April 2013 - Part 2 - Hurry up 12 weeks!

[Lola06]

Starting a new thread for all us April 2013 ladies as we quite quickly worked our way through the last one. Have added list below which is hopefully up to date.

Let the talk commence.....

Thereisamumwhonevergoesout - DC3 - 29th March
Ratbagcatbag - DC1 - 1st April
NobbyD - DC1 - 1st April
Herhonesty - DC2 - 1st April
DamnitDamnit - DC3 - 1st April
Novia - DC1 - 1st April
Circusgirl - DC1? - 1st? April
MrsSimkins - DC1 -1st April
Pontouf - DC2 - 2nd April
Jo1984uk - DC1 - 2nd April
funkymonkey1983 - DC2 -3rd April
flosshilde - DC2 - 3rd April
Josie81 - DC2 - 3rd April
Giddypants - DC2 - 3rd April
JessieEssex - DC2 - 3rd April
Frootloopz - DC1 - 4th April
Lola06 - DC1 - 4th April
AussiemummyTo1 - DC2 - 4th April
Doingakatereddy - DC2 - 5th April
Cadmum - DC1 -6th April
Scouseandproud - DC2 - 6th April
BonaDea - DC1 - 6th April
Toobreathless - DC2 - 6th April
Bumpincharge - DC1 - 6th April
LikeCandy - DC1 - 6th April
Wishfulthinking1 - DC1 - 7th April
Mama1980 - DC3 - 7th April
Dandelion75 - DC1 - 8th April
Bunnygirl80 - DC2 - 8th April
Amayabuzzbee - DC2 - 8th April
Magictorch - DC1 - 8th April
Mumofwombat - DC1 - 8th April
Could it be true - DC2 - 8th April
Spidermanspiderman - ?? - 8th April
Duchess79 - DC1 - 9th April
Angeltattoo - DC1 - 10th April
timetomoveon - DC2 - 10th April
Leluelle - DC1 - 10th April
SneezySnatcher - DC2 - 11th April
EssexWelsh - DC1 - 11th April
Miarosemum - DC2 - 12th April
Helsworthy - DC1 - 12th April
Aufaniae - DC2 - 13th April
edinfirst - DC1 - 15th April
plannedshock - DC? - 15th April
Steph2414 - DC3 - 16th April
highlandbird - DC2 - 16th April
Hollers81 - DC1 - 16th April
DeekeyDoo - DC3 - 17th April
HiHowAreYou - DC2 - 18th April
Loobylou33 - DC2 - 18th April
Sugafiend - DC1 - 20th April
alwayshopeful - DC1 - 20th April
Jozee - DC? - 20th April
Teapig - DC1 - 21st April
JacquelineHyde - DC4 - 22nd April
Breesy - DC1 - 22nd April
Jessiethecowgirl - DC2 - 23rd April
NotShortImFunSized - DC6 - 23rd April
Dysgu -DC3 - 24 April
Knittingnovice - DC3 - 24th April
Photochick - DC1 - 25th April
havealittlefaith13 - DC1 - 26th April
growyourown77 - DC1 - 26th April
Clairebec - DC3 - 27th April
Fryingpantoface - DC2 -27th April
ChalleX - DC3 - 27th April
Zoerowe - DC2 - 29 April
Factofthematter - DC2 - 30 April

Wow we got a lot of students round here. I hadn't actually started studying yet, I was going to be doing a BA through open uni this year so I could carry on working at the same time but I can see already there's no way I am going to have energy for full time working, and studying in the evening whilst pg so it's just being put on hold to think about next year!
By the way I am feeling so lucky today when I got told yesterday I was immune to slap cheek the midwife said she would have been suprised if I wasn't as most people are but I got an email from one of my colleagues today who teaches the same year group as me and is off work because she isn't immune so can't come back till the school has been infection clear for a few days. She isn't even enjoying her time off because she's so nervous to have caught slap cheek I feel so bad for her!!!
11+0 (really getting nervous now scan in one week today!)

Wow, all you students, I take my hats off to you. I have been thinking about my long term options, because I was made redundant while on ml with dd & after all the crap with cancer last year want to do something I want to do, but am putting this off for a couple of years now.
Ds started school today - his assessment, he went to the toilet, didn't play with the babies & didn't have enough time to eat lunch!!

Still nauseous here, but much more limited vommitting compared to both other pg's. But as dh keeps telling me - you are older now and your body has been through a lot more.

Seems to be a few of us in the Sussex area, I'm up near gatwick too,so here must be something in the air!!

