October 2013: no pushing in from the back of the bus, please

[MrsHoratioNelson]

Stats sheet here

https://docs.google.com/spreadsheet/lv?pli=1&key=0AidVHHwJSwC3dDU2VzFhWWt1ckg4dW84WkdCNzhOaFE&f=true&noheader=true&gid=1 New arrivals here

Key:
SC - still cooking (pre EDD)
SFW - still f*ing waiting (post EDD)
OWT - on way to theatre (CS)
IP - induction in progress
SWIL - somewhere in labour
LIT - lost in transition

Good to know the arnica works, thanks. I've got some in my hospital bag.

I need a selfish post

I really do not no how much longer I can cope like this, sweating all the time in so much pain down there, carrying on like normal with dd. I don't no how I am even driving to get her to sxho

I need a selfish post

I really do not no how much longer I can cope like this, sweating all the time in so much pain down there, carrying on like normal with dd. I don't no how I am even driving to get her to school anymore as my belly rests on the steering wheel and I can't turn round to look behind me. U feel like my house is falling apart where I'm slacking so much. I can't even decide if I have reduced movement or not as I feel like the thought that they might induce me if I go in with it is clouding my judgement and I don't want to lie to them. Dh keeps telling me how moody I am ATM. I am seriously stressed I feel like sitting down and crying my eyes out for however long it takes until he arrives !!!

And now I can't even manage to post a rant without accidentally posting it half way through!!!

Hello all. SC at 39+2 but more on that later.....

Thanks for asking after me, clapham, I'm sorry you're having such a stressful time and hope there is better news soon. Congratulations to all who have had babies since I last posted!

I've been fine, just in a bit of a funk for a number of reasons so haven't had anything positive to add and didn't want to just moan when I have a lot less to moan about than some.

Had my weekly monitoring today which was fine, but they're not budging on needing me to deliver by EDD. I'm booked for induction on Saturday. The woman that everybody was frustrated with on Midwives was in a similar position to me - the big difference being that my baby's growth hasn't dropped at all, everything is textbook ok but, because my blood test at 12 weeks indicated a possible problem they're pushing for induction - despite everything being ok. I really don't want to drag this baby into the world before it is ready. Good to hear your positive induction story, legally, I hope mine goes as smoothly. The baby is nowhere near ready though so I doubt it. The midwife attempted a sweep this morning but my cervix was high and back.

I'm now frantically trying to get everything organised but backache and SPD are not helping!

Dreading the blues, I was expecting it, but it looks like in laws will be around. I'm an intensely private person and hate to show emotion other than with DH.

I will try to be better at contributing over the next few days - and update from the hospital (assuming its ok to use a phone on the ward anyway!)

nat - I think unfortunately that it's part and parcel at this late stage!

There's been a few of us who have had a little breakdown recently so let it out!

Hope you feel better soon x

I could have sworn I posted asking about arnica, but apparently not - I have bought arnica gel, but now I'm wondering if that would be best and whether the tablets would be better? I though the gel would be cooling, but perhaps not.

Baby has put on weight so we are off the naughty list for the moment - next visit from me will be on Friday

MrsHN, I think the gel is for external (but not broken skin) and the tablets are for internal so you could use both.

The tablets are homeopathic though so depends if you believe in that.....

Thanks Soup, that makes sense and it did occur to me as I was reading your post that the bruising could be internal ouch

Also, I was trying to think of a polite way of enquiring about the point you make in the second part of your post - I suspect you and I are of one mind on that particular hot potato, but so many people have said that it really worked for them I didn't want to cause any upset

Is anyone else struggling with connection on here today? I'm on the mobile app and it's so slow updating and checking threads! Don't they know how often and important it is that I keep this thread refreshed!

Same problem here threeblondies on mobile app as well I thought it was my wifi

Mobile website not app but veeeeerrrrrryyyyyy slooooooowwwwww

Nat and soup.

Soup they can't induce you if you don't want to be. Have they explained properly why they think it is best? Can you ask to speak to someone about it and possible alternatives eg extra scans/monitoring? Was it low Papp a levels at 12 weeks and worries about placenta working? I mix people up, sorry if that wasn't you.

Nat probably obvious but have you moved your car seat back?
I wondered whether it is safe for me to drive yesterday too as pushing the pedal/turning round sent my back into spasm. Other than dr and hairdresser down side roads I am not going to on bad back days again.

Sorry about your ex Clapham, must be very worrying for you.

