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October 2013: Newborn snuggles and waddles to the finish line

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FeministInTraining · 15/10/2013 21:45

Stats sheet here

New arrivals here

Key:
SC - still cooking (pre EDD)
SFW - still f*ing waiting (post EDD)
OWT - on way to theatre (CS)
IP - induction in progress
SWIL - somewhere in labour
LIT - lost in transition

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MrsHoratioNelson · 16/10/2013 13:04

Oh dear Clapham I'm sorry for "getting in first" as it were. And its hardly like they're going to spend their childhood together!

on the feeding front, having been really cheered this morning, C is still really sleepy and the MW have changed from saying "don't worry its early days" to "we're going to weigh him and check he hasn't lost too much weight. He showed no interest in latching later this morning and they're now saying that Im "only" getting 3.5mls into him by syringe rather than saying how much he's getting. I think my milk is starting to come in, so hopefully I'll be able to express for him, but im now getting really worried that i didn't do enough for him early on and now he's getting poorly :(

Wickedgirl · 16/10/2013 13:18

apperley I am taking Amelie to the midwives clinic on Saturday (day 5) where she will be weighed for the first time since birth and have her heel prick test done. If I have any concerns before then, I am to call the community midwife to come out.

caz My ds is calles Harrison (usually Harry) and his cousin is Harry. We only see each other a handful of times a year so it isn't a problem. It is funny when we are all together though as you shout out "Harry" and both boys come running

orange How exciting. My waters were clear and went at home. I was asked to go in too so they could do a swab for infection and to check they waters were clear. My contractions started as we drove to hospital and Amelie was born less than 4 hours later. I hope everything goes well for you xx

Shirehobbit · 16/10/2013 13:31

FWIW I think Lucinda is a beautiful name.

Thank you again for all the positive support. Though, like Hayle - if things don't progress with my milk supply, there will come a time when we call it a day and swap fully to formula. But we would have tried everything by then.

Good luck, orange! My waters went 12-14hrs before contractions started and a good 20hrs before I was in active labour. They didn't want me in, as I was registered for a home birth, but had to have me in as soon as it was clear I wasn't going to deliver before 24hrs had passed. I was admitted and put straight on IV antibiotics.
Which reminds me, I'm still to tell my birth story. Are there any more back-to-back babies waiting to arrive? I don't want to worry anyone...

Shootingstarsandcomets · 16/10/2013 14:03

Thanks for the well wishes ladies, I still feel rotten but have managed to eat a small bowl of soup so hopefully it is only a 24hr thing. Looking after a toddler and feeling like this as well as being nearly due is a killer!
shire my baby is apparently back to back......... I know it's not good, been trying to turn him/her by hanging over the birthing ball but don't know if it's worked. Still share though I'm tough I can take it!!

Haylebop12 · 16/10/2013 14:11

Absolutely shire the decision to switch to formula will be easier emotionally knowing I've done all I can.

I've just fed Isaac and once he got the milk flowing I took off the shield and he relatched. Although it was shallow and my nipple went lipstick shaped. However, I feel like there's a basis to work on. I'm giving it until 6 weeks then will re-evaluate our position as its supposed to get easier from then... until then we shall take each day as it comes...

Readyasilleverbe · 16/10/2013 15:05

Good luck orange! How exciting!
Clapham sorry you've had a rough few days. All you need at this stage. Thinking of you. X
Feel better soon shooting.x
Feel like there's very few of us left still pregnant! Have been having constant bh for about a week and twinges esp at night but think, after wk end scare, baby is staying put for the duration! Sc 38+6!
If someone gets a chance could you let me know how to join fb gp? Maybe looking at newborns will give me the oxytocin rush I need! X

thethreeblondies · 16/10/2013 15:15

I'm sc 39+4 feel the same ready lots of bh and twinges but nothing ever ramps up to the next level! Had the same with DD2 and had a relatively easy birth on her due date, so fingers crossed the "practicing" is doing some good! I'm still quite enjoying being pg especially as this will probably be the last, I'm trying to ignore the constant messaging/calling from everyone wanting news but it's that that I want to be over! Bloody people!

takingachance · 16/10/2013 15:27

Good luck, orange !

mrs HN Alexandra has also been very sleepy and hadn't eaten for about 6 hours, so the midwife said to strip my and her top off and go back to skin to skin. I did this yesterday and she then fed straight away. She has been sleepy again today and wouldn't wake enough to latch on, so I did the same again and she took a nice big feed. Might be worth a try?

It's a new one for me as dd1 was a very demanding baby and I certainly never worried about her sleeping for too long!! Xx

claphammama · 16/10/2013 15:32

thanks ready x. For the FB group, I can add you if you PM me your real name and description of your profile pic, in case there is more of you with this name.

and yes, it's getting empty even at the back of the bus now... even orange is about to abandon us!

MrsH I'm forgiving you for "getting in first"... as you were so much ahead of me on the bus. And ours will have a different middle name, I think we've settled on Conrad Alexander - so dramatically different isn't it? Grin

hayley you are doing amazingly well. 3 weeks is more than many women manage to do and every day matters. Your baby has already had 3 weeks of your milk and I think setting yourself the 6 weeks goal is a great idea. And definitely one day at a time - the only way to do it.

shooting hope you feel better soon!!

