Due in November 2006 Part 3

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seeing as the ;ast thread has over 1000 posts i thought it was time for a new one!

Morning

Sorry I've been awol again over the weekend. Sorry for those that are worrying about movement, an old wives tale I'd heard is drinking a very cold drink will get LO moving - thinking about it my madwife gave me a cold drink during labour cause DS was being very slow and lazy.

Delia I'm glad your scan went well, and EeyoreUk hope your scan goes well today - we're looking forward to hearing your news when you get back.

Fatbetty - absolutely no help with potty training, but I'd be tempted to wait maybe? although you don't really want to have 3 childrens nappies to change - cod's potty training boot camp thread has lots of suggestions on. I did DS begining of Jan and after 4 or so days of mostly accidents he did very quickly get the hang of it - I went cold turkey and no nappies at all other than bed time at night and put him straight into pants and trousers. I left the potty upstairs in the bathroom too cause I didn't want it in the lounge.

Well my weekend was blighted by my s*dding car again - broken down again - that's the 3rd or 4th time in the last couple of months - so fed up with it. So now have to figure out a way of being with the car when the rescue company come to collect it and then pick up DS from nursery without a car and manage to get a full 8 hours in at work - DH was very little help with suggestions of how to do it as well.

morning everyone!

firstly thanks for all the supportive words, im not as worried now that me and dp went through everything over the weekend. also shipped dd off to MILs last night so had almost 24hrs without her and no getting up to her when she losses that dreaded dummy she has in bed!! been able to relax a bit!

right catch up!

Tinasan great minds obv think alike, lovely names by the way!

bethbe thanks, thatsd a great saying, all i want is to keep the 35% share of the flat we own, sounds really pathetic but we'v worked so hard to get here!

delia oh you have the self restraint of a god, i dont no way il be able to refrain from asking! but dp wont be there so im getting the sonographer (thats what theyr called isnt it?) to write it down so we can look at it together later! if they will that is, if not il just find out! lol

CattyB if mines a blue one you can have all my girls clothes, got no room for both lots! lol

and snap scan date with sighkotika and harrogatemum il be 21+1 by then, still seems ages away!

sorry for everyone that hasnt really felt bubs move, i find i have to push quite hard on my lower abdomen to feel the kicks laying on my back, but that will soon change! this ones a little acrobat tho so i have no need to worry there.

m/w wants to see me weds as i havent had bloods results and havent had my urine tested. so hopefully will hear the heartbeat for the first time!

Hi all,

Stacey - glad you seem more positive and hopefully there seems to be a way out for you. I hate worrying about money too but it does seem to affect everything.

Congrats to all those who have had their half way scans and to those who have found out what flavour they are getting - it's so exciting
We won't be told (NHS trust will not tell in Colchester) but don't think we would want to know anyway (although am v curious to see if everybody is right and it is a pink one - not one person has guessed boy yet!)

Was in Mothercare on Saturday and was chatting to another pg lady and we were comparing bumps - she was 34 weeks, I am 19 and our bumps were identical

Right, nust go, am supposed to be doing something constructive at my desk...

podglet, at 10 weeks i compared bumps with a lady who was 8 months, same as you, identical, damn must be doing summit wrong. saying that after the initial give out of my bump (or flab, not sure which) it hasnt grown a lot, although can feel that the uterus has grown coz after sex (cringe) it goes hard up to my belly button!

Thanks for the offer of the clothes Stacey - might well take you up on it - happily swap what I've got that is still in a fit state after 3.

My bump too is huge - can't quite balance a pint on it but it would probably take a half without any trouble (chance would be a fine thing) Lost weight during my first 2 pgs but no such luck this time or last. Going to make a real effort after smidge is born to get back to my original pre-pg weight - well thats the plan

As for movements I'm now 22+3 and some days I feel loads and others almost none. If you are worried go with your gut instinct and make an appt with the GP/MW to have them listen in.

