June 2013 - thread 5

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I am so tempted to just finish work now...the thought of going back to work fills me with dread!

I've thereabouts already decided I'm not going back afterwards, so sod it.

My manager hasn't responded to me saying I'm not going in today. Nice. Makes me want to not go back even more! They'll soon work out how much I do if I vanish suddenly. :-)

I hope everyone has a much better day today than yesterday- have only now caught up. Sending hugs to you all- what a day! It's one of those strange things like when you're living with lots of females and your cycles move into synch, seems that we're having it on the good day/ bad day front.

I hope that someone's able to reassure you about blood pressure soon mrsbri. And I also hope all those if you feeling rubbish both health and emotion wise feel lots better very soon.

Sunny- I hope you show that knob up for what he is in style- grrrrr!

So after we moved offices it was decreed I needed an expectant mother Health and Safety at work assessment. An extremely fat man just presented himself at my desk to discuss my needs. I said I was fine and leaving in 6 weeks so really no need. But no, he was going to do this regardless. So, he inspected my feet and told me I was in fact wearing appropriate footwear. Wow, thanks for that! He asked me if I was managing stress and if my manager was aware of my situation. I looked at my stomach and said 'I'm not really sure how he's miss it'. Numpty. The girls I sit next to were sniggering quite loudly at this point!

Then he asked me if my manager was a reasonable man?!? I felt like saying 'no he's an absolute arsehole' when in reality John is a bit, 'if it's not too much trouble could you possibly come in every now and again'. He's the nicest kindest man. But the bloke said if I had any trouble I should let him know. Why?! So he can send the boys round?!I have now emailed John to report I have had my assessment and I have reported that he is an absolute tyrant. Hopefully he will take this in good spirits

What a start to the day! Steaming backache today and otherwise can't really be arsed!

Very funny Sarah. Good to hear you have a lovely boss though, and someone to stand up for you! Don't suppose you have a hot water bottle lying around at work for that backache though.

On the baby shopping front I've just discovered that if you download the mothercare app they send you a discount code for £10 off a £50 spend. That'll go nicely towards my car seat .

Oh Sarah - the joys of working in a large institution. No such thing as a H&S person here - it's me, myself and I.

I have been warned by a colleague that Mr KnobHead might be coming in tomorrow for a meeting. She's going to try telling him to just Skype in because she wants to protect me. Whilst that is very sweet I'm very capable of taking care of myself - or maybe she is trying to protect him from the wrath of Sunny??

If I ruled the world........

Back from nurse now...she got a doctor in to see me as my blood pressure is up (and up from last week) and they want to monitor me, so I'm back at the nurse tomorrow and the midwife on Monday.

Sounds daft, but if it was nothing I would have felt like I'd wasted their time by going. Shows I kind of know my body, at least!

Going to email HR about finishing now once I've had the email addresses sent to me. For now, it is the sofa!

Sarah, that is so funny about H&S! At least they are doing what they have to do, even if it is a jobsworth doing it :-)

Mrsbri glad they are keeping an eye on you. And don't forget 'mum knows best' so well done on listening to your body! Rest up take it easy and try to forget about the arseholes work.

Sunny I look forward to seeing how mr knob responds. Quite like the fact your happy to take him on - good for you!!

Sarah glad your shoes are ok..... Although may be slightly sad it's not an excuse for buying new ones..... We won't tell if you do now tho and if you have a boots or something near what about those heat pads you can get that stick on your top and gently heat the area. Might help with the backache.

Hope everyone has a good day

MrsBri I was going to post how it's a positive that at least you are so tuned in to your own body! I really hope you are off work now and the bp drops :)

Sunny this man is an idiot, hope it's all working out okay now!

I was off work when it went up, which I've just told HR. I made a big deal of having a funny turn on the train...the nurse and doctor agreed it was a faint, even though I stayed conscious. Only because I was sitting down, I think!

I'm hoping they agree that my annual leave will start as of immediate effect with my mat leave starting on 6th May. Not ideal, but can't have my BP going up more.

See how they view their duty of care!

Sunny, any word on the champion knob jockey yet?!

My nephew was born at 29 weeks (as I am now) as my sis had pre-eclampsia and crappy midwife care that didn't pick it up til too late so my little nephew was only 1 pound 12 oz as he hadn't been growing properly. So definitely take it easy and keep badgering the midwives.
Mrsbri you should only need to give 28 days notice for taking your SMP so hopefully you'll be fine. must seem odd that you might not be going back!

Goodness...I don't want to give birth now!

I was thinking about that. In theory it is enough notice for SMP, it is just changing my annual leave to now which could be an issue. Though I could probably find a sympathetic GP and get signed off, and what's the benefit then?

See what they come back with.

Shows how care can vary, doesn't it? The doctor I saw today was very keen to keep an eye on me.

