June 2013 - thread 8 - hope babies aren't late!

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We were about to run out of room!

Hope everyone finds the thread ok

Maisie you are doing what's best, no one can question that. So please don't give yourself a hard time, too many people will happily judge for us, and we certainly don't need to be adding judgements ourselves. Judgeyness can just bugger off.

Babies can you all just hold everything in while you are next being weighed. Your mummy's are doing a fantastic job and just need you to tip the scales a little more. are they too young to bribe?!

Joking aside you are all doing fantastic, and I hope the next checks go ok and you can all relax a little. We spend 9 months worrying we are doing everything right while they grow on the inside and then the rest of our lives worrying they are doing ok on the outside yet have very little control......

Sending hugs to everyone

Gosh have had a mega busy weekend with friends staying and there's so much to catch up on!

SunnyL I would recommend Anita underwired maternity/nursing bras. V comfy and look much like a normal bra.

Sarah, my sex drive is non existent too.

Congratulations on your new lo Tea .

Lovely weekend here with almost constant BBQs - my beef intake has been through the roof so must be helping my iron levels! Spent whole of today at a country show so completely knackered now!

I'm really hoping something is happening. TMI alert but I've had piles all pregnancy and they've just been irritating/itchy. But since yesterday evening one of them is incredibly painful (without having had a BM) and I'm hoping that is because the baby has dropped lower. Have also had quite bad pelvic pain and some back pain and I didn't over-exert myself this weekend. Every time I get BH now I feel a lot of pressure in my bum. So fingers crossed! Just pumping up the gym ball now and going to have a good bounce on it tonight while watching a film!

For anyone struggling to breastfeed: formula feeding is a brilliant alternative and I think it's great that it's available. If you've tried breastfeeding, you've tried and at this point in time taking care of your baby is the most important thing and you do that by feeding the baby and also by taking care of yourself. When I had DS1 I was so so against formula and I so desperately wanted to breastfeed that I made life really hard for myself. In hindsight I'm glad I persisted with breastfeeding, but I do think I made things really difficult for myself emotionally in the first few months and if it all happened again in the same way I would mix feed in order to preserve my sanity.

Maisie please don't beat yourself up over the decision to formula feed. The most important thing is that Arlo is being fed and provided with the nutrients he needs. He will get all of that from the formula and has already gotten some from you in whatever he has taken when feeding from you. I was like you with DS. Was devastated and felt so guilty when it really wasn't working out. I look back now on decision to stop beating myself up about it and to embrace the formula feeding and am really happy that I made the right decision for us both. I say this now as he's nearing 2.5 and as perfect as can be! Yes I hope to breast feed this little one, but if its not to be then I'm determined not to give myself such a hard time this time around. Please don't feel bad and remember that it's likely that the hormones are making things seen lots worse at the moment. Take care of you too!

Rue and massage- same to you! You're both doing really well and must be so frustrated. But just remember that the little ones have shown weight gains and this is just a blip for you. Admittedly a very frustrating one.

Rreow and elsabel- sounds like things are ramping up for you! Really exciting!

I hope that everyone's had good days? I'm hoping to finish work tomrw now instead of weds. With a bit of luck I'll be a bit better at keeping up to date on here then too!

I've been really lucky with hardly any backache through the whole pregnancy today = backache to the max and I'm not even sitting funny or anything off to bed now where I will undoubtedly be up in a couple of hours for a wee

Pink i've been getting very sore back pain for the last 3 evenings. I'm hopeful it means babs will be putting in an appearance soon - after all I'm 39+4 now its about time we actually met.

A bit late, but congratulations tea - and yes I do remember you as EddieIzzzard!!

Sorry to hear about the feeding difficulty Maisie, just do what you need to do for a healthy baby and don't let anyone feel bad about whatever that is. It's not like you haven't given bf a good shot, if you can make it work, great, but if not don't feel bad.

It sounds like others might be gearing up for d-days. Nothing happening here, which is for the best. 37 weeks tomorrow, but just finishing up the last of the DIY jobs around the house. Once we can get a few bits of furniture sold the house will be good to show. And then baby can arrive...

Still here, sorry, sorry.....

Big congrats to all the new arrivals. Numbers are building up!

Roller coaster here with Joe, but think hopefully on improve now after some setbacks including Dr prescribing wrong dosage of medicine and essentially giving him an OD. He's still in NICU but finally off ventilator and morphine so fingers crossed for cuddles today.

I do check in here regularly, just not much time to post at moment. Thank you all so much ofr your thoughts and wishes, people are just amazing.....

Chat soon.

Oh oli it sounds like you're both really going through an awful lot. I hope that he continues to improve and that they're looking after you too. Thinking of you x

Oh Oli what a nightmare. Hope you get your cuddles today x

Goodness, Oli, you really don't need a Dr to screw up on top of everything else. :-/

I'm glad it looks like Joe is now on the mend.