I couldn't stand the idea of 3 in naps (esp as I use real ones). Toilet training is much easier in the summer esp with younger ones as then you can have them run around with nothing on and not have as many time restrictions. 1st time round I had DS using the potty right on his 2nd b'day - but had to revert to nappies when we started wearing trousers after the easter holidays but left it til june/july and he took to it no probs.

Hello everyone

I think the biggest main key to toilet training is just waiting until the child is ready to start.

I remember with my DS, we got a potty set up in the living room, at about 2.6y he used to sit on it with his nappy on and I would give him as much time as I dared with out his nappy on for him to run around, but he just never wanted to use the potty for real, then when he was about to turn 3 I panicked a bit and tried to force him to do it (not literally!! I just tried to make him sit on it with the intention of 'something' happening after he'd had a drink/ate) he had a couple of accidents, and then he got Gastro enteritous (sp?) and was in and out of hospital for a week so obviously toilet training took a bask seat. We gave him a couple of weeks to get better and then I sat down with him one morning and said to him that he was now 3 years old and he really should be big enough to have a wee in his potty and he said he wanted to try the toilet like daddy, from then on he always used the toilet for a wee and although a poo on the toilet didn't happen for another couple of weeks it soon followed, he was in nappies at night till he was about 3 and a half when he said he didn't want it on anymore so we made the path from his bed to the toilet as quick and easy as possible, kept all of the lights on for him so he didn't have to panic and he has never had an accident in bed, although it was only recently that I took his protector pad things off his bed.

Wow sorry for the long post!!

Hope everyone is doing well

NJ were you nervous the first night that DS didn't have a nappy on? did he have any accidents after you stopped using nappies at night?

I'm trying to physic myself up to go nappyless at night - we've had about 4 or 5 weeks of dry nappies in the morning so am wondering if we should go for it (gulp!)

Eeyoreuk - where are you? looking forward to your news

I was I suppose!! More so because I was thinking if he does have an accident after doing so well in the day it might put him back a bit, but we brought those travel changing mat things (by pampers there is about 10 or so in a pack) and we covered his bed in them then put his sheet on over the top (we did try him with a plastic sheet thing but he hated it, it made him sweat buckets and the noise woke him up!) but we made it clear to him that if he woke up and was wet that it was fine and he wouldn't be in any sort of trouble but that he was to come and wake me up so I could get him and the bed cleaned up so he wasn't laying wet all night, and also obviously told him if he needed a wee when he woke up, he was to go to the toilet quickly. He didn't have an accident that night or any other, he was just so ready for it he felt 'grown up' and knew what to do no matter what happened. He did try it on a bit when he went to bed the first few nights saying he needed a wee on the toilet when he didn't really need to go but once he had gotten over the novelty value he was fine

I think it helps also with a boy because he can have the choice of standing up or sitting down, instead of him choosing if he was going to go to the toilet or just wet himself his choice was if he wanted to sit down or stand up.

Now I'm feeling really depressed as you have your ds night trained! Good for you!! I've been using a timer to get ds to go wee without having a tantrum and that seems to be working. Would love to potty train DS2 at the same time but he just won't sit on the potty for any length of time. He'd rather get straight in the bath. Might move the potty chair to the kitchen for a few days and read to him there. Feeling the pressure for September when DS1 goes to school and they want him potty trained. I know that seems ages away but have lots going on before then. Hopefully seeing other boys and girls using the loo will help him.

Have you tried the sitting/standing on the toilet? My DS never ended up having a wee in the potty, but once he started on the toilet he has never missed it once.

Tried the toilet with ds2 and he absolutely hated it! DS1 is great with toilet - just need him to tell me when he wants to go. I'm doing sticker charts and jelly beans for a reward which DS1 loves but DS2 just wants the reward without doing the work.

I did see Cod's website regarding potty training, but was gone during the last training camp. I think she is doing another one when we are gone again.

