March 2013 Mk III - Hopefully the nausea will wear off soon...

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Oh dear. I had a private group that I was sort of using as a blog last year whilst I was in hospital. I wrote so much in there that I'd forgotten, I've been going through it all collating it for the SoM when I manage to get hold of her and I've got tears streaming down my face! Looking at it all it makes me so angry this happened, it's so ridiculous what they put me through.

I need the loo and it's late so I'll catch up tomorrow. Night!

Just a quick one to say I've finally caught up after an impromptu camping trip in Wales this week with no signal! Watched all of the closing ceremony and am also sad it's all over, but was strangely awake afterwards. I've just finished reading and have realised that I am in fact tired, so will name check some time tomorrow.

Now for my last wee of the night and off to sleep (hope I don't regret my late night tomorrow - probably will though!)

Night all!

Morning all,

Still no internet at home so had to wait till work to catch up - dam BT and them telling me my house isnt there - I can assure them it blinking does and I need a phone!!!!
Had to laugh Ted as I have been telling my DH that after this one he is off for the snip too, he is now starting to consider it though as when I asked what the problem was with it, it turned out my poor hubby thought they actually removed things like when you have a dog done!! I had to admit I let a bit of wee out I laughed so hard at him before explaining thats not actually what happens, lol!!

sheld - Do not take that from the hospital, book your scan as backup and this morning ring your midwife and GP and make them ring the unit - failing that phone and demand to speak to a senior manager! thats is not good enough and awful for your.

I was wondering if you were under the same care trust as me as mine were equally awful in May when I MC my blood was bright red and heavy so not the same as I am sure your little bean is fine but I went to A&E and demanaded to be sent up to the EPU as they really didnt want to! when I got to EPU they said they had no consultant to scan me to which I pointed out I had just seen a particular consultant and named him and he had operated and scanned me before - you should of seen that nurses face!
However they still didnt scan and sent me home, I have since complained to the hospital offically as no one should be treated like that and to see another hospital doing the same makes my blood boile - sorry rant over and I really hope you get it sorted

Hospital this afternoon

Morning everyone.

Sorry I've not posted before now, a combination of being busy and tired has stopped me.

I ended up being referred to the emergency room by my GP on Friday morning because he was concerned with all the pain I was having. Had a scan, saw the baby and saw the heart beating. Much to my dismay and DH's immense relief, there is only one baby in there, so no twins for me. I say baby, but it looked more like a rabbit, so I've taken to calling it bunny.

The scan also revealed a cyst on one of my ovaries, I forget which one, so it's possible that is the cause of the pain.

Following the scan I was made to attend an antenatal clinic and see a consultant as in my last pregnancy I had a pulmonary embolism and so they think I'm at risk of having another one. Between my DH and the consultant, I was forced to leave with a months supply of Fragmin and an appointment to come back to the joint obstetric and haematology clinic. At the moment I have not started Fragmin as it was horrendous enough last time, I still have the bumps and bruises on my leg after almost 2 years. I was injecting that much last time that my legs went hard and I had trouble getting the needle to go in. They don't tell you that the injections carry a sting at the end or that your legs go so sensitive that lying, sitting and walking hurts.

So there you have it, although it seems I'm not the only one on this thread having to inject Fragmin or the only one to have a cyst.

How is everyone else today? Personally I'm feeling a little tired after staying up to watch the Olympic closing ceremony.

Hi everyone, I posted in here last thread I think.

Lol at Zoey 's DH!

Good luck for the hospital Haitch

MrsRigby that sounds like a nightmare. How many weeks along are you?

I had a scan at the EPU last week (I am now 8 + 2) due to spotting, and they found a heartbeat but the amniotic sac is the wrong shape, so I am at higher risk of miscarriage. It's not something I'd heard of before, so I wasn't prepared for it. But, the spotting has stopped now and I am feeling more positive. I have another scan on the 21st to hopefully see a nice round sac.

Morning all. Still no more bleeding here, fx fx fx. I have that sick in the throat feeling too - very yucky!
zoey That is truly crap. Are you in east anglia? Laughing at your DH's idea of the snip. I'd better check mine doesn't think that!
Good luck this afternoon haitch and great news for you MrsRigby
I hope your next scan is reassuring child.

Morning all - another tired one, went to bed early but DH had closing ceremony on so loud I ended up getting back up to watch it!
Had a mini meltdown over money, basically my maternity package is the bare minimum & DH set up his own business this year, he has no income right now & savings run out in Dec. As we weren't TTC we thought we'd be OK on my salary for a while... Anyway it means nothing for me or the house except neccessary maternity wear, nothing new for the baby, no going out from now until his income stabilises & me going back full time at 6 months. We planned 9 months mat leave & me to go back 4 days a week. I know we are still lucky & will be fine but mega stressed at the change
Hope all waiting on scans get good news this week. Have our 12 week next Mon.