I know, it was very scary. Comforting that my little one already measuring 2 pounds 14, but yes don't want her out yet!
My sister's blood pressure was up and down and they just kept sending her away, didn't even give her any medication for it.
She's with solicitors now and it's surprising how many records the NHS have 'lost'.

Can I join the Sick Bus? Two days ago thought, 'I've had an excellent run, not a single cough or cold in over 7 months'.

Am now with horrible lurgy and have come home to bed.

weakly waves oyster card over sick-bus reader

Work has asked if I can work from home for a couple of weeks to handover to someone else.

Said I'll consider it, depending on my blood pressure on Monday.

Told them I can't afford to only have SSP, hence asking to go now, and left it with them for a response to that!

My 29 week email from Boots just said less room = less baby movement. Can someone please tell Baby B?! :-)

Sounds about right, Oli. :-/

Hope you feel better soon.

afternoon all, just checking in as have been reading but not posting for a while.

Mrs Bri, hope that HR are nice and understanding (as they should be!)

Starting to feel a little panicky under-prepared. We still don't know if we'll be able to move to our cottage in May or if it will be July, so reluctant to buy too much in advance as moving will be hard enough! Thankfully we have lots of lovely offers of help and babysitting.

pink, hope you are feeling better today and learner, hope your nephew is doing well now

and Oli too!

Thanks Lexi, he'll be 9 in September. He has a lot of problems but is a lovely little boy.

Reading this thread is making me feel so much better! I'm glad I'm not the only one having a bad week - nothing specific but just backache, tired of being kicked to a pulp from the inside out plus work is really getting on my tits now. Finally succumbed to pregnancy hormones yesterday (after being a paragon of serenity and good humour for the past 7 months, as ever ;-)) and was ready to murder anyone who crossed me. It ended up being EDF Energy......

Anyway, feeling a bit better today (although the snow isn't helping) and I hope all the other Juners are too!

Hi everyone - I haven't been here for a while, thought I'd check in to say hi! Sorry to hear lots of you are ill / unwell / hormonal...

I've been lucky with not being ill but as per Oli's warning, I'll make sure not to be smug about it! I've definitely been hormonal though, it comes and goes every few weeks. I cry uncontrollably for no reason and feel so desperately down. I was initially worried about post birth but I've learnt to cope better. Last week, whilst sobbing in bed trying not to wake my lovely husband, I was able to think: I am not actually sad, I am just upset and can't stop crying. I am taking everything personally for no reason whatsoever, this WILL pass. And then it did... but it's really tough! I'm not used to being down... I think this is what I find hardest about pregnancy.

NCT starts next week, looking forward to it, out of curiosity more than anything else and hoping to meet interesting people... fingers crossed!

We have bought, nothing, zilch, nada. I went to a nearly new sale and bought a gorgeous cardigan for me! - exactly like the one I'd been looking for. I've also not prepared any nursery or room. Am I really the only one? I'm currently doing a PhD so feeling more panic with work I have to do before birth than actual preparing for baby - not a good thing I'm sure!

And lastly - I have a massive stress with the university last week who insisted I couldn't suspend my status (take mat leave) mid term (mid June - term for graduates runs from April to Oct) but only at the beginning of term, so now. My supervisor went ballistic, given that she's not happy with me being pregnant I didn't think she'd take this lying down. It's all resolved and I can work til when I want, but it was awful. I feel for all those who would actually like to finish now, studying for a PhD is tough but I have the luxury of working from home and working flexible hours, so evenings, weekends and when I want / need to / can... So I'm glad I can keep working...

This thread is great! Thanks for all being here xox

Sorry to hear about your BP and stresses, MrsBri. Hope you feeling bit better - you need to put yourself and baby first. Sod bloody work!
I'm having a wobbly day packing up my flat into boxes. Took my cat to a friend's house to stay for a couple of weeks so he doesn't get stressed with the move, and am tearful now as am missing him. The thought that he won't be in this flat/his home again makes me sob - crazy hormone woman!
On the positive side, I had a craniosacral therapy session this morning for my pelvic pain and I think it was really good. It's very gentle touch/energy therapy which is supposed to allow the body to correct itself from bad patterns. Good for babies with colic too!

Mad cat pregnant hormonal lady, Sunbeam!! Totally normal at present, I feel.

I wish I could regulate my mood, but no chance, it would appear!

In other news, I think Baby B has finally gone head down and stayed there for more than an hour! He has also fidgeted more today than for most of the week...ouchy!!

How far are you now MrsBri? Mine only went head down about a week ago, and since then the mad kicking has transferred to my ribs(!!) and has become less energetic, more like squirming (I'm 30+0) :)

Is it me or is anyone else having some very weird changes down there? I'm not sure if I have been the whole time or its just happened the last couple of days but I'm looking rather... Sorry tmi.. Purple and engorged down there?

I'm 29+0, so seems about right. I'm still being battered from within, as well as subjected to squirming and wriggling. And some movement which makes my belly move in a wave (what the hell is that?).