December 2013 - blue, pink, what do you think?

[NomDeClavier]

New thread! Pile in!

I've been using glycerin suppositories occasionally when things get really uncomfy.. Not everyone's cup of tea but at least it's instant relief!

Well I've just spent three hours in triage because the wee man decided to change position and I couldn't feel him move. Heard him kicking away on the doppler but couldn't feel it, then he had a good old wriggle and I could feel him again. They're scanning me again tomorrow to make sure there's enough amniotic fluid around him and that his growth is on track. They also found glucose in my urine so they want to rule out GD. Have to say, the midwifes and doctors were absolutely bloody brilliant and I'll be putting in a compliment about them, they really put my mind at ease when I was having a good old panic.

Regarding maternity wear - I have a pair of practically new size 14 New Look under bump maternity jeans if anyone wants them? I bought them rather optimistically after JUST dieting down to a 14 pre-pregnancy, and they fitted for about a week. Also a pair of navy linen over-bump ankle skimming trousers, would say these are a large 14-small 16 (H&M 16). Seriously, if anyone wants them just pm your address, I can't be bothered to eBay them.

Morning all

Off for my 20 week scan this morning (even though I'm 21 weeks tomorrow). Very excited but very nervous.

My letter says drink 2 pints of water an hour before. If I did that I'd piddle myself lol. Had 1 coffee and 1 glass of water and taking a bottle with me to sip on. Will hopefully find out whether baby is pink or blue! So excited.com.

With regards to constipation I found 2 days of maximum veg did the trick. Sunday dinner one day with 5 lots of veg, big stew the day after with lots of root veggies. And plenty of water and a good walk. Seemed to shift mine along without having to resort to anything else. Maybe worth a try for anyone suffering?

I know we are all eating plenty of salads and probably any veg we have is peas or sweetcorn (was in our house anyway when it was hot) but root veggies seem to do the trick with me and I was pretty bunged up.

Have plenty of fluids though. My first poo was very, very hard after being in there for about a week! TMI I know but it was like a trial run for labour lol.

Constipation is the worst - I've been relying on codeine since Sunday for this gallbladder pain, and consequently the last time I had a poo was Saturday. I feel full up! I haven't taken any since last night now, going to see if I can manage with paracetamol, and will have to invest in some prune juice if no joy by tea time I think!

I've got my 20 week scan today too frouby.. Nervous! I don't know if m meant to drink water or not, my appointment was just made at my 12 week scan so no letter.. Going to drink some just in case!

Dried apricots did the trick for me yesterday, never felt so relieved in all my life, although I was the same as you frouby and ended up bleeding a little but hopefully things will keep moving. chilli I think that's completely true, caffeine definitely helps things move along!

frouby good luck for your scan today!!

daley hope you're okay

pisachio congrats on the blue bean - we are definitely more blue then pink in here, unless all of those who aren't finding out the sex are having little pink bundles!

Good luck for the scans Dusty and frouby!

Daley, glad everything's ok with your little one, sounds like you have a great team at the hospital

I feel guilty, haven't been eating many salads in the hot weather, just a lot more ice cream than usual!

Hi all,

I know I haven?t been on here very long, so I hope no one minds me coming in with rather a detailed post so soon.

We had our 20 week scan yesterday and after a lot of scanning around the sonographer told us we?ve got twins!

The babies are both on the small side but, more concerning is that are looking rather different to each other at the moment. They?re sharing one placenta, but are in separate sacks and one of them has less amniotic fluid than the other, so there?s a risk of Twin to Twin Transfusion Syndrome. We?ve got an appointment with a specialist at King?s tomorrow to investigate further and discuss options. Having said that, the fact that I haven?t had any adverse symptoms so far, and that both of them have reasonably strong heart beats bodes well. stay positive stay positive stay positive

I had my dating scan at 8 weeks and there was no mention of more than one baby at that point. Since then I feel like I?ve been growing at a rate of knots but otherwise haven?t had any particularly unexpected symptoms. Not that I really knew what to expect with my first! There?s a large part of me that is feeling really indignant and wondering how on earth they could miss a second life in there with current ultrasound technology, but I?m trying really hard to focus on the here and now rather than getting uptight about that.

I?m not quite sure how I?m feeling at the moment ? simultaneously elated and terrified I think! We were totally unprepared for the shock and had been rather blasé about the whole thing up to now, not really worrying about anything major and thinking about lovely things like whether to find out the gender and names etc. This feels like another level.

I?m not sure what I?m expecting in terms of replies, but just feel like we can?t get enough input at the moment as we certainly don?t know what to think ourselves? TWO BABIES?!

hetsto, what a shock! You're handling it really well, sounds like you're in the best hands too. A friend of mine is at King's and she is getting 5* treatment.

