October 2013 - may our labours move as fast as our threads!

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New thread!

pink - kitty slug bottom story - EAAAAHGHHH!!

Hmm, so maybe best to buy a labour one with the boost button and DH can then just ignore that function. Thanks.

Just getting ready to go and have a sizing scan, so excited to see bubs one last time inutero

Hopefully she won't be giant..

pinkforboys I'm still here, just. SC at 36+4. Having a tough few days I've been having a lot of pain, a trapped siatic nerve extremely bad pelvic and back pain added to the fact that dd has literally been the child from hell this week especially Wednesday I think she cried 90% of the day which in turn had me crying 50% of the day cos she's stressing me out, it upsets me so much cos she's such a sweet thoughtful little (almost) 3 year old and yet me and dh can't ever have a nice day with her and she just cries on and on and when u ask her why she either days 'cos I'm tired' or 'cos I am' she was half an hour late for school this morning through crying then when I picked her up I hadn't even got to the car before the crying started and it carried on for an hour and a half. Sorry for the rant and mememe but this is kind of why I stayed off posting for a few days as I knew I wouldn't be able to help myself. I'm panicking I won't resolve this crying issue before the baby's born and how I'm going to cope. I think I would rather she done actual naughty things then at least I could punish her with a naughty step etc but the problem is I feel like my hands r tied as she isn't actually being naughty the crying will start over the tiniest of things like 'can u take your shoes off' and go on for hours and hours

Anyway sorry for that pointless rant I just wanted to get my feeling off my chest

pink funny u say about the slug the cat came over to me for a stroke earlier and she also had a mini slug that had hijacked a ride on her back it was smaller than my small finger nail lol

Wowsers. Well be on another new thread this time tomorrow at this rate!

Welcome to our two new babies! Is that 6 in total now?

I'm SC at 36+3. Saw my midwife this morning. All fine, but I'm measuring 43 weeks so have been referred for another scan to check up on baby. I think it's probably still polyhydramnios, but if baby is big they may look at a section or induction before my EDD. I know it's for the best, but I hate all this intervention!

Favellio - how's your bump looking? You had polyhydramnios too, I think?

Sorry for the me me me post! I can't keep up with everyone's ups and downs.

Hope your scan went well karma.

Sorry to hear you are having such a tough time nat :( it must be really wearing to have dd cry and cry for no reason.

Hope you re ok anything. I had mild polyhydramnios with ds. Hope scan turns out ok

Hi tarlia and falcon have you introduced your ds s to he new babies? Hope you and families all well.

Re birth stories I think posting with a spoiler alert is a good idea!

Re bf and skin to skin, your OH can do skin to skin too if you can't. I couldn't after my emcs and kept shouting skin to skin to my husband! luckily the mw I had was brilliant and bullied my dh into taking off his scrub top there in theatre and putting baby on his chest with blankets wrapped around :). She also helped with first feed as could not feel my nipples due to anaesthetic!

Re visitors my sister came to labour ward last time even though we said no visitors! She meant well but my dh had to warn her not to be snarky with the mw s. Had rest of family then the next day on ward. Then had family round on day 7 which is traditional for naming ceremony.
This time we haven't told any of our family CS date as we didn't want anyone arriving out to us. My sister and dad are arriving when dh goes back to work which will be perfect.

I also need to get bf bras...........they cost a fortune!

for all the heartburn/SPD/poor sleep

And poor you nat with dd. Ds was just three and sometimes the whining drives me crazy. Also our sleep and bedtimes not ideal at the moment so don't know what we're going to do!

mon two weeks!!!

I kNow chickie Are you feeling as excited and impatient as me? I keep worrying that something else is going to go wrong though.

