November 2012 - babies arriving thick and fast

[StuntNun]

Previous ante-natal thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1589461-November-2012-lots-of-babies-that-cant-wait-for-November

Post-natal thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1579907-November-2012-babies-are-here-at-last

jaylee "im stuck in a position that i cant see a way out of he is being selfish as when i have the baby he says hes going to move into that house and work and i can come when im ready! is this me or is that fucking unacceptable? "

So he's planning to leave you and his child and to move a long way away and spend time with people who treat you like shit. Then expects you to leave your support network and join him. Honey - he's being unreasonable and a total tosser. Has he done anything to support you when his parent treat you badly, or does he expect you to just put up with it? If the latter, he's not treating you well at all - partners should support their other halves even against their own parents if necessary. He should be putting you and the baby first, and it doesn't sound like he's capable of that.

if he chooses to move then thats his decision but i have told him i will move in febuary at the earliest and he seems completely fine with this he said he would prefer that as then he has time to build the house into a family home on which we deserve.......i think that is very nice and understanding of him and he said he is coming back every weekend to see the baby and DD. i cant argue with that. now i have to softly explain this to my mum without making the volcano errupt again.

thank you so much for your support ladies it really does mean alot atm.

tia when his parents were nasty he stuck by me 100% and he completely shut them out. but now they dangle a house and more money from work at him he cant resist. since i have become pregnant they havent said anything nasty about me but i suppose they have to be nice to see their grandchild right? because tbh i cant stand them i hate everything they entail but i love my partner with all my heart. im completely in a hole with no way out.

I've had the afternoon stolen! I dropped off about lunchtime and have just woken up

I'm just reading through my pregnancy notes and apparently I was supposed to have a MRSA swab last week and weekly BP checks so I'll be on that ASAP tomorrow. Didn't manage to get anything done today what withe broken computes, boiler engineers (fixed now thankfully) and sleeping.

I've also just looked at the growth scan from 36 weeks, baby was 5lb, how much do they put on roughly per week?
His measurements are all fairly low on the scale (femur length is right down the bottom) but his head circumference is on the bigger side I think I'm having a t-Rex baby

Hello, can i join you? I'm 38 weeks today.

Welcome littlebubba I'm 38 weeks today too :)

That really does suck jaylee. And if he does build the house into a nice home, that will at least be something excellent to move to [hsmile] (sorry, couldn't resist the haloween smiley)

Hi littlebubba 38+1 here.

Hello all!

Sorry to hear about all of the sucky times for many people at the moment. It really makes me stand back and reassess when I get all upset over silly things. I hope those of you struggling at the moment start having better times soon, particularly when our babies are born!

I had a random teary night last night. I've been doing all these hypnobirthing relaxation CDs, positive affirmations, massage, visualisations, yoga dvd etc etc and despite it all I still worry about birthing in the back of my mind. I think I reflected on this a bit too much last night and burst into tears because despite all the effort to stay calm I STILL have panic moments. Plus I had a sudden realisation last night that although the birth still seems an age away (I'm 39 weeks today)...it really isn't...and I suddenly didn't know what to do with myself about it and cried again! Oh mercy, lol.

Do you guys, particularly the first timers like me, feel like no matter how prepared you try to get yourself you still have moments where you seem to suddenly realise the changes coming and then promptly go back in the sand? I know they're good changes mostly but I seem to be having a load of 'FUUUUUUCK' moments recently.

One of those will probably be tonight as DP and I are off for possibly our last meal out alone together for a long time [hshock]

Blimey jaylee that's awful of your DP to put you in a position like that at any time, let alone at this stage of PG. I really feel for you

Went to the sainsburys toy sale and got a couple of bits for Xmas, the walked into town. It completely wore me out! Bump was rock hard and achy! Having a sit down now thankfully.

I did the Saunsbury's sale but I did it online this morning, our local one has such a tiny toy section it hardly seemed worth trying to arrange getting there, last time I went to it 2 years ago it was quite scary and violent anyway, I got a few bits for cheap, I've done a lot of Christmas shopping this past few weeks from my bed, the bargain pressie thread on here is awesome

Ok that sounds like he is on your side Jaylee. I wish you all the luck in the world making it work.

I feel like I'm drowning trying to decipher my tax return. DH (an accountant) says my filing is fantastic and he wished most businesses ran like I run mine but I don't understand it all and I want to. My dad was investigated by HMRC for 7 years (found not to owe a penny) and I want to totally understand everything even though I trust my accountant and my accountant husband checks everything. Control freak much?

tits at my 35 week scan baby weighed 6lb! I hope she's not huge, either that or she'll be early fingers crossed.

kirrin not long for you now then! How many weeks was your dd born at?

All the lights in my house have fused. DH offshore and he stacked a huge pile of heavy boxes and machinery in front of the fusebox in the garage. There's also a spider lurking somewhere!!! Debating whether or not it would be unreasonable to get my dad to drive over and fix everything for me. He's only half an hour away....

Checking in!

Errrrr. I have no chance of catching up properly - so I apologise!

VQ Best of luck for tomorrow! I'm rather excited for you you know, given I technically don't even know you.... but still! I don't want anyone to go off the AN thread though... so please come back, coz I'm likely to be here for some time yet

Shelly Glad the tips worked! Maybe I should start a Detectives Daily tips section

Bit of a mixed bag of a day. I literally have not stopped. Just sat down now! After being on the go all day. Started off at the toy sale (bunch of arseholes VQ - I hate it when stuff like that happens) then had to do the school run, including a detour as a favour to my mum. Car still making awesome rattling noises so took it to 2 garages. I am now carless, and £220 less :( Which means it was a fecking good job I worked to the bitter bloody end with my extra shifts - as this is why I've been putting money away. I just knew the second I'd go off on leave some shit like this would happen! Needs a new water pump, and the timing belt was over due anyway, so having both done as the labour is only an extra £15, where as it would have cost me £160 just for the water pump alone, and then another £180 for the timing belt further down the line.

