September 2013 - fretting our way through the first trimester

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dietcoke I completely understand too. We've only told two friends so far and I've felt really negative, almost guilty, after telling them.

It's DH's nieces' 21st birthday party today so his entire family is convened from all over the country. DH wanted to break the news today but I'm only 9 weeks and I don't want to take the attention away from his niece. I've got an early scan next week before we go off on hols, so I'm planning to tell family when we get back- all being well!

I've told a few people mostly just the GPs and few people I've seen, including work. I feel a sense of dread after each time we share, but know statistically things should be fine, and that I'd probably want to be a me to tell those people anyway if I had a MC at this stage.

12 week scan Thursday so as long as all well then we'll tell everyone.

Lololol frogchops at your post about SIL- really cheered me up this grim morning.

I'm trying Fybogel this morning- don't know if anyone else tried it? It's an orange powder drink full of fibre, to evidently make you poo! Worth a try!

Good god I need some sugar puffs.

Hello everyone. Glad I'm not the only one who's been feeling low recently. I think it's a mixture of the hormones, the weather, not being able to tell anyone yet, feeling like I can't 'risk being happy' about it all yet and also contract woes. Hopefully the contract will get sorted this week - oh please oh please.
This week could be perfect if contract gets signed, hear heartbeat on work doppler, and then can tell my mum and dad!
Then it will just leave the weather! That I can cope with!
Some very very sliiiiiight nausea today. Otherwise no symptoms.

One day at a time everyone!!! Spring is on it's way!!

oh - and I'm confused about mozzarella. Does this mean we can't eat pizza??

We haven't told anybody yet. We were going to tell parents about now but I don't think I can till I see the scan. My parents will be soooo excited and I don't feel I really can be till I see the bean.
We have to tell the people we are skiing with in wk 12 but they are a couple with two kids who had a terrible time with late mc so they'll understand and another father whose wife's preg was stressful as she has lupus and was 40 so he will too.
Our scan is the Monday after skiing. DH feels the mums "should" be first to know but I think I'd prefer to tell skiing friends out of necessity and mums after the scan.

From the NHS site mozzarella is on the list of "ok if it's made from pasteurised milk" cheeses.
However cooked on a pizza I think is fine anyway as the cooking kills any bugs.

Yes, I've just checked NHS again and all the "banned" cheeses are ok if cooked thoroughly all the way through - I need to get my hands on some deep fried Brie :)

Place marking .. hi peeps .. not around much but will try my very best :) Congrats to all of you on baby news x

Hooya, I had an interesting dream last week that involved lots of gay sex, which is most unlike me. Woke up and had to relieve DH in the middle of the night, which he was a bit taken aback by :)

triplerock lucky him!
Sorry I've been a bit quiet, I'm just glued onto this rollercoaster.... Started to feel a bit better Friday and like maybe I should try to go back to work next week. Saturday was DH's birthday so we'd planned a quiet evening in watching rugby witha few friends and then having a takeaway. Really enjoyed seeing friends for the first time in a month and felt quite perky and ok. Got to bed about eleven but couldn't sleep til one.

Today I am paying for thinking for half a day that my sickness and tiredness was under control. Managed to get up about eleven and lay on the sofa til half two. Husband offered to get me food and I cried because I couldn't answer the question. Then went

triplerock lucky him!
Sorry I've been a bit quiet, I'm just glued onto this rollercoaster.... Started to feel a bit better Friday and like maybe I should try to go back to work next week. Saturday was DH's birthday so we'd planned a quiet evening in watching rugby witha few friends and then having a takeaway. Really enjoyed seeing friends for the first time in a month and felt quite perky and ok. Got to bed about eleven but couldn't sleep til one.

Today I am paying for thinking for half a day that my sickness and tiredness was under control. Managed to get up about eleven and lay on the sofa til half two. Husband offered to get me food and I cried because I couldn't answer the question. Then went back to bed to watch the rugby, slept through half of it and still in bed now. I feel ridiculously awful and so grateful that I'm not in work tomorrow, or in fact all week.

Grump over.

