October 2013 - High Five! The babies are coming!!

[PseudoBadger]

New thread :)

morning girls!

firstly, I'm now on maternity leave!!!!! and, as tarlia rightly guessed, I was out celebrating last night, with proper champagne

I had the most surreal and lovely last day in the office. Was taken for a lovely Thai lunch, got a gift box from The White Company with some gorgeous baby grows, baby towels and toiletries for new mummy, and some baby Baby Gap stuff from other people. So felt very spoilt already. Then... in the most bizarre turn of events... don't know if you remember I said that we had someone from HR flying to London to evaluate our terrible manager as his feedback scores (from our team) were so alarmingly low. She spoke to all of us, also other people and... yesterday I first had my Director and then VP asking me for a chat and saying thank you for surviving the last year and sorry as they feel they've failed me, mistreated me and put me in an impossible situation (someone on my team is an underperformer who is married to a very senior and powerful person also on my team, should have never got hired in fact), and they feel ashamed and will wait for me with a new and amazing role when I'm ready to come back... and many other lovely things. And then I had my manager coming to apologise for being a "shit manager" (own words) as he realises he should have dealt with many things differently... I mean.... WTF??? This is now officially the most bizarre experience of my entire career... It feels amazing though and I feel so much lighter as I've gone through so much crap over the last 1.5 years. It still doesn't change my decision not to go back and be a mummy for a couple of years but I feel so differently about everything and a tonne lighter inside. Sorry for this long post but I'm still trying to process all of it...

tarlia enjoy your last weekend as a family of 3!

pseudo you must be so exhausted with all the back and forth and constant monitoring... our moaning and interrupted nights must pale in comparison... hope this weekend is better for you xx

legally glad you are now home and hope Valentina starts feeding better! must be so lovely to be back in your bed with your new bigger family around you

nat sorry you are still feeling rubbish

and with you all on the insomnia front and people's annoying comments... DP keeps telling me "I don't understand what the problem is, just close your eyes and sleep" arrrrggghh Shall I kill him on this thread's behalf now??

34+4 today and have tiny body parts digging into various organs, ribs and other body parts. Very uncomfortable

Sorry if I've missed someone's news... so hard to catch up with this thread now but hope everyone has a lovely day xxx

ps. oh no... so sorry to hear still no progress falcon...

and for falcon.

Clapham, that's great news! It is so so stress-relieving and happiness-inducing to feel appreciated at work (and home!) and for people to acknowledge all the shit you've had to endure....

But yes, kill your DP now on our behalf...

Falcon, I know it feels stop-start but you are really doing amazingly just to be surviving all the contractions. Baby Willow is clearly enjoying herself in there a bit too much! You can do it!

falcon sorry you're feeling so fed up and labour is so slow. sending positive thoughts!!
clapham its so nice that you can leave work feeling so appreciated! !
sc here at 37+1. baby has been giving the biggest movements today sticking his bum right out so my tummy literally doubles in size on one side!! and kicking me hard on the other. dp keeps panicing every time I wince but its just from how strong his kicks are!!!

SC at 37+5 with no sign of baby coming yet. Lots of stabby pains in lady bits but nothing else, even the ZbH have stopped.

falcon hang in there baby will come ehen she's ready. Try keep upright and mobile as much as possible without overdoing it to let gravity do its job. Do you have to go back in to be checked?

Legally glad twins doing well and you are managing to feed

Can't remember who else I was going to talk to so hope you all enjoying this sunny Saturday morning x

ZbH??? Should have read BH

Great news on the work front Clapham I bet you are really pleased things turned around at the 11th hour. Lucky you I love The White Company.

The reality is starting to sink in as to what I've done.....I know it sounds silly as I've had 8 months to prepare but I'm feeling a bit omg daunted at the thought of being a mum and how much my life is going to change. This sounds terribly selfish but I just saw some Michael Kors boots and added them to my basket only to realise that in a few weeks I'm going to be on £135 per week smp, it made me sad that I'm going to be mega skint and I may never be able to buy nice stuff again. Like I said I know it sounds selfish but I'm just used to not having to think about petty things as these.

Hang in there Falcon I hope she comes soon and puts you out of your upset chick it can't be pleasant.

Flyer I'm with you and I agree it feels like "what have I done?!"

I am so excited and looking forward to when we have the baby and there are so many things I want to do with the baby as he or she grows up but I feel like I'd like to slam the brakes on (although preferably not at 37 weeks pg!!).

