September 2013 part 2 - there's LOADS of us!

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New thread created in haste before the old one fills up!

onelittle I know how terrifying it is, and didn't want to leave this unanswered. Don't Google, please. It completely unhinged me when the spotting started last time.
No cramping/pain is a good sign if you don't have that.
Get through the next 24 hours and see how you go. I'm sure we'll all be here to keep you sane (and away from google!) xx

No cramping at at all andadietcoke. I am resisting googling except reading the NHS page on it. I like how the NHS says spotting is normal. And then say 1 in 5 pregnancies end in mc! That statistics sounds really scary. Is it real? It's much more common then I think.

Ahh I went down with the flu for a few days and we've moved boards! Hope all are feeling well and getting the symptoms that reassure/comfort you. Aside from this ruddy flu I've still been getting these AF like cramps. Getting them most evenings around 5pm, it is beginning to freak me out. That and I lost 4lb in a week from vomitting/nausea then my hunger came back big style and 4lb has well and truly returned... Should I be freaking out about loss of sickness? Ahh I. Must. Not. Google. It.

OneLittle- That stat really winds me up and i dont know why they keep using it. it is technically correct, but it takes into accont literally all pregnancies out there, for example pregnancies that ended before the mother even knew they started (fertilised egg that never implanted and so just ended in a 'period'). If you take all factors into account the chances become quite a bit slimmer, so don't worry too much about it!

Is anyone using tums/ similar? I have so much chaos in my belly and it is rock hard, but none of the tummy settlers I have at home say anything about pregnant ladies!

jm they really include those that failed to implant? How did they collect that statistic? I thought it is from all the pregnancies registered with the NHS only. Because the NHS, if they really want to you, should be able to find out how many registered pregnancies ended up as miscarriages, shouldn't it? If it is from that number we got 1 in 5, that's what I think of as quite unsettling. I don't think anyone registered until they are until 5-6 weeks isn't it?

Space for one more?! Very excited, but slightly surprised! BFP 19/01 EDD 28/09 This'll be DC number 2 - eek!!

Someone may correct me on that, but like you, I read that stat before and had an absolute freak out. I then read somewhere that that is what they do, which made me feel a million times better!

I'm sure the stats I read we're for known pregnancies, so includes chemical pregnancies, but not only ones which are registered.

Wow, I've managed to read back and catch up, so sorry to those who are already off the bus and to anyone worrying - I would agree about not googling. I had a MMC in November and I was given the same stats - they really are for known pregnancies. I've been very open about it and found soooo many people have been through it that I never knew! I only now believe the figures. However - reading about it will make you worry for no reason as there are also loads of people who spot and bleed throughout pregnancy. The best advice I've had is if you feel yourself stressing about things, go lie down and read a book, or if at work make yourself busy. Easier said than done I know!

The stats improve with every week though. 6 weeks is a big milestone, and then again when you see a heartbeat. I'm taking every week at a time for that reason (and planning a private scan for about ten days time if I get that far)

The stats on the NHS website for miscarriage are 1 in 10 for mothers under 30 and 1 in 5 for mothers 35-39 (so i'm guessing that for age 30-35 it's somewhere between).

I am getting my scan a couple of days after 12 weeks - I didn't really understand till I went through this how LONG 12 weeks can be when you're suffering pregnancy symptoms but still not sure if you'll actually have a baby.

I had hoped that I could continue as normal just thinking 'if we have this baby' then we'll be pleasantly surprised.... but honestly, since about 7weeks with the sickness, the modifying diet, avoiding alcohol and changing sport/exercise habits it's harder to just keep thinking of the pregnancy as a possible nice thing.

I am still running, and cycling, and will be going skiing at about 10wks but I am having to avoid the off-road races I had signed up to (faking a calf strain), and really intense training with my club, and mountainbiking trips to technical stuff where crashing is common, in favour of gentle stuff and volunteering to lead the beginners rides a lot... it's really nothing like 'continuing as normal'.

Hi all, I agree that the nhs stat seems to be fairly true. We've had quite a few friends who've been very open with us about their mc's (they've all gone on to have healthy pregnancys after).

