October 2013: no pushing in from the back of the bus, please

[MrsHoratioNelson]

Stats sheet here

https://docs.google.com/spreadsheet/lv?pli=1&key=0AidVHHwJSwC3dDU2VzFhWWt1ckg4dW84WkdCNzhOaFE&f=true&noheader=true&gid=1 New arrivals here

Key:
SC - still cooking (pre EDD)
SFW - still f*ing waiting (post EDD)
OWT - on way to theatre (CS)
IP - induction in progress
SWIL - somewhere in labour
LIT - lost in transition

Those of you who've gone in for planned inductions/C sections and haven't needed to let people know for childcare reasons, have you told friends and family when you're going in?

I wasn't planning to make any announcement until the birth announcement but FIL has expressed a strong desire to be called as soon as things are underway (nobody knows yet that I'm being induced). The thought makes me uncomfortable. I think my inner wild animal just wants to sneak off in private but am I being unreasonable? I also don't want DH being under pressure to provide updates when he should be with me and focused on the job in hand.

Soup we aren't going to tell anyone when I go into labour and I don't think that would be any different with induction, especially as it can take a long time to work and I agree I wouldn't want DH having to provide text progress updates rather than looking after me.

Me niether soup we won't be telling anyone. Just want to surprise people when they don't expect it.

Oh actually we have to tell Mary the cleaner as she is looking after our dog.

Stood shivering outside Laura Ashley waiting for the blasted shop to open (want my new curtains before this baby appears!) so can't post properly...but Wicked I turned down a sweep too.

Going to give baby a bit more time to do it's own thing...will probably live to regret it though...

Georgie I'm not sure whether I was lucky because I have heard that a sweep can be painful. But truthfully, it was a little odd and uncomfortable but totally fine. I kept expecting her to say "ok in going to start now" and it to start hurting but it was fine - I would describe it as being like a vigorous smear test or - if you want really TMI graphic a bit like if DH and I have been DTD and we've just managed to catch the wrong angle and it gets a bit too deep and uncomfortable. The things I never knew I would be discussing with a bunch of "strangers" on the Internet!

I have no doubt that it helped that I was keen for her to do the sweep and I have never felt particularly worried about smears so I was probably as relaxed as anyone is going to be in those circumstances.

As for DTD this weekend Flyer that is exactly what I said to DH - although my version went "you got me into this mess, the least you can do is help me get out of it". Indie point out that it wasn't very convincing when he was sympathising if he wasn't prepared to do the one thing that might actually help. It's not like I'll be enjoying it either . To be fair, he's worried about hurting since it has been off the cards a fair bit lately, but needs must and all that...

Finally, I won't be telling anyone when I go into labour - I got overexcited earlier this week by all that backache and told my sister but I have learned my lesson there!! I might tell my mum when I go into hospital but that will depend on what time it is and how panicked it is etc. The constant stream of "just checking how you are" enquiries is bad enough without feeling the need to give cm by cm updates...

We didn't tell anyone when we went in to have DC1 as didn't want grans stressing in middle of night, we knew she had a severe brain abnormality. Anyway when DH went outside to make the "your a granny call" he had 15 texts from my mum and 4 missed calls. Last text was I am sorry if I have upset you guys but please call me I need to know you are all ok. Felt really bad but we all saw the funny side of it, my mum could worry for Britain!

Good luck to those in labour and flyer my mw told me we'd need to have sex about 7 times a day to produce enough hormone to soften cervix and start labour. Needless to say we didn't try

Oh Jelly that's rather burst my bubble :(

Hi everyone. Another lurker here, although I did post a bit back in May, and I note that I am still on the spreadsheet.

I appear to be leading a parallel life to MrsH in that I was due on the 3rd and am still waiting. I had a sweep on Monday and should be having another one either today or tomorrow. I am booked in for an induction on Tuesday if all else fails.

Like a previous poster, I won't share my previous induction story, but I was really hoping to avoid it this time, if for no other reason than i want to experience spontaneous labour this time.

I am having some twinges which started last night, so they might turn into something, although I am trying not to get my hopes up.

Congratulations to everyone who have had their babies.

we told my parents and pil and our siblings, only because they all knew we were going in for monitoring of baby's heart so we told them after that I was going to be induced. didn't tell them it had worked and I was actually in labour. my mum was suprised when I called 11 hours later to say I'd had him!!

Congratulations Kiwee

Apperley so sorry to hear about your naughty little monkey, heres hoping all goes well for you today.

and Bridget, all 3 of us still hanging on atm!! I have mw at half 12, just routine appt, has said she will do a sweep if I want, I'm not sure. I had one with my first pg, but since then have never been this far overdue! Don't know how long they will let me go over and still have a hb? will find out!!!

