October 2013 - Scans, re-scans and anterior placentas!

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My sex drive has gone, it just feels so wrong now I can feel the baby! Like logically, it can feel us doing it and euwww! I feel really bad for poor DH!!

MoN a 10 Stone weight loss :-0 what's your secret?

Mon Eliana is beautiful, I've never heard of it before but it is stunning and what a lovely meaning.

No real secret Natalie I just started eating normal sized portions and only eating when I was truly hungry and not because I was bored. I started walking a bit more too but no major changes really.

I'm just pleased that I've found a name that Dp likes too. He's turned his nose up at every other suggestion.

Love Eliana MoN

I am usually well up for it pg or not (far more than dh! ) but this time I have been so ultra tired we haven't been doing it as much, mainly as I have just been falling asleep instead of initiating it!

When we do, it's not comfortable him on top anymore (sorry if tmi)

In all my other pregnancies we have continued right up until then end. - in fact I'm sure it has brought on at least 2 of my labours!!!

my skin and hair are nice at the moment (which makes me feel good) and i have never actually asked dh if he thinks me being pg is unattractive....... tbh after 15 years married we do still have a spark but a lot of the time it's more of a closeness thing (for me anyway!) and making time for each other in our mad lives

I like lunchtime sex it's when i am least tired, and conveniently he is home then (as he comes home for lunch from 1 - 3 every day), and there are no children here.........

also love Eliana Mon and very fitting. Ariana was my first choice for a girl!!

Eliana is on our girly list too MoN as we came across it whilst searching for alternatives to eleanor for the nn Ellie. Don't worry though, there's another girl name on our list that is still our favourite so it's unlikely we'll end up with the same name!

We really struggled with girls names at first, but as a result of trying to even the balance we seem to have more girls names than boys names now. Time to get back to my '100,000 names' book that my mother bought me I think!

Legally so pleased you are doing sort of ok. And congratulations on the 24 week milestone. If you can get brown blood from banging it in sex etc then I am sure it must be normal when someone sticks a needle in your cervix?! Still, worrying for you though. Do you mean bed rest for the rest of the pregnancy or just this week? I hope it won't be too boring for you but such an important job cooking those little babies for as long as possible. Enjoy some good books/films/knitting!

MoN what a lovely idea, your baby certainly is a miracle (they all are of course but yours seems to have really overcome all the odds). The baby names app. Has the option to search by meaning. There is a big list, I will message them to you if you like as I think I paid for the app.

Whoever asked about sex, it has been off the menu for a while because I was finding difficult to wee and thought I might have a uti, then now I have piles I didn't feel at all attractive or in the mood last night. So we just had a cuddle. I don't mind having sex with the baby there though, it has never kicked during which might feel odd - I imagine it is rocked to sleep and will have no concept of what is going on.

My boss asked me this evening if I was planning to do nct classes and told me I can't have time off for them as there are too many pregnant people at work. Mine are mainly evenings and weekends and the only one in the day is when I will be 36.5 weeks and probably on mat leave anyway but I have sent her a link to the gov.uk know your rights website that says you are entitled to time off for antenatal classes. Grrr.

Had my re scan today. Lil bean was naughty again. Took ages to get him into position. I had to move on to one side. Then the other. Then on my back again. Then finally tried standing up. I tell you I was in agony with SPD oh well got there in the end all good measurements .

Exhausted today. Spent morning in bushy park feeding ducks with lo and a work friend. Maybe did a lil to much walking. At mums for dinner now. Quite looking forward to bed.

Eliana is lovely mon
I have an annoying drunk snoring DH too. Drives me crackers and he usually gets kicked!
Glad you are ok legally bed rest is so boring. I was on bedrest with ds so know how you feel. Get some good books! Love your names too.
Our cot has arrived! Need to get a carpet sorted before DH assembles it though as the room it's to go in is currently floorboards and although I love them I think baby will prefer a carpet.

