Due December 2012 - feeling those kicks now

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kate I stopped years ago because my ex drove and we always lived within walking distance of anywhere I wanted to go alone. I live three busses and two hours from my mum which I don't mind doing alone but it's 30 minutes by car so thought it was time I cracked on to make it easier once baby is here. Hope your delivery comes at a decent time for you, I hate waiting around when I actually do have better/more important things to be doing.
mwah that's great, must have been such a surprise to see his little face watching you!
I keep meaning to go swimming but I'm lazy and was avoiding it a bit over the school holidays, don't really have any excuses now I guess.
Pregnancy seems to be ruining my ability to share, I offered DP half my Bounty today and as soon as he said yes pulled such a sad face he felt guilty taking it off me! I did give him the last bite and made him a nice dinner to make up for it.

Purple I'd have been angry at the waking up too, especially if I was struggling to sleep. When DP worked nights and he came in when I was asleep then I got up after he'd gone to bed we were so careful, no noises that could be avoided and no lights, if we couldn't find something we either did without or used our phones on a low brightness setting for a dim glow. Occasionally this did cause someone DP to get woken up with someone else me shouting obscenities when we tripped over shoes in the dark.

purple I'd be cross too. But I'm not sure I'm the best barometer of reasonableness at present as I am currently furious at my husband for the clicking sound he is utterly blamelessly making with his mouth as he sleeps. Especially as the cat (on the bed between us) is adding to the mix by snoring.

Mwah, that's so fantastic about your DS, brought a little tear to my eye!
Purple, I'd be really cross! I must admit DP and I have had separate rooms for a couple of years now (I used to snore big time and it was a nightmare for him, now we've just got used to it). It's the best decision we've made, we both get a good night's sleep and are much less grumpy with each other. Controversial choice I know but it works for us and my current condition shows it doesn't affect our physical relationship !

pidj you have every right to be upset! I hope you managed to get some sleep

Got a bit, apology accepted. We don't really fight much - this is maybe the 3rd time in 3 years - so it's a massive drama when one of us does actually get cross Knotty, a lot of people find your arrangement more convenient, although the ones i know tend to be a bit older. I'm odd because i sleep better with dp there than not!

Off to meet a friend of a friend for coffee this morning, she's due the day before me :o

Glad you got some sleep Purple, and it depends what you mean by older, I think I'm quite a bit older than most on this thread . Enjoy your coffee!

mwah that's fab!!! So pleased for your ds!!

Well I almost managed a full nights sleep but tadpole got hiccups about half 1 so I had about half an hour where I was awake but that's not too bad.

Not sure I like dd being in juniors, she doesn't get free fruit anymore (and I'm a bad mummy with none in the house right now) but they will be opening a 'shop' where they can buy fruit I can see that costing me a fortune when they've already eaten me out of house and home!

I am so tired today :(

Older as in highly unlikely to need this thread any more, Knotty

Hi all, been off yesterday due to something seriously odd at work, which I can't go into but might need advice on in a few weeks..

Crumb went wild last night and was kicking away, so DH and I were watching, when we saw one from outside that was so strong, and looked so much like he was trying to break out, that I actually screamed, and scared the cats. Think this was made worse by the fact we were watching it by the light of my phone in the otherwise darkness....

Good night's sleep for the first time in ages and working from home today :) Happy Jo. Also (prepare yourselves for waaaaay TMI here) I took some Fybogel on Tuesday evening and I am still enjoying the effects - there's nothing like pregnancy constipation to make you appreciate a good poo

Sorry if anyone was having brekkie there!

Sleep is very precious here also, I struggle to fall asleep then struggle to stay asleep, other than that I can't complain but I do need sleep soon

Having an emotional/stressful time at the mo with ds2 who's 8, he's just been referred for tests for adhd. I guess I've always known there's something 'different' about him but thought (hoped) it was just his personality but now the school are insisting he is tested as his inability to concentrate and sit still is affecting school. I feel sad for him as I can't help feeling there's a stigma attached a little but as the teacher said my other 3 boys are well behaved and so it's obviously not my parenting.

Oh Fybogel. I couldn't live without the stuff!

Yay mwah

Friend I know how you feel. I could curl up and sleep right now and actually doubt anyone would notice

COD how stressful. But if it means help can be put in place, hopefully there will be a positive outcome. A niece was tested for all sorts, but didn't quite fit all the criteria for anything.

Well, I've finally managed to order the pushchair. Top man at icandy has told the shop it won't be a problem getting it by December, so the order was placed this morning.

