March 2013 Mk III - Hopefully the nausea will wear off soon...

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tinker so sorry. Always a difficult time, even when it's for the best.

Tiddly, I'll have a few of your mibs if you've got any spare... would hate to run out.

Strange preg food love #42: frozen spinach (not actually eaten frozen!). We were having mackerel and potato bake last night and it all looked a bit starchy so I flung some spinach in the microwave - tasted a bit to see if it was hot enough and oh my.... it was like ambrosia! I don't normally like it that much, it kind of sets my teeth on edge and tastes too sour, but last night I couldn't get enough. DH and DS looked on in astonishment as I greedily scooped up their leftovers!

I suppose that means i need some iron though I'm taking enough supplements to sink a battleship. And weirdly my sweet tooth has gone, and I'm a REAL sweet tooth person. When I'm hungry now I want my mum's old meals - cheese and potato pie, meatballs with pasta, tinned ravioli (YES!) and chicken casserole. Nom. I remember this happening when I was pregnant with DS too.

Oooooh sarah please make me a chicken casserole :)

Hey good luck at new toddler group, tiddley! Crikey, it sounds like school again, having to make friends with random people who might be cliquey? Or is it really a bit more laid back than that?! I've read the odd MN thread of people who really struggle making friends or even getting by at the school gates etc.

Boo to your leak, dame. Hope it's not toooo costly...

Still thinking of you tinker and hoping you had a better night last night.

Got up with DH at early-o'clock then went back to bed and feel much more refreshed now. Did work on damn book for a late hour or two last night so don't feel at all guilty. It's gorgeously sunny. My bump isn't as big today. I'm trying to persuade myself it's just because I haven't eaten anything yet. I can get a bit bloated when I eat. Witter witter ?

manda I'm very much one of those who struggles to make friends!! I think it's because i move about a lot so any new social situation is terrifying for me!! I constantly think that someone doesn't like me because of x. Rather than just getting on with it and going with the flow!! My brain is always in overdrive though! Hence my plan when I move to Kemnay to just bite the bullet and join as many clubs as possible and try and get involved in baby groups etc!!
I'd hate to think I'm 400 miles away from friends and family and just sit inside all day :( I will miss my flat mates like crazy though! We're all as batty as each other!! They suggested a baby shower, all I could think was 'who would I invite??'!
I suppose having a learning disability doesn't help either, it's just a self esteem thing!!!

Scan tomorrow though!!! Woohoooooooooooooooooooo!

Oh JoJo I hear you. I always used to struggle to make rock-solid friendships at school and to some extent at uni, but I had a bouts of counselling at uni/post-uni and I have managed to get rid of a lot of the historic things that we holding me back. I'm now a lot more relaxed about how much the little things matter and more gung-ho about meeting people and just getting on.

But still, perhaps because of past awkwardness, I find myself without the really solid group of bessie mates I've always wanted although I do have some really good friendships with individual people locally and a ton of looser friends who I keep up with. I still feel deprived, tho - maybe that feeling never really goes away if you've past experience of loneliness/uncertainty in that department? DH doesn't now have many everyday, local mates (they moved away and he's lazy now we're married!) but what he does have is a rock-solid group of ancient mates from (I kid you not) nursery and school. This would make me green with envy apart from the fact they've welcomed me in and so that's so lovely.

Groups are definitely the way forward for meeting everyday mates and, like you, I'm really hoping to get a good mutual support group through NCT classes (seems like the only good thing people have to say about NCT!) and the local TAMBA (twins) group. We know some people with kids locally but it will be nice to have people with kids at the same stage.

And if your peeps have suggested a baby shower then let them organise it and you'll realise you have more friends than you thought! I really appreciate your honesty. It's difficult always to admit this kind of struggle, isn't it, especially when everyone around seems to do things so effortlessly?

scan tomorrow, wooooohooo!!! FX for a brilliant little bean!

