November 2012 - babies arriving early and impatient mummies-to-be

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Previous ante-natal thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1579909-November-2012-arrivals-are-now-underway

New post-natal thread for the graduates: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1579907-November-2012-babies-are-here-at-last

Just dipping in from November 2011 babies. Congratulations to new arrivals and take care to all the ones left. I remember being so fed up near the end.

Our first baby turned one this weekend, he celebrated in style. My Lo isn't till the end of November so busy preparing for her party. The year goes in a flash. Enjoy your magical cuddles with your gorgeous newborns. X

I'm so glad I'm not the only one thinking oh god! It hasn't really sunk in that at the end of this (in 5 short weeks!) that I'm going to be in charge of a little person and they are going to be around forever. We are going to have no money and our cosy little life is going to change - what were we thinking?!?

I feel a puppy would be too much responsibility and not keen on kittens - can mine be a teddy? or some chickens - we already have some of those so won't make much difference!

Dh commented this morning 'you are big now' - umm where have you been for the last few months?

It's a week of lasts for me this week. Feeling very tired and hormonal. Not sure about other 5 weeks of this!

Also massively in denial about the whole thing

I woke at half 3 for a wee and took forever to go back to sleep again, dh was way over my side of the bed and flung one of his arms on my head while turning, I could kick him sometimes and do

Going to wash and arrange baby clothes today, go and buy the last few bits (besides food and drink) for the hospital bag.

ds has also turned from a placid 2 year old behaving nicely to a raving loony running around screaming at 7am.

Well I was a right grumper when I woke up this morning and didnt even want to go and meet my friends sister for lunch, but I went and really really enjoyed it! yey. It was just what the doctor ordered. Lovely relaxing lunch with loads of gossip, and way too much food! yey.

Thanks wokeup - I think we are all fed up and excited in equal measure. First birthdays seem such a long way off but I know the time will fly by - they are little for such a short time.

No more twinges here - I think the baby must have just been trying to scare me, with being so far from home!

lilliana my DP keeps saying things like that, I've been huge for months?!

My nephew is turning One soon, he is just standing up all by himself, very cute.

I've been awake since 2, I woke up to DP with his full body weight on my right side asleep on me, when I shoved him off the blood started rushing back and the itching it caused in my arm was unreal, I jumped out the bed going mad because it felt like needles of fire in my arm it's obviously ok this morning just very sore from the savage scratching.

My hips have given up completely today, I can't even turn over let alone walk anywhere.

Well 4 weeks max left if pregnancy for me!!

Trying to think in terms of going over due as I think I will !! Put the waterproof sheet on the mattress last night and I don't like it. Butwill put up with it for the next 4 weeks.

Hardly slept last night as couldn't get comfy, then decided I'd not felt the baby much. Which was wrong, the baby had moved quite a bit yesterday I think just lying awake caused me worry!!

Right off to the horses then my nans. Then food shopping and trying to buy a dog guard for the car!! Then I need to Hoover my car out, though seriously considering paying for it to get valleted instead. Oh and I need to get Measured up for bras.

Kind of glad I'm not the only one having jitters, I was in a right old state on Sunday convinced that I couldn't do it.

37 weeks today, 1 week till induction. Quite scared although brain not quite allowing me to focus on that, instead filling me with a vague sense of anxiety. Sweep on Thursday so have made no plans beyond then just in case it kicks things off.

I am so hot and sweaty today - yuck.

Dixie I'm another one with proofing from a specific client (someone I used to work for), this time it's vocational education stuff rather than environmental. Then I've picked up the odd bit of proofing and writing through ex colleagues. It's so piecemeal for me at the moment. Idea is to build it up gradually so when the DCs finally get to school I'm working sort of half time at home. I do another Edinburgh-based project too, that's more editing/assembling a book every couple of years. Not big bucks but good for networking. It's all about future pay-off I suppose! Another thing I do is transcription for people doing research in universities and who do interviews, good if you can touch type, not great pay either but good grocery money! And you do it on your own time. Hope you find something suitable you can get stuck into.

Yes like you I used to go to loads of things like music clubs etc but have no idea if I'll even be able to get out of the door with two! I suspect it will be all about keeping the toddler entertained and the baby can watch and sort of absorb it all, to begin with anyway!

