September 2013 part 2 - there's LOADS of us!

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New thread created in haste before the old one fills up!

Well there is a postcode-based search on www.independentmidwives.org.uk/ but it looks like there are sometimes two or three MWs at some of the map pins so they are not necessarily indicating an exact home address (I wouldn't really expect them to I suppose). I don't know the equivalent organisation for Doulas. I am going to need to find a way of asking at my booking in appt that doesn't risk getting the community MW's back up. I want to know when is the best time to start the IM relationship- it will be of most value I think if I get the home birth I want but also for examining me and picking best moment to go to hosp and advocating for me there.

Cream tea - I did that a while back. Think you need to go to the desktop site and in your options at the bottom of a page it lists the threads you e hidden and you can choose to unhide.

We won't be finding out the colour either, for exactly the same reasons as Creamtea

Meanmrsmustard I had to have an NHS early scan this time and last but I did pay £100 at week 9 as I went to Thailand and wanted to know things were ok before I left....I remember as I was worrying all the tine it was the best £100 I ever spent!!! My next scan wasnt until my return at 13+3!!
Whoever was worried about travelling, I did Thailand with several domestic flights out there at 10 weeks until 13 weeks.
I also did Egypt at 27 weeks.

Id only be concerned if you were having difficulties with the pregnancy. Enjoy it, be the last easy holiday you ever take ha ha!

But be warned holiday heat will affect you much more in your pregnant state!! [shudders at memories if passing out on random man in ko san road]

Wow! I missed the move here. Just getting to grips with MN. Spend too much time reading everything on here!

Just to say, this will be DC1, not 2. Ta.

We told our parents this week. Such an amazing moment. My mum is clucking away!

They did mention one thing that was interesting and I wondered if anyone had any info about. Twins run in my mum's family and when she found out she was pregnant with twins, the midwife asked if they had taken out insurance against it! Apparently some insurers will offer you twin insurance and pay out to cover the extra costs. When I looked, it's mighty expensive as there is a history of twins. Had anyone done this or know someone who has? I laughed when they said it, but trust me, they wished they had had it.

Hello! Well, I've completely freaked myself out today, so I'm hoping today's good luck for this thread will apply to me too! Went for a lovely walk with DH into the village and when I came back I had the tiniest amount of brown spotting. Nothing since, and I hope it's just down to 'unusual' exercise as I usually do bugger all

No aches and pains, well, nothing different anyway. Somewhere between 6+5 and 6+2!

:) kips it really gets my back up! Also a reason why I'm not that excited about telling my mum - she 'only wants another grandchild if it's a pink one'

Hi guys, is anyone experiencing really sharp pains? I'm out and about today and every few minutes I'm getting this excruciating stabbing pain...it only lasts for a second but makes me double over and pull the most awful face....I think the family must think I'm going crazy as we haven't told them whats going on, but it's so strong I can't control my reaction to it!

Ready yep, I've had that on and off. Normally in the car on the way home from work. I've put it down to gas because it normally sorts itself out, erm, naturally.

I've had some bad low down pains and it also seemed to be gas in the end...

We'll probably find out what flavour. We did with DD and was lovely to call the bump a she. Having a newborn was enough of a surprise, even after 9 months preparing!

I'm planning to find out the sex. Because we already have two boys I'll then know whether to keep all the old clothes or ebay them

Hi girls. I've followed you over

I have something I'd like to confess. It's not something I am comfortable talking about in rw due to fear of being seen as ungrateful.

We weren't expecting to fall preggers, and I had made plans for this year to be MY year. We were married in 2011 and shortly after I developed a very deep depression, resulting in almost 9 months off work. I started back at work last June and I also got a horse on loan. And I started sea swimming in summer too with some very inspirational people. My aims for this year were to do dressage comps with the horse and complete a triathlon.

Hubby is not keen to let me ride now I have precious cargo. And getting fit enough to do a triathlon isn't going to happen either especially as I can't run 50m or stay upright on a bike

Work is shit. We are under staffed and under enormous pressure. My hobbies are what keeps my depression under control.

I feel that I'm being unreasonable in being disappointed I'm preggers. Of course I want a baby, and I know in sept I can do all the above once again.

My other unreasonable fears are that my hubby will dominate all consultations with the midwife. That they will discharge me off the ward before I'm ready. And that I won't manage being a mum. In deep depression I often forgot to feed dogs / cats/ chickens. How on earth am I going to be a mum??????

Rosy- everyone has fears and things they will now not be able to do- I've got three best friends weddings and hen-dos this year all of which I will now be attending without drinking and looking like a whale! Definitely speak to your GP if you're worried as it seems you have a lot on, and depression during pregnancy can definitely make it feel very scary. You might not be able to do many of the things you planned this year, but you can still keep your fitness, so don't worry about that. I hope things work out.

