that sketch) so I am gonna pack some wipes for sure

Good luck to the new mums another one now all my thoughts go out to wee Talia, its a gorgeous name, fingers crossed for her x

Micku5, many congratulations on the birth of Talia, am sorry to hear about the hole in the heart. If you would like reassurance from other mums who've been through similar, it may be worth starting a thread in health? In the meantime thinking of you loads and hoping for good news from the cardiac specialist. I think in some ways I am fortunate because I've been prepared for my baby to need lots of interventions (well not that you really can be, but at least I've had a tour of the special care unit and been introduced to the staff).
Preparing for 2 (living with 2? Caring for 2?) many congrats, that's so amazing to deliver them both with just a ventouse--everyone I know who's had twins has had a section.
Aussiemum, hope you're holding your baby by now. My hospital's policy is not to let you go for more than 48hrs after waters have broken, as there's a slight infection risk. So hopefully we have another baby!
Booby hang on in there (sorry can't think of anything more motivating). Re recovery from my C-section, I pumped morphine to the max, drank 2litres of water and popped arnica tablets on the hour. I can't remember feeling any pain whatsoever. I was up and about after 18hrs. No pain with stitches. Breastfeeding was very hard work (have mentioned this before but cannot stress enough, it is NOT your fault if you find it difficult, insist on help). I don't drive either but certainly out and about walking shortly after discharge from hospital.

well its 1:42 a.m. and I cant sleep - AGAIN. I never sleep these days. Except between 8am and 12pm if I am lucky.

Alex is practising his boxing skills on my ribs. When I move to another position my heartburn or already bruised ribs stop me. I cant sleep sitting up. So here I am. Feeling very sorry for myself. I want Sal to sleep although if i cant sleep soon or get some entertainment i am going to wake him up.

Wish you were all here!

arabica thanks eeny {{{{{{hughs}}}}} i know whow bai itis when you cant sleep have you tried lavender in your bath at night it knocks me out also try and sleep in the day if you can do not worry re housework your sleep is more important

ive been sleeping really heavily this week and the only thing i can put it down to is having a fan on keeping me cool but i know you have about five of them going already maybe you could talk to your mw

so i need dark towels arnica ands flash wipes

bravissimo also do big feeding bras as do john lewis and they do one to fitting on late nights if you dont wanna go in on a saturday or the day whenits warm and jojmambebe do those bravado ones

morning all! well after I wrote that, to make my night even better (sarcastic emoticon here please) I then threw up. Nice. After a sleepless night I had my MW appointment this morning which I was really looking forward to as i expected to hear some good news (he's engaged would have been good)

Well it was all negative. He ISNT engaged after all so god knows what that was the other night. There is STILL protein in my urine and my BP is a little high so I had to do a 2nd urine sample to be sent off to the lab. THEN she was feeling my bump to feel his position and she said 'He's not a big baby' whereas we have always been told he is. Then she said, with no explanation, the words '42 weeks'

I asked her about 10 mins later why she said the 42 weeks thing and she said 'I just didnt want you to be too disapointed if you go over'

My next appointment is in 2 weeks. I just feel so depressed. It was the opposite of everything I wanted to hear, and after a very rough night. So he is small, that is fine, but confusing, he sure packs a punch and I thought he was big. He isnt engaged so the end is NOT in sight. There are slight pre-eclampsia worries. And this mysterious 42 weeks comment! I CAN NOT BEAR TO BE PREGNANT TIL 42 WEEKS! I CAN NOT DO IT.

Ugh.

Ok. If all of you have your babies soon and Alex doesnt pop til mid Sept you have to wait for me before you all go off and start a post natal thread and forget poor eeny all bloated and miserable!

hehe

Ok I know I am being melodramatic but really it was a very negative appointment after a very bad night. Commence cheering up!

Hope you are all well. i am going to sit on line for a bit and then go to sleep - if the little baby inside of me relents what he is doing and allows it.

Morning all!

First of all, congratulations preparingfor2 and Micku5 on the birth of your babies! Lovely names, all of them. Micku, so sorry to hear your little girl has a hole in her heart ? as some of the other posters on here, I also know a couple of people who had this problem at birth, and are now right as rain following the usual procedures. My ds was in special care for 3 weeks ? I can really sympathise with you not having your baby home yet. As you say, take it one day at a time ? all the best to you and your family.

Booby ? I was pleased to see that your anxiety seems to be lessening ? it?s so easy to get caught up on and really stuck on all the little details, and come up with a very inaccurate prediction of something which just hasn?t happened. I know from myself, that following my premature em CS, plus the problems my ds experienced, made me really scared of subsequent pregnancies ? I obsessed about every little detail possible before I became pregnant (especially for the year before we actually ?went for it?), like would I be able to get pregnant again, would my womb be able to carry a baby to term, will it be premature again, would I be able to breastfeed again?over and over in my head. I spoke with my GP about this, and she was very stoical, and she basically helped me see that worrying wasn't prdoductive, and, surprise surprise, now I?m pregnant, I find that just dealing with things as they come up helps so much with letting go of anxiety.

