Due October 2006, PART THREE!

[Gemmitygem]

Thought I'd start a new one..

But will make sure no-one's left on the old one.

Hope everyone is blooming and not too hot!

by the way, I am weeping at Dr Who at the mo - so you are not a soppy idiot - blame the hormones for everything - while you have the chance!

Senoa - that is terrible about anomoly scan.

Just had a big downpour and now it's so humid that it feels like the Caribbean! Yuk!! No sea to cool off in!

Am still soppy - GP asked if I was enjoying pregnancy and nearly burst into tears (mind you, had been kept waiting in waiting room for an hour!)

Haven't felt at all fruity yet (nearly 24 weeks) and DH feeling decidedly dejected. We've managed the whole hog a few times during pregnancy (after first trimester where I was sick as a dog!) and it was decidedly uncomfortable....hope to give him some action before it arrives!! I don't miss it, though

I have to admit I havnt felt the least bit fruity the whole time Ive been pg. Which is a real shame as the amount of sex we did have getting this little one here. Luckily my dh is realy understanding and patient bless him. Guess hell have to 'amuse' himself for a bit longer

have to agree, have had no sudden upsurge in that area, just feel too tired to be energetic. feeling sorry for dh but he's coping well.

emzickle, totally understand. I cried hysterically for 2 hours on Saturday when DH was cross with me for eating the last yoghurt (the fact he tried to take food from a pregnant woman was a big miscalculation on his part!)

Apparently by the time we give birth we end up with something like 1,000 times the normal amount of oestrogen, so I think we can allow ourselves a few mad weepy sessions..

Re fruitiness: yes, definitely more fruity (I blame the dreams) , but the World Cup is a bit of a passion killer, as the matches aren't on till 1 am in Kazakhstan...

Anyone else starting to feel properly 'heavy' (I'm 26 weeks today), as if you wouldn't mind taking the baby out for the night and putting it back in the next morning?

Also understand the emotional feelings. I cried at the Mars bar advert a few weeks ago!

Me and DH have made the decision to move house to a more affordable area so money won't be so scarily tight. The problem is now we've made the decision DH wants to set the wheels in motion and although I've insisited on not moving before November at the earliest I'm still feeling a bit apprehensive about moving to a new town with a new born baby. I'm sure we've made the right decision, just wish the timing was better!

Nic: we're planning to move after the baby is born as well (not for a few months tho). Personally, I think it would be easier with a baby that while pg - do NOT need any additional stress or longer commuting times at the mo!

Will try the leg cramps ideas. Still not sleeping though - $%*?@£ weather! Taking the bump off at night sounds like a fab idea.

Re: fruitiness: I should be so lucky

Ok dont want to get too heavy here but Ive been walking round literaly crying at the drop of a hat. Not to do with preg hormones but because Ive made a big desicion to let my 2 older ds go live with their Dad. Its a long story and wont go into it too much but basicaly theyve wanted this for ages and weve been through many councilers because of so Ive made the big step to let them. So by the end of August Ill be a weekend Mummy kinda. So Ive been an emotional reck but still thinking how good it will be for my boys. Sorry if tmi. Will let you emotional ladies carry on now. Guess I have to put a brave face on. There hows that?

Gingeme - wow - a very big decision - very brave of you - but will your weekend time now be more 'quality' if you know what I mean, so will be less day to day drudge? A friend of mine did this with her son (very long story - not going into it) - she did get on better with her son when he lived with his dad - think everyone appreciated each other again, hope that makes sense.

OK, kindda puts weeping at DrWho into perspective!

Gingeme: big to you. Must be a v. difficult decision and (as Nic says) a brave one. I'm sure you'll make the best of your weekends and the other times you have with them.

Having seen the stresses my sister and nieces have gone through with disputes over access, any mature and rational decision is by FAR the best for all of you.

Thinking of you xxx

Thankyou. Yes Im sure our time together will be much more quality. Just got over the herdal of telling my parents. They were shocked to say the least but said in the end its my desicion. My little 2 year old will miss them but Im sure he wil love having them here when they have school hols etc. Both their Dad and I have web cams so hell be able to see them often on cam and chat which I know hell love. Luckily I have a fairly good relationship with their Dad so it will work out pretty well all round. Oh well just hope the next few weeks dont rush past too quick.

I'm not blubbing at Mars bar ads (probably only because I haven't seen it.) You do it for me Gingeme. What a fabulous Mum you are, unselfishly considering your sons' needs before your own. It's great that you and your ex are being so mature about the whole thing - all of the children will definitely benefit from that. Families come in all shapes these days and it's grown-ups behaving like grown-ups that make them work.

Now I feel like a good blub, I might dig out the Terminator DVD - he travels back in time for her. How romantic is that!

gingeme. I really hope it all works out well.