ION I also have lots of tightening across my lower abdomen when coughing/sneezing (sometimes painful) and also getting a stitch and gentle pain in my abdomen when walking fast. I am quite fit so it's a bit annoying, but I'm listening to my body. I also had my first bit of nausea today (even though the books told me I won't experience that yet). I hope I'm not making symptoms up!

I did say to my OH the other day "If I didn't know I was pregnant, I wonder what I'd attribute all these strange feelings to?".

Also, not finding out (hate the pink/blue thing, love surprises) if possible :)

jmf - sorry to hear your news. Hope you're being well cared for.

Weather not been good here - have felt more nervous driving and walking. Think we will book a private scan before the 12 week scan; we had one last time and it did make things more real and provided some reassurance. Had a strangely symptom free day today - fleeting nausea this afternoon. Craving Bottlegreen cordial and sparkling water just like last time.

Won't be finding out the sex - didn't last time and liked the surprise. Made sure it was dh who told me what we'd had rather than the midwife though and will do that again. Nursery neutral anyway so won't need to change that.

Enjoy the weekend everyone.

Hello - is it too late to join?

I started to lurk on the first September thread when I thought I was pregnant at the end of December, but I gave up hope until I got a very very faint BFP on a first response 8th Jan, obvious BFP on the 11th. I had a MMC in Early Nov so I'm petrified this won't work out (mildly irrational I know).

I'm 31, EDD 12th Sept with DC1, though I think I prob ovulated late so who knows!

It's amazing how many ppl are due in September! Hoping to catch up with you all now I can start to get excited!

Rosy - I've also suffered from depression last year, been on meds since ds was 9mo (he's 3 next week!), tried coming off them a few times, with a view to ttc dc2 but got poorly again after fully coming off them in July, was off for 2months from Sept he v short hours so i'm only just properly back at work before xmas....and still on meds....... so youre not alone. Some of the anxiety youre feeling is totally normal for any expectant mum no matter what their mental health is like so don't be too hard on yourself..... x

Georgie.... I'm desperate for bottlegreen too....and sparkling elderflower!

Rosy i hear you hun (hugs) im right there with you. Ive just had a big wobble about what i wont be able to do (the things that keep me sane) i cycle lots and im having irrational thoughts about NEVER being able to cycle again. I draw portraits too and im thinking i will never have the time to draw again. We have only been ttc 1month and tbh we both suspected that we couldnt have kids for various reasons so it is a big shock but we are both pleased. I had a chat with my DH and he helped me rationalise it. Im still wobbly but it did help a bit. Can you talk to anyone? Xxx

Rosy, i just started this thread about exercise which may help u too www.mumsnet.com/Talk/big_slim_whatever_weight_loss_club/1663627-Exercise-whilst-PG-whats-the-deal

I'm so touched by your supporting comments. Thanks cheers (shlurr obv!)

My gp is fantastic. And I have a couple of girl friends who are fairly grounded. It's the fear of being seen as ungrateful. . . Although tonight I have been researching bamboo nappies so I am a bit excited. Up down up down!!!!

Did anyone watch borgan?? I'm blaming hormones on my tears!

Rosie I think we all do the same thing. I've spent the last 10 years obsessing about another baby. I have been broody as hell for a decade. I spent the first week after my BFP worried to death that I might lose the baby, and I am STILL worrying about how we will manage/what was that twinge/why dont i feel sick enough/oh shit what did we do! In a month or two it will be Why isn't it kicking/wtf are these braxton hicks/I've changed my mind I don't want to go through labour/FFS I can't believe I'm overdue AGAIN... And that's before you even HAVE the baby! THAT is when you really start worrying and doubting yourself! You are perfectly normal. Worrying is what makes us good parents!
Just wait until its older and it falls off its first pony.

Swaye - google the Weeride Kangaroo, if you enjoy cycling it'll be worth every penny and you'll be able to share your passion with your child, it's much nicer (and more reassuring) than having the child sat behind you!

SGJ. oooooo that looks exciting, i cried (again) !! Thx for sharing that x

CatPuss makes me feel soooo much better that what im feeling is normal x

Rosy im blaming everything on my hormones x

Right, it's me Catpuss here. I've switched back from my Christmas namechange, and tweaked my proper name slightly. just so you don't think I'm some mad interloper!

lexyma thanks for the link. The equivalent doula one is doula.org.uk, if anyone is interested.

I got some spotting today. Am a bit worried but I will wait till Monday to call the surgery midwife. I looked at my info sheet and the after hours contact is for emergency only. Searching on the thread, it seems I'm number 3 to have spotting. It isn't a lot. I wiped one tissue with a little bit of red, and the panty liner is slightly watery pink.