Due in August 2006. Part 4

[SnowBoo]

Part 4? Can that be correct?

thats what i usually do but unfortunately there isn't an item of clothing i own that i could wear to the christening, all my maternity stuff is casual and all my good stuff doesn't fit so i'm trawling ebay in the hope i'll spot something. i've no-one to blame but myself really, i blew the budget on dd's dress!

Oh gosh yes I forgot you said it was for your dd's christening.

Have a look on Dorothy Perkins site. They have a gorgeous dress on there which I have been eyeing up for ages. I think it's £25 and if you look on Hot uk deals site I'm sure there is a vouvher code for there.

cool, i'll give it a try

has anyone heard form arabica yet btw?

Snow Boo, I hope your pain gets better soon!! I have had rib pain but not as bad as what you are getting!! Then I am a few weeks behind you I think so I fear it may yet be in store for me!

Yellow Feathers - I am SO sorry about your washing machine! That would stress me out so much, I dont know how I would cope without mine! maybe a bit sad!! At least your MIL can help out!

aprilgirl - I totally understand your anxiety. One thing I remind myself of all the time is I look around and think 'Every single person I see is the result of a successful pregnancy, so clearly the odds are in my favour!'

I just had the most wonderful chocolate brownie and am trying not to eat the other three tonight but they are calling to me!!

Well have tried allsorts but he is adamant he wants to kick me just under my right boob and then stick his big bum out between my ribs. I presume its his bum cos if its his head i'm in trouble!

Have just taken to whinging about it for the evening. And not working tomorrow, dad coming over to put some more plug sockets in and sort out the wiring. I would make him run about after me but he has a collapsed colon and is also in a lot of pain, feel rotten making him work, but he loves me so has said he wants everything ready for his fourth grandson.

Arabica has posted on her other thread Pinky.

lol Snow, your dad sounds like my dad, nothings too much for his little girl and he's even more devoted to his granddaughter and grandbump. feel like i'm taking advantage sometimes he goes so out of his way for us!

btw, whoeveer was asking about feeling bodyparts (too lazy to scroll down ) i've gotton that for weeks, it looses its attraction after a while when LO is determined to stick his foot out through your bellybutton! and the wierd scrabbling sensation of his hands down low makes me sort of nervous tbh! amuses dp no end though to 'play' with baby by having a poke fight with a foot, unfortunately i'm stuck in the middle!

Morning

Im hoping someones around his morning.

Im having a bad day and its only 8:55, Im getting very anxious about my appt this morn with the midwife. Anxiety levels have tipped into overdrive as I think Im coming down with a cold and it really hits me bad in terms of feeling blue when I get ill. All the lovely music on chill radio this morning is making me cry.

I think IM nervous , as I donnt know wether my gp confrimed that it was ok to be seen by midwife at my surgury. Its all got really stupid . When I booked in with the other hospital I was immediately assigned to a consultant at the hospital and when I saw his registrar he couldnt understand why I was being seen by him, DER read my effing notes : PPH , Ptsd , Pnd , do you need more ?????? I suppose emotional distress is to much for a man is it. Anyway he told me to go back to my surgury for my further check ups bloods etc and my surgury are saying I should be seen at the hospital officialy , as the midwife team based at my surgury is for the more local hospital (the one I had all the problems in with dd),and not if your booked somewere else. So now Im in a black hole and unsure whos doing my care. Im so angry , as this shouldnt be happening to someone with my history. I know I shoud calm down , but Im having meltdown at mo and dd has non stop been crying and winging for not getting her way for days , she has a the cold too and its making her horrid.

Sorry for this , as I know others here have far more serious things going on than my mental state. Im hoping this is just a bad few days brought on by having a cold. Im just getting worried, as its gone on for few days now.

My worry this morning is that Ill turn up at th surgury and find theres no record of the gp booking me with the midwife and its all going to be awkward and Im not sure what Im going to do. Irrational I here you say, yes Im on the Irrational nutter mum roundabout this morn. Help me get offffffffffffffffffffffffffff.

hiya melsy - sorry to hear you're in a tizz this morning. you must explainj your worries to the midwife, i'm sure they'll understand. I can't imagine how you're feeling as this is my first but as an anxiety sufferer myself, I know my Gp has been really supportive - its now written in big letters on my pg notes - and the twice i have turned up totally paranoid they have done a thourough check up and been great. Remember, your peace of mind is far more important than what they think - in fact, i've taken to going in every time and starting with 'i know i'm paranoid but....'

good luck x

thnax Olivo , Im in a right way. Ive started another thread on it in pregnancy, I dont normally get all mad like this, well not fora very time.

for A VERYlong time

cant even type

poor melsy, can't blame you for being stressed. feel for you re whinging d too, mines going through a bit of a whingy, tantrumy thing at the moment too and its driving me up the walls.

at least you get to hear LOs heart today though, that always cheers me up

hope it goes ok, and if it doesn't throw a huge pregnant hissy fit in the middle of the surgery, your entitled and they'll definitely take your mental health seriously afterwards!

