December 2013 - Can we keep our legs crossed a little longer!?

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New thread x

I've got MW on Thurs and will mention it. I've had a few more twitches and wriggles and another little bum shove. I just miss the attempts at rolling and twisting that let me know everything's a-okay. I'm also long-bodied and wide hipped so he has literally had the room to swim.

chelsea at least you aren't marooned on the ward surrounded by screaming women! Better to be at home.

Thanks crunchy - that was reassuring.

Long time, no post! I've got to ask ..... has anyone elses DH/P turned into a total arse?! I remember him being exactly the same at this point (36weeks) with DC1, but I could honsetly do without it! Come on girls ...... tell me I'm not alone! x

My dp is for. But he has his moments... I left my hairbrush on the bed on his side so rather than moving it nice he full on throws it across the room making sure it hits the wall (last time he done it he broke the handle so no there no handle on it) then got shitty at Me when I shouted at him to not do it. All I got was well it should be there!! I just wanted to tell him to fuck off and leave me alone I feel like shot from This cold.
Then he was all nicey nicey and was like how was ur day and then wondered why I was in a huff with him!!
I think I was justified to be annoyed !?

had all this great energy this morning, stripped the bed and everything, put it in the wash, and now the wash is done I have absolutely no motivation to make the actual bed... So I'm sitting in my new chair and eating my face off. we will have to sleep somewhere tonight though... hmmm

Stom yes of course you were justified in being cross - totally unnecessary of your DH.

Yes stom I'd be exactly the same if my dp had done that.

oneslice mines actually all helpful and can't do enough once it gets to this stage (I'm 39 weeks) but don't get me wrong, he has been a complete arse at times throughout too.

storm I would have slapped him

I just finished my dinner and am now really really upset that I have finished it. I want to eat it again it was so nice. battered chicken steak (basically a giant chicken nugget) hash browns and spaghetti hoops. Not healthy in the least but It was bloody lovely

whisper I was close! Very very tempted but he had his dinner in his had and can't be arsed to clean the mess haha
He's being nice now and keeps asking if I've forgiven him.

I want spaghetti hoops! I haven't had then in years!!

Sorry for all the typos in previous post c

You're making me feel better already! Thanks girls! x

oneslice my dp is really rubbish when I'm not feeling well generally- it's as if he can't cope with me being vulnerable. I think it freaks him out but it means I hardly get any sympathy or pampering. also even though I'm 38+3 and I've told him about the importance of answering his phone when he's at work, he hardly ever does
it will serve him right if I go into labour and he misses it!
Chelsea pleased you are back home for your sake. extended hospital stays are the worst.

I just said to dp 'you're really annoying when I'm ill'
he said
'no you're just less tollerant of my annoying-ness, I'm trying to make you laugh and send happy endorphins around your body'

Bless he's trying lol

Pleased you're home Chelsea. Happy birthday bumpy!

DH is driving me mad, not on purpose I'm just getting really irritable with him. I wanted to punch him last night, and he was minding his own business and fast asleep!

I am SO uncomfortable tonight, I just don't know what to do with myself I've got hideous indigestion again, lower back pain and nasty braxton hicks which feel like they go down to my cervix, which has never happened before. I can't be bothered to do anything either.

frouby looking at the leaflet that comes with ranitidine it says that 1 in 100 people experience tummy troubles so could well be that that's causing it for you.

Thanks bohemian and Alyssa, Kept the pad on for a few hours and it was wet but nothing out of the ordinary. Must have been a wee that felt different to usual. Think I'm reading into every little thing at the moment!

Thanks extracrunchy and pistachio had a good day!

Glad to hear you're back with your home comforts chelsea

oneslice I can't say dp has been an arse but he's definitely been trying at points. I've felt like I've been one step ahead of him organisation wise all the way through and it's frustrating when he then has last minute panics. Bloody men!

