Due November 2006, Part II

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hi all, hope everyone is well..

Oh NJ, I'm so glad to hear that I don't feel alone with this. I told my friend that I was pg shortly after she had a mc and I haven't spoken to her in 2 weeks and feel like I've completely screwed things up. I also have another friend who I haven't told yet and worried how she'll be as she has been trying for a baby for 2 years and wonder if it will bring up "strange feelings". I just want to have the scan now so that I can go ahead and tell people!

Now you're tempting me to put on my fake tan!! I'm so pasty white....no attractive at all!!!!

Well I did ask my sister how she feeling last time I spoke to her, as I said we are very close and don't tend to walk on eggshells with each other, she said she was over the moon for us and was excited to be an Aunty again, but that she couldn't help being a little bit sad at what could have been for her, but, she said they had made the right choice for them (this is her and her DH) they have a wonderful son who is now 10 years old, and she is very happy with their life/life style and really wouldn't like for that to change.

I think if they are good friends then they will be very happy for you, but if they are human they are bound to feel a bit sad, not sure if sad is the right word, but that isn't something that you should be worrying about, you will have been there for them through their good and bad times, and they should be there for you :)

I would get in touch with the one you haven't spoken to, don't let your friend feel left out, that will only lead to more problems.

Oh and get slapping on the fake tan, then when we both go orange I won't feel so alone!! :o

NJ and fatbetty - I had a miscarriage while two of my closest friends were pregnant, and it was a very complicated time. But while I was upset, I never felt that it was their fault, and was happy for them while at the same time being very miserable for myself.

Both of them dealt with it very well, and were very understanding, particularly when I didn't want to make a fuss of their brand new babies (and the first time I went to see my friend afterwards, I almost ran away, and had to ring her up and say, I'm not sure I can do this and I may not be able to pick him up or anything - and she completely understood). So my advice would be, try to stay friends, because I am sure they won't let the pregnancy be a wedge between you if you don't. Hope this makes sense.

I think the problem is that both sides are both trying to do what they think is better for the other side, if that makes sense?

I know that some of the girls on the TTC board found out that friends/family members were expecting, all of them stressed how happy they were for them, but also how much they wished it were them as well. It is only natural, but if you are good friends than I can't see it causing too much of a problem long term.

Thanks everyone! I know my friend has been busy the last couple of weeks so that's why i haven't call. I was planning on giving her a call today and she how she is. It would be awful if I lost her friendship.

Try to talk to her about it, I bet she has things that she would like to say to you but daren't incase you take it the worng way, or whatever, just try to stay calm and ask her how she is feeling.

Hi everyone

Just reading through your messages and betty I'm going through the same as you just now. My friend had 2 m/cs last year. I finally plucked up the courage to tell her on Wednesday and she says she is really happy for me. Although in a previous conversation she was upset that a lot of friends and family are expecting babies. We are meeting up on Thursday so I'll see how she is then. I think it'll just take time.

As for how I am today - not so bad. DH is back this evening after being away on a course all week. I'm also plucking up courage to phone my family who I haven't spoken to all week (minor argument). Life is too short.

Anyway have a fun Friday.

TC xx

Right then Ladies I am off for the weekend, I am so excited that it is nearly time to tell my mum, can barely sit still!! LOL

I hope everyone has a lovely weekend, take it easy, and don't do anything I wouldn't do!!

TC xxx

What does the TC stand for NJ ?

Enjoy yourself NJ

i think it means take care

Right, hi everyone, sorry have been on for ages, had dp home as was his 21st on weds, so been really busy!

iv not been too bad with sickness, only sick a couple of times a day at most but feel sick a lot, and my wind is terrible! lol had a sickness free day yesterday, felt absolutely fine and now today feel worse than before lol! oh well swings and roundabouts!