In case it helps, Figleaves have 20% off with 'TWENTY' code. It was sposed to be just yesterday but still works today.
x

I'm not buying bf bras til I know what size I'm going to be and also til I know bf is going to work out this time. What I've got instead is nursing crop tops which were £20 for 2 from Very.co.uk. I've ordered a 14 but wish I'd ordered a 12 because they feel quite big in the back and think they'd be more supportive in the smaller size. They are really comfortable.

the trip to town on the bus and shopping for a few hours killed me... so feeling knackered now and definitely down from my earlier high!
I've bought 2 more BF bras in John Lewis (including the bravado one you recommended ladies) so have 3 in total now. chickie I'm also shocked how much they cost... and how ugly they are

flyer JL in London stock the Seraphine range so I've ordered one of the tops you posted yesterday - the one with buttons on one side, in navy blue. Have you also ordered them? They also feel very soft and warm.

nat sorry you are having such a hard time with DD. Mine is also very difficult and emotional these days - totally out of character (the emotional bit, not the difficult bit). He screams, doesn't listen and cries whenever he can't have his way. I was chatting to some mums at the school gates about it, some of them have three kids and different age gaps, and they all told me it was normal. They said they always act before the baby is born, then they get better once the baby is here, and then they act again once they realise how much attention babies need and once the novelty wears off. Let's brace ourselves...

SC @ 37+5, CS in 10 days!
Put cot up last night, becoming so real!!

nat I really feel for you. That sounds really difficult.

As for the womanly art of bf I'm definitely going to pick and choose bits but I do agree with it overall. I can't count the number of times during this pregnancy that I've been told how difficult bf is and how you shouldn't be afraid to stop and how can anyone do it when it's so hard. It was like these women were validating themselves and their own feelings by telling other women how impossible it is. It really made me insecure but angry at the same time. I am telling myself I will breastfeed, not that I'll try. I think with any other attitude it will be really hard to persevere. I also think it helps to be as informed as possible as the women who were saying these things roll their eyes at feeding on demand or having baby in your room, they may not have had skin to skin, they introduced artificial nipples early and they had no one to ask for advice. I know a lot of mums still have trouble bf after doing all these things "right" but I also think it's possible to increase your chances of establishing bf. I hope if haven't offended anyone with this.

I also don't think early skin to skin and feeding is that unreasonable. Baby friendly hospitals should let you have skin to skin as soon as possible in an unhurried way and feeding ASAP as well. I can't stand it on the midwives when they take the baby away to weigh it before letting mum hold her own baby! I get emotional when I see them do that. It makes me glad that the hospital I chose has skin to skin posters all over the walls of the antenatal clinic and they talk about it a lot. Hopefully that means they all understand the importance of it. It's going to be the most important part of my birth plan. I wouldn't wait two hours though, just as long as it takes to feed.

Sorry for the long post!

You have my sympathy Nat, sounds awful My dd (older than yours) has definitely been trying her luck recently in terms of behaviour, and if I get a bit tearful she starts crying too, but nothing like as bad as hours of crying. I'm sure she's just feeling a wee bit insecure - plenty of cuddles will hopefully help

Pre-clerking all done, baby 3/5 engaged (!) so that explains my new waddle. Steroid jab very stingy but I've had worse - movement fine so far but can have a trace tomorrow morning when I go for second dose. Had a blood test too, but have just had a phone call saying one vial is missing so it needs to be done again the morning of the op! The nurse on the phone reckons they dropped it

Very glad to hear on Fbook that Tarlia and baby were reunited this afternoon

ana I'm with you on all of that. It helps to start out with a positive attitude so you'll persevere through the (possibly) difficult moments. No-one should beat themselves up over bf or ff. The choice is very personal.

My experience with bf was positive- that first feed post birth was amazing- I can still remember this dark blue beady eye staring up at me as DS instinctively and eagerly sucked on my breast. I'm welling up now at the thought of it!
There are lots of challenges to go through when bf- but the support from the community mw and the helpline were great. Stock up on nipple cream, nipple guards, hot/cold pads, good books to read and calorific healthy snacks to leave by every bf spot in your house.
And if you can achieve a combination of the two so OH can do a late night feed and give you a break all the better (I didn't, but SILs did and I envied them).
I'm hoping Madam will give me as good an experience. I'm too lazy to sterilise bottles!!