Argh dp pisses me off. He's so funny when it comes to money!! Put home phone is £22 a month if we don't use it but this month it £28. (£6 extra wow!) because I've had to ring the tv license electric water etc to let them all now we are moving and obvs been on how etc. My mobile didn't work and I rang my mums home number and spend £2.30 talking to them. He just gone on one saying why pay for your mobile contract if ur using home phone!!! My mobile wouldn't work!! Well you should have waited!

Then he's like who u phoning in Jersey! I duno probs the elec company! The only time I use the home phone is to ring those sorts or companies as it costs so much on my mobile.
He like why u getting shitty with me I said well why are you asking it's my phone too!!
It's my fucking money too I pay the bills so we half everything. So why am I always made to feel like a fucking child when it's comes to money
He's always like how much u got left. What u sort it on bla bla

So what if I wana spent all my lonely in the fort week it's mine to spend on what I like. He has his budget a month to spend on booze and golf etc
I'm sorry it just really fucks me off. I feel about 12 years old all the time when it comes to money!!

Arggghghhh!!!! Sorry. Sometimes I think it'll be so much easier on my own!

First off,

Thank you ALL for the lovely words. You all make me feel happier when I read this thread.

one I sympathise - my DH is an arse at times. Like chillis he isn't great if I'm upset or not great- doesn't know how to react (just a bloody cuddle and some sympathy please!) I usually have to wait a day for apologies too. Lately I've just had no energy to do stuff and he says (not unkindly) what have you been doing- the place is a bit of a mess or something. He doesn't have a clue that just picking something off the frigging floor is hard work and my efforts at cleaning the loo and vacuuming on Sunday were Herculean on my part- it was tough! And he just assumed it was no big deal. On the plus side I got a load of yummy food from M&S yesterday so he does treat me. (I don't get flowers but I get mini bites )

stom I get the inquisition if I spend too much on my phone too! Then a lecture about 0800 numbers (I still can't remember if I should use mobile or landline!) the diff with me is I don't earn any money ATM so have to try my best to be careful with money. Having been brought up pretty spoilt always with money to spend it's been a tough learning curve! But when was working I had the exact same arguements- I.e. Let me spend my money on what the frig I want!!

Have my boob biopsy results today... Bricking it even tho doc said it should all be fine....god it's going to be a long morning till that 11.30 (probably delayed) appointment...

Morning all

My DP isn't brilliant at the sympathy or compassion either. Think it is a man thing lol. We had a row on Sunday because he didn't want to help me pull the wardrobe out and get to the mouldy bit of wall. And he doesn't always understand that stuff I used to do before I was heavily pg like the windows still needs doing, even though I can't reach without standing on the ladders as my bump won't let me climb on the sills anymore like I used to.

He will do stuff if asked (nagged) into it. And if I say I feel rough/tired/have backache or whatever he says the right things (usually) but I can tell he isn't 100% convinced that I'm not being a drama queen lol.

The problem is I'm never ill or injured. So he has no experiance in dealing with me whilst I am not 100%. He on the other hand was really ill 2 years ago (nearly died) and as a result of that still has a stoma on and still needs a further operation. Add to that the fact that he smashed his ankle at work the other week and its still a mess and all the various other injuries he picks up as a builder and its usually me palying nurse and bandaging him up and him being the wounded soldier lol.

And he is a shouty person when stressed. And I am the Queen of Sarcasm and One Liners. Which has always worked well in the past as he shouts, I raise an eyebrow and drop a killer quote into the row and leave the room and a few minutes later he is sorry.

Now though if he does shout (which is not very often at all and usually something work related rather than personal) I shout back and then burst into tears of temper pmsl. Its not pretty and he doesn't know how to deal with it. But have found it pretty effective to get my own way. Not that I would use it in that way. Oh no, definately not. Well maybe a little lol.

Stom, if my DP threw something it would be picked up and shoved up his arse. Sideways. Not acceptable darling. Don't take any shit from him lovely. xx

Well the ranitidine didn't make me ill thank god lol. So I think I am going to continue taking them to keep the indigestion away. The gaviscon just isn't doing it anymore and at least if I am on them up to the elcs I know I won't have any funny effects! Thinking back to last time I took one I was really suffering with acid and the gaviscon just wans't touching it at all so must have had lots of acid. I suppose that the acid has to go somewhere onc zapped and my tummy perhaps couldn't cope with it.

