November 2012 - babies arriving thick and fast

[StuntNun]

Previous ante-natal thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1589461-November-2012-lots-of-babies-that-cant-wait-for-November

Post-natal thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1579907-November-2012-babies-are-here-at-last

Thank you all so much for your kind words

Baby has settled thankfully. Went to Sainsburys as I have been saving my points for it, wanting to get stuff for Christmas, birthdays, and for girls from baby. Had £45 plus on my card, only to be told it was blocked. Put stuff on credit card and was told if I call nectar, they would refund the money. I called from the store to be told as I was not the person named on the account, I could not cash in the points. DH is the person named on the account, I have a card with my name on, I am married to him ffs! But no, they could not help me. I had to ask his permission. I would not have minded had I not made a special trip into the store last week to ask how I redeemed points. Just present card when you buy your items they said. I cried a lot as I was so angry. I swore, not at the assistant, but at Nectar. I had a complete meltdown. I did not put the stuff back, as it was a bunfight getting it, and I had the last george pig and the last Harry Styles doll. (I blame detective as I was blissfully unaware it started today! No, I thank her really )

I plan to be in no more than two nights, but would like to be home the next day. Also tempted to stay in a week..... But will see how I go, how I feel, and how the girls cope without me.

I will post again later tonight no doubt, but if things get busy, I just have to say I am absolutely amazed at how attached I have become to you guys. I have been on antenatal threads before, but this time the support I have had from you has been nothing short of wonderful. So thank you all for sharing this journey with me . I wish you all the birth experiences you desire, and I pray you and your little ones will all be kept safe throughout. So if I do not get a minute later, I will see you on the other side, my friends (bloody hormones!)

Aw bless you VQ good luck for tomorrow

Big punch on the arm VQ you have been awesome on here - a really constant support. Best of luck and I think we all look forward to hearing all about it.

horsey I am fairly certain we are all bundles of mental hormones.

Thanks for your thoughts on aunty visit as well. My concern is for her rather than baby. One of the problems is that her exact cancer is not known. It is all over her body and the story is that there weren't enough samples taken to ascertain what the primary one is. Seems bizarre but that's what I've been told. She had one course of chemo but couldn't get her next one as her white blood cell count was too high (or low? Wrong, anyway)

I am sorry to hear that your mum has been so unwell sophia. It must seem terribly unfair for her to get something like shingles now after cancer. I really hope that advice is that she can visit.

I cry for all sorts of reasons. John Lewis adverts are the worst. Closely followed by running out of marmite to put on my toast. The thought of my dog dying (he's a very healthy 5 year old cross-breed btw with no reason not to live to a good age), because I love DH, because I hate DH, because I don't know how I feel about DH, because my car blew up in April and I can't reverse park my new one as well, because there's no chocolate in the house, because there aren't any small trolleys left in tescos... and now because VQ has made me cry! All the very best for tomorrow lovely. I can't believe how attached I am to you lot as well

Before pregnancy I never cried. Ever. Now I'm an emotional wreck!

On another note I've spent 4 hours today tidying and sorting my office, and for the first time since we moved in it's no longer a dumping ground for things we have no place for, but a proper functioning home office! Just in time for me to stop working . At least I won't need to work from the dining room table anymore! (that made me cry once too...)

All the best VQ hope it all goes smoothly and you get to meet your little man in a lovely, calm way. Enjoy your new family member and see you on the other side!!

MM that list of things that made you cry really made me giggle -sorry!

I second the John Lewis adverts. There is also one for a charity which responds in famine zones. A child is eating something and looks at his mum and they beam at each other. Making me properly fill up just thinking about it.

Flap jack has been made. Found some chocolate digestives while making them so have had two while I wait for the flap jack to cool [hblush]

Have eaten 1 mince pie & 1 packet of ready salted crisps for lunch. [hblush] I'm not actually really hungry for "food". Not good.

My body is cleaning out my insides and discharge has def stepped up a gear.