Morning!
Really glad the bleeding has stopped sheldon, and child having also never heard of a different shaped sac, I really hope it rights itself in time for your next scan. In fact, a general call out to all those going through difficult and anxious times with this pregnancy - it is so tough isn't it? I just don't recall having such a roller coaster ride last time.

ted, flowery and all those with sick in their throats - am tempted to say 'better out than in' (!) but instead I will simply wish you all blooming second trimesters with flowing locks and glowing skin - and absolutely NO wee accidents :o

manda how is the writing going now that you can concentrate (no olympics)? I feel for all those having to try and concentrate on anything at all - this being up diffed malarky is really very distracting and all-consuming.

I shall be 12 weeks on Wednesday! All being well. Still got the cloud of doubt & anxiety over my head, but I figure we all have till we get a positive scan. My poor SIL is also waiting anxiously as her fertilised eggs float about hoping to implant. Shudder. It is just too hard.

I am home alone (well, with ds) today. Mum & Dad are at the hospital having a post-op check up for Dad - plus his hystology (sp?) results (fx). DH is at work till late, so ds and I will rattle about for the day on our own. The weather has turned so not the chilled out playing in the garden I had hoped. Is summer over already do we think? I felt a distinct autumn chill yesterday eve as the mists descended...

Off to wake the babe. Happy days all...

OOOH good news Sheld fx it WILL continue - I am another one for the sick in throat feeling today sort of wish I would either be sick or it would bugger off esp as my belly is rumbling! No I am in Portsmouth Sheld and the EPU totally sucks, they just werent interested and were very cold and more worried about taking time up with there scanner!
I know its scary that he really thought that and thats what has been putting him off the snip - only twigged when he asked if you can pay for fake ones, lol! Bless his pure innocence but scary he is a stay at home dad and is in charge of our 2 boys all day, lol!!
Thinking I might have to tell work I am pregnant soon as belly is quiet there already and am only 9+5 weeks am hoping its water retention and will disappear like magic in a few weeks but got another scan on 30th as well as a normal dating scan around 12 weeks and then should get a date for my operation this week so thik it might be only fair to explain the amount of time off!

Due date 18 March. First midwife appointment on friday. Had a scan at 5/6 weeks and there was a heart beat but been a fair bit of bleednig since so hoping all is well. This will be our first - codename "project socrates" (in-joke). Am fed up with not being able to tell anyone. Particularly as a goodly number of friends in our social circle are preggers. Have been the most exhausted I have ever been in my life for the last three weeks. Which seeing as I have just started up my own business isn't the best timing. Really hoping friday's mid wife visit is positive because if it is I'm going to let my parents know the news at the weekend. Which would be lovely for so many reasons.

Partner and I are talking about project Socrates alot, but truth is I don't think it feels real yet. Perhaps because miscarriage fear is so high that we don't want to get too excited.

Also - sore boobs and bloating. Ugh.

I am going to say sorry for this MeMeMe post now but I really need some advice and its driving me nuts so here goes ..............
In May I MC and 2 weeks later my SIL announced she was pregnant and then rubbed salt in the wound stating she would be using the name we wanted for a girl 'as we didnt need it now'. I told her she was selfish and insensitive and basicly out of order as it was only 2 weeks since I lost my baby and she was only 6 weeks so there was no need to discuss names etc in that way. I was deemed a bitch and not supportive of her pregnancy by her and other SIL DH sisters
She then decided she didnt want the baby and it didnt suit her life and terminated against her partners wishes at 8 weeks.
We then found out we were expecting but waited a few weeks before telling her to give her partner time as in my opinion he had suffered like a MC as his baby died and he couldnt stop it!
We went for a scan Thursday and neither SIL bothered asking how it went etc so I didnt bother telling them. Then we saw her Friday and she asked about scan but demanded we dont put our pictures of scans on Facebook (not that I would at 9 weeks) or get the picture out in front of her and thats around the time she 'lost' her baby!!!
Me and DH had a huge row when we got home as I would never of waved them in her partners face as he has been hurt but she didnt 'lose' her baby she terminated for no other reason then she didnt want to stop going out every weekend. SHe also didnt show my any compassion when my baby died and there was nothing I could do about it and I was then deemed a bitch and not supportive of her.
Am I being totally one sided and out of order as I just feel whatever the situation she is playing the poor victim, my hormones prob dont help but I cant stomach being around her anymore and have told DH as much and have no intention of showing her any of my scans and after 12 weeks if I want to put it on facebook and announce it I bloody will!