Here's hoping you get your cuddles today. Xx

fingers crossed for cuddles today oli - sounds like you both need them!!

hope today goes well and no more mess ups oli!

I have spent forever at this hospital this weekend, baby m decided not to move on Friday realised Saturday morning, came in for monitoring and again Sunday, little sod hasn't stopped moving since Saturday morning, got to my appt on Sunday for half 9, got seen at midday cause the receptionist didn't tell them I was there, another scan this morning to check fluid, all is ok, current est weight of 10lb4oz ! holy moly!

tge midwife at day assessment is just double checking to make sure tge doctor doesn't want to keep me in, I heard the word induction,

dammit they're sending me home, back to curry and gym ball for us!

Oh my goodness steff! You having a natural birth?

Noones given us an estimated weight the whole time only the sonographer at our 3D apt that said a "nice little 7lb'er" so hoping she was right

Bit of movement today but no pains sadly... God look at us all wishing labour here well all be regretting it soon! But just want to meet our little one

yep all natural with my little tens machine and g&a, im 5'10 and relatively strong/well built
im a glutton for it, the biggest thing is how much I cant move, usually feel bad but then oh says dont forget babies are usually 7lb ish so it's ok to feel like an invalid

midwife today tried telling me he wasn't big her reason for this is because he's followed his own growth line my reasoning he's big is because he's made his own line way above tge others haha!

Ha Steff that's what M did - he followed his own, unique, growth curve :o and came out at 10lbs 8oz... Totally sympathise with feeling like an invalid, it's hard work carting a heffalump around inside you all the time. Fingers crossed things start to move along soon for you.

Oli - hang on in there, hope you get your cuddles today. Can't believe the doctor cocked up Joe's dosage!

Nothing to report here - big 2 are back at school/preschool today so I'm having a chilled morning with just M to keep me company :)

DS lost weight again today when weighed :-(
last time he got weighed he had just fed for half hour today he was due a feed surely that makes a difference?i know when i have just eaten i weigh more!
they're coming to weigh him again tomorrow i have to increase top up to 30 ml i am so close to formula!!
if i was to express and bottle feed him how much should each feed be? I am exhausted and very emotional :-( and should probably be posting this in feeding i know :-(

Arlandria, I completely understand your feelings, I'm the same. Add that next door doing loft extension and so far today non stop banging and drilling metal, baby not bothered but I feel like crying! Trying to feed her lots, in bed, skin to skin with formula top ups.

its so much pressure isn't it massagegirl DH is back at work Thursday i just feel like he hasn't had much chance to get to know his son :-( he does the nappies and does give him cuddles i just feel like the constant feeding expressing schedule is getting in the way of us being mummy and daddy :-(

A ton of pressure. I just cried as gave her formula for the first time and she was so wide eyed and alert after it, gorgeous bit instead of enjoying it I feel guilty, may e she's really hungry and my breast milk is doing nothing for her... Argh. Same my partner back to work on fri. Boo.

they keep saying how well he looks how alert he is etc i know they have to follow guidelines just feel like they could be more supportive!

Those having feeding issues can I suggest you post in the Breast and Bottle feeding talk topic? Ive had and ive seen some great helpful non judgemental advice in there.

We had some fairly major feeding issues with DD as she was in a coma and the tube fed for a while, eventually the attempts to BF and express got too much for me but I couldn't bottle feed her, DH had to. We did manage to wean her from bottle and tube and she eventually fed until after her second birthday. I'm pleased that for us we persevered as she has had health complications and at times BFing kept her off an IV however I would have enjoyed the first six or so weeks of her at home far more and probably bonded quicker with her had I FF.

I am hoping very much this one will BF but that said I'm not going to be such a martyr to it.

arlandria in what way do you wish they were more supportive?

not so much support just mixed information i have seen a different midwife each time he has been weighed all of which have told me something different each time
i am getting there and DS has been pretty much on the boob or being cup fed since they left i will do my best to feed the little man up!

My reply got lost sigh.

Having spoken to midwives and breastfeeding supporters (LLL, NCT and my favourites the Breastfeeding Support Network) I fully empathise. Midwives are getting more breastfeeding training but its still very little and they rely on experience a lot. Unfortunately not all that experience is good. Hence the mixed messages. Have you been able to get any support from a breastfeeding counsellor via surestart or a phone helpline?

I remember the constant weighing. DD was on drugs which mde her swollen, as the drugs left her system she lost weight, which sent us into a spiral of needing to be under constant supervision and hugely stressful. Only once we asked about why she was less pufffy did one of the support workers realise tjat was why she was losing weight.