It feels as though I'm far more organised now, although I'm not really!

And MIL has suggested she has DD overnight before the baby's born, so that DH and I can have a night in a hotel. Lovely lady that she is!

Utopian, hope all ok at work. Ive had a few weird dreams about that, baby breaking out or moving very clearly beneath skin - think I've watched too much sci fi in my time

Purple, I think quite reasonable response esp laptop jingle. We've sometimes slept apart (my snoring annoys him, his trying to stop my snoring has in the past caused a midnight strop as of course I am blissfully unaware) and we would have done a lot recently when ive had insomnia but spare room full of junk.

Cod sorry to hear that, I can imagine your concern but try to focus on that he is still your little boy and a label makes no difference to who he is but hopefully will help him get the support he needs early. Most of the children I teach have varying degrees of adhd, actually very easily structured stuff like visual timetables, familiar and short fun, motivating learning tasks really, really help. Often a speech and language specialist can give loads of handy tips like that. It's extremely clear now that it's NOT a 'parenting issue,' and I really want to emphasise that. The stigma comes from the sad fact that extremely inconsistent/abusive care from 0-3 can lead to understandably similar symptoms/difficulties. Medication can genuinely help some children but I know MANY who do not need it too with a little of the right support. Big hugs x

Sorry, I meant 'label' as it feels but really shouldnt be a 'label' if you know what I mean.

Just had a bad dream last night and want to reassurance. It's a daft question. But if you can feel you baby kicking he's definitely alive isn't he? [dream was midwife said baby is dead and the kicks were phantom ones i was feeling] ( had a miscarriage last year, so been anxious for my babies health all the way so far 26 weeks now xx

Whoopi Mwah, look forward to him charging around the house next!

Utopian I hope the issue gets sorted fast, and will minimal stress.

COD all the support you and your son get will make a huge difference to his development and his future, too many people don't get access to the support they need. I'm only dyslexic, but there was very little support when I was at school even though it had been picked up on when I was 10. I didn't get any support until I was at Uni, by which time it was a little too late.

All this talk of sleep deprivation and poo is setting the scene for the next 2 years! I'm off work today with a tiny bit of cold and my reflux has killed my voice again, must get more omeprazole!

Stacey can you get her to volunteer to help in the shop? I used to help run my schools shop at break times, benefited from the occasional freebie as a thank you!
Barbeasty I feel very organised at the minute, but if I look at my to buy list it starts to make me feel bad since I'm really not. Started to feel a bit like Christmas here though with all the clothes I'm buying from eBay being delivered.
COD I can imagine it's a huge worry for you, my cousin has adhd and once it was identified he got much, much better in school because they can structure his day and activities accordingly.
I really wish the guy who served me my chocolate fix last night wasn't the same person who served me the biscuit fix this morning!

Thank you everyone, he's a lovely thoughtful polite child (most of the time) but he can't help but fidget and daydream, he's always on the go if he's got nothing visual to occupy him. A waiting room is my worst nightmare. Plus his memory is shocking so I must ask him 10 times in the morning to get dressed as he forgets what he's supposed to be doing. But I'm hoping they'll be able to give me some ideas/tricks to help him.

emma If you can feel baby chances are everything's fine!

COD I can't really add to what everyone has already said but would like to echo it and hope you get some answer quickly as it's the not knowing which is difficult.

Back hurting a bit again today. Either chair at work or possibly kidney infection? Should get results from blood/urine tomorrow anyway.

Just broke my bail tripping over a bloody telephone wire at work? I actually fell right over can I sue them for this?!

Spotty, are you on bail?? (sorry, hope you're OK!)

Cod, one thing we make for our parents all the time is a visual 'schedule' or flip book (laminated or velcroed up for longevity!) - simply to help exactly those sorts of things like dressing, washing etc. The velcroed ones can help if things need to be a different order etc but its literally just simple labelled pictures in an order from r to l or top to bottom (often better). Not only does it stop the 'mummy is a broken record stuff' but it actually helps kids remember a sequence more easily and become more independent as some children are simply more visual than others (especially boys hence their love of lego!) You can use photos of actual items or draw pics.

I liken it to preferring a cookery book with a picture and easy to follow instructions over those annoying paper backs with no pics. Jamie Oliver is always esp good! Or attempting a flatpack without decent ikea pics. Some people can work it out without instructions, my friends actually hire a handy man for any flatpack stuff.

I hope that makes sense? If I was at work right now id be churning these out every night! Pm me if you want x