Trinpy, she sounds really patronising. Everybody's sickness is so different, and the demands of their life on any given day are also totally different, as is how supportive their partner can be based on the demands of his life, how many children you have, what kind of child care, etc. It just seems totally ignorant to say "I coped and herefore so can you".
And as for drugs, I hope (but doubt) doctors realise we are smart enough to know that there is no such thing as "absolute safety" in medicine, but actually a lot of these drugs have a lot of data to support that they are very likely to be safe. It just seems like in this country we have a totally risk averse view because of thalidomide - whereas in other countries Doctors have been prescribing things for years, resulting in the build up of good data that we could now use to do the same. You can make somebody aware that there is always a small risk involved without sending them on a massive guilt trip.
I have to say even though I have hardly taken mine at all except on the worst days, or when I have something big at work coming up that I cannot afford to throw up during, it means the world to me to know that they are there if I need them. So far I have taken 4 (the prescription is 3 a day) - but even though they only help postpone the vomiting, and do nothing for nausea, those 4 have been worth their weight in gold on the days when I needed them.
Gaargh... Sorry for the rant. This just makes me so angry. I hate being patronised, I'm really bad at just letting it go, although I'm trying to teach myself to do it!
So far luckily my GP, midwife and sonographer have been lovely and i haven't felt put down at all, but I guess I am kind of expecting to be a sitting duck while pregnant/vulnerable, because I have no idea what I'm doing so in the end I am going to be totally reliant on what others tell me to do. But I have already had advice from the midwife which I know is out of date with the latest research/government advice (re peanuts), so it doesn't exactly fill you with confidence. 