Hoping nothing happens for a week though.

vq i hope all goes well tomorrow and you have been a wonderful and supporting help on this thread (as has everyone else)

well today has been absolutely fucking shit. to cut a long story short my partner is originally from wolverhampton and me from bristol we met 7 years ago on a family holiday where both of our families have gone for years! then in 2010 we met again and BOOM love hits us smack in the face!
we went on as seeing eachother every weekend and then finally he moved to bristol with me.

now from the start his parents would put me down with anything they could when we first got together it was a really tough thing for us both to go through. they would slag me off to him and basically try and make him split with me (for this reason we had no fucking clue why and they still wont give us a explanation) since ive become pregnant they have changed towards me now i dont know whether thats because they can see i aint going no where or because they are worried if they dont be nice i wont speak to them (same as i dont want to do now tbh) now when they were at their worst they were really fucking spiteful people........my mum watched me become depressed and she wasn't happy at all and still to this day hates them! (i love my mum with all my heart and we have been very very very close since i was 16). anywhoo his parents have bought us a house which is up in wolves. my partner works for his fathers company and left when he moved to bristol with me (his dad didnt like this either) now they are dangling a house and work in front of his face and he has taken the bait...I DONT WANT TO FUCKING MOVE.

i told my mum yesterday about everything and she has been a wreck ever since i went round this morning and had a 2 hour conversation with her and just cried the whole pissing time.....if i dont move then me and partner will split (he has made this clear) and if i do then i upset my mum to the highest possible hight. (i cant do that to her) but i dont want to lose my partner either and im stuck in the middle and either way i lose someone............im a fucking blubbing mess as within the next 3 weeks i have to give birth and at the moment my mum isnt happy with my partner and they will both be in the room. i just want the ground to swallow me up and keep me there forever!

sorry for the long post i just had to speak to someone as who ever i speak to here is either partner or mum and i just want to be tucked away from either of them!

Ah VQ, good luck for tomorrow. Hope all goes well for you.

Am another one signing up for random and spontaneous crying. My aunt has just announced she is giving us amazing leather sofas which are immaculate and less than 2 years old and she doesnt want any money for them, and she is arranging for them to be transported (midlands to south west) for us, to arrive before the baby does. She doesnt want a penny as she is redecorating. I blubbed!

Oh jaylee what an awful situation. I cant believe your inlaws and partner are trying to make you make big decisions now, when you're about to have a baby?

Can you get your partner to agree to put the whole issue on ice for 6 months while you settle into life with a new baby, and in that time try and explain how isolated and lonely you would be in Wolverhampton when his family dont welcome you?

ive tried and tried to make him see sense in this. im a complete mess i have a 5 year old DD and this baby on the way and dont want to take either away from my mum were all such a close family. but what am i supposed to do when he says it wont work if i dont move?? im stuck in a position that i cant see a way out of he is being selfish as when i have the baby he says hes going to move into that house and work and i can come when im ready! is this me or is that fucking unacceptable?

jaylee what a terrible situation. I am so sorry that you are beig put in the middle like this - neither your partner or your mum should be making you feel bad about this to be frank. You and your partner are the ones who need to decide where you want to live - everyone else should support you decision whatever that may be.

I don't know if there is an easy solution to this but know that you can come here to sound off.

Jaylee sorry to hear about your situation. Talk about a rock and a hard place. It seems unfair for him to say 'we're moving to Wolverhampton or we're splitting up.' Surely you are equal partners in your relationship, he can't just lay down the law to you. It should be something you discuss together and weigh up the pros and cons, not where you take opposing positions and wait for the other one to give up. I hope you manage to come to a satisfactory resolution together.

My bump has dropped dramatically today, I can see ribs below my boobs so I have a waist again! Maybe that's what the fanny daggers were about this morning, he was burrowing down.

I have cleared a load of stuff from the loft and taken it off to the dump so I am currently lying limp in bed recovering from my exertions.

