Due in Jan 2007 part 2......the one where we stop worrying!!!

[LadyTophamHatt]

Here we go then ladies.....

Hooo-Rah!! 2nd trimester is just around the corner

DS has been alot better today but had a bad night last night. Not like him at all as he usually sleeps so well but he was rubbing his eyes and biting his hand so not sure if it was his eyes or just teething. Been a bit grumpy but def himself

Laughalot - what a stupid midwife. She must have realised what you thought! Could hit these so called professionals sometimes. How do they 'loose' blood?! Hope you are feeling better now thought.

Magnolia - as 2happy said, so much on your plate that no wonder you have a bad back! Makes me feel quite pathetic with just 1 DS to worry about!

Dont want to get too personal but is anyone else really horny? My DH is loving it!! Didn't feel like this last time and took a 9month break as I just didn't want to be touched! This time it's very different!

Bargain alert......Avent stuff at Boots We went yesterday, and if you spend over £35 on Avent products you get 500 bonus points (worth £5) on your advantage card. You can also get a voucher from the advantage card machine for an extra 300 points if you spend over £35....meaning you get £8 worth of points back on the £35 you spend (in addition to the points you'd have got anyway!)

And even more of a bargain, this time at boots.com - most of their baby monitors have 10% of the value back in bonus points ie the one we're looking at is £69.99 so we would get 700 bonus points, you also get 500 extra points if you spend over £50, and if you're a member of the parenting club you get an extra 1500 if you spend over £75. So, if for example we bought the baby monitor plus something else for just over £5 (to bring the total to over £75) we would get the following points -

300 (based on 4 per £ spent as normal)
700 (bonus points on monitor)
500 (bonus points for spending £50+)
1500 (bonus points for spending £75+)
200 (just for registering advantage card online)

Total points - 3200 worth a whopping £32 just for spending £75

Well worth a look!

Hope everyone is well, sorry for no personals but I've a mountain of washing to catch up on thanks to the torrential rain we've had most of this week!

Loubie xx
16 weeks today!!

hello ladies

Been away on hols and feel properly healed and am finally able to leave this thread. Thank you for keeping me and i will keep my eyes out for your birth announce,wnts in Jan

MoM xx

Awwwwww MoM I am soooo pleased you are healing, not wanting to say bye though.
Please let us know if you are expecting again and take care hun xxxxxxx

Ditto, you're welcome to pop in any time, and I really hope you get another BFP soon

Big hugs and thanks for all the advice over the last few weeks x

Loubie xx

Mum im glad you are feeling better.
Lou cheers for all the boots info its worth shopping for that.
Right iv got rather a question to ask you ladies dont read on if you are shy is anyone getting alot more discharge than normal? I dident get anything like that in my last pg but this time I do, asked midwife the other day and she said its normal but its yucky ...........

Cant remember who posted about feeling horny but all I can say is were do you live and ill send my dh round as he thinks iv turned into a nun

MOM GLad you are feeling more like yourself but def sorry to see you go.

Laughalot, I was the same last time, legs firmly closed! but all change this time. Think thats why DH is so suprised/delighted at the change this time!

Evening Ladies.....

there are about 7,000 messages on here and after 2 weeks of hell in a caravan with my kids my brain isn't up to reading....it's only just about mangaing to keep me breathing.

OMG...are holidays with young children ever fun for grown ups??

So glad to be home.

Anyone want to fill me in on how you've all been?

Laugalot I'm so glad you posted that question I've wanted to ask for a few weeks but didnt know whether to you but I've had loads!! I didnt go near my DH last time through whole pregnancy but it was quite mutual as he said he didnt like the idea of disturbing the baby think it'll be th same this time!!!! We're off to family BBQ later but DD will live as her cousins will be there an they all run round like looneys for hours hopefully means I'l get to sit down for a bit. Have a good sunday nd welcome back LTH!

meant to type DD will love not live!! really must read my posts before I post them!

Hi all, lovely to hear your news and that you're all doing so much better.

I know there are stretching pains, back pain and migraines out there but these are all pretty normal (though really no fun, I know!). They are all things which most of us would have been happy to be having now, a few months ago when we were all trying to hold on to our babies! Does that make any sense?!?