I managed to get a gp appointment for this morning. Just not sure I'll manage down with crutches and 2year old so going to txt MIL and beg, yet again, for help! X

My friend has a 10 week old and an 18 month old and she just makes it look easy! I am sure it's hard - but somehow she just makes it look like a doddle! :)

izzy you have to ask for help. It is a safety thing as 2yos are not reliable. It would be different if she were older.

Those expecting second baby with a toddler already, set your sights low. Do not set yourself up for failure. You cannot keep everyone happy all the time. Baby will need to be left crying more than a pfb, toddler will need to wait at times. So long as everyone is safe and fed and loved that is all that matters. Accept any help you can. I hate accepting help but your sanity and health will depend on it. Have a box of toys for feeding time and get baby used to sitting and watching, or sling time. Get out whenever you can and ensure you can secure toddler in pushchair when needed even if they do prefer to walk.

There is no ideal age gap. My eldest was nearly 4 when her sister was born and it was hard as even though she could entertain herself, she would not.

This morning she got her sister dressed and they had such fun. No3 should be easier as the other two have each other to play and fight with.

Remember how easy and portable newborns are compared to a toddler.

I can't imagine worrying about having a second - one is terrifying enough - two wah!! (though we do want at least one more). On a positive note I think the youngest tends to become entranced by their toddler sibling. My niece Willow thinks that her three year old brother is about the coolest person in the entire world and belly laughs at everything he does. It seems to work itself out?

Woo GT has been quiet - I wonder if she is in active labour now or better still, having baby cuddles? I hope she found it ok when they broke her waters. Catbag is quiet too. Everyone else if you are remotely quiet on this thread for more than half a day I will be concluding that you are in labour and thoroughly envious.

Great tips VQ the second born will indeed more than likely end up being better at self soothing and more easily entertained just sitting and watching by virtue of having to! And well, siblings are nature's way of teaching toddlers (or trying to teach toddlers) patience.

vq wise words. There is no point beating yourself up about things - but parental guilt just seems natural! :)

Sometimes my dh has worries about bedtime, and I just tell him there is no point in worrying yet as we will worry when we have to actually do it!

YW one is easy, it is just a shame you do not realise until you have two! The hardest thing with one is that everything is new and changing. With experience that does get a bit easier. You tend to panic a bit less when the second one goes through the same thing etc. Also there is a lot of 'all eggs in one basket' thinking with one. For example when we had the health scare with DD1 I had to be strong for DD2.

My mum always says 'that every baby should be a second', meaning that you have learnt so much by the time number 2 comes along that you wish you had known it all for the first one!

I had plans for today! Nothing spectacular, but none the less, plans!

I just did the school run. Fuck the plans, I ain't going back outside again today! My poor car skittled down the M6 like it was a piece of paper in the wind!

Urghhhhh!!!

I'll just have to settle for a long lazy shower, and de-fluff all areas that require such procedures.

I wanted to go to the library, and get some lavender oil/clary sage. I was also thinking of going to Aldi to stock up on snacks, sweets, and bottled drinks for labour. That can wait. I'm not going to have a baby for at least 2 weeks. Minimum. Definitely.

I will have to go on the school run again though. I think. Unless someone wants to do it for me. No? Thought not!

I have made plans for every day this week by the way. Just so I don't clog up this thread with shit

Clog away, its nice having something to read!

I'm back from GP. I txt MIL and she happily accepted me dumping DD on her while I went and will drop her at nursery at 10am to save me running about. She has just txt and told me to go back to bed and try get some sleep. I have a chest infection just as I thought so antibiotics for a week, I also have a kiddies cough bottle to see if will soothe the cough a little. I'll try anything as throat is hurting and irritatingly making ne cough more. Coughing is not great for my pelvis either as it keeps clunking with the force of my coughs. A baby resting on your bladder while like this is also not fun, I fear I will wet myself pretty soon

Will check in later.

It is half term here, so DD1 and I are going to spend some quality time in Burger King after dropping daddy at work. Little one already at nursery, so free soft play and cheap ice cream it is. I will take my notebook and write down the things I still need to do. I would rather be in bed though. It is the only place I can get vaguely comfy at the moment.

izzy you are not dumping DD. you are surviving as best you can, and you are clearly not well. Do rest while you can. Last pg I was plagued with chest infections and SPD so I know what it is like, and it is beyond hideous. Wear pads all the time if you need to. Hope the antibiotics work quickly.