Esmummy I was trying to slim into a size 12 wedding dress for my wedding in Aug!! thats gone completely out the window now! lol so i know what you mean!

welcome KJQ

awayfromhome i hope the hand foot and mouth doesnt affect you, i was told by the nursery i take dd to a drop in session at not to go for 2 weeks as some of the kids had H,F+M and as i was pg it wasnt a good idea! iv got my fingers crossed for you!

im thinking of you Harrogatemum, i hope the weekend will take your mind of things for a short while! xxx

someone said earlier about having to have the pg confirmed by a nurse.......i went docs fri and he said 'have you had a +ve pg test' i said yes and he started to fill the forms out!!!

dd was a nightmare last night so im going to lay down now shes sleeping again, it was constant and i got about 2 hrs sleep!!! i was knackered anyway and now im just like the walking dead!!!

hope everyone has a good weekend!

staceym11 - thanks, I am currently doing my best not to catch it, think that I have until Sunday and then I am in the clear, as the incubation period for the virus is over.

Currently feeling okay, just general pregnant stuff, sickness and tiredness, so fingers crossed Sunday arrives without any spots!!

I am very lucky that I have a helper, who is currently doing most of the activities that could be risky with dd, but I can't wait until Sunday so I can get back to normal with her :)

Sorry I am still here, doesn't take long to get everything up together for just us, I am used to it taking the whole afternoon with getting the dog and everything for him ready, but of course I don't have to do that this time!

Yes TC means take care :)

Have a great weekend NJ! I'm feeling quite yucky this afternoon. DS2 was up again last night (think he is teething!) and I'm absolutely shattered! Managed to take a short nap but now feel worse and have no motivation to do anything. Just want DH to come home and take over so I can go to bed and get some rest.

I hope you feel better soon Betty, I think I am getting away with it sickness wise, I do still feel it in the mornings but no where near as bad as it could be!

Right I really am going this time, DH is home and we are ready to go!

Hope everyone has a nice weekend :)

TC xxx

Hi guys How is everyone?

I still do not feel pregnant at all, apart from big sore boobs. No sickness and no bump. Suppose I should count myself lucky! But it would be nice to feel pregnant, but then I guess I've got 7/8 months for that.

Had my hair done today and bought some of that Dove self tanning body lotion - so I can join the streaky club.

Ds is having is 4th birthdsay party at home tomorrow so will be busy with a bunch of preschoolers!

Hope you all have a good weekend.

Good luck for tomorrow Northerner and happy birthday to DS :)
I'm the same as you no symptoms apart from feeling sick when i get into bed a nighttime for some reason.

Taking DD to wacky warehouse tomorrow, don't know i am going to manage because usually i would be in there tumbling around with her and now i cant :(
Have you all told your other children about the new arrival or are you waiting ?

Hi there everyone. Been away for ages but just haven't found the time or energy to sit down @ the computer. So hi and congratulations to everyone that I haven't yet "met".

Cece - Extra sorry to hear of your loss . Much love at this time.

Not read through everything yet - you guys have really been at it - but hope to catch up on everyones stories.

11 weeks today!! Feeling better than I was (and somedays don't even feel pregnant at all) but still tired - suprisingly enough (think I'd need a full-time nanny and housekeeper to not be).

Saw my midwife a few weeks ago and going back in a week and a half to getting bloods etc all done as I'm not having a scan (not had one last 3 times) and so don't have to go anywhere near a hospital.

Still just managing to squeeze into my uniform trousers first thing in the morning but undo the fastening by lunch time and by tea time I look at least 6 months gone. Hey ho!!

Best wishes to everyone.

Not told my boys about the pg yet - feel its too long a wait for them. Just waiting til they notice .

They were both at the birth last time and I hope they choose to be with me again but I'll leave the choice up to them. My eldest is almost 6 and the middle one 4. Couldn't stand having my eldest with me 2nd time round he was just 19m so don't know if I'll manage to keep my wee one with me this time as he'll be just 16m. Best to wait and see but have plans in place...

Wow CattyB! Having your kids at your birth. How did they react to it? I've always wondered how kids would cope seeing their mum in pain. DS2 can't even stand it when ds1 is in pain.

Morning guys. Hi to cattyB - WOW at having your kids present at the birth. My ds is 4 and I haven't even considered it. Did you have a home birth?

My tummy is much more pronounced on an evening, then by morning it's OK again. Hate this feeling though - would much rather look and feel properly pregnant instead of looking like I've eaten too many pies!