Melsy I'm sorry! I dont blame you for feeling anxious as you do considering your past experiences. Let us know as soon as you can how it goes. Can you go to a governing body for your local NHS trust and get them to work on behalf of you so you get more consistent care, and the treatment you need right now?

Good luck.
x

I've hard a really scary night/morning where 'baby in the bump', Alex didnt move at all. And he is normally so active it regularly hurts and honestly for me to go even an hour without feeling a movement is very rare as it seems he never stops jumping around in there. Then last night he just went still and all night he stayed that way, I kept waking myself up and checking on it. This morning I was lying in bed for ages and still no movement. then I ate breakfast, still no movement. To top it all off, when I did sleep last night (very broken sleep!) I dreamt I was bleeding and losing him.

Only about 5 minutes ago did he start moving again and since then it has been constant, like his usual activity. This is what I hate about being pregnant!! I want him out and in my arms!

Melsy

How are now?
I honestly think if I was you I would be asking for home visits from the MW and only to go to the hospital as a last resort. They must be able to come to some arrangment for you considering the problems you had at that hospital and the fact you suffered ptsd as a result. It is quite neglegent of them really just to expect you to waltz in there no problem. I thought maternity care was meant to be catered for each individual?

I can sympathise with your dds behaviour. My dd was a total nightmare yesterday and all I did was shout at her. I felt so guilty I ended up going up to her room last night to say sorry and she had gone to sleep, so I just gave her a kiss and told her I loved her. She just ut her arm around my neck and cuddled me. It made my heart melt.
However at 1:30am this morning she decided to stay up for 3 hours (yes my face did look like this!)

So I've taken her up to playgroup today to release a bit of energy and have a good play. I wouldn't have bothered really as I really cannot be bothered to do anything atm but another lovely mumsnetter gave me a lift up

Hope everyone else is ok

Hi Ladies, sorry to hear some of you are suffering with bad pains/anxiety. I really feel for you and wish I had some good advice to give but have never had it so I'd be useless. Hope you feel better very soon.
The only niggle I'm getting at the moment is breathlessness and heartburn which are nothing in comparison really. Oh and got a snotty nose and dry cough, does anyone know if we can take Lemsips???

Am now counting the weeks down until I break up 7 weeks Thursday I'm off! Cant believe its coming round so fast. I wonder who'll be the first on here to have their baba.

I'm getting really forgetful lately too, forgot to take me wee sample to midwife app yesterday and then forgot to eat a proper meal for my blood sugars at hospital and got refused because I'd only eaten a biscuit! DER!! Had my 2nd load of bloods done though so it wasnt a wasted journey.

Babyshow was great, full of big bellied women and loads of little tiny babies everywhere. I got few bargains such as Mamas & Papas bedding 30% off, got some Tommee tippee bottles and teats, Blooming Marvellous mat top n trousers - really comfy too, and some Bambino mio's nappies. Really wanted to look at the prams but was far too hectic and hate standing around for someone to come and do a demo. (I feel so confused about which pram to get)

I thought I had a bit of a scare last week. Me n DH had sex and then afterwards I had a pinky discharge (sorry if tmi!), I thought the worst straight away and got myself into a sobbing mess, thought we'd damaged the baby and then to top it all off I didnt feel baba move until next morning so didnt sleep very well either! Midwife said if it had been fresh blood its a concern but because it was only after sex and then it stopped I shouldnt worry!

Heard baba's heartbeat yesterday and its changed from 150 bpm (last time) to 130bpm so not sure if its a girl or a boy now? Its so exciting not knowing but have to admit its also driving me up the wall keep guessing because I have no clue at all.

Am watching my belly dancing at the moment, its been happening all morning but I aint seen any hands or feet yet? Maybe my extra padding is in the way lol.

On the hiccups thing, I keep getting a really big single hiccup come from nowhere then dont get one till later in the day? How bizarre! But is very comical when everyone in the office can hear it and they all know who the culprit is now as happens everyday!

So are we nearly all in 3rd trimester yet? and shall we do a new thread as it took me ages to catch up then ages to do this message!