I had hoped that we were going to have a lovely lazy day, reading the papers and drinking coffee, then going into town for lunch and to buy the baby's coming home outfit, but instead I have just got up having gone back to bed for an hour and DH is painting doors. Still, lunch is still on the cards as is my date at Jojo Maman Bebe

flyer don't worry I have the same feelings now and then and I'm sure all first time mums do. it is a huge change and responsibility and its terrifying that there is no way to take back the decision now haha!! I think its hard now as well as we can't really see how much its going to be worth it until our little ones are actually here!! im sure when they are we'll realise that having them is a million timea better than any pair of shoes!!

roofio and flyer I'm actually more nervous this time round than when expecting dd. I feel alot more irrational about things etc I'm not sure if its cos I no what to expect from a new born or cos I don't no what to expect from having two children? Its weird isn't it. Anyways like u say, no turning back now lol I'm SC at 35+5 I think its scary that some of u r approaching 38 weeks!! Eeek

Hope u enjoy your lunch out today mrsh

I've almost survived the morning with dd and my neice. They r currently demolishing a (all be it very early) plate of lunch and watching a bit of tv. Only 5.5 hours to go lol

Wow falcon what a fab present and lovely way to leave for maternity. Sounds bizarre though...maybe they were scared you'd be taking a case against them? Great to have finished and on such a lovely note. Beats my bottle of champagne from my childless boss!

Sorry falcon things aren't moving...sending hurry up vibes to bub.

I'm fed up and just want baby out. Ds had us up at 1 and 3.30 last night (for an hour) so don't know why I'm wishing this baby to be here :( what is this sleep regression and clingyness all about?? flyer its natural to have the thoughts but they will go once baby is here

I'm in the same camp, Flyer and Roofio. I can't stop wondering/worrying who I'm going to be; this new, mother-creature, that everyone just expects to emerge along with baby.
I mean it took me the best part of 35yrs to work out who I was, pre-motherhood (and even then, it was still very much a work in progress)...

Sorry, haven't caught up on all the messages but just wanted to send falcon a quick post.
So sorry that your labour has been so drawn out. With dd, I had 3 hours of contractions the week before labour started and that was annoying enough.
You may have already tried this but clary sage oil is meant to help make contractions for efficient and bring on labour - might be worth a try? In some cases, water can slow down labour so although it's really nice for pain relief, it may be worth steering clear for a bit until your contractions pick up. I'm by no means an expert but just thought I'd pass on what little knowledge I have in the vain hope that it helps. Sending you bi cervix opening vibes.

Congratulations legally. Glad your home and the twins are doing well x

falcon I'm sorry it's tough :( Have you spoken to your MW about your feelings?

clapham amazing! Pleased it all ended so positively and with gorgeous gifts - love the WC. I've got to ask, might you consider going back to a much better position and pay rise afteral??

nat I think that's a really fab present and she will love it. Good luck surviving the afternoon.

warlin I think all DC1 are clingy and feeling it right now and presenting these feelings in dif ways. Kids understand things are going to change on a level we cannot understand.

flyer really natural to feel that way, I'm feeling similar going from 1 to 2 and I have more of an idea what's going to happen.

Clapham-that sounds like the best way to start your maternity leave. And apologies that were long overdue to you.

falcon-that is miserable-you poor thing. Truly hope it establishes for you soon

tarlia-unfortunately the best I am going to get now is a few hours escape. Bp stablised and to be fair they let me monitor at home and use my clinical judgement but now I am symptomatic and also contracting intermittently they would prefer I stay until this little one decides to come or my induction date in 11 days. Which is frustrating esp as DH is more concerned that he isn't get enough sleep (so missed our scan on wed as he 'only' had 7 hours sleep!) Or is out having lunch with friends. A bit miffed with him as his take on it all is that he doesnt have a medical background so the decisions should be mine rather than thinking it would be nice to have his support and company (and so I can leave the ward and get food with him as food at tommies is dire for those ladies who are also booked in here).

cant complain too much. One of the poor ladies has been here for 5 weeks and has another 5 to go (ouch!)

Hope you are all having lovely weekends

oh falcon poor you I hope things get moving for you

flyer/roof/nat/everyone? I feel similar waves of 'what on earth are we doing?!' and we've been waiting for this bump for 5 years! Hit me yesterday as I waddled into work saying- phew, only 5 weeks left of this awkward/painful body, then realised that means only 5 weeks til complete life change! And no going back
After all, a baby is for life, Michael Kors are only for a season...

DH got the buggy out of it's box this morning and was suitably impressed at how light & easy to assemble it was. I was more impressed at the M&P £10 jeans that arrived to save my wardrobe. They fit!!! (though I do show a builder's bum every time I bend over...)