Good luck to VQ for tomorrow I hope all goes well.

lane don't listen to her! Sounds a bit rubbish to me anyway, I'm 5"8 and had ds at 38 weeks so nerr to her!

ditsy I'd recommend tryin spatone, it's on 3 for 2 at boots. I was prescribed ferrous funerate which is supposed to be kinder to your gut than ferrous sulphate but after taking it for four weeks I've had to stop. It gave me awful constipation, couldn't face being constipated any closer to the birth. I started spatone on Friday and since then I've had a poo (sorry TmI) almost every day which is good for me. Will find out on Friday what my iron levels are like now but I feel a lot better than I did 5 weeks ago.

cacacaz if you've had chicken pox you'll be fine with shingles. You can only catch it from touching the open sores. Hope your mum's better soon

VQ Good luck with your section. Bloody nectar [hangry]

Jaylee Sorry for the horrible situation. I would feel the same as you. Will there be any work for you post-baby in Wolves? It's fair enough he's got a job but useless if there'd be no opportunities for you.

Well I feel like a giant pile of turd today! Finally went to bed at 6:30am when DH got up for work. Got up at 12 as I had CBT but could have stayed in bed longer. I'm bloody achey today, damn flu jab [hsad] I'm glad I had it yesterday though rather than in two weeks time at nearly 38weeks when I was booked to have it. Couldn't have done with feeling crappy close to the potential birth.

I've done nothing today but seeing as I did cleaning at 4am I don't feel guilty. I've been looking for Christmas pressie ideas, I don't fancy trailing round shops for hours post birth.

Vq hugs!!!! Good luck!!!

Jaylee no idea what to suggest - seems a bit harsh of your oh!

Pass - enjoy the flapjacks!!

jaylee that sounds like a really difficult situation. how do you consolidate that in your mind? I think the main thing is not to rush any decisions and maybe even put in on bold until you have given birth, it's not a gat time for you to have to make a decision on your future you need to concentrate on your baby.

Has any one heard of the purple line? There was a thread on here a week or so ago. It is a line between your buttocks that shows how far on in labour you are. So after this morning shenanigans I had a look, in the mirror obviously, and I have one. It sure if it is a real indicator or not and maybe I am making things up. That said I really would like baby to stay put till next Thursday night at least!

I'm so sorry Jaylee. I think if it was me I'd feel he was walking out on me. It's impossible timing for you to leave your support network for a new start where you feel people don't like you. It wouldn't be at all unreasonable to say you need some time and to insist on waiting six months. If he leaves you in that period then you perhaps dodged a situation that would isolate you.

Good luck tomorrow VQ

sophie I've heard of it, doesn't it grow then more dialated you are. Think it was on OBEM or something.

Pass I was going to bake flapjack earlier but couldn't be bother to move from the sofa, I have now moved, to my bed [hblush]

Where's detective today?

Jaylee that is indeed a shit situation. I think your partner is being unreasonable to expect you to make big decisions now and your Mum is being a bit unfair to put all the guilt on you - unortunately, being a mum is about putting someone else's needs first and if you decide to move, then she needs to support that. However, I can totally understand wh you wouldn't want to move away from your Mum now, just when you will need her help with the new baby. It is a difficult decision to make at the best of times, let alone in late pregnancy, I feel for you.

I think I may be nesting - have been cleaning and tidying like a demon and barely sat down (except for posting on FB & here!!). I have pre-paid for yoga on Tuesday night, and have a wedding of a good friend on Saturday, so baby can't come until next Wednesday at least. Plus, I'm only 36+2 so now would mean going to hospital, not staying at home (and don't have the homebirth pack or had the assessment visit yet, which I assume are not essential but I would definitely prefer to have had...) I'll probably still be labour-symptom spotting come December though and be a bit [hblush] at the presumptiousness of this post!!!

jaylee that is truly shit. I'm afraid I agree with waiting Given the choice between staying with you or moving on his own he is choosing to move, even though it's a selfish decision and he can't expect you to get the same support from his family as from your own, given the way they have treated you in the past. I'd be tempted to refuse to do anything for 6 months whilst you get used to life with a baby and then take it from there. I take it you can rely on your mum for support if he chooses to move anyway?