PS sorry for the bloomin' essay! I do go on, don't I?! If only I was so good at writing the damn book...

manda my oh is the same he has a solid group of mates from school, Uni etc who all live far and wide but we all meet about 4 times a year! - yet he believes he doesn't have any friends (I imagine from all the moving he means no local friends)!! I don't keep in touch with any of my old school mates - though this was by choice, they were very bad influences back then and I chose to step away from the potential ASBO's and make something of my life which obviously meant loosing the solid childhood friendships!!
I guess having a nasty ex husband didn't help either! Major self esteem wrecker there!
I'm not even sure on the NCT classes - though I'm sure they'd be useful, I'm in York from 20 weeks to 36ish!! Which means no Aberdeen baby friends!! Ha! I do make things awkward for myself!! Luckily for me my OH is my best friend! We keep each other sane!!
It's mad how much we crave the solid bezzie mates status! Maybe I was just designed for he many friends of the distant variety, than the one solid bezzie female friend!! Who knows! Either way, my fingers are crossed that all of the peculiar sounding social groups in Kemnay are filled with a wide age range... I can't bear to be the youngest!

Sounds like a really positive, if not easy, decision you made there re school mates, JoJo. As well as moving away from a confidence-draining relationship into something which sounds so much more nurturing with your OH. Yay! I reckon that because you're already on this brilliant and positive trajectory in life you're going to be just fine making friends in Kemnay!

Well, my fingers are crossed! Though I imagine things to be easier with a baby! They have no fear and attract attention!!

Well, I've missed pages and pages and pages. So much so, we are on a new thread!!

Sorry I have been MIA, has been rather busy around here. Another reason I've stayed away is because I'm also on the February fb group and there has been a lot of bad news in the past few weeks - another one today so I'm just trying to keep my head down until my scan on Tuesday.

Hope you're all well and hopefully after Tuesday I can relax a bit more and join in again.

Morning,
Been for my first scan this morning and baby bean is measuring exactly 9 weeks - was so nice seeing it on the screen and seeing its healthy heatbeat :) Had a bit of a moment when I thought I saw 2 but it was the yolk sac, lol!! Got another scan 3 weeks today (30th Aug) with consultant and stitch will be second week in Sept - will also get normal 12 week dating scan which will prob be the week inbetween my consultant thinks. Think this will be one of the most scanned babies in history :)

Where do you find the fb groups eric I don't know where I'm going wrong!!

zoey wow that's fab news! Hooray to just having one!! I'm still hoping for two but I think I'd be much bigger by now as I'll be 13+6 tomorrow!! Hmmm, perhaps I'm just being greedy? Besides... I'll just borrow one of msndas when she's had enough!!

Fantastic news, zoey! And very reassuring that you've got all these other scans pencilled in I'm glad that I'll be having more frequent scans with twins (every month, I think, as they don't share a placenta or anything complicated like that).

Nice to hear from you Eric. Oh dear, oh dear?that is worrying. I had been fervently hoping that because we've been a good few days without bad news here that we were all getting passed the danger zone. I've started fretting less about MC but I guess there's all sorts of anxieties that 12-week tests might bring up. Sorry to hear that. Hope your scan on Tuesday goes really well. Crikey, this makes me think again about telling my parents just before our 12-week scan ? I was sure it was the right thing to do, but maybe not if upset may soon follow. Bugger.

Yeah its nice to have scans but am hoping it dont move to every week from 18 weeks like it did with DS2 as hospital is 40mins away and is always running late! I def didnt want 2 JoJo this is the last one for us and with a lazy 18 month old 2 would of been a bit much! Consltant did say wonmb is very high and forward so feeling a bit better that my clothes are to tight, lol!
wishing the sickness would do on now as DH took me out for a 'date' last night and I managed to pick at about 10 mouth fulls which was gutting as it was yummy my belly just felt rather sick and didnt want to spoil it by being sick -the poor owner come over to find out what was wrong and say sorry, lol!

Hi ladies!

Good news on your scan Zoey.

As for the topic of making friends/losing touch with friends. Someone told me something on the lines of "we have to accept some friends are meant to be in your life at a particular time only." So we should not feel down that we ave lost contact with friends but it is meant to be. I never thought of it like that before and to be honest people change and im happy with my social circle at the moment. I'd rather have a couple of friends but good friends rather than a lot of friends who don't have anything in common.

I like that kf !!!

Great news zoey!
kf my Mum always says friends are there for a season, a reason or a lifetime - a similar sentiment, people move throughout each other's lives & that's ok!
Feeling so much less tired -went for a 5k walk last night with DH, desperate to be outside at the moment, feel a bit cooped up in the office!