Good Luck bronze

Pseudo hope everything calms down for you and you can go home to ds. Nice that dh can stay with you. Hope the bp isn't making you feel too poorly xx

Oh and mrs HN can't believe your dh doesn't want to dtd..... though don't hold out much hope.... I made mine do it twice yesterday and I'm still waiting. Top tip...... just climb on and help yourself and as you are so big, they can't escape

Re not telling people, because I was so overdue last time (personally l believe the hospital to my dates wrong as she was under 7lbs despite being 16 days late according to their dates), everyone knew I was in hospital and drove me mad with messages.

MIL was hassling DH so much he started ignoring her calls. Then when I was finally just getting ready to start pushing, a rather exasperated head midwife came into the room to say, "could he please call his mother, as she couldn't get hold of him, and she was jamming calling the main labour ward line to ask for an update" . My response was rather undignified.

I won't be telling anyone and we're also going to be switching off the location services on our phone as my stalker mum has set it up to alert her when we arrive at the hospital!

Too much pressure I think if people are aware, they'll be waiting for updates and I'd rather DH and I just focus on getting this baby out safe and sound! The way I see it, they've waited 9 months so another few days isn't going to harm anybody.

We didn't tell anyone our planned CS date (apart from ds preschool). It worked out fine and they were all thrilled to hear the news :). My sister and sil new something was up but didn't want to ask too many questions and mil said she couldn't sleep the night before. With ds I felt there was so much pressure. Was induced and dh had to give text updates. Then my sisters had a huge row cos one turned up at hospital after he was born even though we said no visitors that day and the other sister was upset she wasn't there!! All averted this time though :)

Good luck bronze

Congratulations Kiwee - enjoy lots of snuggles with your little girl.

Pseudo - sorry you are having such a tough time. Sending lots of best wishes your way

Pink - thank you letting us know how your meeting went. Sometimes it can be helpful just to discuss stuff even if no earth-shattering insights come out of it. I think our older ones will be fine in the long-run, given how much we love them, even if there are some hiccups along the way.

Lovely to hear from you Caz - was wondering if you were the first of 7th October gang to break ranks and have your baby.

DP resolutely refuses to DTD with me - I haven't the mobility to do the move you suggested Caz!

My current shallow reasons for being pleased the baby hasn't come yet are..

1. I have a horrid spot on my face that I don't want in the "mum cuddling newborn" photos.

1. There's a chance of getting the rather cool birthdate 13/10/1

1. I get to stuff my face relatively guilt-free for a few days longer.

And

1. I like the look on people's faces when they say "Not long now" and I say actually I'm overdue (I hated it when I had to say "actually I'm not due for another 2 weeks etc)

Sorry - 13/10/13

Oh Clapham - I'm hoping there has been some more positive news about your Ex's health today x

Congrats Kiwee!

Have we heard from Heffalump? Was she having a CS yesterday or the day before? Maybe she's lost in love

SC @ 39+2. I've had a couple of twinges this morning that I thought might be contractions, but I think they've turned out to be wind. Getting very impatient now. I started with DS at 38+6 I think, so was hoping to have baby by now! Getting rather fed up ...

Good luck to those SC, SFW, or SWIL.

Thanks for the positive induction stories it's good to know we have some options. I'm also a strong believer in pushing past the date of induction if you are sure the dates are inaccurate, but it's up to the individual and towards the end I know lots of us will just want them out!

I would love not to tell anyone but as I'm currently living with pil there will be little chance of sneaking out and going AWOL. Then our plan is to go to my parents which is closer to the hospital for the early stages of labour. Meaning both sets of parents will know. I just hope they are sensitive and don't pester. thats not my I think I would have killed someone in your situation!!

Congrats, kiwi and good luck to everyone who is SIL and SFW.

I don't want anyone to know when I'm in labour, either, but I'm sure my MIL will call at exactly the wrong time and keep trying our numbers until she gets through. She has a talent for doing that.

I had my flu jab today and couldn't believe how quickly they did it at this GP surgery. I didn't even get to sit down! We've decided to get DH a flu jab privately (probably at a supermarket) because it would really be awful if he got ill this year. We're thinking not only of him spreading it to baby, but also the fact that flu is the last thing you need when taking care of a baby and working.

he helped put this baby into you, he has to help get it out!

Does that mean if I go overdue I have to shag the fertility dude who wielded the syringe?

Whatever takes your fancy imp

Ewww no, he was about 70 and was called Alan like my FIL. Not really my thing ;-)

Agree with Bridget - I think clambering on would involve some sort of winch at this stage...

Ha ha imp