June 2014: Thread 4: Making our way through the first trimester one day at a time!!!

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Mtmd - get a cat ! Sorry, I second the idea of using technology to get rid of them, we had them in the attic of the house we just moved out of because all the attics of the terrace were connected.

Magpie, I wouldn't be happy but my DH doesn't go out and helps me a lot. Esp. if he does it alot I'd probably have a good sit down and a chat about it.

I had to google pregnancy symptoms the first time to prove to my DH that I wasn't faking the tiredness. He is very good mostly but really doesn't get how miserable it feels being knackered and feeling ill 24 hours a day.

I hope he comes home soon. Was he like this before you were pregnant?

Yeah he was but it was easier to deal with then, am just a misog now! But at least have the cats for company!

Unfortunately pregnancy rarely changes men in the way we hope. Give the cat a big hug!

Will do, thank you all for listening to me.

Phew long day. Parents evening at school meant a 12 hour day. Back to my friend the sofa now

Hope everyone has felt ok today.

Clever that sounds horrendous! So you've had to teach all day then sit through talking to a class load of parents. I couldn't of done that at this stage. You definitely deserve some rest now

Our garden is full of neibourhood cat, maybe I should kidnap one for a couple of weeks :)

This got me so upset I'm still awake despite my usual sleep time being 1.5 hours ago. Cant sleep. Despite a killer migraine. Will be such a zombie tomorrow. I really should learn to control my emotions a bit better.

Magpie I think you have a right to be cross [ thanks]

Magpie they can be such turds can't they. DH has really struggled to absorb things in early part of all 3 pregnancies. I second what Bumble has said - it's harder for someone who isn't physically experiencing pregnancy to understand what it's like. It doesn't excuse it though.

DH said to me on Saturday night that he is starting to get his pregnant thirst on - meaning that whenever I've been up the spout he wants to go out on the lash with his friends more often! again, doesn't make it right but think he's making the most of it as we know that there will be precious little opportunity when there is a new baby in the house.

Have you told him how much you need him and how you feel? Have some , and a either way. People closest to us can be the most dense sometimes.

Hello ladies, just catching up on the last few days... Still overseas and have had three days of hell with work colleagues. Worst thing was that I couldn't just bloody drink through it.

Sorry to hear those who are still poorly, my symptoms have slightly got better but I am much more adverse to smells at the moment which when sitting next your boss who is eating a fish pie and all you want to do is hurl ain't a good look!

Clever My sympathies. I still have at least another 2hours of work before going to bed. My at least I can work from my sofa

mag perhaps a chat with your DH will help. Just be honest and tell him how you feel and how difficult it can be sometimes to deal with the hormones.

Mtdm we had the same problem in our old flat. We tried to cover all the possible little holes with steel wool.

Bezza I hope you have been able to resist my link :) Sorry

Seat the dress with go nicely with one of those bags you showed us before!

Okay, back to work! Still need to review another 4 pages. Wish me good luck.
Hope everyone will have a good evening.

Evening ladies...

Still sick here - now pushing 9 days of stomach flu. Was marched down to the clinic today as doctor was getting worried about the baby....haven't eaten for a week so kept thinking I was going to pass out. Baby is fine.....although I have been bumped down a week and new due date of 17th. Stomach flu will just have to pass (soooooooooon please) and now got kidney stones too!

DD (bless her) has taken to sitting on my bed and rubbing my hair saying "s'ok Mumma".....

Magpie - I am with you on this one!
Clever - I feel your pain - I have that next week (hoping I am back at work by then!) - but it is always fun matching the parents to the kids! Primary or Secondary?

magpie - that is annoying. but like others have said I think it's harder for men to appreciate the change when it's not happening to them.

my usually sensitive dh simply turned to me when I was crazy tired and said "imagine how much you're going to be moaning when you're properly pregnant!" PROPERLY PREGNANT???!!! I was so annoyed!

Update had a huge row over the phone, he won't come back and now he has switched his phone off. I think it is likely I will be doing this on my own. He says he is never going to change and I just have to accept it is in his nature to let me down and deal with it. So upset and worried that will hurt LO. I never thought he could be this cruel but I can't bear the thought that he will end up letting little one down as well. I feel so completely on my own.

Nessie - secondary. Got another one next week too. It's that time of year. Roll on Christmas!

This just made me cry: www.godvine.com/Banker-Rescues-Ducklings-in-the-Most-Heartwarming-Way-1304.html

Oh my god. This is going to sound like a horrible question, but does he love you? Do you love him? Does he always say things like that? Is he ever loving and supportive? I'm so angry right now, and I barely know you! Was this a planned pregnancy? If it was a shock to him I suppose I could maybe see it taking a while for him to come around, but he is acting like an immature brat.

Oh magpie :( I'm sorry. Tbh I think you need to call his bluff. Change the locks and show him you won't be pissed about like this. I know it's easy for me to say that though.

Mag We are here for you. If he goes back home at least he has to sleep on the sofa or on the floor!

magpie how terrible. Maybe you both just need some space tonight and then tomorrow have a proper chat about it to see where you both are at. I'm not condoning his behaviour but it does sound like he needs to actually have sometime to think about what you are saying - men are thick like that. It's easy for me to say but just try to forget what's happened and try to get into the right mindset to deal with it all tomorrow.

Magpie I'm so sorry. Don't know what to say but do please keep posting if it's helpful. Is there anyone in rl you can call?

Oh and agree on the sofa/floor suggestion!

I do think saying "men are thick like that" downplays his behaviour and does a disservice to most men. I hope he grows up rapidly magpie, you really don't need this, you poor thing.

Oh Magpie that is utter BS. No-one deserves to be treated like that. He seems to have drawn his line in the sand, so I suppose it's up to you to either accept it (doesn't sound tempting to me) or move on. If someone says they aren't going to change (i.e. they don't want to) I don't hold much hope for talking. I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's the last thing you need right now. Do you have some good friends or family around you that can support you? X

Hi everyone

Hi magpie. I'm shocked at your partner's selfish and unacceptable behaviour. Like emmazers says he's clearly making his statement. I initially thought it sounded like he was reacting badly to the pregnancy news and how it will impact on his life in the future, but if he is always like this and not prepared to be more considerate, then it does sound like you will really need to think about whether you can rely on him as a father.

Do you have an alternative support network around you? Any local family, or close friends?

Thinking of you.