October 2013 - may our labours move as fast as our threads!

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New thread!

And heffalump we share the same age and may share a birthday!

Sorry x post hot soup no matter how secure you are about your weight it is up to you to disclose it to who you want.

To the two jellys sorry for the confusion ;)

What an odd thing to discuss, Why on earth would they be interested hotsoup?

slippy, I had the same confusion over the raspberry leaf tea so haven't had any yet.

hotsoup, what an odd conversation! I would not be best pleased either.

I'm 38+3 and have been drinking the raspberry leaf tea for a week or 2 (admittedly I haven't made much of an effort so have probably only had 5 cups in that time!) I bought some tablets today, of which I have had one, and I have also just had an evening primrose oil tablet. Internet searches suggest inserting the EPO)vaginally, but I am not too convinced about that?!

Has anyone else attempted hypnobirthing? I have almost finished reading the book, but am finding it very full on. There is no chance that I am going to remember all of these 'techniques' that they have gone on about. Am tempted to just try and focus on one of them fully.

rox I've read about hypnobirthing, spoken to someone who did it with great success, and I saw it on obem and the woman got what she wanted from it. I think I'm the same as you and would forget all the techniques come the big day. I wonder whether you could just get into the zone without following the methods word for word? I also read in ina may's book people referring to contractions as rushes and thinking of them as waves washing over a body, I found this a nice metaphor, but again come an actual contraction I wonder how it would work- I suppose you really need a positive mental attitude.

Rox.........I'm not trying anything to get this labour started. It will happen when it should. My last labour was fast enough and I don't want it any faster otherwise Ill be having the baby in a car park! It will all happen in good time. I didn't do anything to kick start my other labours either.........I just let nature take its course

We are almost at the end of another thread already!

That is bizarre hotsoup

I started raspberry leaf tea at 32 weeks, I've been drinking 4-5 cups per day. I started taking evening primrose 2x1000mg capsules per day for the past 3 days now and I'm 36+6.

Sympathise to all hormonal ladies...

Been out all day totally shattered, had some lovely Moroccan food earlier and lots of baklava for dessert...yum!

We were out having food outside (lark lane Roofio) and 2 drunks/smack heads walked past and told me I'm having a boy (they were pissed holding a can of Carlsberg special brew at the time ) I had to laugh!

Hotsoup most bizarre your dp telling his parents your weight, I wouldn't be happy either.

Can't think what else I was responding to....mind gone blank.

Hotsoup I'm loving your alternative birth plan - thinking of copying it out and handing it to my surgeon on Tuesday morning to lighten the mood...

Glad to hear the lovely Willow is doing so well Falcon - thanks so much for sharing photos with us. Make sure you take it easier though - bad TV in bed is just what you need

Christ, this steroid jab is making me feel awful - hot and flushed and a terrible headache all day. Hoping I sleep better tonight, have to take dd to a bowling party and a BBQ tomorrow (she's some kind of social butterfly!), and she is overexcited already

Oh Flyer I'm so ridiculously jealous of your baklava!

MrsH - yes that was my thread. Some of the replies had me in pieces too. The ones where the poster had lost their babies reduced me to a blubbering wreck actually. Especially the one where she said she had lost her beautiful feisty perfect girl. I actually sobbed. It was generally so moving to hear all the posters experience of those first moments, and hear them all gush about how much they love their children.

Moonblues - what does that mean? What are the discussions of the day? I completely missed that! Thanks though!

Soupqueen - keep an eye as my midwife told me period pains and thigh pain can be the start of contractions.

Hotsoup - that would piss me right off.

Bit emotional here too. It must be the hormones revving up!

Just downloaded 2 albums onto my iPhone from the iTunes Store for hospital/labour....Not sure Old Skool floor fillers and ministry of sound is quite what I should be listening too

What have others got to listen to?

Falcon great to hear willow is doing well, and yes to online shopping.

wicked my interpretation of the tablets is that they ready your cervix for an easier labour, but not that they encourage you to go into labour. Having said that, if you had such a quick birth last time then it may be best not to 'ready' your cervix any more than it is already ready.

slippy I like the metaphor about the waves as well. That, and the breathing techniques, plus the light touching from DH will be what we focus on. But, unless I can master these techniques quite quickly, then the other techniques won't be my focus!

Evening All, I should never go out- it takes so long to catch up with you all!
flyer I'm loving the playlist- shd def help with the pushing phase.