Angry and Feathers and Claire I hope you are enjoying your newborn cuddles but we need updates to keep us going through these last few weeks!

I will have my LO in just 16 days! And I have a house to nest, christmas pressies to buy and wrap, food shopping to be done and lots of lovely paperwork to trawl through. Think I am going to run out of time.

Good luck mum I'm sure everything will be fine Hun.

angry you ok?

Speaking of dp's, its mainly lie ins that piss me off. Yesterday was my turn, so he let ds1 run upstairs all the time making it impossible for me to fall asleep and I'd had none during the night due to....well everything really. There's a gate at the bottom of the stairs he obviously never bothered closing. So after half hour of trying I just got up.
However this morning he's lying in of corse and he knows ds1 won't bother him at all hes mummies boy lol and ds2 is too young to let wander up there. I'm just very pissed off angry.
He doesn't get I'm the one who needs sleep.

He's meant to be on his 4 days on work, but no! He's got man flu cold even though I am yet to hear one cough or one sneeze and I swear to all that is good and holy, if he's uses anymore of my post pregnancy codeine I'm gonna slap his little head off

No one going into labour?
I can feel the diahhreah starting up again

That reminds me, did anyone get a different due date based in their scan than their lmp and which one you going off?

Have a good day everyone xx

Good luck mum, hope all is well with your results!

stom that's really annoying, I hate it when DH acts like my Dad about things- no, I'm not an idiot, I just make different decisions to you sometimes!!!!!

Chilli my DH's phone isn't working properly and it loses reception and won't pick it up until he turns it off and on again. It's driving me nuts-I've been stuck in roadworks and wanted him to get our son from nursery but been unable to get through grrr- I'm going to get myself a new IPhone and give him my old one so I know he's reachable.

Pistachio hope you got some sleep with all those aches and pains. I went to an osteopath last week as I was getting so pain/cramping in my buttock (I both love and hate that word) then sciatica type pains in back and legs-I've been much better since so going again on Thursday.

I've got the dreaded constipation for the first time this pregnancy . I've either been fine or too frequent up until now, any top tips because I feel bloated and awful.

Mum good luck! I also prefer good food and love m&s mini sausage rolls, mini eggs and all the other bits they do...dribbling thinking about it!

Stom I cant relate I only have a phone bill and rent but it must be annoying hope you cheer up.

Thanks for all your welcome home messages, yes no more mums in labour screaming just an 8 year old boy who sounds like a 4 year old girl and two noisy dogs.

Have a nice day everyone

Mum - good luck today!

Better - dried apricots!

Alyssa my DH does the same when I'm supposed to be lying in...
I've had 2 due dates, one adjusted quite late as had a bonus scan after some bleeding but then MW at following appointment said always stick with dating one so I have no idea if I'm 36wks or 38!

DH made me cross already this morning cos yesterday we had a food delivery and I ordered a load of posh freezer meals for post birth as they were on offer and looked reasonably healthy. Just discovered he put them all in the fridge last night and they've thawed so now have to either be eaten within 24hrs or chucked (according to packets). FFS...

Good luck mum hope all is well.

stom sounds like an unnecessary reaction from your dp and not very fair at all. I take the view that if you're going to be in a relationship with someone you should fully commit and share. I don't earn any money so don't contribute to any bills but there's no way I'd except that kind of behaviour from dp. I contribute in my own way, like doing all the house work, cooking, shopping, growing our baby and soon to bring up our baby. The difference in my work is that I don't get a payslip at the end of the month, lol.
Does anyone else have an age gap with their dp/h? We have 7 years between us and his favourite way to try and win a disagreement is to pull out the classic 'I'm so much older and more experienced than you, I must be right' argument. What a twerp!

Glad the ranitidine is working for you frouby

All quiet on the western front then today, no one grabbing bags and running off to hospital?