Went up to Trafford Centre as we have a wedding on Friday, and needed some bits for DP and DS to wear. DP drove me mental all the way around, under my flaming heels, quite literally. I was in flip flops, and his fucking size 12's stood on me on no less than 6 occasions, nearly sending me flying more than once too. I don't need a bloody shadow! ARGHHH! He is just so clumsy - and deaf it seemed too!

So after him winding me up all the way round, and winding me up on the drive there just because I hate his driving I insisted on driving home. Bloody good job I did, as I noticed (you couldn't miss it!) his car was pulling drastically to one side. Ended up checking the tyres to find one tyre had a puncture and the other was completely bald (on same side of car). So, from 2 cars down to 0 in one day....! 2 new tyres later, and we were back on the road. But not after I lectured him about car maintenance. I can't believe he hadn't noticed. I mean it isn't as if he won't be driving around with the most precious cargo ever in the next few weeks least he could do is make sure it is safe!

Then DS decided to just be a rude insolent boy after school, answering back and generally being ungrateful. I've spent all evening running around making him a fecking halloween costume for tomorrow (school disco) because the one I bought wasn't good enough, oh no! So I had to start again and make one. Though when he is being a cheeky fecker, I really don't know why I bother. I just wanted to scream by the time we all got home this evening!

Anyway. It's over now. I just hope I don't go in to labour tonight. I'm too tired for that now!

Seems like the tears are doing the rounds - no tears here, but definitely emotional, and thinking what have I done... all the time. I'm a worry wart by nature, and lets face it, having a baby is a MASSIVE life change, be it your first or your tenth lol!

EPIC! Sorry

MM DEFINATELY time to play the pregnancy card.

I had a massive emotional breakdown last night too. Big hugs to everyone having a rotten day.

Breakdown was over being a petrified first time mum. Saw midwife at 36 weeks today. She said all is in the right place etc but she thinks I will still be here in a couple of weeks....I was disappointed!

Hello to baby yw and soon to be baby vq

I think I spoke too early! The tears are forming as we speak.

DP made the Stew I was craving. Except it has somehow gone wrong. It is watery and tasteless. GUTTED!

There isn't anything else in for tea.

:(

good luck for tomorrow VQ

DH not long now, no - hopefully anyway! I'm trying not to dwell on the though that it could be another 4 weeks! DD was born at 39+2 so hopefully this one will show up a bit early too. A friend has predicted I'll go into labour this weekend and I bloody hope she's right!

detective that sounds like a very stressful day :(

No tears here, but definitely feeling down and emotional - and lots of BHs and general pain too. I think things are heading in the right direction but don't expect to go into labour any day now. I think I'll still be here for a week or 2 yet. I met a lady a toddler group yesterday who is a couple of days overdue and I was gutted to discover that her first was early - I've just been assuming that as DD was early this one will be too. detective is there any pattern or do they all just rock up when they're ready?!

Most women do seem to go around a similar time (having new partner makes a difference to this it seems though) but obviously not all! Spontaneous labours at term, in women with no other complications do tend to be around similar gestations.

In my experience, I've noticed that between 38+5 and 40+6 seem to be the dates most women spontaneously labour in. But that is just my own observations. Nowt scientific like!

jaylee that does sound like a reasonable compromise. I really feel for you being put in the middle. Focus on your own little family.

Cars are a nightmare detective. My DH wants to get my car serviced which is undoubtedly the right thing to do but I am so worried that it will be expensive.

My Facebook picture today is the perfect example of life according to pregnant ladies being different to the rest of the world. I now have about 15 comments on my normal page saying things about how enormous I am etc etc. I do find it weird when people who have had their own kids make comments like that - do you forget what it was like?

Just been for a nice dinner with DH and had some flap jack as after afters. Yum yum.

Just checking in here with also no chance of properly catching up on all the goings on. I had my 36 week appointment today. Apparently baby is approx 6lb 13. Really pooping my pants now about having a monster. Also found out that my GBS result was negative so now I can go to the MLU which is awesome news. The consultant led unit is an hour away whereas MLU is only 25mins and far far nicer.
In other news I had to literally run across a field to stop my bloody dog from chasing cows in a field. he had sneaked under a gate which I then had to climb over into the muddiest field you ever did see. I was nearly sick when I finally got him.
I also thought my waters had gone when I took my DC's to swimming lessons. It was only when I snuck to the loo and had a sniff (sorry tmi) that I realised the shampoo I very briefly held between my legs whilst I had passed my dd a towel had leaked!
If you are interested I just wrote a blog post on "Things you wish you had known before you had a baby": blog.littleyellowbirds.co.uk/
It's not very serious really but meant to make those like peaky feel a bit better.

Hmm so based on your research detective I'm going to guess that I'll have this baby somewhere between 38+5 when I had ds and 40 weeks (because I refuse to believe ill go overdue at all!)

kirrin I've been waiting all this time to use the new buggy! I'm getting impatient now!

I actually typed a bit saying this to you DH but then deleted it as I thought you might take it the wrong way! But, yes, from what I have read, I reckon you have a good chance of labouring at a similar time - you weren't induced with him were you?

Don't you dare bloody hold me to that though [hgrin]