Am knackered and all food tastes wrong. Lots of salty craving though. Dragged a colleague to McDs yesterday cos I wanted chips

Is anyone else here around the 10-week mark had a noticeable drop in cramps over past couple of weeks. It's getting to the point where I'm getting worried, but perhaps this is just what happens as things get more established inside? Had a lot of cramping around weeks 6 and 7 and now just the odd twinge. Obsessing over my not so enormous belly today too. Sigh.

lexi I've heard that saying too and it is lovely and so true!

Ahhh I have the same friends conversation with DH all the time, his friends have been with him since birth (his mum is a retired health visitor) school, college, uni and work. I've never stayed in one place long enough to build friendships like that and it used to really upset me, I remember crying because I couldn't think who I was going to invite to my hen party! Just recently I've accepted that friends come and go and for the past couple of years I've built up some amazing friendships without the pressure on myself of thinking I must have best friends forever. Mind you, I still don't think I'll be having a baby shower as most of my friends are boys!
Sarah I used to have a mega sweet tooth too and it's completely gone! Biscuits seem like the most disgusting things in the world to me, I used to eat so many that my nickname was Biscuit! Plus there's a sweet shop down the road and they recognise me, maybe it's a good thing I lost the sweet tooth
Good news on the scan zoey !
I went in to work for the morning and got sent home, my cold still hasn't gone and the ms was the worst it's been so far today. However, called in to sainsburys on my way home and got those acupressure bands someone suggested they're miracle workers! I've had my first proper meal in aaaages, very excited!

manda I am 9 and a half weeks and my crampy pulls have gone, my MS is much more bearable, but my boobs still hurt like hell and I am more tired. I am a very anxious first timer, but trying to think that anything that occurs is normal aside from shit loads of blood and pain, so trying to ignore things. I just want my scan to have a look-see and convince myself I am actually preggers!

I've been for my mw appointment today and it only took 20 minutes! I then had to go across town for my blood tests as there were no appointments for weeks at my doctors surgery. My blood pressure was 130/70 which I think is ok for me in a doctors surgery. Still a bit worried that a consultant wants to see me about it though. DH and I then had a lovely afternoon in town and I bought some Birkenstocks for the first time ever as my feet were hurting. They are so comfortable! We also went to look at prams which was nice.

On the subject of friends I think I'm very similar. I have a couple of close ones but not lots of aquaintances like some people seem to. I don't really know many people at all where I live so I'm relying on the NCT too. I'm not the most sociable person but I really want to make an effort. Quite anxious aboutit.

manda I don't get many cramps any more. I think I read something about your womb rising up by 12 weeks and changing that. Maybe with twins this happens earlier?
zoey Yay for the scan, excellent news :)
tinker Sorry to hear about your granddad.

Gawd damn it, lost an epic post! You can consider yourselves lucky though, I'd just been thinking what tedious reading it would make (ethel you'll be regretting your kind words the other day ).

Long and short of it then...

Thank you everyone for the kind and thoughtful words. Meant a surprising amount!

DD still suffering. She does have tonsillitis and one ear infected. Have skipped to the strong stuff on the antibiotics front (no phoney war with amoxicillin this time round) so hoping for improvement soon. Haven't ruled out simultaneous stomach bug though since we're both still struggling to keep much down. DH took a shift last night with DD so have felt a bit more human today at least.

Work were fine in the end. I still feel bad but such is life.

hermoine it was me recommending the bands. Hard to believe but they really do seem to take the edge off things don't they!?

I am something of a closet hermit. Only DH, close immediate family and one old pal (she's persistent and always goes the extra mile to keep in touch) truly understand this since I generally do a reasonable impression of being a sociable sort. I'm ashamed to say I find it a bit of an effort though and so resolved not to go to any nct classes on this basis

I hadn't ever heard the phrase about friends for season, reason or lifetime. I like it; t'is true.

Not liking the bad news for February thread ladies. I too had changed the lightbulb from red to amber on the worry front, especially with having other woes competing for my attention. Please, please let it be alright! If I get there, will no doubt ramp up the concern as get closer to scan date [to the 3rd Sept massive, I'm on at 10am]

Good night all...