Great minds think alike roxvox . It wouldn't bother me in the slightest if we had babies with the same name.

Thankyou Orange that would be great. Just incase I change my mind again.

With regards to sex, A friend of mine was repulsed when she found out me and Dp were still having sex. She never let her now ex husband near her when she was pregnant. She also thinks breast feeding is repulsive though.

Have messaged you MoN.
Congratulations on scan GT. So many naughty babies on here, I am fully expecting to have to move around to get a good view of everything at the scan tomorrow and will remind myself not to panic if they can't get a clear view of everything first time. I would have done if it hadn't happened so many times.

The curtains and tiebacks from Mamas And Papas came today and they look awful. I've packaged them up to return and them couldn't find a return form in the bag. Looked online and you have to take them to a store or pay postage to return them. FFS, I'm in such a grump now. They cost £85, I don't really want to have to pay a tenner to post them back.

My nearest store is 30 miles away, you'd think for their prices they would make returning goods easy!!

Rant over.

Thanks Orange

I've a snoring walrus too. I saw one of those funny ecards recently that said "I love you so much, except when you snore and then I want to punch you in the face" So true! Most nights I'm asleep before him, thankfully. Do worry about when the baby is in our room though. I'll be even more annoyed if the snoring wakes it up! (I say all this in the knowledge that I've started snoring in the past few weeks too. But it's just little lady snores so doesn't count)
I'm feeling pretty unattractive at the moment. Just feel fat and spotty so not really in the mood for lovin'

I've been meaning to ask how work were treating you orangeblossom - sounds like it still isn't great? Hope your scan goes well tomorrow.

I'm really struggling with the way I look/weight gain - don't feel attractive at all and after a pretty shocking first trimester, where bed was for sleeping only (!) sex life has died a bit, here.

Shire hobbit, thanks for asking. It hasn't been too bad recently actually. My boss just doesn't understand it I think. She was doing an assembly on suffragettes this morning and mentioned that women nowadays can work, that she didn't ever look after her two children, that she always worked. She was proud of that, I just thought it was sad.

It is exactly the same at my school, which is beyond ironic as it is a girls hool that was founded because of the inequality of education for women 100+ years ago.
I think I'm going to try and gather any research I can on how successful job sharing/part time work can be and how it has helped women advance in the work place before I submit my p/t request. I'm not hopeful though, they turned down my colleague's request who is on maternity leave at the moment

What's a hool?!
Stupid phone - should be school!!

(Though I'm still crossing fingers we can afford for me to be a SAHM, but it's not looking good at the moment.)

MON Eliana is very very close to my name (mine's the French version) and I've always loved it...

We're currently really struggling to come up with a boys name- DS has a very unusual name (due to DH's exotic origins) and it's tough to find something to 'go'. Current thoughts include Cassian or Kashan- honest opinions welcome.

Good luck on the p/t request shire, I'm hoping to do the same- teaching is not a job to easily do full time with small kids (whatever people say about the hours/holidays)

Same here, would really like not to work for the next few years.
Another woman is coming back part time next term after having two babies close together,but it has been made clear that had been negotiated and they aren't very pleased she isnt back full time. Another woman is about 13 weeks pregnant and thnking of coming back in September part time. She wants us to present a united front and ask for a job share. I am not sure the head would agree or that I would want it. I wonder about doing it for a term to keep the maternity pay but can't decide.

It would have been easier when it was expected that you stay home to look after your children and the dad earned enough to look after you all in a way really!

(Sets back feminism decades in one sentence...)

TBF childcare is so expensive, I'll be working my ass off for what amounts to about £100 a month! And probably feeling that I'm both a rubbish teacher and a rubbish mum, too.

Sheesh, I'm miss positivity tonight, aren't I?!

Lol orange I know what you mean, but then again I was really keen to go back to work after DS... Went back 4 days/week for2 years which was ok, I think even that will be too much with 2 so I'm angling for 3 days.