I'd warn against rushing in for early scans as that won't change the outcome & may make you feel more attached...I've had a couple of friends who've had scans at 8 weeks and then gone on to mc. I'm not trying to scare anyone, just being honest. This is why I refer to the foetus/embryo & will do until I'm safely through the 12 week mark!

Sod that! This is my baby! I'm going to enjoy having a baby in thereno matter what happens! I'm already attached, so calling it a foetus really won't make any difference!

Although... Is anyone else struggling with constipation? I'm taking 10ml of Lactulose twice a day, drinking for Britain and had a huge plate of roast veg for tea last night and I'm still having trouble going! I feel like I'm backed up to the eyeballs!

Me CatPuss! What is Lactulose? Is it something I can get from boots?

Yes. It's a stool softener. Tastes like sugar syrup. It's approved in pregnancy. I got mine from Tesco's pharmacy. It does help, a bit!

And me catpuss
Same as you tried drinking, veg, etc and doesn't help
I'm having issues with weight gain, I'm actively trying not to gain weight and now I've put on a couple of pounds it's getting me down. To maintain my weight before I probably ate about 1200 cals a day (counted carbs not fat) and only ever ate either breakfast or lunch and never both. So now if I eat 3 meals I feel like I'm getting fatter immediately. I worked really hard to lose a quarter of my body weight last year. I know this sounds PATHETIC but I just wanted to tell someone.

I know what you mean. I'm a big lass, and I'm worried about putting on tonnes of weight. The thing is, there's a reason now. We just need to be sensible and eat healthily. I've cut out fizzy, chocolate and cake. It's killing me, but it's for a good cause. The thing we must remember is that excessive dieting could harm the babies. As women we really need a good 1800 calories a day. You need to be on a weight maintenance diet rather than a weight loss one. If it helps, I know that slimming worlds maintenance programme is generally approved for pregnancy.

Sorry, too many full stops!

Constipation is rubbish. Prune juice usually does the trick here but can't face it at the mo. Might have to try lactulose... IIRC it continued like this all through last time and despite drinking prune juice every day at the end still had 'issues' when I went into labour

I 'think' I've lost weight, but I'm too scared to get on the scales. My jeans feel bigger, when I'm not bloated and puffy. I can probably put that down to the vast amounts of calories from not drinking alcohol though. Slightly worried I've developed a sweet tooth, when normally I can go for weeks without chocolate/dessert. I'm so scared about my booking in appt and being judged about my weight.

Has anyone told PIL's/ parents/ general family? Hubby's parents go off on holiday a day before our early scan and don't get back till after our 12wk scan. Kind of feel we should maybe tell them today though as have already had to tell two of our friends due to various circumstances and seems a bit unfair on the in laws not to know? At the same time I'm aware that its not really the done thing...
Can someone take over this pg for me for a while? I need some guidance and my digestive system back!

We've not told anyone. We had to tell my parents last time as were in an all inclusive holiday with them, and I ended up miscarrying on that holiday. I feel very guilty that that's what they'll remember about that trip, and I don't want to put them through anything unnecessarily.

However, we've had other friends tell everyone at 6-7 weeks.

Whatever you do, it's not going to change the outcome of your pregnancy, so do what is right for you.

I told my mum today (on strict instruction that the only person she can tell is my Dad). I just really felt the need to share it with her, I guess because she knows what I'm going through. Also, she's a health visitor so she's very realistic about everything & understands all the risks. We're not telling my MIL as she wouldn't be able to stop herself getting excited....I'm glad that I now have someone to call if it doesn't work out this time.

Catpuss- people told me I'd be constipated but I never thought to this extent. MAking a joke of it with the OH, but it really is amazing. I look about 10 wks pregnant from all the constipation!!

We've told no-one but are thinking about who we want to tell and why and when. We have some pretty big birthday things going on with friends about 1 week before I'll be 12wks and probably before the scan, but thought we might tell our close friends then, but then feel we "should" tell parents first.... :-S ??