MW apt went well, if a little rushed. She was lovely, but blitzed through it. I came out with such a headache! She also kept going on about things that they no longer give or offer because of cut backs etc, if she didn't tell me, I'd be none the wiser.

Although my info pack is on the light side this time, it consists of my maternity notes, a booklet about alcohol, a booklet about screening tests and two mini magazines. I remember getting loads of leaflets, money off vouchers, Emmas diary and even a DVD only a couple of years ago. I was even advised to download the NHS pregnancy book, as they no longer issue them (cost cutting again)!

Dating and nuchal scan date will come through the post 5 days before the appointment, so I'll be eagerly watching the letter box from now on.

if - just 5 days before the appointment? I hope mine don't leave it that late- ill need to arrange work cover, as will DH- 5 days won't give us a huge amount of time. Mw said she sent of form to raise the scan on Friday, if I haven't got a letter through by tomorrow I might ring- I'm just so nervous and anxious about it!

I'm also studying part time for a post-grad qualification. I've spoken to the course leader and she has suggested trying to get all of the research done before I go on leave, and then trying to finish final assignment when the baby arrives, and to attend lectures and meetings as much as i can - there'll only be about 4 after baby arrives. My other option is to defer the last term, but I really think realistically by the time the baby arrives and Im starting a family I just won't get around to it- so its now or never! Going to be a lot of hard work before Easter, but will try my best!!

calling all teachers - any thoughts on when you're going to tell your class / parents of the children in your class?
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I rang today and played dumb, just said I wasn't sure if they'd had everything blah blah and they were lovely and booked me in over the phone, I even got to cheekily say, I'm really sorry, but did you have a slightly later one etc, they were fab and sorted it.

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It's a sign of how overly hormonal I am that toobreathless saying one vaguely nice thing about me has made me want to cry a little bit. I blame a v hard day at work and all these sodding hormones!

Wow birdbrain that is so unlucky of your colleague to not be immune. My sister's MW was so bullish about everyone she's ever tested being immune.

I'm really struggling with what to do about a scan. My original plan was to have the 12 week scan done privately at 11+4 so that I could get nuchal results the same day. Ever since a good friend of mine had a very protracted series of tests after her 12 week scan I've been really paranoid about the results not being good and having to wait ages to find out. However the closer it gets the more I think I should just wait. The odds are in my favour and a private 12 week scan isn't cheap. Do I sound bonkers?

ratbagcatbag when is your scan? mine is on Tuesday, yay! Very excited & nervous.

Trying to summon The energy to move off the sofa & do some tidying up!

10 + 4

Ho toobreathless, mines Thursday, I'll be 12+3 then, eeek, keep panicking something's wrong as I've now told everyone that I'm pregnant.

Not going to be moving too far, going to be going to bed soon :)

Ahhhh.... 8.35- bedtime!! I've not seen past half 9 for over a week! Night all!
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Yup I'm in bed wishful! Managed to defrost the freezer (had to, the door wouldn't shut probably after being left ajar. DH has done some stuff round the house - I'm building up his tasks gradually

*camel+ doesn't your area offer the Nuchal scan along with the 12 week scan?

fee yes but results take a week

I think you sound like you want to be as informed as possible. I'm just going what the NHS will give me! I have no idea how long the results take in our area!

I sound mental don't I? I don't think I've explained myself very well. A very good friend of mine had nuchal scan and bloods at 12 weeks. Results took a week. Results were high risk. Organising an amnio took another week. Results took another week. Results were not good. By this point Her options were limited due to the gestation of the pregnancy. The whole thing has terrified me. I was just thinking that the first scan and bloods are within my control and if I pay I could have them back the same day.

Sorry for putting all this worry out there it's just been playing on my mind and I wondered if I was the only one?

Oh right, that makes more sense! I guess I'm not stressing too much because for me, I'd only see if as an information/preparation thing - I wouldn't act on it if you know what I mean. I don't think I'd have an amino actually but that's something we'd have to cross if we got to it.

That's a very good point faith I don't think we would either. I'm just a bit obsessed about being informed (hence the OBEM and other trashy birth shows on sky addiction).

I need to calm down. And go to bed. Spooked by friend's experience but ultimately has nothing to do with me or this baby I guess.

camelknees your worry is 100% understandable, don't think it isn't. Can I ask what you would do in the very, very, very unlikely event the baby had Down's? or another chromosomal abnormality?

I ask because almost exactly 2 years ago DH & I asked ourselves the same question.

And we decided we would continue with the pregnancy, our 'miracle' pregnancy after an ectopic & with my dodgy lungs.

So we opted out of the triple test.

But it is different this time, we have DD to consider.