I know my situation is a bit different, but I have a half-and-half option going for a VBAC ? I?ve never had a proper labour myself, so I don?t know how it will go ? but my dh is very supportive of me, which fills me with confidence, especially knowing that labour is actually good for a baby. However, knowing I have a CS on standby if I can't cope/monitoring reveals it's just not working, is somehow comforting. I'm feeling that, this way, I don't actually have to make a 'big decision' until it actually comes down to it. For me, this has helped, as I was in completely two minds about delivery for ages and ages. Don't know if this helps at all, booby, might be more relevant to other anxious potential VBAC decision-makers!

Eeny ? I really sympathise with you on the not sleeping/indigestion/being propped up on pillows ? I had this with my ds towards the end of my pg. This time round, since baby?s head engaged, I keep waking up because my left hip is so uncomfortable. Sitting at the PC isn't comfortable either as I can't use my kneeling chair anymore - it throws my back out, probably because I can?t put my feet right on the floor due to being a titch! I?m thinking a birthing ball might be the way forward.

Aussiemama ? fingers crossed for you!

eeny i fyou get pre emclapsia they either induce you or c section you early so who knows

was it your normally mw if not ring her and explain how your feeling and ask her to talk to you about it

but dont woory babaes we will not forget about you

morning everyone hope you are all well today Its definitely getting hotter here Not sure how much more heat I can take does anyone know where the nearest nudist camp is lol hope you are ok aussiemamma thanks booby Im going to have a look on some of the sites for feeding bras as I normally go to mothercare but they dont seem to last very long Meal last night was lovely although couldnt eat it all and couldnt sit for too long so had to keep getting up to stretch My urine seems very dark lately not a nice subject I know sorry worried in case my sugar levels up again Ive been drinking loads of water and hardly been touching the chocolate well not much anyway. Got scan and clinic next week so will find out then but dont think I can stand another glucose tolerence test the stuff they make you drink really makes me very ill. Sorry you were online alone again last night eeny I actually thought about you when I was sitting awake at 4 this morning we really need to try aqnd coordinate our waking more lol

oh eeny so sorry that your mw appointment didnt go too well what do they know anyway its all guess work and I think it was very inconsiderate of her to suggest you might go 2 weeks over Ive been told that even my growth scans can be as much as 10% out on estimating weight of baby so dont worry about it all My baby isnt due till end of august which could drag on till september too hun but dont worry I dont intend to lose contact with you all

booby this is part of the problem - I have NEVER seen the same MW twice. It's just a rotating team of them and its random who you get each time. So I dont feel confident or close with any of them to talk to about my worries. And they all just seem to be very... you know... chin up and dont question/fret about anything.

hoppybird - thats really good that you have the options ready in birth. You seem pretty calm and strong about the whole thing!

dreamy - I was thinking about you as well! I thought 'I bet she is up but watching t.v. when she could be on here chatting with me!' It's ok I would have had to go soon anyway to throw up

thanks dreamy I agree the 2 week thing was upsetting. When I questioned her about it her reasoning seemed to be to prepare me but it just took away all my hope. This has been a really hard pregnancy and although I am not throwing up nearly as much as I was other things are getting a lot harder and I am really really scared of going over 1 Sept.

eeny ring the mw team and ask to talk to the head mw or maybe a doctor and discuss your worries imust say when ive rang the community teamthey act very quickly on my behalf even tho not my nominated mw even when iwas on the floor crying one offered to come round but as i didnt know her i said no which i now regret

dont suffer in silence eeny tell them your not happy with the way you've been treated this is a very special time and one where you need reassurance not keep your chin up

Morning everyone, congrats to Micku5 and welcome baby Talia. So sorry to hear about your baba's condition, fingers crossed & hope everything goes ok for you. (And loving the name Talia.)

Eeny sorry your feeling crappy at the moment hun but if I were you I wouldnt take everything your MW said as gospel - how the hell would she know which week your baby is going to come out? One of the MW's tried to scare me couple of weeks ago saying its gonna be a big one. Now yesterday another MW told me my baby is average size for my weight and build? I've never seen the same MW from all my appointments and you get different answers from each one its so frustrating. Dont let it get you down you've still got time for baby Alex to engage yet. At my last app at 36 weeks I was 'free' but yesterday she said baba has gone down further and is starting to engage - not sure by how much but at 38 weeks thats what I wanted to hear. Hope your catching up on some zzzz's now!

Dreamy am liking sound of your idea of mom's only night out at xmas!

Its so hot here I can barely breathe, fingers and ankles looking more swell and porky than ever! Am supposed to be going out this afternoon with my mom and her friend n kids later to a bowling plex, dont think its safe for me to be throwing those big heavy balls so will probably just watch - hope they have Air Con.

Forgot to mention last week when I went out with my friend and sister for an italian meal, when I got there they had 20 of my close girl friends and family there waiting for me and threw me a surprise baby shower - had flowers, cards and lots of presies - was so nice I could have cried!

Hope everyone else is doing ok and not melting too much! x x