My two brothers have three sets of kids between them which they only see at weekends and in some ways I think they have the better deal - their kids (aged between 2 and 9) all seem to take the parents they live with completely for granted and idolise my brothers because the time they have toegther is such good quality time and doesn't revolve around them doing their homework/tidying their room and all the other mundane stuff.

And big hats off to you for dealing with it all so well. Must be breaking your heart but that would be nothing compared to how it would feel if your kids turned against you for doing otherwise. Putting their wishes ahead of your own bravest thing you've ever had to do

By the way, bet your parents are feeling a bit 'bereaved' as well - try to give them space if they come out with anything insensitive...you can then come on here and rant and rave to your hearts' content.

I will spend this evening thanking my lucky stars that I only have silly stuff to cry over and not the real knocks in life. There but for the grace of god..

Oh my Gosh you guys! Im sure you do it on purpose. Real trying to hold it together reading this thread. Thankyou for all your support and kind words you realy are lovely people and your pre and post children are so lucky to have you as their mummys. xxxxxxxxx

very brave decision gingeme. my husband's parents separated when he was little but were always amicable about seeing the kids. he sailed through the whole thing as a result and you'd assume he was part of the bisto family, whereas his step sister had a really rough time because her parents were constantly at war over access and is still quite fragile.
am thinking of you and also kicking myself everytime i feel weepy over being trampled in john lewis etc. brings this into proportion!

also, whiffy, how weird is that, that my colleague has been treating you at the osteopathic clinic! (prob. not that weird as i recommended it...) hope she's doing some good. also, i gather i'll be taking over for a week or two while she's away. if that's too weird just let me know and we can rearrange it for another osteopath. glad we're meeting up next week at pizza express, i'm really looking forward to putting faces to all the names. just a shame there's a few who can't make it.

gingeme - hope that you are feeling ok, sounds like a very hard decision you had to make xoxox

gemmity - i know what you mean about the bump now feeling heavier. some days it seems very very tight too.

ive got my first proper midwife app on the 17th, woohoo!! my brain only seems to work in pregnancy mode lately...ive become obsessed with it all the baby doesnt want to stop moving either lol

hope that you are all doing well xox

Hi there. Hope your ok gingeme, thinking of you.

I was at a wedding last night and was dancing like a crazy women and now i can hardly walk, silly me. Got a hen night in 2 weeks so there will definately be a dancing ban.

Hope that you are all having a good weekend. I had to buy bigger bras again yesterday, never realised that it wasn't recommended to wear underwired.

Hi ladies. Had a pretty cool weekend. My parents came down for my Grandads birthday and I was bracing myself for a real hum dinger of moaning and yakking from my Mum but she was suprisingly supportive. Told my aunt too and she was totaly for it and telling me its a good thing for all of us etc etc. I must admit I was quietly suprised by it all. Going to have a talk with my ex and my dh and the boys altogether soon. Should be interesting! Will let you know how it goes tomm. Thanks so much for all your support yet again ladies your all so lovely

gingeme - im glad that your family are being so supportive of your choice, i bet it makes it a little easier for you knowing that they are all behind you xox

not much to report here ladies. tired and peeing for wales, but then theres no change with that really lol. im 25 weeks tomorrow...i still cant believe how fast its gone by.

Yes does make it all a bit easier. Well had a talk with my ex and ds's and dh last night. Seems more final now because we have actualy sorted dates out and have a new address for them and things like that. Gonna have a party middle of August. Its dh's and mine 5th anni and ds2 11 birthday and my MuM and Dads anni and a bit of a farewell party for the boys too. Gonna be a happy and sad party all at the same time. Got lots of sorting to do too. Will make a start this weekend and finnish it when I feel up to it. Reckon theres gonna be alot of things for the charity shops.

Final Call for the meet-up tomorrow night...

It's in Central London at 6pm and the names I have coming are (I think) Catgirl, Marthahm, Dogmum, Swizzler & me.

Yell now if you want to be added to list (or indeed, removed...). The place does have nappy changing facilities if anyone wants to come but can't get a babysitter.

Have specifically requested that we be sat next to impressionable young men, to ensure we get a rapt audience when we move our discussions on to breastfeeding tips anbd pelvic floor exercises. I will personally be discussing the 'let-down effect' which I have found can be easily achieved when wearing your best frock on a rare night out with your husband, just by phoning the babysitter...

Hi Have a great night tomorrow night. Was trying to get to come but have pulled some ligaments and my mobility is practically zero - not great with a toddler GP has advised me to rest!

Glad to hear your'e ok Gingeme. And hope the meet up goes well tommorrow for those who can make it.I have a strange request, Could anyone measure around their bump for me , just out of interest and because I'm still paranoid about weight and size. I know we will all be different,its not at all scientific, but it might be fun for those of us who can't meet everyone else in person to compare.

Beansmum, I am 36.5 inches!!