So I will have the screening. If things are moving too slowly an option is to go for a private amino at that point to try & speed things up.

When you see a friend go through something like this of course you will take that with you & worry more. But that's what we are here for!

Thanks for the very understanding reply toobreathless. I am definitely finding this harder than I did with DD (now 2.5). We did have the screening last time because I hate surprises. If I was going to need to prepare myself for a child with special needs then I needed as much time as possible to do that.

This time I am so conflicted. I feel like DD's needs should come first but am not sure I could make THAT decision. I feel a bit like I've lived through this once this year with my wonderful friend and I still don't know what we would do.

Maybe the way to do it is to go private for subsequent tests if they are needed. I suppose as long as this first one is on time (so not at say 13/14 weeks) that that should be ok.

Right am going to shut up now. We've got enough worries in here without me adding to them.

I just DH...he doesn't want to talk about it unless we face it. Obviously we don't have any DCs yet. My instinct would be no aminio and to continue the pregnancy, I'm not sure he'd be that certain. My friend is a single Mum who's lad had Down's. He is wonderful, a credit to her but she had always fought to give him the opportunities he needs to have a 'normal' life so I know it can be done! He seems to be a well-rounded, fairly typical teenage boy :)

has not had. Obviously.

What an appalling day! Had to go to London (2 hours away from home) for work and didn't get home until 11pm. It's hard to say no to this kind of stuff at the moment, as it's the normal routine in my job and I haven't gone public about my upduffed state yet. Sincerely hoping naively that they go a bit easier on me when I reveal all.....

A question for you - anyone else getting nosebleeds? Just started yesterday - not pouring out, but there when i blow all the time now. Dr Google says its normal but not heard others mention it...?

Really admire those who are studying and planning to keep it up - hope there are some solutions for you all. It's a long time since I was at uni or it feels like it I went to uni straight from school then straight to work 2 weeks after finishing and always been in work since. It means I've had no time off longer than 2 weeks holiday since 1994 - is it wrong to be REALLY looking forward to mat leave? I know it won't be a holiday, but it won't be at my ridiculous workplace surrounded by ridiculous adults who should know better making impossible demands so it's got to be an improvement (rant over - its been a long day )!

Off to get some sleep now - booking in appointment in the morning finally!
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dandelion - I've had a couple of corking nosebleeds- all very common apparently.

10+4- hope you all have a lovely day!
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dandelion my nosebleeds are ridiculous! They aren't heavy but happen all the time. I only have to lean funny or sneeze. Very embarrassing!

Pleased im not the only one studying, but it's not a great position is it? I'm on placement at te moment - which is awful with sickness, no slacking off. I had to tell Uni as I am working with risky clients. They were great and more concerned I was bugaring off the course permanently. Its an masters so a two year course. I'm finishing this year in dec and then deferring for a year. Probably two if I can't leave baby! Luckiy I'm still working and have been with them for years so will get mat pay off them.

I do think bursaries give you something during mat leave though, not sure about non-NHS based courses. They def can't discriminate and not let you back! Complain if they say otherwise!!

Things happen for a reason and we adapt. Things will settle and be for the best.

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Morning yes I have nose bleeds.
Today I felt better for about 5 mins then the mix of headache and nausea hit.
It's really getting to me. I want to excersis but can't when I feel this ill.

Mornung ladies, I had a seriously long day yesterday, got up at 3.45am to schelp to a conference for work. Coming back I felt horribly travel sick in the taxi to the station, I never get travel sick so wondering if it could be pg related.

Guess I'll find out today as I'm off for a reassurance scan, terrified!

Sorry for the me, me, me post I'll catch up on everyone's news today.

Morning all, hope everyones doing well and any scans and appts go well today.

Sounds like I missed an intense conversation last night camel, too and havea.
Have you decided what you'll do yet camel with regard to this first scan?

It's really hard to know what you'd do in any given circumstance until you face it isn't it? I think the sonographer should be able to tell you if the nuchal fold measurement is in the normal range there and then.

I'm really worried too as I'm over 40 and one of my prev mcs had a trisomy.

You're totally right too that it changes your outlook when you've another child to think about. Esp as I'm older so might not be around for as long to fight for and take care of a child with a disability, I wouldn't want that responsibility to fall to my son either.

I think someone on here at a high risk result in the past but I can't remember who. Maybe they'll have some good words of wisdom for us?

PS dandelion nosebleeds are common in pg or bleeding when you blow or wipe your nose. I have a mild platelet disorder and the haematologists were not interested in the slightest in mine last time round! Even though I'd never had a nosebleed before in my life!