December 2013 - Can we keep our legs crossed a little longer!?

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you poor thing, that sounds really stressful. I don't really have any advice for you, people can be selfish most of the time.

Frouby I completely sympathise - we had the same experience last time and already looking the same this time. Seems like people are really excited about the idea of a baby/helping out and often when the reality hits they disappear. We've learned to be very self sufficient, sadly. Hope you can sort something out and they pull their socks up though!

Whisper that is the best dream EVER.

Sympathies frouby, being let down at the last minute is not what you need. Really hope they get their asses into gear and come through for you.

Glad you're hanging in there chelsea, you're so positive and coping so well it's a an inspiration. Keep cooking baby!

Well ladies, I'm 38 weeks today and it's my 28th birthday. It's an odd one as all I want to do is put the pushchair together (it was delivered this morning!) and clean the house, party central eh?? It's nice though as a makes it a unique birthday and I will always look back and laugh at just wanting to nest.

Errr, also advice please! I splashed out on the food shopping and bought 4 boxes of the extortionate gluten free bran flakes. Having them for breakfast and lunch and they're having the desired effect. Bit odd just now though as I went to the loo and as I was going about my business a load of liquid came out at the front end. Just kind of fell out and couldn't control it. Not sure if it was the pressure of the no.2 clear out making wee myself or could it have been my waters? Obviously because of what I was doing I couldn't investigate and had to flush pronto!! Anyone else experienced anything like this?

frouby that's rubbish. I sympathize too- there's nothing worse than people acting all helpful then not actually helping when you really need it!

I can relate a bit- when I had DC1 my mum wasn't all that helpful but the worst thing is she thought she was! I was totally shell shocked my life turned upside down and she'd swan in every few days for an hour and sit and have coffee and a chat when all I wanted was her to come for a bit longer (I'd have rather she'd come over loads the first week or two then less if need be) help out with cleaning/sorting the house out, letting me nap and look after baby etc. but she just didn't think I needed the help and I'm too polite/stupid to tell her! She actually said to me one day that I had a 'face like thunder' the first few days after DC1 was born- I thought yeah that's cos I needed some bloody help!!

When DC2 came along I was hoping for her to take DC1 to the park or be a bit hands on with the baby so I could rest but no, it was the same.

This time she mentioned she wanted to go on holiday in the New Year (so potentially a few days after baby is born) for a holiday in St Lucia with her bf if there was a cancellation (a sailing holiday he booked) I was a bit shocked- I thought, your daughter is having your grandchild and needs your help and you want to go on a bloody holiday! But maybe I just expect hope for too much! She will help me but only EVER on her terms.

My mum never had help from her mum when she had us (due to geographic distance) and I think she assumes women should just 'cope' and not fuss like she did. BUT she had a whole bloody week in hospital to get to grips with feeding, have a rest (whilst they took baby away at night so mums could sleep) and then come home. These days we're chucked out as soon as possible sleep deprived, struggling to BF and cope and expected just to get on with it!

Sorry, moan over but I just know how you feel and really think support is so important in those early weeks. I hope one of your friends/family realize and help you out as much as possible

oh and mean I'm not sure what that could have been and I know all women are different but when my waters broke it was pretty much either a gush or a trickle constantly for quite a while (hours) it didn't just stop so if it was just a little bit maybe it was a wee?

Thanks mum I've put a pad on and will keep an eye out. I probably just wet myself didn't I? Good job I was already on the toilet I suppose!

Not long at all snow! Dunno whether to be excited or scared. Gulp. I do know what to expect its just the early days being at home that is different this time for me. But I think I will recover quicker at home as long as we do as little as possible. I intend to set up camp in the bedroom for at least 5 days. At least if I am in bed I won't see the cleaning mounting up. DP useless at housework lol.

Mum it sounds as though you are in the same boat as me. What is really annoying me is that for the last 2 years we have had Christmas babies in the family. And both have been c sections and my mum has had time off for both. And my niece was an emcs so not as though she was planned to be here until the new year.

Grrrrrrr. But just had a lovely sarnie for lunch and contemplating going to bed for an hour. It's either that or wrap a few presents up. And I am just not sleeping at night so might have that nap.

No advice re waters as never had them go like that. But whilst we are sort of on the loo can I ask something? Has anyone ever had a dodgy tjmmy from Ranitdine? I took some weeks ago and woke up in the night with bad cramps and then the trots for 24 hours. I have to take some before the c section and don't want to shit myself on top of everything else and trotting anywhere for a few days will be a bit difficult.

Have bought some and taken one today to see if I get the same reaction. Been constipated so at least if I'm on the loo all night it will have some benefit.

Just don't know if they can give me anything else pre op if I can't take it.

mean I get it with chronically bad constipation where I don't seem to have any wee control. It's okay afterwards but during I might as well not have a pelvic floor at all.

frouby - it's a genuine rant - I hate the fact that people have that "I'll help you in any way you want ... if it's convenient for me." My mum has actually told me that I must stick to my due date as she has the day off and it's "so much easier all round". It started out as a joke but now it's wearing very thin as it's beginning to upset me that I probably won't produce on time - even though that's perfectly normal.