Sorry rant over and any advice would be good as I am rather hot headed

MrsR- fragmin is stingy, ouch. Think all those meds are as I've had a couple of different ones and they don't improve!

Lexi- think basic mat package is normal , I've never met anyone in RL with an enhanced one although according to here Ford, civil service and the armed forces are good!

Welcome tramp

Zoe You announce your pregnancy whatever way you want my love. You SiL is terribly self absorbed and no matter what you do you will be in the wrong in her eyes. Just you look after yourself.

zoey .. That SIL sounds toxic. Not sure which part is the most sinister, you are probably best to stay well away.

Thanks Haitch.

Zoey - I think the answer to this is - you SIL thinks enough for everyone with regards to how she feels and what she thinks. So just do what is best for you and your partner and live the way that you feel comfortable. Which means announce in whatever way works best for you and don't worry about her. I'm sure the rest of the family will be thrilled for you.

Hi ladies just found you all wow a lot of people due in march to i will have a read back to see whats been happening but wanted to say hello first am due 9th march with baby number 4, my other three babies are march born to looking forward to being part of a march group xx

zoey it's your pregnancy, do it your way. If she has anything to say about it speak your mind and tell her exactly what you've told us. Sometimes the truth hurts but it was her choice to terminate. Tell her to give her head a shake and for as much of your pregnancy as you can, avoid her and anyone in the family who try and put you down.
You owe her nothing and quite frankly you should enjoy your pregnancy to the max instead of worrying about what others think! Especially someone as insensitive as her!

Thanks its nice to know I totally out of order as I know my hormones are mental right now I must admit I should of shouted at DH but he always defends her no matter what it just made me see red and think - no you should defend me!

Rant over - big breathe taken and moving forward with a nice hot chocolate with whipped bream and marshmellows :)

Welcome Emma congrats on baby no 4 and good luck catching up we like a natter and this is thread number 2 already :)
Tramp it will feel real I find at the 12 week scan when you can make out a proper little person and watch them move around and see there heart beating x

emma march is going to be party month at yours then!

Well we are sat in halfirds car park with no break lights after changing the bulb and blowing the fuse. £2 bulb is now about £20 as we had to buy fuses & tools and my appt is in at 1:30, 15 mins away.

Zoey she sounds vile, totally understand why you are upset, agree with others that you shouldn't let her take the joy from announcing your great news, when you want to!
haitch I realise this - was a bit of a shock as all our company benefits are touted as amazing (pension etc are very good) and in my last company I had a little more than minimum. Would be less anxious if I wasn't currently the only wage earner!
Welcome emma!

Ahhhh, lunchbreak :)

Hello tramp & emma! Congratulations on project Socrates & number 4 - another DH for the snip? Perhaps we should club together & see if they'll do a job lot discount with free Botox? :o

zoey sorry to hear of SIL issues. Agreed you have every reason to be miffed at her princess attitude - though in laws can be difficult to escape! You must do what is right for you & DH throughout your pregnancy, and beyond. Personally, I'd try to steer clear of confrontation or fall-out (though I would remain clear that this is your pregnancy and that you will announce it when/how you think appropriate). Could your sil be a little envious of you and your life? Often explains bitchy female behaviour... Good luck :)

Any lovely happy scan stories yet today? You next haitch or am I confused?

I walked up to local primary/reception school earlier - open due to construction work. The headmistress was there and took us (DS and I) for an impromptu tour - I now wish I was 4 and going back to school... Tiny though, only 8 new children this year!

Haitch has hospital this afternoon I am sure so hopefully she will update us soon :)
As long as they get the snip and we get the free botox :) and not the other way round! Think my DH is giong to take more persuading but know he actually knows whats involved am def in with more chance :)

Oh how I love being back in York!
The best nights sleep in my own bed last night! Meeting the new MW tomorrow, emailed the Uni to request an opt out for other students using me as a model for exams on lumbar spine and hip so hopefully that will be fine :)
Downside is that our internet has been disconnected until sept, I have no food in at all, my hair... Well, it's turned to straw... Really must book a hair appt! And I've just spent the morning cleaning up after 6 messy housemates... I've told them all to pull their fingers out this year! I don't want my baby developing bacteria induced super powers of any kind!

I'm starting to round a little in the abdomen area, it's quite nice to touch. OH complimented me on my weight loss yesterday, early pregnancy nausea is clearly very good for me :) that said, I had weight to lose!

I have to call my letting agent this afternoon and inform them that although I signed a 12 month contract in July I'll be leaving in January, I don't think they're going to let me escape without finding another tenant but I have to ask!!

My energy levels are definitely picking up. The nausea is still on and off but I'm coping with it better!!

Welcome anyone new (I'm on my phone so difficult to track back)!! I hope everyone has a great week and I'll log on tomorrow :)