September 2013 - fretting our way through the first trimester

[KamikazeeKid]

Created as other thread filling up!

I'll join the rubbish day club.

I have a killing headache, a sprained ankle and hormone-related miserableness and DP is going to our friend's house this evening but I can't go as there'll be a few people there and they all smoke. Oh and tv looks rubbish tonight. Sigh.

Feel better that others are having zilch symptoms. Anyone get random period pain still that lasts about half an hour at a time?? I get worried that I shouldn't be getting period pain by now. Think I've decided that I'm not gona have an early scan, I keep thinking that I could have one at 9 weeks to check everything is ok, but then something could happen at 9+1. Is this a weird way to look at it? Altho I would love to see a heartbeat.... Arghhhhh I don't know!

I'm feeling rubbish too: throat so sore can barely speak. DH doesn't mind though. Apart from paracetamol I can't think of anything to help.

Another one having a few crap days. Feeling better than this morning but I think the haggis supper and ready salted chipsticks helped make me feel better

frog I'm still having period pain time cramps, I think also not helped as I haven't had a poo since Wednesday! As far as I know I think it's still pretty normal at this stage. I think I've decided I'm not going to have an early scan either for the exact reasons you mentioned. Not having many other symptoms now either apart from tiredness and boob pain

Thanks kilkers, feel a bit more normal now. Was starting to think the early scan was the 'done thing'. I'll be worrying all the way to twelve weeks though! My booking in is Wednesday, I hope she doesn't book it for any later than 12!

No worries frogchops, it's a real rollercoaster isn't it this pregnancy lark Make sure you discuss any worries you have at your appointment though I'm sure I don't need to tell you that. Part of me would love to wake up feeling right royally sick tomorrow morning! x

I was certain I was going to have an early scan, but in the end decided against it, much for the same reasons as you Frog and Kilkers. I am 12 weeks on Monday, but my scan isn't until 13+2. I am less worried now than I have been, but still nervous! Time just goes so slowly...

Jennimoo - if your throat is still sore tomorrow, you may already have heard of it but try buying Manuka honey and having in hot water with lemon juice - the honey ranges in price from £5 to £15 but is like miracle honey as it has antibacterial properties. Tasty too! I tried it last week when my throat was raw and it worked wonders, much better than strepsils.

Hi all, just diving in here (was on the last thread but been a spectator since). Just need a rant!

Been at PILs all weekend, not seen them since Xmas and DH and I decided we'd tell them our news after a scan at 7 weeks showed all ok so far. We've not told any one until now (9wks) and still want to keep it quiet until 12 wks. Told PILs last night and stressed the need to keep it quiet. Agreed we'd tel BILs and grandparents only, the rest of the (large) family we were seeing wouldn't be told. All day I've drunk cordial in a wine glass and avoided looking too green at the table and no one suspected a thing. They've all gone home and my DH says "it was hard not to tell " to which MIL says " yes, I told him though, I just had to"!!!

I'm absolutely raging. Everyone else is drunk so although a debate broke out about why and if she should have told him, no one seems to think this is a big deal. Am I being unreasonable to be absolutely fuming?!
Why does anyone think it's their place to decide who and when to tell? To make it worse, she told him as he was leaving and pillowed him out so she could tell him!

Can someone return my reason and sanity back to me please?

*followed not pillowed!

Is it your first? G
Not that it should make ANY difference - I hope your dh will be having firm words with her.
I'd be furious. Fortunately I have in laws who are v poor communicators, so are likely to keep everything a secret even if its not necessary for fear of other people's judgement, and just to make things that little bit more stressful - we won't tell your father until he is in a better mood.

I'm ok by the way. But gutted I missed the rugby waiting for the recovery.

Sorry to hear that it's a bad weekend all round. And I'm gutted we aren't going to the French dinner date. I'd been thinking about my menu choice all day! Although, vomming children are a good reason to stay at home. Treat yourself to a frero Roche - they're French

Oh yes girrafe I'd be fuming!! Wait till she's sober and have it out! We had to tell SIL at the same time as PIL because of that very risk. I knew she'd tell her, so I avoided the whole argument by telling her myself. They both text eeeevery day to see how I am.

Hi, I'm a late newcomer to join the September bus! Currently 8weeks and due 21st Sep. Hello all :)

Frogchops - I'd be happy to share my nausea with you - it's driving me crazy and much worse than my first pregnancy. Just glad of the cold weather and the need to wear long sleeved clothes to cover my sickness bands!!

amiready - I too am having major work stress issues casusing all sorts of anxiety dreams. I daren't mention anything to them yet, at least until I know all is well with baby and I'm starting to feel better. ATM they think I'm run down and feeling/looking dreadful due to the stress.