Fingers crossed things will work out well. We're here for you if you need to talk.

another tip for constipation - I may have mentioned it before but ground flaxseed is a natural source of fibre (as well as omega 3 and minerals etc) so is great for helping shift the brown stuff you can get packs of it by Linwoods in Sainsburys. 2 desert spoons on your cereal in the morning is enough (or it can be put into casseroles, soups etc) I also sometimes buy the other mixes (some with goji berries, pumpkin seeds etc) for extra nutrition.

Good luck on your scans dusty8 and frouby* too!

wow hetsto twins! I'm not surprised you're reeling a bit from it all- what a shock! People do usually find out at the first scan so this must have been a lot to process! My sister in law did tell me about a friend of hers who found out she was having twins at 7 months -one had been hiding behind the other at previous scan (in Holland so not sure how many scans they have) so it does happen!

Did they explain to you what potential twin transfusion syndrome means or the implications? It must be scary being told about potential complications but it sounds like they're just being cautious and want to monitor you/give you specialist care to make sure they can tackle any problems that might arise. I know a few friends with twins who had successful pregnancies and births (one cesarean and one natural) so think positively.

Have you got any other children or are these your first?

good luck with the appointment tomorrow- hopefully they'll reassure you and you can feel more positive and less overwhelmed

Wow Hetsto!!! Congrats!

Thank you featherbag, mumoftwoboysS and violetbean, it?s lovely to have another community to chat to.

Yes, they did talk to us a bit about Twin to Twin Transfusion Syndrome but to be honest, we were still shaking from the shock and the words ?potential complications?. I?ve done some research since then though, and although it sounds very scary and the stats aren?t brilliant, I think we?re in the best position possible to tackle it if we need to. King?s seems like the place to be if there is a problem and I have found a fair few good news stories as well as the horrible numbers. It?s just so strange when you?re feeling ok ? yes, heavy, massive and uncomfortable but broadly ok to think that things could be going wrong inside.

This is my first pregnancy, so first and second babies on the way ? lucky we hadn?t really started shopping yet! I have no idea how we?ll cope with two babies? muddle through and do our best, I guess ? eek!

Oh Hetsto, congratulations! But what a shock! It does sound like they are going to look after you really well, and you have all of us rooting for you and the twinnies too. Did you find out the gender?

Hi everyone, I've been awol from here and mumsnet in general for a while now for various reasons. I haven't caught up on the whole thread as I'm at work but just wanted to pop in really quickly to say we had our 20 week scan yesterday, everything was spot on and we're having a GIRL!!! I'm soooo happy and it feels so much more real now I know what we're having. I love that I can talk to her now, call her by her name (Isabel) and am starting to feel like I'm actually going to have a baby now. I even sang to her in the shower this morning! And I'm going baby shopping this afternoon, bugger the expense! I want to go buy some PINK stuff! My dad told me not to go mad after reading about that stupid woman this week who spend £3000 on pink stuff then had a boy. Obviously I don't have that much money to spend and wouldn't even if I did because I'm not mad! But it was very clear on the scan last night and the sonographer was very emphatic about it. She's 30 weeks pg too and having a girl and it's the second time she's scanned us so it was really nice. Anyway I'm going to have a wee splurge on some nice girly things and some pink / girly colours yarn and crack on with my knitting. I've nearly finished my first cardigan and now I know it's a girl can do the cute hat to go with it.

I thought I hadn't felt any movement then it suddenly dawned on me last night that the wee niggling pains I've been getting at the front very low down, kind of like mild period pains, were probably her moving rather than the growing pains which I thought they were. I have felt the occasional flutter after dinner but now I've seen her somersaulting around and putting her legs over her head (obviously going to be a yogini like her mum!) I've stopped fretting about it.

hope everyone's doing ok, I'll catch up on all the news soon

omg hesto you are handling it so well - this has been one of my biggest fear to find out it's twins (my mom is a twin and so was her grandma). I'm sure though that at the end of the day, you will love the experience. everyone i talk to that's had twins tells me to not worry because it's double the happiness. best of luck with the tests and keep us posted.

congrats on the girl holly!

scan is in 23 hours. not that i'm counting down or anything. Need to make sure baby Rose is growing ok. I read that it should be about 20 cm long and I really don't know where it's hiding because I barely have a belly. Everyone telling me I should be bigger by now stresses the bejesus out of me (still wearing non-maternity skinny jeans, just had to put a hair elastic at the buttons to not be uncomfortable although they still close). The only thing that makes me feel a tiny bit better is that I do feel the flutters about once a day, mostly in the evening when I lie down on my tummy.