I'm doing well at the moment (finally!). I'm 18 weeks and I've had no bleeding for 4 weeks now. Like Loubie said earlier, with all the scares I haven't been able to enjoy being pregnant but I think thinks are starting to look up now .

Morning all!

Well, I have had heavy discharge to, I had it first time round aswel. Not alot you can do about it unfortunatly. I have also noticed that las night my boobs have started to leak milk....aaaahhhhhh! I REALLY hoped that this time round that this wouldn't happen cause it is a nightmare having to wear breast pads all the time and bikini's etc are pratically out the window! Unless I avoid the sea/pool on holiday! soggy breastpads are embarrassing!(I forgot last time to remove them and they ended up floating on the surface of the swimming pool...)
I am guessing this means that I will be overrun with milk again, which was horrendus! dh and myself would end up swimming in milk in bed at night (even though dd was feeding every 2-3 hrs) I wore hand towels etc in my bra and they ended up saturated. Poor dd couldn't keep up with the milk flow, it choked her, so stopped feeding at 3 weeks. Really hoped it would be different this time.....

Hey ho.
Got in laws for dinner tonight so gonna veg and not get dressed until i need to start preparing etc...well that is what i hope happens today!

jess
16+1

MOM - so glad you're starting to feel a bit better but sad to see you leave us.

Dragonhart - is DS back to normal now?

coffeebeanz - It's lovely to hear what you're having. It must be exciting for you to be the first one to find out too!

On the finding out the sex issue. I can see both sides, last time I didn't want to know and really enjoyed looking forward to the surprise. This time I want to know (although I'm still not entirely comfortable with the idea that you can find out). There are lots of reasons for us to find out, one of which is that it should be easier for DD to bond with the bump and get excited about it all.

Hi jessddibs, sorry to hear that your milk is already bothering you. I can't help thinking though that this time you might have a baby that demands milk at high pressures!

But seriously, I have read on here about the milk banks that collect your surplus breast milk for special care babies. Maybe you could work something out and express the excess milk this time?

I've no experience of this, I had to stop exclusive bfeeding and start expressing at 3 weeks as DD had too much suction and started digesting my nipples! I'm trying to be very positive that this won't happen next time!

flibbertygibbet - glad you're starting to enjoy things now, I hope I do soon. I've not had any red bleeding for a couple of weeks now, but still getting occasional old brown stuff, hopefully it will go for good soon!

Jessddibbs - what a nightmare milk wise! I can't say I've noticed any yet, you must have super efficient boobs! I would ask your midwife if it's OK to express, even if you just throw it away afterwards....then again that might encourage even more milk?? Hope it sorts itself out soon x

LTH, sorry the holiday wasn't as restful as you were hoping - were there any good bits or are you relieved to be back home?! We go a week on Friday to France for 2 1/2 weeks in a mobile home but fortunately my 2 are a lot older than yours so I'm hoping we don't see much of them other than when they need feeding ;)

It's too hot again - can someone turn the sun down please??!!

Loubie xx
16+1

Ok....now this is getting really stupid.

I'm almost 18 weeks and still worrying about every single thing. I'm worried because I don't know if i'm feeling the baby move or it just my mind playing tricks on me. I worry about the way I'm sleeping, I worry about the driving the car. I worry about every single little ache, pain or twinge. I worry about the time between my MW appointments (i'm not seeing her again until 24th OCTOBER!!!), I'm worried about my 20 week scan.
I could list 1001 other things I worry about.

FFS I worry that I'm worrying to much and that will effect the baby.

I WANT TO STOP WORRYING !!

I loved being Pg with all 3 ds's, loved every bit of it but all this worrying is really spoiling it this time.
I know it sounds wierd but it's all because the whole thing of finding out I was PG again shocked me so much. We chose to have the boys but this time the descision was taken out of our hands and the sight of seeing that little line in that box when I wee'd on the stick shocked me to the very core.
I know the worrying is linked to that shock......I don't know what or how to make it right.

If anyone has any suggestion I'd be very very very grateful.

oh and to add to that post and answer a question further down sex if definatley off the aganda.