Bronzemoth · 16/10/2013 15:46

Congratulations taking, Penelope, wicked, soup and odd and good luck orange

shire your post made me all emotional you are so doing everything you can and are clearly an amazing mummy. I want to give you the biggest hug and make you repeat that.

Just waiting for dreading midwife visit. Apparently just had a curt message from her on dh's phone saying she will be here in an hour. I just hope Noah has put some weight back on.

OrangeBlossom2 · 16/10/2013 15:48

SWIL! allowed home for now.

Smitten1981 · 16/10/2013 16:00

I just ended up in tears after spending an hour trying to fit the stupid Isofix base in the car and then wrenched my shoulder trying to work out how to get the bloody car seat off the buggy adapters.

Why is all this stuff called 'easy release' when you need three lots of hands to actually remove anything. ARGHHHH! I dread to think how I'm going to manage all this with a baby in them.

Haylebop12 · 16/10/2013 16:03

Are you contracting then orange? So exciting!

Thank you clapham I am so laid back about it all, practically horizontal Grin think its just best to be open minded and realise it doesn't always go according to plan. Fortunately my plan is "if it works, it works, if it doesn't, ah well!"

BowlFullofJelly · 16/10/2013 16:23

Checking in, congrats on all new arrivals, good luck nat and orange and anyone else swil. Sorry to hear so many of you are having a tough time Thanks.

Have been reluctant to post too much, but just to give a different perspective to those sc and hoping to bf, things have gone very smoothly here - Emilia got it straight away, has been feeding and sleeping beautifully, has gained 4 ozs over birth weight today (day 10), and slept for a 6 hour stretch last night. So there is hope!

What I will say is i think this has very little to do with my parenting ability, and a lot to do with my baby. While i have learnt a few things since ds was a newborn, i am not doing anything dramatically different and the experience is completey different - DS was super demanding, Emilia isn't. So ladies struggling, please dont beat yourselves up, these babies all have their own personalities - some cooperate, others don't!

Shirehobbit · 16/10/2013 16:34

shooting - my birth story is only unpleasant because of my back problems and a resources issue at the hospital (a really healthy dose of bad luck/poor timing)....

So, as I said, my waters went at 10pm on the Saturday evening. Not in a big gush, but unmistakable flow/leakage. Went to bed, padded up to absorb any more and with a hot water bottle for lower back ache. I slept until about 4am, when the ache became unpleasant and I needed paracetemol. And dozed until 8/9am.
The first interesting thing about the Sunday was that we had booked my pregnancy yoga instructor to visit us to hold a 'birth rehearsal' session (looking at positions and breathing techniques with me and DH) - something we had arranged weeks ago!
When she arrived, I did warn her that things were kind of happening but not, and she was happy to run the session. After an hour, my back ache suddenly worsened, coming in waves (now I understand these were contractions, just felt in my back because of Al's position) and as we reached the end of the session, I suddenly had more gushing of waters! Talk about timing.
I called triage to let them know, (and posted in here!) while DH did an emergency shopping run for stuff I hadn't got around to getting. Then things began in earnest - still all in my back. I was using TENS, which helped, tried a bath, which didn't.
A midwife visited after 5pm and told me I was 3cm and identified that Al was back-to-back. It was at that point she told us that a home birth was pretty much an impossibility, as I would need to deliver within 4hrs to beat the 24hrs deadline after waters breaking.
I had no problem letting go of my home birth plan - the midwives still hadn't got around to arranging my delivery of gas and air and I already knew, with the position complication, that I would need more pain relief than paracetemol alone.
We went in at 8pm, I had only progressed to 4cm and we were left in a curtained corridor in triage to await a delivery suite room to become available.
The problem was that triage had no supply of gas and air, no anesthetist could visit (they could only work on delivery) so all I was offered was codeine.
In the meantime, a screamer had arrived in the next corridor. She was less advanced than me, but howling. Now, I don't wish to judge, though it was difficult at the time, but her screaming magic-ed up some gas and air for her use and she queue jumped in to delivery, despite being less dilated. Bitter? Moi?
Blush
After she left, I was given her gas and air canister. It had two contractions worth of gas left Angry and a replacement took a further hour to arrive (at midnight).
So, I was technically labouring in a corridor with just paracetemol and codeine to help at 8cm by this time. There were tears. My back was not coping with the strain and every bit of my old injury felt like it was being torn apart.
When the gas arrived, I practically drank it down, with the inevitable result - the vomit-phobic was spectacularly sick.
At this point, DH really began to kick off with staff and the poor triage team could only agree it was wrong

Shirehobbit · 16/10/2013 16:57

Doctors are doing rounds - I'll have to finish later, when I finally make it to the delivery suite, already in second stage.

tuckingfits · 16/10/2013 17:16

sanji you're very quiet you'd better not be in labour i hope things are happening for you!