Thank you PistachioTruffle! Yes, a massive shock ? scary and exciting all at once. We didn?t find out the gender yesterday, I think everyone was too preoccupied to be honest. It sounds like I?ll be having lots of scans over the coming weeks though and although we wanted a surprise before, I?ve had enough of those for now so I think we will find out when we can. It all feels a bit surreal and separate at the moment, despite the enormous belly, so I?m hoping knowing the gender will help us to feel more connected to what?s going on.

Congratulations Holly1977! Buying pink things will be lovely; enjoy it! I really like the name too; happy singing!

Oops, sorry Roselau, I crossed posts with you. It?s funny isn?t it; twins never crossed my mind and there are none in my family. Apparently identical twins are completely random though and don?t run in families. As long as they are healthy we will adapt and cope and I?m sure we?ll enjoy the experience, I?m just scared that it could all go wrong!

Best of luck for your scan, I wouldn?t worry about the size of your bump, unless your doctor thinks there?s an issue ? everyone?s different. I?ve got a new perspective on it now, but I seemed to pretty much just pop one day and then felt like I was growing an inch every night. Lovely to feel the flutters too, enjoy it and let us know tomorrow!

Wow congratulations hesto. Identical twins! Double the fun, double the shopping ID twins are easier to miss than fraternal but you know now. There have been cases where it's not been known until the second baby pops out...

Lovely news on all these blue and the occasional link bean popping up. I can't wait for our scan on Monday!

As for losing weigh after pregnancy I found BFing the best diet, so good that I lost too much weight and then developed a chocolate habit which I've not quite shaken. I'm trying to guilt myself into rating properly by using MyFitnessPal as a food diary.

Wow, so much good news on here this morning!

Congratulations, hetsto!!! I can only imagine how you must be feeling after finding out so late on but as the others have already said, it sounds, like you're in safe hands and you're dealing with the whole situation brilliantly (don't know how you're staying so calm, I think I'd faint if I was told I was having twins...!)
Let us know how everything goes though, wont you? I'm sure it'll all be just fine since you're being so well looked after and you've still got plenty of time for the doctors and nurses to work their magic (and for the news to sink in!)

And and a huge congrats to you too, Holly! Isabel is a beautiful name and she sounds like a right little character already, pulling shapes like that Have fun shopping for all things pink (and don't worry too much about splashing out... That's what credit cards are for, right?!)

Thanks guys, going shopping soon, squeeee!

Congrats on the twins Hetsto, I've always wanted twins. Even more so I know what a ball ache being pg is! But it must be a huge shock finding out so late on, you seem to be handling it very well.

Thank you Holly1977, itsliz and NomDeClavier! I?m not quite sure why/how I?m not running waddling around screaming or passing out either; it?s a bit like an out of body experience right now. Yes, I?ll be back on here tomorrow after we?ve been to King?s, hopefully with good news. Fingers crossed!

I?m not quite sure what to do with myself today; I can?t really think about anything else but endless research of TTTS is not helping my peace of mind. Perhaps a leisurely walk before lunch?

Well all was good at scan and little one waved his willy at us so definatly team blue!

Hetso, what a shock for you all. Don't do too much googling. In my opinion you get a bit of a biased view on the old t'internet. More bad than good so wait until you have had your consultation. Write a list of questions before you go as well and don't be afriad to take notes during it all so you can remember what has been said. x

Holly good to see you back. Was wondering where you had got to. Congrats on the pink bubba and I'm glad you are feeling more positive about your pgy. Hows things at home generally? Better I hope. xx

Congrats on your boy Frouby, is that one of each for you now? And thanks for noticing I'd been gone. Things have been pretty shitty at home to be honest. Things came to a head a couple of weeks ago and I went to see the GP as I'd reached the end of my tether. He was very nice and has referred me to community mental health but I'm not expecting anything to come of it really, at least not in time to be of any use! Medication isn't allowed so that's that. I'm up and down but today is a good day and I'm hoping it stays that way now I know I'm having a girl. I keep saying "my daughter" over and over to myself, it's wonderful! And now I've realised she is moving around and those sensations were movements and not whatever the fuck I thought they were, it all seems really real finally.

Hetsto, OH said I was waddling yesterday on the way to the scan, lol!

yep Holly one of each now so that's me done lol.

Sorry to hear things are rough for you still. Have you had a look at the antenatal depression area on here? Might be someone who's been through similar to you that can help?

Hopefully now the pg feels a bit more real to you, you can start planning and getting excited. And Isabel is a beautiful name.

I remember feeling quite odd when I was pg with DD. I convinced myself that although I was pg something awful would happen and I would never have a baby at all. Didn't do any shopping until the week before my C section as I thought it would just be a waste of time. This time it was very real, from before I even POAS really.

I'm a bit waddly too lol. Some days I'm fine and just sprint around as normal, some days I feel really heavy and pg and can feel myself waddling.