I know it's ok to have some nookie but there is no way I'm going to.
I'd worry too much for a start and quite honestly the thought of it repulses me!

(and of course it was having sex that got me in the situation with off the scale worrying so I may never have sex ever again!!)

Hi lth glad your back we have missed you, well im 18 weeks on thursday and not much help because all I keep doing is panacking about everything, I asked the midwife the other day about movements as iv felt hardly anything and she said it depends how its laying inside if is facing a funny way I wont feel the movements for a while. My scan is the 29th august and even though iv had my 12 week scan and heard the heartbeat I still worry something isnt right I guess its only natural to worry but its a pain because its all we think about . Hope you feel better about it all soon when is your next scan ?

LTH sorry you didn't have a very good holiday and that the worrying is off the scales! Are you happy now about the preg or just worried about having another? Maybe it is a control thing as you said, the descision was taken away from you about the baby so mabe you just feel out of control now? What about if you try to make some positive descions about the baby like buying some things for it, making a birth plan or even just tryng to get some time for yourself to pamper you and the baby (know that with 3 kids that is prob not easy at all!). Sorry about the amateur psycology! Hope you feel better soon and that there are not too many people saying 'don't worry" (possibly the most infuriating statement in the world!) Big hugs as there is nothing worse than coming back from holiday and feeling more tired than when you went. Felt like that after trip to Wales with ALL of the family.

DS back to normal now, apart from being the most grumpy child in the world today! Cant blame that on his eyes though!

Oh and I see it is just me then with the horney!

I'm chuffed to bits about having another baby, the kids are excited, Dh talks about it constantly....we're all looking forward the end result.
We've bought a few bits and bobs (including his/her lovely new buggy). Dh is having great fun reading brochure after brochure on new 7 seaters....It's so wierd for me to worry thi smuch as with the boys once I reached 12 weeks I just relaxed and enjoyed the whole thing.

I just can't get around all the shock and the worry that my brain has converted it too.

My scan is on 30th Aug so ages to go yet.

I think I'll call the MW tomorrow to try and get an appt....not sure what she can do TBH but she might be able to reduce the worries for the time being until the scan is closer.

Sorry LTH, not much help but I have to say I definatly steel myself agains something bad happening. I try not to get too excited or think too far ahead just incase. Hope the MW can help. Big ((((hugs))))

LTH - I think most of us on this thread feel exactly the same as us I know I do! maybe its because so many of us have had relevatively straight forward PG in the past and this time had problems. I know when having DD I had decorated the nursery by 18 weeks and was loving every minute never worried about there not being a heartbeat or something going wrong, this time even at 17 weeks I always wake up in the morning and think I hope everything is okay. Maybe its because I've got DD and know how great its going to be to have another baby (might not think that when I'm sleep deprived in January!!) that I worry its going to be taken away or maybe this time I've used the internet and books far more and you read so many sad/scary/horrible things that MAY go wrong you convince yourself that every sympton is a bad one. I now have to think to myself that at 17 weeks the chances of anything going wrong are really really slim and that that i should enjoy being pg especially as I know this will be the last time (def no more babies in our house after this!) Hope your midwife helps today I've got an extra scan on Wednesday at brompton hospital in London (cardiac scan on baby due to DH heart condition)and I've decided to be really brave and go on my own and think postively (also cant face train/tube and bus with DD & pushchair so my mum is going to have her for the day even though she did offer to come with me and DD)This way I cant think that anything will be wrong as I'll be on my own (although my dad is working in London this week and can be with me in half an hour if I need him!) Really really hope we all start to enjoy our pregnancies soon and we'll all be moaning in a few months that we have had naff nights with baby kicking us awake and going to the loo etc etc!

Elliepip I agree with what you are saying I bet in october we will be moanong about weeing and being kicked all night , we are the same no more babies in our house either after this one my house is not big enough for anymore, hope everyone else is ok im fine still tired as usuall though.

That was meant to say moaning

I spoke to a MW today, she didn't really suggest much but siad if I wanted to be checked over I could make an appt with my MW.

I'm not really sure what to do TBH. I don't need to see a MW because there isn't anything wrong physically, it's just all in my head.

Roll on 30th Aug and my scan I suppose.