GT my hosp won't let me go beyond 40w for that reason. I think I'm going to be allowed to get to 40w before they induce me as I'm adamant DS was born on due date and I want DD the chance to do same. But I'll see what they say at 39w.
As this pg is IVF we thought the due date was pretty certain but they revised it at 12w saying sometimes the embryos don't hit your womb running, and take a couple of days to settle in before they grow. so it could arrive 16 or 18 Oct... and yup- this is our last. There is no way I can go through the emotional trauma of trying to get pg and maintain a pg again. Let alone the cost! 11 years of ttc have taken their toll...just pleased we'll have 2xDCs by the end of it

oh and falcon- you're crazy!!!!! Rest up, snuggle up with Willow and enjoy the benefits of online shopping. Your body has been through major trauma!!!

oh and what's the evening primrose oil for?

clapham I hope you're feeling better.

hotsoup that is not ok. Only you should be talking about your weight and only if you want to!

We had our first day of nct today and it was a really, really good experience. We learned a lot and DH is like a different man. He is full of ideas for how he's going to light candles and support me and give me snacks. It makes me realise how scared he's been because he's been avoiding talking about it all and now he's excited. He's totally behind the home birth now, too. The other couples are really nice and I'm sad that they live so far from us. Two of the couples are taking hypnobirthing classes and I'm kind of jealous of them but we'll just listen to our cd instead. You can't do everything, especially on a budget.

I hope no one felt judged when I posted about bf earlier. I hope we can all support each other here no matter what we do, whether it's due to our choices or circumstances.

clapham sorry you were so low- hope the sob & chocs made you feel better. Thanks for the FB connection- I'll pm you.

Clapham sounds like Crouch End. You can't move for being run over by a buggy or have a coffee for fear of a boob in your face. I'm going to find it strange this time bf-ing without a-natal mates to share the experience with

[wave] to fellow 'geriatric mums' phew, I'm not the oldest!

oh- and does anyone know what tyne posted that had to be removed? I'm intrigued....

Sorry- I know I've missed so much. My sympathies and hugs to all those in need. And looking forward to hearing of the next babies...

favellio good luck with your suprise face tommorow and hope u enjoy your baby shower xx

jelly your post about ds unpacking your bag made me chuckle I even told dh lol

Was it hotsoup saying about dh telling ILs about your weight gain? Apologies if I got they wrong but yes I deffo wouldn't be too happy about that either ! Xx

falcon glad to hear u have put your feet up for some much needed rest and willow is feeding and sleeping well :-)

I am in so much pain still it started wednesday afternoon and still going on now it feel like I can barely walk my back is absolute agony everything feels bruised and standby every time I move even to reposition on the sofa even getting up off the toilet is agony 36+5 ATM and I would have been trying to evict baby as of Monday but I really need to wait till 38 weeks as that's when my midwife who I have a good bond with is back from her a/l so Monday the 30th is when I would like to go into labour lol

I'll meet you to breastfeed Pink :o

Textbook - I'm glad it's not just me suffering from the steroids, I've felt most strange today. I think some of it is the Labetalol too, but steroids must be playing a part too.

The deleted posts were just spam gibberish.

Pinkforboys I think the evening promise is supposed to ripen up the old cervix...I've read reviews and all seem to say positive things about it. I'm into all these fad things though.

I've caught you at last.. Jupii!

I'm sorry to read lots are feeling emotional and sick of pregnancy :( It'll be worth it
Sorry cant remember who said what!

Re carseats VERY important to have handle up on them as it acts as roll protection.

I think skin on skin is great, was all set on that, but due to several reasons it was impossible for me to do. However, when the CS was over I went to recovery while DP went to Neonatal, he did skin to skin for 3 hours while DS2 was on oxygen and various monitors. I'd suggest DPs insist on going with baby in this situation. Here father always follows the baby here and they make it work. It was do nice, that he could text me and send me a photo message. I will share my birth story at a later date then, but with the warning. I'm still processing it at the moment.

Baby is with me in my room now, which is lovely. I've been doing almost constant skin to skin today (except when DS was here - determined that blood loss, seperation and tube feeds will not stop me feeding. Luckily he suckles like a pro and I have colostrum so fx.

Want to share something with the CS ladies (though can technically happen to anyone at other times in life) that took me by huge surprise yesterday. I felt like I was having some kind of attack or blood clot - I had a slight pain in my neck, thought it was a crick so tried stretching, as I moved it got worse and worse to the extent that I could hardly breath and if I did it blood killed and had to be shallow breaths. Typically I was alone again so pulled alarm, nurse came in took one look at the panic and said 'you have wind' wtf?? Apparently it's very common after a CS (they trap all that air inside you) for it to manifest in the right shoulder in this way. So now every time I move around I get this pain as the wind is all moving around - cough - it's pretty much uncontrollable.

Sorry it's turned into a me me me essay

Tarlia, lovely to hear from you! Glad that baby is getting lots of cuddles (my DS loved kangaroo care whilst in/after NICU) and I hope you're feeling as well as you can.
I remember the horrendous post cs wind! Writhing on my bed in pain - bloody horrid! I hope that passes (:o) as quickly as possible for you xx