I'm feeling so pissed off today with my sister. We had a falling out about 5 months ago as she caused a lot of upset over nothing and involved my parents in it all. Then she moved to the US for work. I haven't spoken to her since as she really upset me and have been waiting for some apology or even an acknowledgement that she was sorry for her actions.

I woke up this morning to a Facebook status saying she's coming home at Xmas and she's excited for the baby to see his aunt.

Firstly, she hasn't asked me about the baby in 5 months, I haven't heard a peep. Secondly 'excited for him to see her?' Really???

I've been stewing all day on it. I really want to send her a message asking why she thinks she can just ignore me for the best part of 5 months and then come home and spend time with me and the baby without any sort of apology for the upset she caused me and my parents.

DH says to take the higher ground and write her an email saying that she upset me and has been rude not to take an interest in how I'm getting on, but to say that I don't want it to be awkward at Christmas, but she needs to know that she can't just carry on as if nothing has happened.

What's the best thing to do here? I just got so angry when I saw her status after she hasn't even asked about the baby at all. If we weren't related I'd happily have nothing to do with her ever again.

Sorry for veering off the baby topic, but it's really stressing me out.

orange my seat is as far back as I can possibly have it as I'm only 5ft 2 so wouldn't be able to engage the clutch and I'm a larger lady anyway.

Dh is pissing me off even more cos he's bored and wants to go out somewhere like go and sit round his NANs and the last thing I want to do is speak to anyone or go anywhere as that would mean wearing trousers others than track suit bottoms

Ugh. I feel so sorry for myself this afternoon its rediculous

Nat.
You have a lot of family close by don't you? Would any of them be able to help with the school run sometimes?

It seems like everyone has a few days of feeling really down and fed up about now. Maybe it is a sign babies are their way soon

My connection is playing up too.

Just had an hours nap. I am so pleased to be on maternity leave!

That was a weird way for her to put it smitten. I agree with DH that you should try to rise above it, you have enough to think about without extra stress. Easier said that done though I know.

Smitten how upsetting. I wonder whether now is the best time to get embroiled in a conversation with your sister that might just escalate and make you more upset? I completely understand wanting to have your say and point out how hurt you are by her behaviour but it sounds like she might be the sort who would be completely oblivious to that and would feel that you were the unreasonable one for making, as she might see it, "a big fuss over nothing"? Not that it's nothing to you, but that might be her take on it?

There's no need to welcome her back with open arms - you can certainly keep her at arm's length but its probably not worth the aggro to get drawn into it.

Sorry, I suspect that's not what you want to hear and I hate it when DH is all voice of reason about something that's really pissed me off, but unfortunately he's usually right.

In other news, stabbing pains in my cervix can only be a good thing, right? I've had them before and they've made me wince but these made me properly squeal :(

Thanks folks. I know DH is right and I should rise above it, but I've really had enough of her selfish behaviour. I'm just tempted to leave the baby with my mum and not see her to be honest when the time comes. It always seems to be me that rises above things where she is concerned and she just carries on acting in a completely self-absorbed way with no consequences. Grr, anyway I won't clog up any more space with my rants

Blueberry sour cream cake recipe as featured on FB :)

But, having made this once in a ring mould, the quantity was far too much, so I used 1/3 quantities of this recipe for the 2lb loaf tin and would use half for a 23cm ring mould.

Also, I find that Hummingbird Bakery always massively overstate the amount of frosting required, even for my sweet tooth, so instead of the 2 x quantities suggested I used 1/4 quantity cream cheese frosting which was plenty for this size cake. So that's 25g butter, 150g icing sugar and 75g ish of cream cheese.

Rant away smitten. Good to let it out!

Hopefully MrsH! Isn't it strange, the same feelings a few weeks ago would have had us worrying now they make us excited.

Underside of my bump is very achy as well, like the ligaments are stretched to breaking point. In previous weeks, this preceded a marked growth of bump. Can you get stretch marks on your stretch marks? :(

Back from my me appointment. Declined a sweep even though I'm desperate for this baby to come. I just the the fewer intimate examinations, the better.
I might regret it when I'm still cooking this time next week but just the thought of it made me cry (not that I'm hormonal or anything)

Grrr, not just the mobile site that's playing up.

Nat, Smitten rant away, that's what we're here for. Who else was it complaining about an insensitive sister??

I just merrily booked myself in to see a reflexologist that was recommended to me last night, and foolishly only asked the price at the end of the conversation (will i ever learn?) £45!!!!!(Or whatever I can afford, but how am I going to pay her any less )

Have you all seen why everything's on a go slow? Some people have some very odd post-sex regimes