Hoping to hear from the midwife soon and then dating scan within the next few weeks!

I completely understand why you wouldn't have an neatly scan frogs and Kilkers and I wouldn't have had an early scan if I hadn't been through a traumatic mc last year with my first pregnancy. I decided to have one at 10 weeks for my own sanity. As you said something could happen after that but the fact I have seen my baby is healthy so far, seen him or her have a little wriggle and listened to the heartbeat as well getting some scan pictures, to me has been invaluable. So really each to there own if people decide to have an early scan or not.

Welcome whizz! We are pretty darn close in dates so with every worry, I will now hunt you down to share! (Due 22/09)

frog/kilkers yy to the period like pain - I'm getting it maybe a couple of times each day just for a short while still. Also decided against the early scan - mainly due to money, but also it's slightly self torture too, like I don't want to relax about it yet!

giraffe I'd would have been absolutely raging too and probably would have had a hormonal cry about it

Another one with period pain. Seems to be worse when my stomach is empty (hesitate to use the word 'hungry'!).

I told my parents, sister and best friend yesterday. I spent the day with them and I couldn't have kept it a secret what with all the burping, constant nibbling etc. I kind of wish I hadn't. It dominated every conversation all day and I can't help thinking like I've jinxed it. I came away feeling really negative and pessimistic!

Hello, I'm still lurking and glad others are having some similar experiences! I'm still getting occasional cramps but not like the evil ones I had in the first couple weeks.

Re early scans, I get loads here and must admit I love it - but I am a total control freak! I find it a good way to involve DP as well, as he gets to see what's going on for a bit instead of just listening to me whinge about sickness

My pregnant dreams have gone completely mental now! Last night I dreamt that as well as having a baby in there I had some complex computer system planted by the CIA or similar - and it was painful but no-one could tell me why it had to be there or when it was coming out!

Anyone else had any good crazy upduffed dreams?

8+5, due 17th Sept

andadietcoke I go through the same thing every time I tell someone - joy and elation at their reactions, then total paranoia afterwards that in a few weeks I'll have to give them bad news. I guess it's just natural to worry! I had a lovely scan with heartbeat at 8+2, but in my head I still think it's 50:50 on bad days!

Thanks Hooya glad it's not just me! Have also seen two strong heartbeats at just before 8w so a good sign, but my dating scan isn't until the 8th March and it feels so so long away!

Morning ladies
Had a better day yesterday and felt like sickness was easing off (10+3) but today got up and that bleurgh feeling was back.
We've decided to tell the DS's on Friday after they've finished school. Partly because we've got a night out on Friday with close friends which we will have to tell or my lack of drinking will cause a mini argument/interrogation. I am asking them to keep it secret for 1 week after that until I have the scan and then will tell rest of family, friends etc. I trust 2 of them not to tell, 1 of them not sure and 1 of them don't trust.
Looking forward to telling DSs though :)
On another note, the backlog is back and I am seeking to regain my crown

Morning all, struggling to keep up with this lovely thread! Will have a catch up in a min.

I just can't get over how burpy and farty I am atm . I feel soooooo attractive right now what with the chubby tum and lank hair too!

Sickness and tiredness still a killer (latter appears to make former worse). Booking in appointment tomorrow, and 12 week scan at the end of the month. Still not told any family yet, feels nice to be keeping the secret!

I'd be angry too girrafe. Nearly didn't tell my parents this time because my mom said, 'oh well I'll have to tell my mum' last time meaning I had to announce my pregnancy to everyone at 5 weeks in case anyone accidentally found out and felt upset.

She's said this time that she wants me to hurry up and let her tell her mum. She's just not getting that I want to tell my nan, and after the scan when I know all is well.

Just wait until you start thinking of names, oh the fun as people don't hold back with their opinions! Will be keeping that quiet too.

Binary, we've chosen to keep schtum about names too....had a brief convo with DP about it, who was set on A name for a boy. I hated the name, and when we spilled this to other ppl who know they seemed to too. Made me a bit smug but then realised if it was a name I loved I'd have been :-( about it. Although I say everyone else hated it, this was of course minus SIL who agrees with DP no matter what the topic is, she loves him to like her, brown nosing bitch and is like a puppy desperate to please him and would probably sniff his bum if he asked her toso she of course loved the stupid, never in a month of Sundays name.