Wahoo maternity leave has started! And what an exciting thread to look at on my last commute home, belated congratulations to Tarlia and Falcon.

SC at 35+5 and looking forward to a lovely weekend with my nephews christening. Hope you ladies who have been suffering get some respite soon, or more harvest moon babies.

Thanks for the nursing bras tips - one of my first jobs to do next week.

nat +

I'm beginning to feel I'm missing out with all your FB comms. What's the secret password?

home with the most gorgeous baby in the world

Birth story if you want to hear it goes like this.

I went to bed after the strong contractions stopped then stayed in bed and rested once i woke up. I walked through to have a bath and there was a little gush of waters. I went to the hospital where i was 4cm and completely effaced it actually turned out i was only 2cm on tuesday and 2cm thick so I had progressed alot. It turned out not to be my forwaters but she said it may have been my backwaters maybe a small hole she was now plugging as she had engaged! She gave me a sweep and I plodded around for an hour then I did the birthing ball having fairly strong contractions. I got checked 4 hours after admittance and had only progressed by 1.5 cms but she needed to break my waters to check on baby with the head clip at this point which was around midnight coped really well on gas and air but moved up to diamorphine as its was just too much by 2.20 I was screaming that i could not do it and needed more diamorphine, MW walked out to get it and Willows head flew down and i had to push cue much panic from DH lol not even 10 mins and it was all over and my 9lb 13 bundle at 57cms in length was with me.

I did find out something pertinent though They think my dates were wrong as my placenta was gritty and this generally only happens if your over due or you smoke that coupled with her size build I may not have been 38+5 at all.....

After effects still getting strong period type pains which is to be expected and it blooming stings when i pee lol even though it was just grazed
I lost blood a fair amount but im ok so it was really good same MW all the way through and she was fab!

Willow is bottle feeding tried the breast she was like whats this no interest but is guzzling 30-40ml Sma every 3 hrs lol

anyhow that was it now going to try and chill out :)

Clapham, yes I bought both those bf jumpers. I went for the grey one but was umming and arrhhing whether to get the navy one as well.

Busy day on the board. I also agree with keeping everything here as it is a bit unfair on the ladies due late in October.

I had a pedicure this morning with shellac it was lush and my trotters feel as good as new, like I'm walking on air

I met up with NCT ladies today, and one of the ladies bought her 7 day old baby girl with her. She was adorable (she was induced at 38 weeks due to only slightly high bp) and she was saying how difficult she was finding breast feeding. She's only latching on one boob and isn't getting enough. She was adorable though so tiny and cute.

Got friends coming over this evening for dinner (well take away) really can't be arsed, just want to get into bed and watch corrie.

Glad to hear you are home safe and well feminist. Would love to see a picture of baby willow

You did so well and coped fantastically with the dramatic run up to your labour.

Congrats to you and the Rest of the Falcon family xx

Sorry Falcon I called you feminist, meant to put Falcon! It's been a long day

Ana I agree with finding it frustrating hearing how 'impossible' it is to bf- and it's defo a personal thing for me not feeling comfortable saying out loud (to anyone other than my mum) that I will bf. Just because of the rolling eyes. And not wanting to offend people who tried and it didn't work for them. But you're right, thinking positively is what will help to get us through, no point going into something expecting to fail- we probably wouldn't advise people to do that in other areas of life. Also found it interesting that when I showed a couple of the mums at work the book, one was pretty meh about it (she bf with no problems) and the other told me that stuff like that just made her feel inadequate- I almost felt guilty for reading it .

Very emotive subject, but I think that getting people around you to support you in whatever decisions you make about how you feed your baby is really important for your own mental well being. I can take on the world if I have back up, can be a hormonal mess if I don't...

Well done Falcon - what a good size!