Have you tried books that are aimed at the kids? (I have one that worked wonders you can have if you want it?) Painted ping pong ball down the toilet to 'aim' at? Asking him, in a very adult like way, why he doesn't want to try? He might have heard something that has scared him into not wanting to go. Has he been shopping for big boy pants that he has picked? Could the shops not run out of nappies in his size (this worked for when DS didn't want to do a poo in the toilet)? Also have you got a toilet training seat thing that fits on the toilet seat and a step stool for him to get up to the toilet? If he feels more secure that could be the answer?

If all else fails are you certain there isn't a medical reason for him not wanting to go?

(My email address is [email protected] if you want that book just send me your address and I will pop it in the post next time I am in the town )

Sorry guys - we seem to have got all todderish - hope we've not put you off.
I remember when DS1 was born and watching other mums walking in the street with toddlers and taking their kids to school and not being able to imagine doing that - its amazing just how quickly babyhood passes - blink and you miss it.

hi all.. well i did it today, dr at work touched my stomach, unfortunately i had a folder in my hand so i hit him with it!!! twice!!! felt gooooooooood!!!

have also come up with a boys name we both really like - cole - what do ya all reckon?? reckon the grandparents won't like, but they didn't like ds name until he was born!!

Hi All Had my scan last night all is well. IT was quite shy though and keep ITs hands by it face. Also managed see all of the organs they are happy it is all okay and healthy. Well i am 21+3 today and have just seen myself in the mirror this morning and can honestly say i now look pg and not just fat.
speak later eeyoreuk

Sorry for drifting into toddlerdom. I had a strange dream last night where I gave birth to a 1 year old and couldn't bond with him/her as the baby was already so independent. Really worried me and ended up having a horrible night sleep and feeling rather yucky this morning.

I like the name Cole by the way!!

Fab news eeyore - it's such a nice feeling getting past the just looking fat stage isn't it . See you've kept the flavour a suprise - me too.

Sarahlou - good for you girl!! maybe they will all keep their hands to themselves now.

Blimey what is it with last night and bad dreams - both DS and I woke up within 5 mins of each other having had nightmares!!

Yes like the name Cole too.

Morning girls

Eeyore I am glad your scan was so good And well done on keeping the sex a secret, I really don't know how you do it!! I can barely wait another second to find out. Cole is a lovely name It is very manly-ish and hunky sounding!!

Nothing more to report here, still got heart burn from hell, and did someone mention having sex yesterday? I think I have forgotten what sex is.... !!!

Have a good day everyone

morning, been on comp desperately trying to win a maternity wedding dress on ebay so if its any of you bidding against me please stop! lol cant afford the amount iv put in really but might ask my mum to help as its a lovely dress and id really like a nice one (oh yeh and getting dps suit for free so can afford a little bit more!)

glad the scan went ok eeyoreuk. cant wait till mine comes round next week on the edge of my seat wondering what flavour it is, with dd i was convinced girl all the way through boy never even entered my mind, but this one im jsut not so sure!!!!!!!!!!

it was me who mentioned sex yesterday, dp is terrible and wants it all the time as he loves the bump but i manage about once a week a bit uncomfortable but still enjoyable. with dd i hated it and still hated it after she was born for about 10 months so he went about 16 months without it, poor sod!!! i mainly have a porblem if the baby is awake, to me thats odd!!

right enough chat, back to ebay!

LOL Last pregnancy I couldn't get enough I would be trying to pounce on him at ever oportunity, which he got fed up of pretty quickly, but this time he had got himself all ready for a shagfest and I haven't wanted him anywhere near me!! LOL The poor thing!

While we are on the subject of sex - how about a little survey?
Last pg my sex drive really increased but this time I could really do without it - ds was a boy and a lot of my friends with boys said that their sex drive increased as well, where as those with girls said that they didn't want it at all
I wonder if your sex drive can tell you the sex - I would be interested to hear from all of you who know the flavour

As I said first pregnancy I wanted more sex than ever before, he was a boy, this time I am not interested even in the slightest, but won't know the sex for another 2 and a half weeks, but will let you know!

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