Sorry bit of an essay

Melsy

big hugs to you. one day at a time, and keep talking to us. Hormones, tiredness etc - no wonder we sometimes feel bonkers. I had a day like that on Saturday. Hope your appointment goes ok. xxx

hi ya feeling really down still but trying not to dwell on it was gonna go to doctors today but didint go coz i was too nervous the idea of my 4d scan is scaring the pants off me coz dh has confessed he is so pleased we are having a girl im convinced its going to be a boy i keep looking at the bit s weve bought and i feel really nervous .

i finally sign off today thank god no more harrassment on a fortnightly basis but found out on friday i cant have maternity allowance until i can find someone to empoly me for two weeks then i can other wise all i get is 60 quid a week for 6 weeks so my friend is going to do it for me so i dont have to actually work he'll just pay me wahey !!!!!! then i get all the money

i must say fellow rib achers i find two paracetamol and a long soak soak in a warm bath helps ive got a gorgoues bath velvet from radox with raspberry leaf and neroli and it turns the water pink

bhm i cant believe you havent got a pram yet i though t we were bad not haaving nursery ready yet but hallway is nearly painted just carpet and furniture needed to finish nursery which weve got but not done

sorry re the essay

Thankyou all for thinking of me today, Ive posted on my someone help thread in pregnancy. Eeny Im not sure how to find out who or what is the governing body round here. Theres huge financial problems in the trust in my area , so Im not sure if they would provide anything. I think they think theyve done their bit as I have a mental health assesmant Thursday.

I asked about the strap today JJ and midwife said only the physios can supply them, that could be a few weeks away . She said that Id have to buy one if I needed it right now!!!!

Awww bless your dd yellow for the hug.

DD's sitting really quietly watching lazy town YUCK to tv and that awful progamme , but ahhhh to a little calmness this afternoon. Although I couod do with laying in bed for a while and switching off , no chance with dinner for dd to be made.

PT , kitegirl and yellow , we should put all our girls together to winge !!!

Melsy, I know what you mean about Lazy Town. However, my ds will sit and watch anything as long as it's on CBeebies! Me and dh can't wait for 7pm to come around! I've just spent the afternoon packing up one of my prams (I've just bought another one so one has to go!) I've had to tape two boxes together to get it to fit. I hope the courier doesn't drop it or I have visions of it exploding onto the drive! Think I've overdone it though because tummy is now starting to hurt a bit and I think I'd better go and sit down.

You sound like you're having a nightmare with your care. Hope everything gets sorted out for you soon.

booby- i havent got my pram yet or done the nursery - wont be able to clear the room out until nearer the time i finsh work (35 1/2 wks) as all my work stuff is in there and its my 'study' in the evenings!you sound really organised!

olivio i would be climbing the walls i have control issuse i think if everything its done at least six weeks before i will not be able to sleep i was exactly the same over my wedding

also when we found it was just before xmas and we bought loads of the stuff in the sales so more bargain hunting thatn any thing but we are trying to finish all the renovating b4 so we can have lots of time together as a family when baba gets here

sorry to hear re the physio wait for the belt crap really coz its something we could all benefit from immeadiatly

melsy your details for your local nct wil be on the internet or maybe even in the front of your phone book under nhs and i would of thought if you contact the heads of department in each area you will be helped you just sometimes have to
fight maybe a friend or relative can help you

by the way you must all remember i have been un empolyed since i got pregnant so i have had lots of time on my hands so not really that orgainised but more desperate for things to do

Lol Olivo, I aint done nursery yet either and have just found out the bedding I bought at babyshow is unsuitable for under 12 months as its a quilt!! SH*T!!!!!! Need to go and buy a fleece blanket to match now, at least it will come in handy next year! Really need to pull my finger out the 'so-called' nursery needs painting and sorting its crammed full of our clothes and crap in bags n boxes! Cant ever imagine getting it sorted!
Booby (great pet name ha!) have you got all your stuff and everything sorted then?
The prams are doing my head in, just cant decide on one I like and will it be suitable? practical?

All this talk of prams and nurseries is making me very nervous. We are in the middle of a renovation/loft conversion and NOTHING is ready. Our dd is still in with us as her room is not ready.. as for the nursery well that's a whole other topic!!

Baby been moving quite a bit today and she seems to favour my right side as that is where she always lays... doesn't make for a comfortable night.

DD currently has chicken pox so it's going to be a stressful few weeks until she is better... and just when I managed to get her to nursery 3 times a week so that I could have one day off.

btw has anyone heard from preparingfor2?