Also a tall bird worried about finding mat clothes to fit (just 5'10 and 33in inside leg, but tall enough). I currently cant think of anything beyond getting less sick. I can Barely think of work or friends or preparing for baby in any way. :(

LOL triplerock! Strange dreams seem to be part of pregnancy, very odd / frightening at times, seems to depend what's on your mind at the time x

I'm 6ft 3 and already consigned myself to wearing leggings as also seem to have put on 2 stone making me 16+ stone now :(

Hold onto the thought that the sicky feeling does go away eventually xxxxx

Grrr at the blabbermouthed MIL! I would be SO cross. Her 'reward' can be that she will be the last one you tell when it's actually born, ha ha evil ha.
Sorry to rain on the parade of all the down in the dumps ladies but I've had a lovely weekend as we threw my sister a baby shower yesterday - 30 people and an actual mountain of presents, lots of tears and laughs. She's been trying for 6 years with lots of heartache and it was wonderful to see how loved and supported she is and has been over the years.
Made me less guilty about not telling family about our pg yet, as the limelight is on her, so to speak.

Feeling so sorry for you flobot, hope it passes soon, but at least it's a constant reassurance that it's all still continuing (small consolation, perhaps, when you've been confined to the sofa for 3 weeks, but that's all I can think of right now!)

Frogchops I feel the same as you and kilkers and meanmrmustard despite a mmc last year, I don?t want an early scan for the same reason as you, it could still go wrong. So I?m waiting for the 12wk scan. Got my booking in on Weds too.

Giraferama I agree, it?s your news and you should get the excitement of telling people, or giving relatives the okay to do so...

flobot you could be describing me there! Awful isn?t it. I actually enjoyed a boiled egg this morning and it?s the first food I?ve enjoyed for weeks, mostly I?m eating to stop myself feeling sick. But then I associate sickness with that food, it?s making eating very expensive!!

It?s my birthday today and I?m missing a night out and seeing Harry Hill because of tiredness and sickness. To be honest I?m glad to just lie on the couch watching Harry Potter and Call the midwife! Last year?s birthday was the time we found out we?d had a mmc so this one?s got a lot going for it despite feeling rubbish!!!!

flobot - I too have cried almost every day this week at the thought of needing to eat rather than wanting to eat. Opening the fridge for my daughter can be extremely traumatic :(
frog - wow, our dates are very close indeed, looking forward to seeing how this all pans out. Wish I knew about mumsnet with my first pregnancy. I was the first of all our siblings and friends to have a baby and felt very lonely throughout my pregnancy. I am surviving on dry cheerios rather than sugar puffs

Sorry to hear of everyone's rubbish few days. Our w/e has been unusually crappy too... Wasted yesterday dragging our 2DS round dodgy garages looking for a 2nd car, with nothing remotely worth buying. Then this morning i had to lead the preschool group at church - 12 v boisterous little ones first thing in the morning, almost finished me off!! And this afternoon I have been marking exams, feeling v sorry for myself. I still have 30 scripts to go, I could be at it all night. Bleugh bleugh bleugh ....

Happy birthday Dorita!

Triple rock you could be me. Lank hair is killing me and I feel sooooo much fatter, have only really been overheating the last week or two (before that I was eating to stop sickness, now some enjoyment is back. I only don't feel sick as I actually eat: the minute i stop I feel I'll again. Not helpful). Am also 6 foot. Feel minging both in myself and in how I look. In fact, have lost count of the number of people who have said how ill or rough I look. Thanks people!

Have booked hair cut on Wednesday and highlights. Trying desperately to feel better. I realise I have only gained a couple of pound but its that feeling that you COULD just be getting fat at the minute rather than having a legitimate pregnancy bump that I hate!

Thanks sjg it will end..... And yes at least I know there's still a cheeky little bugger in there making me feel this awful!

im so.bloody angry at our parents! The MIL has spilled the beans to the BIL and his girlfriend who happens to.be my best mate! I've know her longer than I've known my husband! So despite us arranging a Sunday lunch.meeting with the BIL and my best mate today. they have known since last week. then it turns out my bloody mum and Nanna have been telling all their mates too! Which im truly angry about considering I've not told my mates. I really wanted to.wait til week12 before friends found out. Now it feels like the world and it's wife know. And I didn't even get the pleasure of telling them.

I'm getting an overwhelming 'slow down' feeling, although I haven't really done anything all weefkend. Am tempted to not go to work tomorrow, but feel like a bit of a skiver as here's nothing really wrong! Just walking up the stairs had me wanting a lie down! :-/

frog I'm feeling the same. Took a couple of days off last week, but I've only got a 4 day week to get through this week and then it's half term with a week off. I'm determined to get through it, but that could all change tomorrow morning! There doesn't have to be anything 'wrong' - you're creating a miracle inside you, if rest is needed then rest should be had!!