Good luck orange queue jumper Wink

Hope things are going great guns for you nat.

Sfw at 40+3.

Slippysnow · 16/10/2013 17:31

Thanks for adding me roofio. I don't know what's happened to me but I can't get my head around Facebook since the last time I used it, it's baffling me. It's lovely seeing all the babies I'm hoping for an oxytocin rush.

I might stick to this I think it's all too much for my little brain especially not knowing who is who!!

I'm still cooking at 38 + 5 so the remaining ladies are not alone!

roxvox · 16/10/2013 18:18

Good luck nat and orange and anyone else SWIL!

I understand that breast feeding shouldn't be painful generally, but it really bugs me when I am told that I must be doing something wrong if it hurts a bit when Ailla latches on. Surely it's bound to be painful temporarily whilst your nipples get used to being tugged on every 5 minutes?! Has anyone ever had a completely pain-free start to breast feeding?

We took Ailla shopping today, but she had other ideas and decided that it was prime time to cluster feed... We stopped a few times for coffee, and the rest of the time we just raced from shop to shop with DH trying his best to keep her calm!

MrsHoratioNelson · 16/10/2013 18:18

Thanks taking we are stripping him and giving him skin to skin but the little bugger darling will sleep through the lot! MWs think it might be the diamorphine working through which makes sense. As does my milk coming in, which explains why I'm feeling a bit all over the place.

Clapham love Conrad Alexander, such impeccable taste you have. Maybe one day the two Conrads will get a chance to size one another up :)

xuntitledx · 16/10/2013 18:21

Feeling anxious for my induction tomorrow Sad

Cleaned the house from top to bottom again to give the stubborn one another chance to spring into action, fingers crossed something happens tonight!!

All bags ready including snack bags - not sure I'm going to sleep tonight though.

Argh!

takingachance · 16/10/2013 18:26

Mrs HN - my dd1 had pethidine in her system and didn't eat anything for the first 12 hours, she then had to have phototherapy for 4 days due to jaundice and so still didn't feed much at all. I reckon it took a good 2-3 weeks to sort out breastfeeding, but then she breastfed until she was 4yo! Anyway, I know what you mean about feeling all over the place! But hopefully he will become more alert soon - then you'll be wishing for peace and quiet Wink xx

Prisci · 16/10/2013 18:28

Congrat taking, penelope, oddlife, wicked and soupqueen and good luck orange

It is D Day for me today but no signs of labour. Had OB appointment this morning, apparently 2cm dilated as my cervix has started to softened. She did a sweep but not holding much hope as I have just very small cramping but nothing else. DS1 and DS2 were both 10 days late, both had to be induced. I really hope that she is not going to be too late since DP has to go away for business the first week of November, we live abroad and thus have no family around (which can also be a blessing at times), I am truly not looking forward to be on my own with a 10days old and a 3 and 5 years old despite having a great support network. I tried everything with DS1 and DS2 but this time, I am not holding much hope and just trying to rest a little in between the school and activity runs. DP working crazy hours too, last night was the first time in 10days that we manage to have dinner together, hopefully he will be able to take a few mornings/or afternoon off after the birth. Sorry, sounding like a moan but just tired of being PG.

How can I be added to FB, would love to see all the new babies?

Shirehobbit · 16/10/2013 18:34

Part two -
We finally made it into a delivery suite room at 2am, where they discovered I was fully dilated and ready to push. The only position I could stand to be in was huddled on my knees, hugging the back of the raised bed. This meant the CTG monitor kept being knocked off and they told me that if I wanted to stay in that position, they would have to attach a monitor to Al's head (which I hadn't wanted).
At the same time, I was pleading for an epidural as pushing exacerbated my back issues further, so the compromise was I would accept the internal monitor in return for the epidural (they didn't really want to give me one as I was already pushing).
I cannot tell you how wonderful it was to finally have some effective pain relief. Though it took a few attempts for them to negotiate my scar tissue and get it in, the relief was amazing -I was calm and in control and felt 'back in the room'.
The side effect was that the anaesthetic slowed my contractions,though. As a result, the doctor wanted to use forceps. Again I got my negotiation head on, and asked if he would just let me try to push, unassisted, first. He agreed and so I worked my ass off for two hours - I felt so focussed.
In the end, despite my best efforts, we did need a little help with a kiwi ventouse and an episiostomy, but I know I had tried my hardest and didn't resent the intervention.
Al arrived after a 3hr pushing session with a pph that took everyone a little bit by surprise. But I couldn't have cared less as he snuggled in my arms and they sorted me out.

A far cry from my planned, peaceful home birth. I don't regret the interventions at all - they were needed for the situation we found ourselves in.
But being left, labouring without pain relief, in a public space, for six hours? Still really cross about that.

Soupqueen · 16/10/2013 19:06

I'm envious of those of you successfully managing to feed - breast OR formula. My wee girl has just been taken down to the neonatal unit as she isn't interested in feeding whatsoever. They are hopeful that a night being tube fed might get her sugar levels up enough to break the too sleepy to feed cycle.

She's 24 hours old, it's awful being separated.