In some good news, I managed to get the car seat base into the car and the car seat on it all by myself with no tears and only one swear word! ... And now it will never leave the car ... never. Never.

I need to write cards, wrap presents and all sorts but so far very happy in sofa nest.

Just been cheered up by a mum I'm friendly with at school who as soon as she knew when I was going in offered to have DD and bring her to school that morning. Won't let her do the sleepover offered as I think it's unfair on her DD to be disturbed on a school night but can at least drop her off and know she will be safe.

So that cheered me up a bit as did the tin of Quality Steeets I have just bought AND we are having Chinese Thursday as Chinese Tuesday as DD has a party Thursday night.

So all good really.

Bohemian its a good job you said that as I think I better practise with our car seat lol. The last one I had came with the base to it but this one is just one that you use the belts around the seat. I need to show DP how to do it as I doubt I'll be able to do it after a C Section. Been a long time since I had a baby to strap in. I have forgotten how much effort it takes just nipping to Tesco's garage for some milk is with a newborn or a baby who can't strap themselves in which is why I used to walk a lot more. Easier to take the pram half the time and it gets them to sleep.

Mmmm had Pizza Hut for dinner, very nice.

frouby so sorry your help has fallen through Hun, it's annoying when people offer help and don't actually follow through, I hope it works out for you hunny.

mean you've done the best thing and put a pad on, at least you can check over time to see if any more comes out. Was it a massive gush Hun?
With ds1 my waters just gushed out and ds2 the mw broke them and they just trickled but I'm not sure for how long though as I was pretty far along at this point.

Congrats on your cs date snow

My hips are killing me today and baby boy feels very low, it's so uncomfortable to walk.
No other symptoms or signs at all, but then again when I do they mean bot all do maybe no signs are a good sign

Happy birthday Bumpy!

when should you worry about reduced movements? Aside from the odd kick here and there, I've had hardly anything. Been lying on my left side for 45min after a warm bath but there's still nothing usual.

This happened last week and went to the drop-in midwife and it was nothing, only that he's running out of space, but he was lively after that and ever since but far less today.

Mum tells me I'm being ridiculous, which has just left me in tears.

Im home and happy but still with no baby :(

I find reduced movement a tricky one Bohemian I would be happy with the odd kick but if your worried then give them a call. I get days recently were i feel hardly anything then the next it all picks up again. I think its just where the baby is getting so big and theres less room but as I said if your generally worried give them a call you dont need extra stress on your mind :)

If you are worried just go in.... I've been twice this pregnancy and was glad I did for reassurance even though as soon as I was strapped in bump went mental.

i say go in bohemian. you know what is normal for you so if in doubt just get yourself checked out. good luck.

I echo chilli it is classed as reduced movements for you bohemian
The last time I got checked for reduced movement my consultant was asking if I got at least 10 movements in an hour.
Always better to be safe than sorry.

Welcome home chelsea xx

bohemian i'd say give it another 45 minutes (they usually say lay down for 2 hours, no?) and if you haven't felt anything, go in. Who care what your mom says. I've learned to tune out people, they piss me off with their opinions and 'suggestions'. i need to remember to not do that with pregnant women in the future.

frouby that's really annoying. helping means doing things that YOU asked for, not that they think you want. Same with my MIL. She's coming to 'help' but the help I need is someone that can go out get my groceries, stuff I'm missing etc. but she says no, she doesn't want to drive. If she thinks helping is cuddling with my baby while I'm doing all the chores, she can forget about it.

I'm in a feisty mood today. ha.

chelsea glad you're home and all is good. I know it's disappointing but probably good that baby cooks a little longer. xx

I have made it to 12 movements in 1h30 - with the last two being strong back/bum shoving - so hopefully all okay, but will keep an eye on it.

Problem is I know movements slow down at this stage but he has been SO active over the pregnancy that it's hard to tell what is 'reduced' now. Seriously, this is the little one that can be seen kicking by checkout people in Sainsburys ("Oh my god, is that your baby?!").

Mum has told me to stop worrying her ...

Bohemian I've had much much less movement recently - was assuming I should feel about 10/hr like earlier on but MW says due to less space and longer sleep intervals, from around 35 weeks about 10 a day is fine as you often won't feel the others anyway. Not sure if that's accurate or if it helps...

Chelsea glad you're home and hope you're comfy. Better baby cooks a bit more - though guessing it's probably a bit disappointing not to be meeting quite as soon!

Very disappointing im just glad im aloud to come home and baby is staying put to develop longer :)

bohemian I found that my movements have changed as baby has got bigger. So instead of lots of kicks and punches, I get more being shoved in the ribs by a bum, or the weird rolling feeling of it shuffling round. I just don't think poor thing has the space to kick and punch any more. That being said, you should get checked out if you are worried. You know your baby best after all.

congrats on being back home chelsea least you have your own bed back and your home comforts. Hopefully next time you're in hospital is when baby is fully cooked and you get to meet it