Oh God- better go rescue cake from oven. This is what you first-timers have ahead of you. Baking birthday rainbow cakes, icing Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, making rocky-road and biscuits whilst trying to appease a DS who's hrumphing off to bed at 1pm cos I won't download another App. [sigh]

Clapham-that sounds like the best way to start your maternity leave. And apologies that were long overdue to you.

falcon-that is miserable-you poor thing. Truly hope it establishes for you soon

tarlia-unfortunately the best I am going to get now is a few hours escape. Bp stablised and to be fair they let me monitor at home and use my clinical judgement but now I am symptomatic and also contracting intermittently they would prefer I stay until this little one decides to come or my induction date in 11 days. Which is frustrating esp as DH is more concerned that he isn't get enough sleep (so missed our scan on wed as he 'only' had 7 hours sleep!) Or is out having lunch with friends. A bit miffed with him as his take on it all is that he doesnt have a medical background so the decisions should be mine rather than thinking it would be nice to have his support and company (and so I can leave the ward and get food with him as food at tommies is dire for those ladies who are also booked in here).

cant complain too much. One of the poor ladies has been here for 5 weeks and has another 5 to go (ouch!)

Hope you are all having lovely weekends

Clapham-that sounds like the best way to start your maternity leave. And apologies that were long overdue to you.

falcon-that is miserable-you poor thing. Truly hope it establishes for you soon

tarlia-unfortunately the best I am going to get now is a few hours escape. Bp stablised and to be fair they let me monitor at home and use my clinical judgement but now I am symptomatic and also contracting intermittently they would prefer I stay until this little one decides to come or my induction date in 11 days. Which is frustrating esp as DH is more concerned that he isn't get enough sleep (so missed our scan on wed as he 'only' had 7 hours sleep!) Or is out having lunch with friends. A bit miffed with him as his take on it all is that he doesnt have a medical background so the decisions should be mine rather than thinking it would be nice to have his support and company (and so I can leave the ward and get food with him as food at tommies is dire for those ladies who are also booked in here).

cant complain too much. One of the poor ladies has been here for 5 weeks and has another 5 to go (ouch!)

Hope you are all having lovely weekends

nat DD's tongue sounds fine, sometimes it's when one of the millions of natural bacteria in our mouths just over produce for a bit. Often when you are run down (or with children if they are breathing all the time through their mouth, eg if she has/had a cold) Nothing to worry about, and nothing you need to do about it, will just go normal over time.

38 + 1 SC

falcon you must be exhausted, sending lots of sugar filled

I really feel for you Falcon. Surely it can't be too much longer.

I've just ordered a tumble dryer. I finally managed to persuade Dp that with 5 dc, one of whom may need changed a few times each day and the fact we live in rainy Glasgow it is essential. I'm going to try for a dishwasher next. Wish me luck.

MoN I am horrendously jealous, having neither tumble dryer nor dishwasher! Unfortunately there is no space in the kitchen, so doubt this will change any time soon. I hate all the bloody laundry hanging everywhere

Thinking of you Falcon - and agree you should speak to your midwife. They shouldn't be leaving you feeling like this x

Wow MoN I'm suprised u didn't have a tumble drier especially up in where u live lol. We have a washer drier as we don't have the space for both and my dad brought it for us as a moving in present. Tbh I tend to only dry underwear towels sheets and pyjamas anyway I find clothes shrink if u dry them. I also deffo sympathise on the dishwasher front there's only 3 of us in this house and I despise washing up! Sending u all the luck in the world to get one of those too xx

Thanks for that rach dd has the same stinking cold I have. We've had it for a week now so that explains that one. I did take her to the dentist the other day as we all had our 6 monthly check up but I completely forgot to ask and she wouldn't let him see in her mouth lol

terrified sorry your facing such a long stay in hospital especially when the food is far from impressive. Being pregnant must make the food even worse if your anything like me at the moment (starving 24/7). What gestation will u be when they induce u? Sorry your DH is being in-considerate on the sleep front xx

Fantastic on the dishwasher, mon! textbook sucks, but if it makes you feel any better we didn't have even a washing machine in the old flat where we were with DS1 for 2 years! Very normal in this city, but a huge adjustment for me!

terrified you poor thing :( Sounds like DH is bring a royal pain not considering how helpless you can feel being stuck in hospital on bed rest. I really hope you deliver safely soon. I didn't realise we had any drs/nurses on this bus.

waves to rach

We have no kitchen space either textbook. It's a condenser dryer we've ordered so it can be put up in the top floor toilet.
If I want a dishwasher I'll need to get rid of my individual fridge and freezer to make the space.